Update:It’s going to be one of THOSE weeks!

Update 5/7:
DH went to the dentist today and the infected tooth has to be pulled by an oral surgeon. We have a consultation on Thurs and i expect he’ll be given an antibiotic then and we’ll have to make another appointment for the actual pulling. DH’s boss was very sympathetic which took a load off of DH’s shoulders.

In spite of the pain, DH worked after the appointment and even went to someone’s house to install their work machine. He will also be out of the house tomorrow for most of the day. He’s not eating much right now as his jaw really hurts. He did tell me how much he had enjoyed what I made for his lunch last week and he hopes I’ll make more pasta salads. This would really work well for me as I can package them and he can get them out of the fridge when he wants to eat. He can also throw the container in his lunch bag if he’s going to be gone for the day.

Once his tooth is handled, I think  things will be more settled.  I’m looking forward to normal.



OP:
Just when I thought life here was going to settle into some sort of normal..

I’ve been whining on the Peas shoulders since my DH had his stroke in 2015 about how tough life has been on us, our marriage and our business. Lots of stress on me as I handle the bills but more stress on DH as he’s struggled to handle the side effects of his stroke and still work enough to keep us afloat. Just when he was somewhat recovered from his stroke and our business started growing again...

DH’s kidneys started failing. In less than 3 years time, his previously healthy kidneys have gone from being slightly impaired to being on the verge of failing. I learned to cook according to his restricted diet and to know justow hard to push for him to stay as healthy as possible. DH has learned to tolerate the shots and blood draws that would once have sent his needle phobia into massive meltdown. We both dusted off our resumes and sent them out into the world...

I haven’t got so much as a nibble, so I have been taking online classes to sharpen my skills and plump out my resume. In early April, DH landed a dream job, doing something he knows he can do and working for someone he truly admires. The job pays well, has good benefits, and gave us enough time before the start date to settle our clients. Equally wonderful, his kidneys have shown some real improvement over the past couple of months.

Everything was going great, then DH got a terrible case of food poisoning and, after a day of hard vomiting and other unpleasantness, started showing some of the symptoms of a stroke. The dr said it wasn’t a stroke or even a whatever the other stroke like thing is; DH was just dehydrated. DH didn’’t believe this - he was convinced that the extra iron pill the dr had put him on and which he had taken exactly 1 time had caused the problem. He felt weak and shaky and was convinced he’d not recover from this nonexistent stroke. 

He fought me on every thing I suggested to help him recover. No matter how often DD and I pointed out the signs of his recovery, he refused to see them. He also refused to move any more than absolutely necessary, saying that his legs were rubbery and he was afraid he would fall. Almost two weeks after this happened, he still refused to go up and down the stairs but once a day, wouldn’t carry anything, and screamed at me when I asked him to try to do his daily walking. I finally had to refuse to bring his food upstairs to him and had to refuse to let him bring his dinner upstairs if he wouldn’t bring the dishes back down. It got ugly, no joke, but by the end of the second week, he realized he was actually better, which made the rest of his recovery even faster. LOL

So, DH’s start date was delayed by a few days, but last Monday he began his new job. For the first time in our married life, he had a set schedule. I made him breakfast and a lunch to take to work, and he actually ate both. LOL This was pretty much a miracle in itself. Life was great...

for the 4 days it lasted. Thurs the company bosses decided that the building space they were renting was inadequate, so they sent everyone home. Everyone will be owrking from home for possibly as long as the next 6 months. DH will be responsible for getting everyone’s machines up and going and will maintain them remotely or by in person visits, which is pretty much what he’s done for our company for the past 30 years. He’s thrilled. 

Me, not so much. LOL

DD also works from home at least twice a week. Now I will have BOTH of them here, during the day, at least a couple days a week. Strangely enough, they’re both going to want to eat 3 times a day at least. Guess who will be doing the cooking? Both will need quiet to take phone calls. Guess who won’t be able to listen to music during this time? I thought when DH got settled in his job, I’d take the next set of my courses and spend time in my garden. Not seeing that happening, at least not right away.

Then, just because this wasn’t exciting enough..DH has his first toothache EVER, or at least in the 30 years we’ve been married. Taking someone with Stage 4 CKD, who is also diabetic and is horrifically phobic about needles, is going to be so much FUN!!!! (Not). Add in worry because he’s having to take off of work before he has any time off accrued, and I’ll be draining the tequila bottle.

So, the big question here..salt or no salt on the rim?  LOL

Marcy (who knows this is temporary and who really, really does appreciate that he has a job)