Vent thread - feel free to add your vent here.

Could you donate/sell on a local FB group?? Or keep it for her own prom?

Oh man....that really stinks. I am so sorry for your DD. I agree with a PP with holding onto it for her prom. Big hugs to you and your DD.

Oh, that is a really crappy thing for the young man to do. I'm sorry.

Please tell your DD the Peas are mad on her behalf. It sounds like she is handling her disappointment well.

That really sucks, I wonder if you can take him to small claims court and recoup the money for the dress..

OP, I am sorry this happened.  It's a really crappy thing to do to someone.  But I'll tell you, my junior year, my boyfriend and I broke up three weeks before prom.  We decided to go together anyway.  It was truly a terrible time. 

Is there a significant man in her life: like dad, grandpa, uncle, brother, who could dress up and take her out for a nice meal? I know several friends have done that for daughters for one reason or another.

Sorry this happened.

This! Or make it a family and friend thing! Or have her friends go out to a fancy dinner the night of the prom and have a “fuck him” toast!

I’m so sorry your daughter had a flake for a bf. What a jerk!

I’ll toss out the other side. My son’s school does a junior prom. There’s a girl he was nuts about in 8th grade, but they broke up and didn’t travel in the same circles for the last few years. This past semester, they ended up in a class together and have been friends. She (T) had a bf (D) for several years, who graduated last year and goes to the local CC. DS was actually friends with her BF (D) and knew he treated her like crap. Of course over the course of the winter/spring, DS decided he liked her and her bf (D) is a douche for treating her this way.

T and D were going to prom together this year. So, (D) dumped her two weeks before prom. Of course, DS stepped up and offered to be her prom date. She said yes, and I paid for tickets ($120) party bus ($160) tux ($210) flowers ($60) for them to have a nice prom. Truthfully I was glad DS was going. He had no interest in prom prior. Anyway, the went to prom, had a great time.

DS really really really likes her, but she keeps feeding him “I have to process my breakup” “I’m not ready to date anyone yet” etc. Granted, I understand that, but she shouldn’t have gotten a guy she knows really likes her to take her to prom. And there was no mention of such things in the two weeks leading up to prom. Believe me, mama reads messages. They message CONSTANTLY!

I told him she is using him for prom/validation/attention. She is a nice girl, I do like her, and I suspect she doesn’t even realize it. I recommended he pull back from the messaging a bit, and see how she responds. She started messaging him constantly. She lets him take her out and pay for food/movies, but when he asks her their “status” it’s always “I have to process my breakup.”

SO irritating. I never thought my son would be the door mat type.

In the last 6 weeks so much has happened and I'm almost at breaking point.
I had a friend call me a bad friend ( which in long run its better she's out of my life)
My boss died some what unexpectedly. Which has made work chaos. He owned the company. His wife is now signing authority.
Then my step sister died ( hadn't saw her in years) but my step family TolD myself and my aunt's that we were not allowed to go to any of the services. Ok then
My dad has dementia and my aunt's (his sister's) are battling his wife.
Then another co worker had a massive heart attack and died. So made more work for me.
I got a call from the DOJ tax office regarding my previous employment 16 years ago and they want me to testify against old boss. It's not really an option not too
I have been at my current job for 15 years there is talks of us being sold meeting is on monday. Not sure how this will all effect me. O I think I need to do a few consult with a labour lawyer.
My husband is out of work currently and has had some interviews but no sussess yet
I'm just done.

LavenderLayoutLady
My DD used her prom dresses in college for sorority events until they no longer fit her or the events. She donated the dresses to the sorority clothes locker, a collection of clothes that sisters can borrow/ take for events they are attending. DD had borrowed/taken several interview outfits from there during her time as an active member and she wanted to return the favor.

My vent:
When DH started the fiasco job late April, we started modifying his diet so he was eating more in line with his renal diet requirements. This had not really been feasible before as he was never at the same place twice and had no set lunch time. During the time he worked at the new job and then during the time he worked from home, I just about killed my self making him renal friendly foods that were both tasty and good for his kidneys. When he had to have his tooth extracted, I went with soft foods that weren't necessarily on the renal diet but were things he could eat without hurting. He did these foods for 3 days, then resumed the renal diet.

When the job went away and he went back to working odd hours for our company, I asked him would he be willing to try to stick closer to the renal diet. He wasn't a fan, but agreed to do so if I continued to make the effort. I have done so and I thought he was doing his part. We got the test results back and they were amazing! His GFR (kidney function) had shot up, his BUN had dropped, and his phosphate, potassium, and protein levels were down significantly. Some of his results were the closest to normal they have been since he developed kidney trouble. His nephrologist told him this week that the results were completely unexpected, but may be a sign that his kidneys are still capable of self-healing, something we thought was no longer possible.

Monday I went in his cabinet to add some medications to his med box, and I found a number of items, all bought the day before, that were not only NOT kidney friendly, they were high on the Do Not Eat list. When I looked in the garbage can in his office, I saw that these were just what was LEFT from his binge. As I was reading this list, my feet were terribly swollen from having spent the weekend prepping and cooking a week's worth of foods to his taste specifications while he sat in front of his computer and watched tv and played games.

Needless to say, we had words when he came home.

Marcy

My vent is that I have gained 4 pounds over the past two weeks, after working so hard the last nine months to work out. I have just let my diet go to the crap hole.

And my son is in jeopardy of not graduating (previous thread) because he is refusing to still not do the work in his math class. I am so over all of this and honestly, the worst part is I feel bad for relatives who are flying/driving in for his graduation. He has done this to himself. We are trying to figure out why he just doesn't care with a therapist. But I know if he can get through graduation, then it is time for the next chapter which means, he is going to learn the hard way once and for all that you can not skate through life and do whatever you want to do. And I am totally okay with this.

On the upside, my daughter got her driver's license today and I just really feel good about myself despite the above.

The chicken is back! She is a buff silkie that blends in perfectly with the beige dead cheet grass.

I have when they escape because they are tiny and very slow and kind of stupid.

Oh scrappington I just wanted to cry reading your post. You poor thing. Hugs and a little prayer from me.

I had to talk to my ex husband today. I asked him to do something for one of my kids. It involved time, not money. And I got a whole litany of excuses from him. I hung up the phone on him. Then I told him that I never wanted him to call or text me ever again. I blocked him. And it felt good.