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Post by freecharlie on Jul 14, 2018 4:51:09 GMT
DS just turned 17 and will be a senior in August. He is at our small town's celebration days (they do a street dance and shut down most of town and everybody is there). I gave him a curfew of 11:45 (our state doesn't allow minors under 18 on the road after midnight).
It is 10:45. Would you stay up until he got home?
FWIW, he is about 7 minutes from the house, but the roads are 55 mph.
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Post by MDscrapaholic on Jul 14, 2018 4:55:42 GMT
I would, but that just me. I can't sleep if they're not home at that age.
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Post by 950nancy on Jul 14, 2018 5:03:43 GMT
Yes, I would because I like to hear the garage go up and then down. My boys always came upstairs to just say a quick goodnight. My mom had a little light by her door that she left turned on. When I got home, I turned it off if she was already sleeping. If she woke up in the middle of the night and the light was off, she knew I was home without checking.
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Post by Delta Dawn on Jul 14, 2018 5:04:15 GMT
I never sleep so yeah I wait up. They aren’t out late when they come to visit but I cannot not hear DS’ car.
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Post by andreasmom on Jul 14, 2018 5:31:12 GMT
I do. I can’t go to sleep if she’s out.
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Post by freecharlie on Jul 14, 2018 5:46:35 GMT
He made it home with 5 min to spare.
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Post by kels99 on Jul 14, 2018 6:59:45 GMT
Yes, I would because I like to hear the garage go up and then down. My boys always came upstairs to just say a quick goodnight. My mom had a little light by her door that she left turned on. When I got home, I turned it off if she was already sleeping. If she woke up in the middle of the night and the light was off, she knew I was home without checking. My husband's parents would do that, but with an alarm clock. When he got home, he turned it off and if he didn't get home before curfew, the alarm would wake up his parents. He never once missed curfew because he would come home early, turn off the alarm and head right back out again. To answer OP's question....yes, I stay up. |
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Post by AussieMeg on Jul 14, 2018 7:16:18 GMT
Kids can't get their licence here until they are 18, so prior to that parents have to drive them to and from parties etc. So when DD was 17 I was most likely having to stay up to pick her up or to thank the parent who brought her home. When she got her licence I stayed up the first few times that she drove but then just started to go to bed. She rarely drives when she goes out anyway, because she and her friends / boyfriends are usually drinking (legal drinking age of 18 here). Our bedroom is right near the front door, so I usually get woken up when she gets home.
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Post by hannahruth on Jul 14, 2018 7:22:06 GMT
No we didn't stay up waiting but went to bed when ready but I would be reading so I was generally awake and heard them come in but it was not an issue as they were both (DS and DD) fairly sensible and if they weren't coming home they would let us know.
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Post by gmcwife1 on Jul 14, 2018 7:35:15 GMT
Yes, I would because I like to hear the garage go up and then down. My boys always came upstairs to just say a quick goodnight. My mom had a little light by her door that she left turned on. When I got home, I turned it off if she was already sleeping. If she woke up in the middle of the night and the light was off, she knew I was home without checking. We leave the house alarm off and dd turns it on when she gets home. I can see the alarm panel from my bedroom so I know if she’s home or not. I do not wait up. |
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Post by gar on Jul 14, 2018 8:29:17 GMT
I used to then graduated to being in bed reading, then sometimes dozed off...but I always woke up when I heard them arrive back.
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Post by momto4kiddos on Jul 14, 2018 10:14:19 GMT
Glad he's home. When my kids were new drivers at that age I always waited up. If I was dead tired and knew i'd fall asleep i'd set the alarm on my phone to wake me to make sure they made it home ok. With number 4, I used the alarm a lot  |
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Jul 14, 2018 10:26:54 GMT
I would, but that just me. I can't sleep if they're not home at that age. Ditto. |
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Post by littlemama on Jul 14, 2018 11:03:39 GMT
Yes,at that age.
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Post by Merge on Jul 14, 2018 11:31:45 GMT
I did for a while, but this summer she's been staying out so often that I can't stay up that late every night! LOL
I do always hear her come in, though. And I keep the ringer turned on on my phone when she's out, just in case.
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Post by cmhs on Jul 14, 2018 12:13:51 GMT
Yes, I would because I like to hear the garage go up and then down. My boys always came upstairs to just say a quick goodnight. My mom had a little light by her door that she left turned on. When I got home, I turned it off if she was already sleeping. If she woke up in the middle of the night and the light was off, she knew I was home without checking. I do the light thing, too. DS is only 14 and doesn't stay out late yet but once he hits high school this fall, I will be waiting up for him. DD is 19 and stays out really late some nights. I know where she is when she's out. She is in college and we don't set a curfew for her. She came in late once and forgot to turn the light off -- I had a few seconds of panic until I saw she was in her bed. She hasn't forgotten since. |
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Post by Dalai Mama on Jul 14, 2018 12:31:35 GMT
No, but i do have a rule about keeping me informed via text of changes in timing and they both know that they need to wake me up when they get home to let me know they arrived safely so I don’t wake up in a panic hours after they’ve arrived.
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Post by Country Ham on Jul 14, 2018 12:52:13 GMT
I am normally up watching tv till midnight so for me it wouldn't be out of the ordinary to be up anyhow. I am not sure yet. My mother had a chronic illness that tired her out so the rule in my house growing up was late in the evening we were not to wake her. Come in the house quietly and walk past their room to our rooms quietly. I never had a curfew either. My sister on the other hand had a curfew and if she was late my dad went looking for her. Both of us earned those priveleges though. I really was that "good" and she really was that sneaky and well tested boundaries. If my kid was an older teen I would probably ask him to text me when he got home.
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Post by guzismom on Jul 14, 2018 13:08:32 GMT
No, I go to bed but leave the lights outside and in the foyer on. It is the job of the last person home to turn them off. I wake up multiple times during the night anyway and can simply look for the lights. I don't remember a time when the lights were accidentally left on.
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Post by txdancermom on Jul 14, 2018 13:30:35 GMT
Mine were never really out late - but when they were many times I would get in bed, but never really fall asleep until I heard the door open and the noises of them getting ready for bed.
I do the same if dh has been out of town and is taking a late flight home
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Post by fuji on Jul 14, 2018 13:53:31 GMT
No. I have major sleep issues. If someone wakes me up, there’s a good chance I will be awake for hours. If I happen to wake up, I will go check. DH tried to wait up for them, although he almost always fell asleep on the couch. They would wake him when they got home.
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Post by psiluvu on Jul 14, 2018 13:55:31 GMT
No, I don't wait up. I they must come and wake me up when they get home so I know they are safe and sound and I don't have to get up and check if they are home yet. This works well for dd (18) for ds who is 15 he still usually needs a drive or will text me when the other parent has picked them up. He obviously isn't out as late as dd. Neither really has a curfew it is totally dependent on what is happening.
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Post by quiltz on Jul 14, 2018 14:34:35 GMT
Never did wait up for them. They would come into my room and give me a kiss. This was prior to smart phones.
I usually watch the 11:00 news & then a Late show (would have been Jay Leno at the time).
I gave them roots and they were spreading their wings. There was NEVER an issue of alcohol or drugs.
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Post by supersoda on Jul 14, 2018 14:45:44 GMT
I try, but I usually end up crashing by 11. More than once I have woken up and realized I never heard the kids come in, and then I pull them up on find my friends to make sure they're in the house.
They have a 10 p.m. curfew on summer weeknights, so I'm not up worried about them when I have to work the next day.
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Post by birdy on Jul 14, 2018 15:05:21 GMT
DS turned 18 in March. Until he graduated, I did stay up. He often doesn't get home from work until 11. He also had an 11 pm curfew when out with his gf and 11:30-12 with his friends. When he turned 18, we dropped the curfew, with a few things we expected since he would no longer have a curfew. We asked him to give us an estimated time he'd be home (give or take a few minutes) and if he was going to be later, just to text to let us know so we wouldn't worry. Also, if he was out somewhere farther away, just to shoot a text that he's on his way (for safety). Also, to wake me up to let me know he's home so I know he's safely in the house.
He's been out past midnight a few times since graduation, but he's been extremely respectful of what we've asked. I do go to bed, but find I don't sleep well until he's back home. Must just be mom instinct.
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Post by underwatermama on Jul 14, 2018 15:49:21 GMT
Yes, I try to, but there was something going on once and I just couldn't stay up anymore. The door chimed when he got home so technically I was awake anyway at that point...
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Post by utmr on Jul 14, 2018 16:04:49 GMT
Yes, always. If I'm really tired or they are going to be really late I set the alarm.
My mom always waited up for me, and I always think of her and smile when I'm waiting up for them.
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Post by 950nancy on Jul 14, 2018 17:18:15 GMT
Never did wait up for them. They would come into my room and give me a kiss. This was prior to smart phones. I usually watch the 11:00 news & then a Late show (would have been Jay Leno at the time). I gave them roots and they were spreading their wings. There was NEVER an issue of alcohol or drugs. My mother did this for my brothers. She said she could smell their breath that way. I didn't have a curfew, but I always called if I was going to be later than I said I would be. My mom put a lot of trust in me and I was a good kid. |
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Post by cadoodlebug on Jul 14, 2018 18:00:52 GMT
I used to go to bed but rarely slept until I heard him come in. Nights like senior ball when they stayed out all night at a friend's house were tough!
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Post by kelly8875 on Jul 14, 2018 18:05:23 GMT
I don’t generally. She’s 17, but I know when she comes in because the dogs bark. And I use Life 360, so when I wake up in the night I see that she’s home too. My phone is next to the bed and not on silent, so if she called I would also hear it. I know I’m not sound asleep until I “know” she’s home.
She’s only been late once in the last year also, so I’m not concerned about being late on purpose. She knows she’s on Life 360, so she knows I would know. She’s a good kid.
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