scrappinspidey2
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Post by scrappinspidey2 on Aug 24, 2018 4:30:19 GMT
I need some place to put this and wouldn’t mind any encouragement, ideas, thoughts etc. the last 6 years have been one major change after another. I find myself living in a state that doesn’t feel like home, a job that pays me well, gives me perks, but that drains my soul for many reasons on a daily basis. I’m husbandless and now an empty nester as my youngest moved out a year ago and hasn’t shown any signs of needing me. My son is happily married in another state. This is not said in a way to get pity etc, just a statement of where I am in life. I have been struggling with my career the most of late. I had decided it would be smart to stay with my company and move up into different nursing positions. Currently I work from home which is both a blessing and a curse. I work 4/10 hour shifts Wed-Sat. The pay is great and the vacation package is generous however it’s very impossible to get Friday/Saturday’s off. I also work weird hours which pretty much stop me from doing anything on the days I work. Nobody in in my department is happy with what is going on in our jobs. I have been there almost 2 years now. While I don’t really want to give specifics, some of the things that bother me about] my job are not things that will change and are directly related to my supervisor. I had applied for so other position in the company after struggling with the decision to try or take a huge cut and go back to the hospital. My friend referred me to the position and there are 4 openings. It not my ideal job but it was a stepping stone to getting a certification I would need to stay in the company. Instead of interviewing with the director, she called and said that too any people had applied from my department so there was a memo that went out and until further notice nobody from my department can be hired. I admit I was mad for a day but then realized this was the sign I was looking for. I went into nursing to work with babies, moms, L&D. Now is the time to return to that goal. Sorry this got wordy, I will try to finish here. There is a position for nurses in another state. It’s a special program for experienced nurses trying to break into L&D. Because of my current job I have an active license in that state. I also have my new shiny BSN that is not a requirement but a big want by hospitals, including this one, I do have a friend in the area but it’s across the country. I am in no way ready to move or put my house on the market today. I have some time off coming I had requested a month ago to do a small trip but I’ve decided that maybe I should use that time to get my house ready to put on the market either way, the question is do you wait till that’s done before you apply out of state? Do you start applying now and let the chips fall? not many of these types of programs exist. Right now there is only one position in my area that I qualify for and I will be applying there as well. But it isnt this kind of program. Part of me says I need to not miss out on the opportunity and apply regardless. The planner in me is terrified of this option. I don’t like winging it. I’m willing to move on my own dime to ge the opportunity to do this or any job in this particular area of nursing. My house will sell fast as I’m in a very desired neighborhood, it’s just not market ready. I have this irrational fear that I apply tomorrow and they will want to hire me in 2 weeks, which I know is not how that works. They have to interview etc and do the background, I have to give 2 weeks notice. I said it was irrational  . How do you make that leap into the unknown to fulfill your dream? How do you know if you should go for it or wait until certain things are done first? Am I going completely insane even thinking like this?? ‘’Thanks for letting me ramble |
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smginaz Suzy
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Post by smginaz Suzy on Aug 24, 2018 4:42:03 GMT
You know me. I work in HR. Apply.
Any organization that wants to hire you will work on your timeline with a majo relocation. At least, any organization where you would want to work will do this.
It also provides you with the sense of urgency that you want to have to get the things done that you want to get done in preparation for a move.
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gramma
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Post by gramma on Aug 24, 2018 4:48:01 GMT
You don't know me - but I say don't stay in a job where you are not happy.
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melissa
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Post by melissa on Aug 24, 2018 4:58:02 GMT
If L+D is what you really want, then go for it. Apply now and see where the chips fall.
I think it takes a special nurse to do L+D. If you have it in you, then it's where you should be.
A friend of mine is in the process of making of the shift. All she had to do was find someone willing to hire her. They are currently training her now. I think she's spending 4 weeks, paid, learning the ropes. She is an experienced ICU/CCU RN.
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Post by Delta Dawn on Aug 24, 2018 5:24:16 GMT
Apply.
What the fuck gives you freedom
Freedom gives you opportunity
Opportunity makes your future.
Risky Business
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AllieC
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Post by AllieC on Aug 24, 2018 7:45:58 GMT
I would apply. I work in a regional area that finds it very hard to recruit for professional positions. My workplace has bent over backwards to accommodate people who are qualified and want the job but need to relocate etc.
You have nothing to lose but a hell of a lot to gain.
Good luck
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Post by gar on Aug 24, 2018 7:57:50 GMT
Jump and the net will appear. Go for it  The signs are all good...the timing is just a small part of the big picture and can usually be sorted out satisfactorily when necessary so apart from that? If the timing wasn't an issue would you hesitate? Apply - it doesn't commit you to anything but missing out will be, well, an opportunity missed. |
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Post by nlwilkins on Aug 24, 2018 8:00:55 GMT
Apply. Its amazing what you can do in two weeks if you put your mind to it - not saying you will have jut two weeks. But if that is what is worrying you, then plan on it so the worry will stop. Do be so sure you need so much time to get the house ready. If the house is sound and does not need major renovation, then figure out how much it would cost to get it ready and apply that figure somehow in the selling of it. Like a painting allowance, etc. Talk to a realtor before spending ANY money or investing any time. She might even know someone who would do the work for you while you work out your two weeks notice. If you can afford it, hire some people to help with the packing up part too. YOU CAN DO IT! and it sound like you really need to do it. A soul can be stifled in the environment you describe. You don't want to end up all dried up and with no joy in your life because your job took it all away.
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momto4kiddos
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Post by momto4kiddos on Aug 24, 2018 10:31:56 GMT
You sound a lot like me, I like all my ducks in a row and to know what to expect. With that said, this sounds like something you want and need to do. So jump! You'll weather the stress of getting it all together and be much happier for it if you get the job.
Good luck!!
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Aug 24, 2018 11:27:41 GMT
Apply for the job. It will all come together if it needs to be. Not without some hiccups, sure. But that is life. Don't let good stuff pass you by while you're fretting over stuff that hasn't even happened yet.
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Post by lisacharlotte on Aug 24, 2018 12:01:44 GMT
Apply. Then get your home life in order so you can move if necessary. If you don’t get the job at least you’re ready if another job requiring relo pops up.
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Nanner
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Post by Nanner on Aug 24, 2018 12:03:12 GMT
I agree with everyone else. Apply! And good luck!
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peabrain
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Post by peabrain on Aug 24, 2018 12:14:37 GMT
I think sometimes the decisions don't FEEL right to you and then it isn't the right time. I do truly believe you KNOW when it is time to make those big decisions.
I left a job a bit ago and just turned in my two weeks notice. It was a hard decision. But it FELT right. I knew it was the right decision. And when you know in your heart that it's right, you can look ahead full force and never look back! No regrets. So maybe you're not at that point yet? I can't answer that. Maybe you are.
I know I'm in a better place in my life. I'm not saying it wasn't difficult to get here, but man was it worth it!
Good luck to you in your journey!
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Post by Judie in Oz on Aug 24, 2018 12:41:33 GMT
Apply for the job you want. If you get it, you can always rent your current house out while you figure out if you like the new place or not. Take a chance.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2018 12:43:08 GMT
Apply for the job. Life is short, so don't waste an opportunity to live your dream! You already hold the active state licensure, so you won't have to wait to accept a position. Do you currently work for an insurance company from home? (That job would be soul sucking to me, but I know several nurses that do it and are happy.) You mention going back to the hospital is a huge pay cut, but once you're a seasoned L&D nurse you can pretty much write your own ticket. L&D nurses often get sign on bonuses and are paid really well if you ever want to work as a travel nurse. I know a girl that bounces 6 months out of the year for travel and comes home to middle Tennessee for 6 months for the summer and fall seasons.
Anyway, talk to a realtor about selling your place. Depends where you live, but it might go quick without much work required since you are in a very desired neighborhood, A nurse I work with sold her house in Franklin, TN without even getting it listed a week before it was to go on the market because a girl walking her dog saw her moving boxes to her car and stopped to ask about it. It went for above asking and as-is.
You mention you went into nursing to work with moms, babies and L&D. I did too. I worked L&D for awhile, then went to Postpartum and now do Mother/Baby, GYN and NICU. Let me know if there's anything I can do for you. Best of luck to you!
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Post by CarolinaGirl71 on Aug 24, 2018 12:43:51 GMT
Former L&D nurse - now retired - Go for it! L&D is the best nursing job EVER for the right person - and your desire and interest makes you the right one! Plus, your hard earned BSN is something they are looking for! L&D is where you witness miracles every day! Don't ever take it for granted!  Not to be a Debby Downer, but - when L&D is good, it is very, very good - and when it is bad (not much but sometimes) - it is very very bad! |
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scrappert
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Post by scrappert on Aug 24, 2018 12:52:48 GMT
The consensus is apply!!
Everything will fall into place.
**my story of my dad. He decided in February that we was going to move where the sun shines all the time. He had a 13 acre piece of land with a huge house and pole barn full of tractors, boats, tools and just stuff. As he was emptying out the pole barn, people would stop by and ask if he was moving, selling, what was going on. He sold just about all of his tractors (he had 5 - and I am talking farm tractors), his boats (he had 2) and tools (he had soooo many tools, he did a lot of woodworking) all within 2 months. His house sold without a realtor, it was just by luck and faith that a man was driving by, stopped and asked if he was moving, my dad said yes, he said I'll by your house.
He closed on his new place in September of that same year, across the country.
Yes, there will be stress and worry, but in the end it may be the best decision you have ever made.
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Post by pjynx on Aug 24, 2018 13:07:49 GMT
How do you make that leap into the unknown to fulfill your dream? How do you know if you should go for it or wait until certain things are done first? Am I going completely insane even thinking like this?? Sometimes, you just don't KNOW, but you have to take a chance. You sound very unhappy in your current job. This job sounds like a great opportunity for you, in a job field you want to move toward. Do you want to make a change? If so, I'd first apply for the job. See if you get an interview. See how you feel about the opportunity after the initial interview. Your excitement (or hesitation) after that point will tell you a lot about what you should do. Not sure what all needs to be done with your house to get it market-ready. Can any of it be done during the hours that you aren't working? A little here & there in the meantime while you wait and see how the interviewing goes? Save the vacation time for when you need to travel to the other state to interview. Or to spend a little time visiting the new location to see if it suits you. Good luck with your decision! Pam |
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Post by malibou on Aug 24, 2018 13:47:41 GMT
I'm with everyone else and say Apply.
Here is something else to throw in the pot, what advice would you give yours kids if they were in this position?
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Post by needtime2scrap on Aug 24, 2018 13:49:21 GMT
I agree with everyone else...apply! If you don't you could miss an amazing opportunity. Just because you apply doesn't mean you have to take it. But it sounds like a lot of things are pointing you in this direction.
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Post by disneypal on Aug 24, 2018 13:53:34 GMT
I say that you go ahead and apply and then let things fall into place. It sounds like it is a good time to make a change like this and sounds like it could be very good for your. Apply for the job in the other state, meanwhile take the time off as planned to get your house ready to put on the market.
Good luck to you.
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Post by destined2bmom on Aug 24, 2018 14:03:46 GMT
I say Apply now! Sometimes it can take a month before your resume gets reviewed and you get a call for an interview. You can use that time to work on your house.
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Post by mikklynn on Aug 24, 2018 14:19:27 GMT
Do it! You can always sell your house as-is.
You deserve to be happy. You are not happy now, so what's the downside?
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Post by Zee on Aug 24, 2018 14:24:10 GMT
I think you should go for it, and not be afraid to go for something else if it doesn't work out! We moved across the country so my husband could grow in his field. After 5 years he was kind of stagnant and I wasn't happy there so when another opportunity several states away came up, I said we're moving again. So far no regrets! Even better is that I've got real job opportunities here even though my BSN won't be complete until November. I'm so happy I said Let's go. Though I agree that few things are as stressful as selling your house  |
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Post by crazy4scraps on Aug 24, 2018 14:38:06 GMT
I agree with everyone who says you should apply. If you actually get the job and decide at that point that you’re really not ready, you can always turn it down and stay where you are.
As for the house, I wouldn’t worry too much about that bridge until you know you need to cross it. My sister and her DH decided they wanted a smaller house. She powered through deep cleaning her current house, had it on the market for ONE DAY, got three offers and was packing to move literally two weeks later. It can be done. They were both really surprised by how fast everything went.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2018 14:39:10 GMT
I think you should apply as well. Life is too short for a job that drains your soul. If you get this job, could you rent your place out until you get settled? That would leave your options open to moving back if you choose to.
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Post by lauradrumm on Aug 24, 2018 14:52:03 GMT
Why not visit the area for 2 weeks first. See if you can tell if you’d like living there. If so, go for it. A miserable job kills your soul.
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freebird
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Post by freebird on Aug 24, 2018 15:01:30 GMT
I'm an adventurer at heart. You have nothing holding you where you are, so I say go for it. The WORST that can happen is you don't like it and can always go back "home". You're not happy where you are, so the potential for it to be better is great.
I'd be scared as hell, but excited scared. Go have an adventure.
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Post by kelly8875 on Aug 24, 2018 15:33:52 GMT
Apply! What can it hurt? Worst case, you don’t get the job. Best case, you get the job. If your house will sell fast, I bet it’s more market ready than you think. Clean it, fresh paint ONLY if it’s dirty. Otherwise, buyers coming into a desired neighborhood will change it anyway. If this is the chance to be where you want with your career, JUMP  |
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kate
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Post by kate on Aug 24, 2018 15:43:48 GMT
Don't let good stuff pass you by while you're fretting over stuff that hasn't even happened yet. I need to post this in bold lettering over my desk. /hijack |
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