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Post by GiantsFan on Nov 25, 2018 23:58:12 GMT
Usually my dh is home and us cool with it. Yeah its rude, but the above statement gives them a pass. It was OK before and now it's not OK then you need to speak up. You can still be Christian and say no. |
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Post by utmr on Nov 26, 2018 0:30:14 GMT
Next time, you could say, "oh SIL, it's too bad you didn't call first, I could have saved you the trip. It's not a good time for Cousin Eddie to play. Next time call first so you don't waste a trip. Take care, bye bye.". And shut the door.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Nov 26, 2018 2:36:49 GMT
I just wanted to add, what if OP or her kid still at home was puking sick? Even if it has been ok in the past, it’s so rude and presumptive to just assume that *any* time they want to leave their kid there that it will *always* be okay.
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Post by mlynn on Nov 26, 2018 3:18:03 GMT
I think I can top that, but it was not family.
We had neighbors with two kids. The girl was a delight. The boy was a challenge. Girl spent a lot of time at our house, and Boy would frequently come over as well. One day, Girl was here and Boy kept coming and going. Boy was acting up and I ordered him to go back home. He said, "I can't." When I asked why, he told me noone was home. His dad had sent him over here and left. Without even telling me. I don't mind the kids hanging out, but I would have appreciated knowing that I was responsible for them.
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Post by ~summer~ on Nov 26, 2018 3:24:46 GMT
For me it depends on the age of the children. If they are old enough to play on their own and not need supervision, I'd be totally fine with it. If you had plans to go out, you should have spoken up...
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Post by breakfastattiffanys on Nov 26, 2018 3:31:43 GMT
I was part of a moms group and would frequently have an open playgroup - for moms and children. I had one mom decide to drop her kids off like I was a babysitter. The second time she tried to pull that, I politely declined the privilege of watching her children.
Some people will try to take advantage when possible, you can either let it happen and be mad or stand up for yourself.
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Post by bothmykidsrbrats on Nov 26, 2018 4:27:55 GMT
My BILs and SILs at least called to say they were going to stop by to borrow or return something. Then, when they got here, the kids got the wink to say Auntie, can we stay here and play with J & K while mom/dad/both go running around...PLEASE?
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