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Post by jackietex on Nov 21, 2018 4:24:26 GMT
I stopped hosting years ago because I do NOT have the gift and it stresses me to the extreme, but when I did have people over I was happy if they contributed to the meal.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Nov 21, 2018 4:31:35 GMT
Me! It seems like no one cooks anymore. Sorry, you can call me a good snob but I don’t want any store bought sides, desserts, or bread on my fancy table. Don’t get me wrong we eat those things in my house, but not for special occasions where I’m going all out. I love to cook, so I totally don’t mind doing all the cooking. Many of the things that we treat ourselves with on holidays aren’t common in our house at other times of the year, so when I’m eating that stuff I want it to be GOOD and really worth the calorie hit, LOL. I would much rather stuff my face with my freshly baked homemade rolls and pie than with the preservative laden ones from the grocery store, and since almost nobody cooks or bakes anything from scratch anymore, that’s exactly what they would bring too. No. Just no. (Guess what I’m making tomorrow? You guessed it, homemade rolls and pie!)
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Post by bothmykidsrbrats on Nov 21, 2018 4:37:37 GMT
The Home Ec teacher part of this post made me LOL. I'm known for my cooking and party planning. When I took Home Ec my freshman year of HS ('80) my teacher's parting words for me were "I hope you marry well, so you can afford a staff." I wanted to say enjoy your lifetime of hypertension with all that nasty salty ass food you cook, but I held my tongue. I still can't sew, so she got me there.
I host Thanksgiving, and my mom makes the sweet potatoes and mashes potatoes, I make everything else. Some years my guests bring wine or beer, some years they bring a dessert. My nieces (not so) DBF showed up with Potato's O'Brian last year. I was puzzled, but everyone is welcome to share a dish in my home, and I appreciated he wanted to contribute something.
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Post by Jili on Nov 21, 2018 5:07:21 GMT
Yes, I feel that way too. I usually tell them to bring a salad, veggie tray, or appetizers. That way I can take care of the main meal. Even if someone brings a dessert, I almost always make one too. Another reason I like to just do the meal is that I can plan for oven and frig space and make sure everything is done when it needs to be served. I think for me, I just want to do the hosting. It's what I like to do. This is me, exactly. 👍
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Post by Hayjaker on Nov 21, 2018 5:25:05 GMT
We kind of feel the same way but not only because ours will be better (it will, LOL) but also because if we’re inviting you we want it to be our treat. But now if you would like to help clean up or with the dishes? I’d be ALL OVER that! Have at it, you can contribute in that way instead with my blessing! YES! I would much rather someone assist with the clean up than bring food for the table. I have my menu planned and also plan what serving dishes will complement the table setting. If someone asks I will tell them to bring their favorite beverage.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 21, 2018 5:40:16 GMT
Yes!
My inlaws all take turns hosting thanksgiving dinner, the host prepares the turkey and potatoes. Everyone else brings the rest, and they have this weird Hang up about everyone having to bring something even if the meal is already taken care of.
It was my turn to host this year and I said I’ll take care of the meal. I had them bring a few side items. And I told the rest just to bring some munchies for later. Well they couldn’t handle that so some of them came with extra dinner sides so it was equal.
I don’t even like people bringing desserts. Years ago I taught monthly art classes out of my home, I had a special class and had advertised that there would be a fancy dessert bar. I had my dessert table decked out, all homemade, all in fancy serving trays. One client came in with a pan of dry brownies to share. My OCD could barely stomach putting her brownies with my over the top spread. 😄
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Post by refugeepea on Nov 21, 2018 5:58:14 GMT
No, I'm not like that at all. I like it when everyone contributes. It's helpful when there are picky eaters or allergy issues. I prefer a variety of food. You can be an amazing cook and years of experience. If you have friends and family that are daring eaters then that's a good fit. Or if you have all kinds of different people who prefer to stick with the traditional items, they may be disappointed.
I also have a giant family. I can't imagine the time and expense it would take to host a dinner for 41 people. It sounds like pure hell, but I hate cooking.
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Post by ~summer~ on Nov 21, 2018 6:00:43 GMT
I would usually ask people to bring alcohol or a dessert if they insist....
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Post by cycworker on Nov 21, 2018 9:39:30 GMT
I am SO the opposite, now, admittedly, I've never had occasion to host a feast, but if I did, the only reason would be I had the only wheelchair accessible home. Lord knows it wouldn't be my culinary skill / expertise that got me nominated to host. When I have folks over, we potluck.
I'm reaching a level of financial stability whereby I'd be good at calling a caterer/picking up the tab, though. 😂
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Post by FuzzyMutt on Nov 21, 2018 17:15:01 GMT
I'm a transplant to this new area, living in a small rented apartment for a bit. I used to be the host- and loved it! I'd even honed it down to who could be counted on to bring what and what serving pieces I need to have on hand. Example, I had a great friend that make killer deviled eggs. But she insisted on bringing them in a dollar store plastic dohicky. Nothing wrong with that, if you aren't trying to make a coordinating spread! So I would have a bunch of polish pottery out, and made a game of move your goodies to the serving pieces and put your transport stuff in the dishwasher. Right before dinner we start it, and after the meal, it's clean to take home your left overs! It worked great.
NOW! I find myself being hosted more often than host. I make sure to either try to match or compliment the hosts serve ware if I bring a dish. But since I'm so new, often I'm just asked to bring wine. I'm not a wine drinker. At all! How do you choose what bottle to bring!? I don't want to bring an $8 bottle of hooch, but I'm not spending more than $40-$50. Would prefer closer to the $25 mark.
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Post by valincal on Nov 21, 2018 17:41:46 GMT
This just popped up on Facebook and made me think of this thread. 😄
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Post by auntkelly on Nov 21, 2018 17:57:58 GMT
I don't mind people bringing dishes for the Thanksgiving meal, but I like to know who will be bringing dishes and what they will be bringing beforehand. Last year, my nephew in law, who is an excellent cook, brought homemade mac and cheese. It was delicious! However, my husband had made mac and cheese, which is his signature dish. We ended up freezing my husband's mac and cheese which worked out okay, but he wouldn't have spent time on it if he had known our nephew was bringing mac and cheese.
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Post by Zee on Nov 21, 2018 19:37:39 GMT
I'm super picky about my Thanksgiving food. No one else makes everything the exact way I like it, so I want to do it all by myself. I get it!
When MIL offers, I let her bring foods I don't like and won't eat anyway and then we all win. She gets her creamed/scalloped corn and chipped beef with cream cheese and I get anything else done my way.
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Post by bc2ca on Nov 21, 2018 19:57:21 GMT
I tend to prefer my cooking over others' especially when it comes to special dinners so I get where you're coming from. However with Thanksgiving, I think a LOT of people have favorite recipes that they want to share, and I gladly indulge. To me, Thanksgiving is all about sharing. Plus....sometimes I gain a lovely new recipe in the deal too! I wasn't introduced to sweet potato or green bean casseroles until we moved to the US and we hosted one of the holiday meals every year. A couple of cousins would volunteer to bring those because they knew I wasn't making them.
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Post by chlerbie on Nov 21, 2018 20:15:08 GMT
We go to a friend's house for Thanksgiving and she puts on a lovely spread. She asks us what we'd like to bring and we're glad to contribute. I'm that way when I host too--if someone wants to bring something, that's great but I've otherwise got it covered. We generally have another small Thanksgiving for the two of us because there are certain things I love to eat that the rest of the group we eat with on that day doesn't care for. It works out great for me since I love Thanksgiving type food.
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Post by workingclassdog on Nov 21, 2018 20:19:10 GMT
Nope anyone can bring what they want. If I am particular about a certain food item, I'll make it anyways... Like my stuffing. I only like a certain stuffing and it's not Thanksgiving without it..that said.. It's Stovetop... HAHAHA...
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