SweetieBsMom
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Post by SweetieBsMom on Jul 13, 2018 16:09:38 GMT
I'm sitting in Dana-Farber. DH is getting a scan, his disease has progressed to the point he's starting to having trouble breathing. He wasn't supposed to have a scan until August. DS (15yo with Autism) says "I hope they can fix Dada's breathing problem". Ugh. I have to take him home, sit him down and tell him his "Dada" is dying. I need to be strong for both DH and DS.
I know he'll put something on FB and I told him "not until you call your Mom". He said "I'll be too emotional, I need you to call her".
So basically I need to hold my shit together for everyone for the next several hours.
Cancer sucks. I hate it so much!
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UPDATE:
Thank you for your kind words and prayers, they did bring me comfort. I love this place.
So the scan showed tumor growth, we expected that. What we didn't expect is to find out he had a "little" fluid in his lungs. So I had to wheel him over to thoracic surgery. They removed the liquid, 3.8 liters, weighted 10lbs. DH's breathing GREATLY improved yesterday. Now we are waiting for test results to find out if he has disease in his lung lining that caused the fluid or it was something else.
I told DS what was going on. He knew. DH didn't think he knew how serious it was, I did, I love it when I'm right DS is the MOST positive kid on the planet. I told him that DH is sick and not going to get better, he has cancer and he will die. DS looked at me and said "I know Mama but taking that stuff out will help his breathing now, right? That's good for now, that Dada can breathe easier". God, I love that kid. And he's right, that's good for now.
Thank you again ladies. I didn't have someone sitting with me IRL but had you guys.
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pilcas
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Post by pilcas on Jul 13, 2018 16:11:24 GMT
I’m so sorry your going through this. Stay strong.
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Post by *sprout* on Jul 13, 2018 16:12:14 GMT
I'm so very sorry.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 13, 2018 16:12:36 GMT
SweetieBsMom I am so sorry for everything you are going through. Keeping you all in my thoughts.
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Post by fuji on Jul 13, 2018 16:12:53 GMT
I'm so sorry. It's hard to be the one they depend on, but they obviously see you as someone who can provide peace and comfort. That says a lot about you.
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Post by cmpeter on Jul 13, 2018 16:12:53 GMT
I’m sorry, that does really suck. Hugs to you and your family.
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DEX
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Post by DEX on Jul 13, 2018 16:13:05 GMT
I can’t even imagine.
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maryannscraps
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Post by maryannscraps on Jul 13, 2018 16:13:52 GMT
I am so sorry to hear that. Sending healing thoughts your way from the north shore.
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Post by freecharlie on Jul 13, 2018 16:14:35 GMT
I am sorry
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MDscrapaholic
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Post by MDscrapaholic on Jul 13, 2018 16:15:11 GMT
I'm sorry. I've been there and know that feeling. ((HUGS))
Is there anyone you can call to help you? Now is the time to reach out.
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Anita
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Post by Anita on Jul 13, 2018 16:15:23 GMT
I am really sorry!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 13, 2018 16:15:27 GMT
I'm so sorry.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 13, 2018 16:15:28 GMT
It sucks having to be the strong one....hugs. So sorry for everything you and your family are going through.
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Post by gillyp on Jul 13, 2018 16:15:43 GMT
Oh that is so hard! I’m so sorry you are going through this.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 13, 2018 16:16:40 GMT
I'm so sorry you and your family are going through this.
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carhoch
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Post by carhoch on Jul 13, 2018 16:17:42 GMT
This is heartbreaking I cannot imagine what you and your family are going trough so I wish you strength and courage And I hope that your husband disease slow down and that you have more time with him.
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Post by cakediva on Jul 13, 2018 16:19:41 GMT
I'm so sorry - hugs to all of you
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Montannie
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Post by Montannie on Jul 13, 2018 16:20:59 GMT
Hugs to you. I hope you have your own support net of friends/family.
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Post by PLurker on Jul 13, 2018 16:21:28 GMT
I am so sorry.
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Post by Patter on Jul 13, 2018 16:21:50 GMT
I am so very sorry! Hugs and prayers!
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Post by craftedbys on Jul 13, 2018 16:23:45 GMT
So sorry, I can't imagine how hard it is. Know that you can always come here for support and a place to vent. We've got your back. Many hugs.
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Post by Basket1lady on Jul 13, 2018 16:24:07 GMT
I’m so very sorry. What a hard day for your family.
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Post by LeaP on Jul 13, 2018 16:25:35 GMT
I'm sorry for you and your son. {{{hugs}}}
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Post by bazinga on Jul 13, 2018 16:28:37 GMT
I'm so sorry. I hope you have some support. Please take good care of yourself. Praying for you and your family.
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Jul 13, 2018 16:32:48 GMT
I’m sorry you are going through this.
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Post by SweetieBugs on Jul 13, 2018 16:33:41 GMT
I'm so sorry to hear this. Personally, for me, if I was in your husband's situation, I would want to send an email to my immediate family with the news. I would have a hard time having just one conversation let alone multiple ones. For you to have to call and discuss this with his family will be very difficult and I'm sending you strength.
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Trixie Bender
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Post by Trixie Bender on Jul 13, 2018 16:37:19 GMT
I am so very sorry.
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River
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Post by River on Jul 13, 2018 16:40:05 GMT
Y'all are in my prayers. I'm so very sorry you are having to go through this.
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Post by miominmio on Jul 13, 2018 16:43:49 GMT
I am so very sorry.
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Post by mnmloveli on Jul 13, 2018 16:45:28 GMT
Sending prayers for strength and comfort.
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