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Post by jeremysgirl on May 1, 2018 19:04:00 GMT
You make an excellent point elaine. I feel like I have done enough for her and I have at least four other people I'd love to gift first! |
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Post by epeanymous on May 1, 2018 20:36:33 GMT
Yes, this happens to me. And as much as I love making things for people *when I want to,* I get irrationally angry when they ask. Sometimes they offer to pay me, which I think they think makes it less of an imposition, but seriously -- it takes me about three weeks of free time to make a sweater, and let's consider what you'd have to pay me to make that actually worth my while.
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CeeScraps
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Post by CeeScraps on May 1, 2018 20:41:18 GMT
I haven't read all of the responses, but my thought is........teach her or link her to a youtube if you use one. Become her crochet mentor! Start her on something easy. Tell her you're working her way up to making whatever her heart desires.
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Post by gramma on May 1, 2018 22:00:17 GMT
I love taking photos. I took thousands of racing pictures when our grandsons were racing. Literally, guys, I'd average 600-800 over a weekend. Then I would post them on the different club's websites. I did mini albums for the kids in our 2 local clubs. Want to know what ruined it for me? I had a mom come to me and complain because I didn't take as many pictures of her kids as I did others - but she especially complained that there were more pictures of our grandsons than any of her kids. Ya' think??? Can you imagine if I was getting paid?
Another example - I made bridesmaid dresses (10 of them) for a co-worker. One of the girls was from out of town and was not available for measuring and fitting until 2 days before the wedding. I charged each girl $20. The late to the party girl complained because she had to give up an afternoon of visiting to come for measurements. And even more bitterly when she had to come back for me to measure the actual hem length. Right then I said never again.
People just don't understand the effort that goes into hand made items. They'll go to a craft fair or visit another country and think nothing of paying the asking price. But - if it's a friend or family member they don't value the time.
Just one old lady's opinion.
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Post by jeremysgirl on May 1, 2018 22:23:41 GMT
gramma I agree with you. I also think some people also fall under the type that RedSquirrelUK mentioned...those that think I just have so many projects I want to do with no one to take them... I am trying to think very hard about how I might have encouraged this attitude. A couple of weeks ago I did a raffle for one of my hats on Facebook. The truth really is I have more patterns that I'd like to do than time to do them. It is not unusual for me to take years to finish something and my family knows it. So I don't necessarily give them a pass. I love giving handmade gifts. And I will continue to do so. But sometimes I just want to do something for myself. Or my kids.
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Post by fredfreddy44 on May 1, 2018 22:52:26 GMT
Yes you need to start saying no to your sister. It is nice that she gives you feedback on your gifts. But you need to tell her exactly how much time and money goes into each item, I bet she has no clue. I used to make fingerless gloves. My mom asked for a pair, and then she asked me to make an additional pair for a lady who checked her out at the grocery store and admired her/my gloves so much. I was like  . I did do it because she had never asked before and I made the largest stitch possible. She did say the lady really appreciated them but I told her no more! |
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Post by heathers on May 1, 2018 23:23:19 GMT
I cross-stitch, and am just dipping my toes in quilting, but people ask for gifts all the time. I have no problem saying no, politely.
I don’t think people understand the time it takes to make such things. One cross-stitch could be hundreds of hours. Now I do give a lot of my creations as gifts, but that’s because I want to. It’s not an obligation of making a certain something for someone.
And what I’m doing can certainly be learned by others if they feel so inclined. Then can go ahead and make their own. 😝
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Post by librarylady on May 2, 2018 1:44:33 GMT
jeremysgirlThat is a BEAUTIFUL blanket that your dog now owns.
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Post by jeremysgirl on May 2, 2018 1:50:40 GMT
Thank you. It's funny it was made with yarn I had bought for a bunch of different projects and then just hated working with it. I finally did a double ply with a huge plastic hook and it wasn't so bad to work with. It's got a million different colors and honestly is my most complimented blanket even though it's just a total Mish mash of random colors. It's huge and super thick. My Amelia loves it. jeremysgirlThat is a BEAUTIFUL blanket that your dog now owns. |
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Post by SabrinaP on May 2, 2018 1:59:12 GMT
Truth is most of what I make I give away. I give a lot of crochet gifts for others. Most people know what goes into a handmade gift and they don't ask for me to make them things. But my sister? Asks constantly. And I love my sister so I have a terrible time saying no. I made two blankets for her kids. One of the blankets her toddler adopted as her lovey. So my sis asked me if I would make another identical to it so she could wash it without her toddler having a meltdown. So I did. Then she made a comment about how I had made my mom a blanket and my brother a blanket but I hadn't made one for her. So I did. Every winter she requests a new hat/scarf. And I make them. I posted some slouchy hats and she asked for one. Her DD liked it so she asked me to make one for her. Then her best friend got pregnant after years of infertility and she asked me to make a blanket for her. And I did. Well yesterday I posted a sweater I wanted to make for myself. gillyp posted it in the craft thread here and I loved it. I found the yarn on clearance in a beautiful blue. And someone posted they would pay me to make it for them. I posted back that if I was going to put in the effort, I was going to wear it!  Then my sis posted if mine goes well, she wants one. She private messaged me that she would like gray! Then my mom posted she wants one too! So peas, I need to just say no! Does this happen to you? I have a friend that has started saying if you buy the yarn and bring it to me I will make it. She rarely has anyone that goes to the effort. I think you will just have to either say no or just put them off. Say you have too many projects going on right now or something along those lines. |
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. I did do it because she had never asked before and I made the largest stitch possible. She did say the lady really appreciated them but I told her no more!
