Post by hop2 on Jun 30, 2014 14:01:46 GMT
I have a friend who is gay. He doesn't tell his family or even tell them of his relationships because he is pretty sure that they will treat him as if he is some science experiment gone wrong. As if he doesn't know who he is, or what he wants. They'll want to 'fix him' for 'his own good'. Because he's young (22) and how could he know. Attitudes like that kind of drive me crazy. Not everyone who is different from 'you' (general you) needs to be repaired or changed. We are all people. People ARE different. That's what makes us interesting instead of boring.
Ok so on another thread, Angievp's thread about the 'V', so many peas mentioned that other lesbians will be cautious/apprehensive that a first timer won't know who/what they really are. Someone even commented that they would be tourists. So at first this made me very sad. I mean bad enough to be treated like your clueless by 'well-meaning' hetero sexuals but it would be really weird to come from someone who had once BTDT what your going thru. So sad.
Then I'm thinking, how does anyone know on a first date, if the other person is right for them. Whatever your sexuality, you need time to have attraction turn into a sincere relationship. No relationship or date comes with a guarantee. What would be the difference if your Bisexual, as long as your taking *this* relationship in the same way, with the same sincerity, as the other person, why would it matter? It would matter if you were into playing around the field and they were looking for commitment but sexuality doesn't really matter to that question does it? How would anyone know how into the other person they were, how serious they could become later, on the first date. I mean even players can eventually find that one person and be satisfied with them. You just can't know before a date. )well unless you've fallen for your longtime friend which is different scenario )
So without derailing the other thread help me understand this.
Ok so on another thread, Angievp's thread about the 'V', so many peas mentioned that other lesbians will be cautious/apprehensive that a first timer won't know who/what they really are. Someone even commented that they would be tourists. So at first this made me very sad. I mean bad enough to be treated like your clueless by 'well-meaning' hetero sexuals but it would be really weird to come from someone who had once BTDT what your going thru. So sad.
Then I'm thinking, how does anyone know on a first date, if the other person is right for them. Whatever your sexuality, you need time to have attraction turn into a sincere relationship. No relationship or date comes with a guarantee. What would be the difference if your Bisexual, as long as your taking *this* relationship in the same way, with the same sincerity, as the other person, why would it matter? It would matter if you were into playing around the field and they were looking for commitment but sexuality doesn't really matter to that question does it? How would anyone know how into the other person they were, how serious they could become later, on the first date. I mean even players can eventually find that one person and be satisfied with them. You just can't know before a date. )well unless you've fallen for your longtime friend which is different scenario )
So without derailing the other thread help me understand this.
