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Post by Deleted on Nov 2, 2018 23:41:41 GMT
I have several copies of my mother’s will and death certificate She has been dead for 4 years now. ( I mean half a bankers box)
I received a life insurance check, but my brother swindle the rest of the estate., So I have nothing from the estate. I don’t have the money to fight him for my half of the estate
Do i need to keep the paperwork?
Adding: He ( or his wife) did try to get my insurance check but I never acknowledged him on that.
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Post by mustlovecats on Nov 2, 2018 23:44:14 GMT
We were told to add copies of wills, death certificates, other related documents to our long term files, to keep for ten years or preferably permanently.
You don’t need to keep numerous copies but if you got money out of this event you want documentation in case of an audit.
I needed my uncle’s death certificate four years after his death to settle an old account with the cable company.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 2, 2018 23:47:37 GMT
We were told to add copies of wills, death certificates, other related documents to our long term files, to keep for ten years or preferably permanently. You don’t need to keep numerous copies. I needed my uncle’s death certificate four years after his death to settle an old account with the cable company. Is there a reason why? My mother had nothing to do with us. I don’t own anything she had. The property I was to inherit only has my brother’s name on it. He and my mother wrote me off it after my father died.
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Nov 3, 2018 0:04:03 GMT
I would keep at least one copy of each. Somewhere you might have to account for the monies you received from the insurance policy.
Surprise surprise, I had to come up with a copy of my divorce papers from the 1960s. Try doing that one without exact dates.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 3, 2018 0:07:35 GMT
I would keep at least one copy of each. Somewhere you might have to account for the monies you received from the insurance policy. Surprise surprise, I had to come up with a copy of my divorce papers from the 1960s. Try doing that one without exact dates. The insurance policy wasn’t part of the will. But I can see keeping that.
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Post by busy on Nov 3, 2018 0:12:39 GMT
I would keep one hard copy of each. And I'd also scan them.
It's a couple pieces of paper; what's the downside in keeping them? You may never need them, but you also might, and it's a giant pain in the ass to get copies if you don't have them. My dad has been dead for nearly 20 years and I needed his death certificate only a couple years ago.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 3, 2018 0:21:42 GMT
I would keep one hard copy of each. And I'd also scan them. It's a couple pieces of paper; what's the downside in keeping them? You may never need them, but you also might, and it's a giant pain in the ass to get copies if you don't have them. My dad has been dead for nearly 20 years and I needed his death certificate only a couple years ago. If I may ask? What did you need it for? My parents never loaned us money, they never gave us anything of value, neverco-signed on anything. Since my brother decided not to give me, my half of the estate, I am sure that I am not going to help him one little bit if he needs my signature for anything like selling the property. This is actually a huge stack of papers.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 3, 2018 0:23:07 GMT
So I guess the new question is:
What did you need your parents will/ death certificate for?
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Nov 3, 2018 0:25:31 GMT
I would keep at least one copy of each. Somewhere you might have to account for the monies you received from the insurance policy. Surprise surprise, I had to come up with a copy of my divorce papers from the 1960s. Try doing that one without exact dates. The insurance policy wasn’t part of the will. But I can see keeping that. In account for, I meant with the IRS or someone looking at you getting extra funds, more than a few dollars. Not account with the estate. You just never know when things might pop up, just easier to have papers in hand with dates etc.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Nov 3, 2018 0:46:54 GMT
So I guess the new question is: What did you need your parents will/ death certificate for? I say KEEP and here’s why. My mom and MIL both passed away seven years ago. A couple months back, I think Librarylady posted a link to the missingmoney.com website and I looked up my name and DH’s name with no hits. BUT!!! There WAS a hit for his mom that was a retirement account that got missed by her attorney when she died worth several thousand dollars, and another hit for my mom’s twin sister who passed away in 2001 (never married, no kids and it was likely that my mom was the sole beneficiary) also worth several thousand dollars. Claiming MIL’s account was pretty easy since DH was the executor of the estate and he had all the necessary paperwork on file already, but my aunt’s won’t be so easy. My mom was her twin’s executor, my sister was my mom’s executor and I don’t know what my sister did with all of the paperwork that my mom likely kept from when she handled her twin’s estate. The worst part is that even though I told my dumb sister about it right away when I discovered it, she hasn’t done a single thing to attempt to claim it. If my mom was the sole beneficiary it would mean almost a grand in my and each one of my sibling’s pockets but my stupid sister has to find the paperwork (copies of death certificates and wills for both my aunt and my mom) and file with the state to claim it. Needless to say, I’m not all that hopeful that I will ever see that money unless I go to the county and try to get copies of all of that documentation myself. Which is frustrating since my sister probably has all of it holed up in a dusty box in a corner somewhere. Ugh.
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Post by anaterra on Nov 3, 2018 0:48:22 GMT
It seems like you want permission to toss it... so go for it.. trash it.. burn it.. let it fly in the wind...
If you ever need any of that info in the future it wont be easy to obtain.. but the death certificate will be filed somewhere...you will have to hunt it down...
Who knows you may never ever need it.. so chunk it...
Just fyi.. I do have a copy of my step n bio father death certificates... just in case... but no will or money in either situation
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Post by busy on Nov 3, 2018 1:04:24 GMT
I would keep one hard copy of each. And I'd also scan them. It's a couple pieces of paper; what's the downside in keeping them? You may never need them, but you also might, and it's a giant pain in the ass to get copies if you don't have them. My dad has been dead for nearly 20 years and I needed his death certificate only a couple years ago. If I may ask? What did you need it for? My parents never loaned us money, they never gave us anything of value, neverco-signed on anything. Since my brother decided not to give me, my half of the estate, I am sure that I am not going to help him one little bit if he needs my signature for anything like selling the property. This is actually a huge stack of papers. Then scan them and get rid of the hard copy except a certified copy of the death certificate. Sorry, don't care to share the particulars. But it would have been a giant pain in the ass if we didn't have the documentation. As it was, it was taken care of in a couple days.
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Post by GiantsFan on Nov 3, 2018 1:11:34 GMT
I would keep one paper copy of each document as well as scanning it.
I agree that it sounds like you want permission to toss/shred. If you do toss it, you will need it, if you don't toss it you won't need it.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 3, 2018 1:15:18 GMT
Well I decided to keep one death certificate. My kids can throw it out.
The fifteen copies of the will? Got tossed.
My brother was supposed to sell the land and house, Her car And the stocks.
At some point my mother put his name on the title and then took hers off. No taxes were ever paid on this transfer. His daughter is living there.
His daughter got the car, again my mother transfer the car to her.
The stocks? Well now, he turned them into computer stock. I think illegally, I didn’t agree to this but he would not sell them. I don’t have the money to fight him.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 3, 2018 1:19:25 GMT
Yes I am pissed over this
BUT What I have, is mine. My daddy didn’t get me a job, buy my car or my first house.
And he does have to live with the fact that he and his family had to move into mommy’s house when wife ran credit card bills up over $60, 000 and was a month from having his house foreclosure d on.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 3, 2018 1:20:49 GMT
I think going through all the stupid paper is making me a very bitter bunny bitch.
I have one more box.
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Post by busy on Nov 3, 2018 1:27:34 GMT
If he really stole from the estate, you can sue him for your share, including for legal fees.
Either do something about it, or let it go. It's not healthy to hold on to anger like you so clearly do.
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Post by eleezybeth on Nov 3, 2018 1:35:38 GMT
Keep one copy, file it somewhere you know where it is but won't see it all the time. Toss the rest. Grieve your asshole of a brother.
Sadly, my mom will not write a will. Refuses. I've done everything to convince her. Nope. Her death will be the end of my brother and my relationship due to this. He will pull the same crap as yours. Has already started. I just wave it off. I'm not the golden child, I never will be. I had to let that all go.
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Post by jenjie on Nov 3, 2018 1:37:53 GMT
I think going through all the stupid paper is making me a very bitter bunny bitch. I have one more box. I’m sorry. This kind of stuff tends to bring up all the emotions.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 3, 2018 2:18:59 GMT
I think going through all the stupid paper is making me a very bitter bunny bitch. I have one more box. I’m sorry. This kind of stuff tends to bring up all the emotions. Thank you Jen, this bitter bunny bitch is taking a respite, before she harms the boy when he comes to get his paperwork and the husband who is becoming psycho over killing flys. Some of this paper are 3 lbs packs of what this company has been doing for six months. 2x year for ten/15 years. They add random acts of ID , throughput the pact just so you can’t toss it without looking at it.
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Post by jenjie on Nov 3, 2018 2:36:12 GMT
I’m sorry. This kind of stuff tends to bring up all the emotions. Thank you Jen, this bitter bunny bitch is taking a respite, before she harms the boy when he comes to get his paperwork and the husband who is becoming psycho over killing flys. Some of this paper are 3 lbs packs of what this company has been doing for six months. 2x year for ten/15 years. They add random acts of ID , throughput the pact just so you can’t toss it without looking at it. Respite is a great idea. 😘
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Post by Deleted on Nov 3, 2018 5:39:52 GMT
If he really stole from the estate, you can sue him for your share, including for legal fees. Either do something about it, or let it go. It's not healthy to hold on to anger like you so clearly do. Lots of angry and add in the never forget. If I sue, the lawyers win. No during: This way he gets to live with the knowledge he screwed me over. And he gets to live the rest of his life know that is how I feel about him. PSA: never ever sign a piece paper at a lawyers office until you get your own lawyer to tell you what you are doing. I was young and dumb and did this when my father died. My husband’s father warned me they would do this.
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