julie5
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 3,611
Jul 11, 2018 15:20:45 GMT
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Post by julie5 on Nov 11, 2018 14:28:05 GMT
Also I’m already figuring out how to keep my crafting supplies handy enough to use, but not all over the place so I can get my crafty on. And I’m going to pack a few supplies in my school bag to play in between classes and stuff in my get to work book.
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msliz
Drama Llama
The Procrastinator
Posts: 6,419
Jun 26, 2014 21:32:34 GMT
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Post by msliz on Nov 11, 2018 14:52:23 GMT
Now my point yo that story is I was screwed either way. And I think as an adult I’ve been triggered and live in a somewhat helpless state of mind because I feel like none of my answers are going to be the right one. ... I’m trying to just ride the storm out because I know that this too will pass. But it’s hard. I'm sorry for what you went through when you were 5, and it makes a lot of sense that what happened in your childhood is informing your decisions now. But you're wrong. This won't pass. It will stay the same, and it will play out over and over and over again. What happened in your childhood to make that stop? Your mom got away from the abuser. These are your words from just a month ago: I have to do this, school and work, because nothing will change unless I change it. He’s so used to the world revolving around him and if want that to change, I have to make something else the center of my universe. And he won’t die like he thinks. ... I told him my kids and I have feelings just like him, and we had a life before him, we can certainly have one after.You can be strong.
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Post by scrappyem on Nov 11, 2018 17:38:41 GMT
Big hugs...I echo the support to go to school so you can have your independence and a life you love. You can't control his behavior, so try to not let that dictate your life anymore (easier said then done, I know but total faith you can do this). Like a lot ladies on this board, I left a controlling husband and it was the best thing I ever did. Never once have I wished I didn't leave. It was hard, and I felt like a huge failure at the time, but it was the best thing I've ever done for myself. I put myself in a bad situation and I had to be the one to make a different choice. Looking back, I wish I had been gentler with myself. Yes, I made a poor choice, but that's all part of life, and it what was important, was the fact I recognized it and made the decision to get out.
Sorry about your kid being bratty. That will definitely pass. Letting your daughters know you value yourself, is a huge thing for their wellbeing down the road. You want them to grow up to be strong indecent women, who know their worth. The best way to do that is to do it for yourself (even if you really are doing it for them).
You can totally do this.
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Post by 950nancy on Nov 12, 2018 0:37:17 GMT
julie5 Those teenage years though. They're tough on everyone, the teen and their surroundings. I think it would've been better had you not been sent the screenshots because emotions run high with those hormones being all over the place and the exploration of independence and autonomous identity. I clearly remember the exaggeration galore and overall lack of tact if not a desire to shock in how we express ourselves at that age.
I wouldn't pay too much attention to it. Put the jacket away for a few weeks and then let it slip under the Christmas tree. Things will blow over, including your daughter's over-the-top feels that were not meant for your eyes. She was confiding in her older sibling and was likely using a typical teen tone of woe-is-me-stuck-at-home that wasn't not meant for anyone else but her peers. I get it. I said some stupid stuff about my own mother when I was that age. If she'd heard/seen that, she would've been (rightfully) hurt. Thankfully for me, no screenshots were sent, no conversations taped.
Don't let that get to you.
Yup, teens are turds. Always thankful my mom didn't hear the stuff I said. Give it to her at Christmas and just smile.
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