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Post by scrappintoee on Jan 10, 2020 3:32:10 GMT
Compare Becky with this lovely woman I have been obsessed over. Her name is Jessica Kellgren-Fozard. She is deaf, blind in one eye, has memory issues, and lots of chronic illnesses. I came across her channel because I liked her hair and it was a video on how to style it. She is British and has a lovely voice. And then I discovered how sick she is. I am always in awe of what she has made with her life and how kind and upbeat she seems. If you have time and are so inclined, go to the 6:50 mark on the video below. She is so grateful for all her followers and the way she talks about it is so real. I have now watched many, many of her videos and not once has she mentioned any of those puke-inducing buzz words that "influencers"use. cristelina....Thank you for recommending her! I just did what you suggested and went to the 6:50 mark, and she is really lovely, isn't she? I only watched a few minutes, but I'm going to go to you tube now to watch more, and learn more about her/ see more of her vids. I can tell by just watching her a few minutes that she is kind, sometimes funny, and SINCERE! I cannot STAND the puke-inducing buzzwords anymore, either! Oh, and I was already SO sick of the overuse of "INTENTIONAL"..."TRANSPARENT", etc. But THEN....OMG......when I saw the term "LOVE LANGUAGE" was used recently, I just....can't. I actually know someone IRL that overuses these words, too, and it just makes me wanna roll my eyes and wonder if they realize how annoying those words are ! !!!
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Post by scrappintoee on Jan 10, 2020 4:30:18 GMT
Just read comments from the Chelsea person on Becky's Instagram...way to tell it to Becky on how most of the people feel about how she is "cultivating" her business. But obviously, Becky is totally ignoring the advice. did not see what was said hop2 ... This is the one everyone's talking about. Scroll down a bit to get to where chelseapug starts with talking about PL being dead, and her thoughts on BH's "brand". These are a few snippets within the 26 other comments. (chelseapugbackup) " Project Life is dead, isn't it? Is that the subject of the next email? Very sad, but hilkng and notebooks and Becky Proudfit are NOT your brand, even with 'evolution'.. "
BH then comment on that, and this was chelseapug's reply:
Brands don't exist without loyal customers, Becky. If you look across many social media, one of the ways you have pi$$ed people off is with your flippant replies... like this one. You have NEVER listened to your customers. "We want square corners on the journaling cards"; but you didn't like those comments... until it was too late. You are ALWAYS right, Becky... but you are NOT. YOUR hubris killed your business. I guess you will Block.me now, as has happened with so many people on Facebook, etc. Businessea evolve, of course they do, but you brought on a lot of your demise yourself. People who bought into PL did not, in the main, want to have Rylapack pushes onto them. You always claim that you value feedback, but you don't. Simple Stories are still thriving and they are a version of you... so why isn't PL? I will not comment further and expect to be Blocked. YOU killed your own business by not listening. The truth hurts, but it has to be said. beckyproudfit@chelseapugbackup Hey Chelsea. I don’t know you, I am happy to meet you. I have a few questions and a few things I want to point out so we can understand each other better. 1. When people bring my name up in part with her frustration with one part of our brand, it actually really hurts. I need you to understand that I am a human being, Becky is a human being, the whole team are actually human beings. I promise we are not plotting ways to ruin anyone’s life in fact quite the opposite. Becky pours her heart and soul into everything she does. Not to get rich, not to become famous, but to truly help people cultivate a good life in the best way she knows how. Just like how Project Life didn’t exist before she created it, she is once again innovating in this very important storytelling industry in ways she feels so deeply are meaningful and help people use storytelling to help them live the best life. 2. The brand has always been Becky Higgins and Project Life is a huge part of that. It is not the other way around. I also think there are things coming that will make you super excited about the future of Project Life. 3. I actually am curious to know how you know that simple stories is impact thriving. I honestly don’t know if they are or not. But I do know that the market no longer supports scrapbooking paper products in the way that it used to. That’s not speculation that’s industry data. You may have some miss information about what is actually happening in this industry and it might be worthwhile for you to contact some of these big box retailers to find out why their buyers are no longer buying from third-party companies and instead of producing most of what they have in house. I truly am saying none of this in malice, but to be honest you hurt my feelings. I’m sure you’re a wonderful person but I need you to understand that the part of the brown that you see on Instagram is one part of a much much much larger picture. http://instagr.am/p/B654SU_hhkN
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Post by auntmimi on Jan 10, 2020 14:23:43 GMT
She has another post from yesterday emphasizing how you don't need more or anything else beyond what you already have to document your life. She is so done, you guys!
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Post by shmoopea on Jan 10, 2020 14:42:53 GMT
I have been following this thread and laughed many times. Although it also hurts that Project Life is dead so to speak. I unfollowed Becky on the Gram yesterday as I too am just DONE with her posts. I still love the app and even posted about it here recently as I intend ("intentionally" HA) to continue using the app and the products that are available on it. It makes me annoyed and frankly kinda ticked off that she feels she can decide we have enough products...I mean WHAT?! That is one of the stupidest things ever to say when you could continue to make money off more kits. Why not just say "hey sorry guys but what we pay for designers to make these kits and what we earn just isn't adding up" because we know that has to be more of the honest truth right? Or even sell the damn brand/app to someone else that will continue to make kits for it and take a chunk of their profits if you are just not into it anymore!!! Anyway just felt like adding my two cents to this thread since I have lurked through the past 110 pages.
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Post by auntmimi on Jan 10, 2020 15:21:25 GMT
Why not just say "hey sorry guys but what we pay for designers to make these kits and what we earn just isn't adding up" because we know that has to be more of the honest truth right? Like I said earlier, she needs to PL/SB community to support her other endeavors. She will never be so honest or blunt.
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Post by cristelina on Jan 10, 2020 15:26:19 GMT
shmoopea, that is what my husband calls our kitty cat auntmimi-we don't need project life cards but now we seriously need those expensive notebooks to intentionally cultivate a good life so it can become our best life! Divorce, foreclosure, cancer, death, chronic illness, mental health issues be damned! People, all we have to do is move to a ginormous expensive house, live close to a serene scenic environment and hyper-focus on our lives. There. Best life solved.
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Post by cristelina on Jan 10, 2020 15:31:55 GMT
scrappintoee... you are very welcome. I love her. Her playlists are nicely categorized so you can find a subject you might be interested in. One thing I learned from her that makes me embarrassed about my past behavior is not to judge a book by its cover. She has quite a few videos in which she discusses people giving her dirty looks because she uses handicapped sitting or parking when she DOESN'T LOOK DISABLED. That would have been me. Because of her I will no longer be doing that.
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Post by kiera on Jan 10, 2020 16:11:12 GMT
cristelina WOW. Of course there's a chance of an invisible disability, but she would have spoken about that if she had one instead of scoffing at people while continuing to be lazy and inconsiderate. Hopefully she isn't doing that and she's in those spots because she needs them.
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Post by cristelina on Jan 10, 2020 17:56:22 GMT
cristelina WOW. Of course there's a chance of an invisible disability, but she would have spoken about that if she had one instead of scoffing at people while continuing to be lazy and inconsiderate. Hopefully she isn't doing that and she's in those spots because she needs them. Oh my yes. She has SO MANY disabilities. She is blind in one eye, is deaf (she does not consider this a disability) scoliosis, severe migraines, memory loss due to a spinal tap gone wrong in which ALL HER SPINAL FLUID leaked into her body, two genetic disorders that make her joints weak and affect her nerves so she sometimes paralyzes her limbs, POTS, which makes her faint unexpectedly, severe chronic fatigue syndrome, constant pain, has no strength in her hands and cant feel her her hands or the left side of her face. She speaks about them all the time and her channel is all about giving hope to other disabled people. Her point was us abled people should give people the benefit of the doubt and not assume that just because a person is not in a wheelchair does not at all mean they don't have disabilities. That is what people assume about her because she is young (30), pretty, dresses in very cute "50s retro and is mobile for a short period of time. She constantly has to fight for her rights. Airlines refuse to give her a wheelchair when she lands because she is able to walk when she boards, people on the bus ask her to get out of the disabled seat. In Britain, they have the same bathroom stall for disabled people and for moms that need to change diapers. One mom actually smashed the baby carriage into her legs and said "So no baby and not disabled" as she did this. I have learned so much about disabilities and will be a kinder human if I see someone that I don't think is disabled. Like I said, I used to be one of the dirty looks abled people. Now I will not. I finally realized that yes indeed I have fibromyalgia and it zaps the energy out of me if I do too much. Her channel helps me not feel guilty because I have to spend a day in bed and helps me feel very grateful that fibro is all I have. Well, and pre-diabetes, and mild arthritis.
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Post by auntmimi on Jan 10, 2020 19:14:29 GMT
auntmimi-we don't need project life cards but now we seriously need those expensive notebooks to intentionally cultivate a good life so it can become our best life! Divorce, foreclosure, cancer, death, chronic illness, mental health issues be damned! Don't forget a week at a pricey health spa, overpriced backpacks, and minky soft bedding.
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Post by miss2peas on Jan 10, 2020 20:42:35 GMT
She went commando on deleting comments on the post from yesterday so I couldn’t help but add my two cents, we’ll see if I get blocked and/or deleted.
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Post by auntmimi on Jan 10, 2020 21:06:46 GMT
New stories today include yet another recap of how the anxiety attack from last year changed her life. She says she made the choice to not work all summer (hello privilege!) then said:
"When I invited work to be back in my life, I made the choice to only do what I absolutely love...and nothing that I don't love."
"I made the incredibly difficult and absolutely empowering choice to LET GO of other people's expectations of me. It seemed that everyone had an opinion of what my brand should or should not be and I let a whole lot of noise get into my head and heart. Until I decided to let it all go and trust myself and trust how I felt God was leading me in my work. MASSIVE CHOICE."
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Post by kelaur on Jan 10, 2020 21:41:53 GMT
Ugh. She’s like a train wreck that I just can’t seem to look away from. I used to respect her but she’s just too much now. Who has all this time every bloody day to reflect on all this crap? Most of us are busy working. Yes, I know she’s been sick but these stories go on and on all the time.
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Post by crimsoncat05 on Jan 10, 2020 21:46:18 GMT
I have to *invite* work back into my life every Monday at 5 am, whether I want to or not! I didn't know I could just DECLINE the invitation!
Wwell, technically I *could* decline, but then my company would decline to PAY me... and since I have to keep my health insurance, and my income, well, I have to accept the invite.)
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Post by sleepingbooty on Jan 10, 2020 22:08:58 GMT
I have to *invite* work back into my life every Monday at 5 am, whether I want to or not! I didn't know I could just DECLINE the invitation! Wwell, technically I *could* decline, but then my company would decline to PAY me... and since I have to keep my health insurance, and my income, well, I have to accept the invite.) Should've been a physician's daughter marrying a physician, tsk tsk tsk.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 11, 2020 4:53:26 GMT
I have to *invite* work back into my life every Monday at 5 am, whether I want to or not! I didn't know I could just DECLINE the invitation! Wwell, technically I *could* decline, but then my company would decline to PAY me... and since I have to keep my health insurance, and my income, well, I have to accept the invite.) Should've been a physician's daughter marrying a physician, tsk tsk tsk. She's so vacuously entitled, it's nauseating.
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Post by craftymom101 on Jan 11, 2020 5:08:28 GMT
A lot of accurate words have been used to describe Becky (privileged, entitled, tone deaf, etc.) but I feel like there is (or should be) a more... all-encompassing? word that more accurately describes her behavior. At this point I wonder if she is so dumb, naive, privileged, oblivious, and/or sheltered to fully understand how obnoxious she sounds. Between her “anxiety attack”, new million+ dollar home, “not inviting work into her life”, closing her business without owning the decision, plus dozens of other insensitive, immature, self-aggrandizing statements, she is not a person I will support. Ever.
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Post by kiera on Jan 11, 2020 6:05:31 GMT
cristelina WOW. Of course there's a chance of an invisible disability, but she would have spoken about that if she had one instead of scoffing at people while continuing to be lazy and inconsiderate. Hopefully she isn't doing that and she's in those spots because she needs them. Oh my yes. She has SO MANY disabilities. She is blind in one eye, is deaf (she does not consider this a disability) scoliosis, severe migraines, memory loss due to a spinal tap gone wrong in which ALL HER SPINAL FLUID leaked into her body, two genetic disorders that make her joints weak and affect her nerves so she sometimes paralyzes her limbs, POTS, which makes her faint unexpectedly, severe chronic fatigue syndrome, constant pain, has no strength in her hands and cant feel her her hands or the left side of her face. She speaks about them all the time and her channel is all about giving hope to other disabled people. Her point was us abled people should give people the benefit of the doubt and not assume that just because a person is not in a wheelchair does not at all mean they don't have disabilities. That is what people assume about her because she is young (30), pretty, dresses in very cute "50s retro and is mobile for a short period of time. She constantly has to fight for her rights. Airlines refuse to give her a wheelchair when she lands because she is able to walk when she boards, people on the bus ask her to get out of the disabled seat. In Britain, they have the same bathroom stall for disabled people and for moms that need to change diapers. One mom actually smashed the baby carriage into her legs and said "So no baby and not disabled" as she did this. I have learned so much about disabilities and will be a kinder human if I see someone that I don't think is disabled. Like I said, I used to be one of the dirty looks abled people. Now I will not. I finally realized that yes indeed I have fibromyalgia and it zaps the energy out of me if I do too much. Her channel helps me not feel guilty because I have to spend a day in bed and helps me feel very grateful that fibro is all I have. Well, and pre-diabetes, and mild arthritis. So sorry - I had misread (don't Pea at work, ladies) and thought it was Becky being called out for being in those spots. Didn't realize you meant a different person! Ugh I hate that she has to go through all of that, no one should. But it's great that she's using her platform to speak out about it and change people's minds.
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Post by scrapaddict702 on Jan 11, 2020 6:44:00 GMT
A lot of accurate words have been used to describe Becky (privileged, entitled, tone deaf, etc.) but I feel like there is (or should be) a more... all-encompassing? word that more accurately describes her behavior. At this point I wonder if she is so dumb, naive, privileged, oblivious, and/or sheltered to fully understand how obnoxious she sounds. Between her “anxiety attack”, new million+ dollar home, “not inviting work into her life”, closing her business without owning the decision, plus dozens of other insensitive, immature, self-aggrandizing statements, she is not a person I will support. Ever. Man child is a term...so if there is a male version, it is fair to make a female version, although woman child doesn't roll off the tongue as nicely.
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Post by scrappintoee on Jan 11, 2020 8:43:28 GMT
Today there's a post with multiple photos of BH, BP, and some of their podcast guests.
Annnnd, someone said this:
You need to bring in some more ethnic, racial, and cultural diversity in your guests! In looking through the photos, you seem to feature ALL white women (with an occasional guy thrown in).
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Post by amysaleik on Jan 11, 2020 13:44:07 GMT
Today there's a post with multiple photos of BH, BP, and some of their podcast guests. Annnnd, someone said this: You need to bring in some more ethnic, racial, and cultural diversity in your guests! In looking through the photos, you seem to feature ALL white women (with an occasional guy thrown in).
Yep. That was me. I DM’d her first and then decided to reply on the post also. She said in the DM that “it isn’t the color of one’s skin that makes their message valuable.” She completely missed my point. 😬 And she went on to say that they were “pulling from existing relationships” which sounds like she doesn’t have a very diverse group of friends and/or acquaintances either. 😢
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Post by hop2 on Jan 11, 2020 15:02:25 GMT
Oh my yes. She has SO MANY disabilities. She is blind in one eye, is deaf (she does not consider this a disability) scoliosis, severe migraines, memory loss due to a spinal tap gone wrong in which ALL HER SPINAL FLUID leaked into her body, two genetic disorders that make her joints weak and affect her nerves so she sometimes paralyzes her limbs, POTS, which makes her faint unexpectedly, severe chronic fatigue syndrome, constant pain, has no strength in her hands and cant feel her her hands or the left side of her face. She speaks about them all the time and her channel is all about giving hope to other disabled people. Her point was us abled people should give people the benefit of the doubt and not assume that just because a person is not in a wheelchair does not at all mean they don't have disabilities. That is what people assume about her because she is young (30), pretty, dresses in very cute "50s retro and is mobile for a short period of time. She constantly has to fight for her rights. Airlines refuse to give her a wheelchair when she lands because she is able to walk when she boards, people on the bus ask her to get out of the disabled seat. In Britain, they have the same bathroom stall for disabled people and for moms that need to change diapers. One mom actually smashed the baby carriage into her legs and said "So no baby and not disabled" as she did this. I have learned so much about disabilities and will be a kinder human if I see someone that I don't think is disabled. Like I said, I used to be one of the dirty looks abled people. Now I will not. I finally realized that yes indeed I have fibromyalgia and it zaps the energy out of me if I do too much. Her channel helps me not feel guilty because I have to spend a day in bed and helps me feel very grateful that fibro is all I have. Well, and pre-diabetes, and mild arthritis. So sorry - I had misread (don't Pea at work, ladies) and thought it was Becky being called out for being in those spots. Didn't realize you meant a different person! Ugh I hate that she has to go through all of that, no one should. But it's great that she's using her platform to speak out about it and change people's minds. Here the handicapped stall can be used by anyone. I mean, you can’t see if a person needs the bar to help stand again or not. Also the Handicapped toilet is often taller making it easier to stand back up bar or not. I needed that stall for about a year after my injury because I couldn’t always stand up again from the lower toilets it really is amazing how much difference that extra inch or two makes. As I got better I didn’t need ‘help’ standing from the higher toilet but I sure did from the lower ones. Same thing goes for parking spots, sometimes you simply can’t see and peopl should mind their own business. There is absolutely no way to tell from looking wether a person has these hidden disabilities so those people are so far out of line it’s unreal. I’ve never ever had anyone question my use of the handicapped toilet
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Post by Deleted on Jan 11, 2020 15:33:12 GMT
Today there's a post with multiple photos of BH, BP, and some of their podcast guests. Annnnd, someone said this: You need to bring in some more ethnic, racial, and cultural diversity in your guests! In looking through the photos, you seem to feature ALL white women (with an occasional guy thrown in).
Yep. That was me. I DM’d her first and then decided to reply on the post also. She said in the DM that “it isn’t the color of one’s skin that makes their message valuable.” She completely missed my point. 😬 And she went on to say that they were “pulling from existing relationships” which sounds like she doesn’t have a very diverse group of friends and/or acquaintances either. 😢 It's way worse than that. It's not just white women, it's white MORMON women. Talk about a skewed vision. But it's my belief that's what her podcast is anyway, just another means for her to proselytize. I can't imagine her having on a representational number of people on w/something interesting to contribute who are Jewish, Muslim, atheist, etc. And her ridiculously "white lives matter too"-type response is beyond tone deaf.
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Post by sleepingbooty on Jan 11, 2020 16:10:42 GMT
Becky H and Becky P's responses have been an excellent demonstration of white fragility. And certainly of lack of professionalism from Becky P who is supposed to be some PR catch. The year is 2020. Considering the extremely white and racist history (and anti-LGBTQ present) of the Mormon Church, she ought to be extra attentive to seeking out diversity if her plan is to continue catering to the audience she amassed during her Project Life days (as seemingly evidenced by her self-appointed "Your Documenting Guru" title). However, if indeed she is interested in narrowing her core audience down to people she'd find an interesting addition to her church (fellow white women of a similar-ish age and at the very least comfortable middle class status), the current public defense of tone deafness makes sense. It's a hypocritical and frankly stupid approach to business but it seems that Becky is actually not interested one bit in other people or grabbing the largest market available. Has anyone dared to ask her why she still calls herself our documenting guru on social media? I'd be interested in reading the response either Becky gave to that. Surely, it will include a version of: "To be honest, you hurt me."
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Post by cbscrapper on Jan 11, 2020 16:36:45 GMT
Becky H and Becky P's responses have been an excellent demonstration of white fragility. And certainly of lack of professionalism from Becky P who is supposed to be some PR catch. The year is 2020. Considering the extremely white and racist history (and anti-LGBTQ present) of the Mormon Church, she ought to be extra attentive to seeking out diversity if her plan is to continue catering to the audience she amassed during her Project Life days (as seemingly evidenced by her self-appointed "Your Documenting Guru" title). However, if indeed she is interested in narrowing her core audience down to people she'd find an interesting addition to her church (fellow white women of a similar-ish age and at the very least comfortable middle class status), the current public defense of tone deafness makes sense. It's a hypocritical and frankly stupid approach to business but it seems that Becky is actually not interested one bit in other people or grabbing the largest market available. Has anyone dared to ask her why she still calls herself our documenting guru on social media? I'd be interested in reading the response either Becky gave to that. Surely, it will include a version of: "To be honest, you hurt me." Oh, but you “document” when you write something down in a notebook! Or post your rambling musings on IG. (Her response might include that she never said she was a scrapbooking or memory-keeping guru.) Barf. She is so far inside her own little unrealistic bubble.
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Post by pancakes on Jan 11, 2020 20:23:20 GMT
Totally random. There’s a new show on Netflix (a satirical comedy) called Medical Police. The lead on the show keeps giving me younger BH vibes 😂
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Post by scrapaddict702 on Jan 11, 2020 20:55:05 GMT
Obviously she desperately wants to pretend like her orbit is all that there is in the world. It would explain a lot about why she denies reality as hard as she does. Ignorance is bliss, y'all.
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Post by sleepingbooty on Jan 12, 2020 19:55:36 GMT
Netflix France just added several seasons of Drugs, Inc. to their catalogue and s05e06 is about drug use in Salt Lake City, including the rise of heroin use in the Mormon population. This seasons dates back to 2014 so I imagine the numbers have likely increased since. In case anyone's interested in the effects of the expected "perfect" facade. ETA: Per Wikipedia, the episode is numbered s05e01. Just look for the one titled 'Salt Lake Sinners.'
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Post by refugeepea on Jan 13, 2020 0:39:27 GMT
Netflix France just added several seasons of Drugs, Inc. to their catalogue and s05e06 is about drug use in Salt Lake City, including the rise of heroin use in the Mormon population. This seasons dates back to 2014 so I imagine the numbers have likely increased since. In case anyone's interested in the effects of the expected "perfect" facade. Season 1, episode 2 of This is Life with Lisa Ling did a show about this too. It's called Unholy addiction.
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Post by emilyotr on Jan 15, 2020 21:23:03 GMT
She just sent out an email that said she's definitely no longer making any physical project life products. So, does anyone else make a design A page protector? Design H? I could do without everything else. or, how much should I buy? this is awful for me.
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