RedSquirrelUK
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Aug 1, 2018 9:07:40 GMT
Dear DH, He's your godson and it's his 13th birthday today, Wednesday. I've been badgering you for weeks to find out from his father (your friend) what he wants. His father finally said money, so I hand-made him a gorgeous card with a money pocket inside, finished a week ago. Job done. So why, on Monday, did you decide that he needed something to open as well, go on Amazon and order him a book (good find) and girls' socks? You believed the "order in the next 5 minutes or it won't be delivered in time" which meant you didn't have time to read the description or look at the picture properly, so you screwed up. Is that really a good reason why you should want me to give up my morning today, going out and returning the wretched socks, and searching for toiletries or chocolate that he doesn't want? He wants money! And he already has something to open as well! Isn't that enough?
In fact, having typed that out, it makes no sense at all. I'm not going out. I had planned a quiet morning in, doing laundry and ironing your shirts so that I don't have to do it when I get home from work tonight at 8pm. And that's what I'm doing. And you can deliver the present and card by yourself too.
with lots of love and kisses from your dear wife XXX
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scrappington
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Post by scrappington on Aug 1, 2018 9:19:26 GMT
Men
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AllieC
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Post by AllieC on Aug 1, 2018 9:25:33 GMT
Ugh, just give the socks to a girl you know and call it done. A book and money is totally fine.
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joelise
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Post by joelise on Aug 1, 2018 9:39:29 GMT
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Post by gar on Aug 1, 2018 10:06:59 GMT
What a silly husband  |
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Post by Lindarina on Aug 1, 2018 10:43:02 GMT
Let him spend his morning going to the stores if it’s that important to him...and why isn’t he ironing his own shirts?
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Post by Rainy_Day_Woman on Aug 1, 2018 11:54:59 GMT
I will commiserate with you. I can't count how many times my DH has done this to me. He is obsessed with not looking "cheap" and always thinks whatever I get is not enough. That said, he won't actually do anything about doing it himself until ten minutes before he needs a present and then its a blown out of proportion emergency and he ends up giving people way too much money or buying expensive but meaningless gifts or trying to send me on a goose chase across the city. We do have a budget that needs to be kept. He's already moaning about a wedding we have to go to. I ordered them a handmade flower vase- not cheap. It's a porceline birch tree vase with their initials carved in it. She always has fresh flowers and they're super sappy and romantic  They will love it. Three times now he's been asking me to get something else to "add to it" because you can't just give a vase. No! Gah! There is nothing wrong with this present. Ugh! Sorry to co-opt the vent! I didnt realize how pissed I was until just now. LOL It has gotten better since I just don't entertain his whims anymore but it doesnt make it less annoying. |
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ddly
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Post by ddly on Aug 1, 2018 13:04:40 GMT
My ex DH never did anything for gifts except wait for me to do something. At least he put forth some effort. Maybe it was wasted effort but at least he’s thinking about it. Girls’ socks for a 13 yo boy?! Makes me laugh a little.
Leave it for him to deal with.
Lisa G.
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Post by dasmith2 on Aug 1, 2018 14:05:35 GMT
My husband does the same, although he's always happy about whatever I pick out but if left for him to do, its definitely done last minute that's how he rolls lol
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Post by mikklynn on Aug 1, 2018 15:33:03 GMT
My husband does the same, although he's always happy about whatever I pick out but if left for him to do, its definitely done last minute that's how he rolls lol Sounds like my DH, too. He thinks calling someone last minute means he has a plan. A plan is calling ahead! |
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milocat
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Post by milocat on Aug 1, 2018 16:28:01 GMT
A book is fine to go with the gift card. Stay home. My DH wouldn't have even made the order, he would have said whatever you figure is fine. And I'd be the one ironing his shirt, if I actually ironed anything.
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Post by 950nancy on Aug 1, 2018 16:38:21 GMT
Right after we got married, I told my husband that he would have to write thank-you notes to his side of the family and friends. I had already written over a hundred for multiple showers and still had to do my side of the family and friends. It was then I slipped in that I wouldn't be in charge of buying gifts for his family either. I would help by giving advice or even wrapping them, but he was in charge of getting them into the house. Where in the rule book does it state that when a female gets married she has to take over all of her husband's social responsibilities?
ETA: I don't do his ironing either. (We both worked outside the home.)
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Post by Deleted on Aug 1, 2018 16:48:17 GMT
Donate the socks and tuck money inside the book along with an inscription, wrap it, and stick a tag on it.
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Post by jemmls4 on Aug 2, 2018 0:16:10 GMT
Let him spend his morning going to the stores if it’s that important to him...and why isn’t he ironing his own shirts?  |
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RedSquirrelUK
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Aug 2, 2018 8:28:30 GMT
LOL at your replies! I stayed in and had a cosy morning ironing his shirts. He doesn't iron or do laundry. He does the nasty, dirty jobs around the house, and cuts the grass, which I don't do. It works for us, but he does need reminding sometimes that I need time to fit it in. I didn't buy anything else. DH messaged and called his father multiple times throughout the day to find out where they would be in the evening - no reply. After work, I picked DH and the book/card up, and we drove it round to godson's mother's house. All was empty there so we pushed it through the letterbox and hoped the dogs didn't eat it. We couldn't leave it at father's because he lives in a flat and you can't get in even to the foyer without someone letting you in. I may have made some comment about what a good thing it was that we didn't get bulky toiletries that wouldn't fit through the letterbox...  |
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ginacivey
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Post by ginacivey on Aug 2, 2018 13:41:56 GMT
if the father 'finally said money'
and then couldn't bother to return a call
then it doesn't sound like i'd worry about a gift next year
gina
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rickmer
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Post by rickmer on Aug 2, 2018 15:07:04 GMT
mine would do the same thing... i would run ideas past him, he'd agree or say "whatever you think" and then be critical and complain "it's not enough" or somehow not right. i also stopped doing his laundry since he complained about that too. you step out of clothes, they magically appear back in your closet clean... what is there to complain about??? there was a lot of that going on. now i have stopped being his wife, but if you like yours, i guess i wouldn't recommend that! |
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RedSquirrelUK
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Aug 2, 2018 16:01:18 GMT
Godson's father and mother are no longer together. Whether this had anything to do with father returning calls or texts only ever on his own terms may or may not have anything to do with that. This guy is DH's friend, and has been for 25 years. I'm very fond of him but if I had to live with him there would be bloodshed. He is one of those who believes that his phones/email are for his convenience only, not for other people's. My personal opinion is that communication is a two-way street, but I've discovered that there are a lot of people on this message board who think his way too. I genuinely don't think he has any idea how the uncertainty can bugger up the lives of those around him, and we wouldn't want his kids, DH's godsons, to lose out because of his ways. So until the boys are old enough to bugger up their own communications, we will continue dancing around him. DH, however, should know better. |
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They will love it. Three times now he's been asking me to get something else to "add to it" because you can't just give a vase. No! Gah! There is nothing wrong with this present.
