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Post by hdoublej on Dec 7, 2018 20:59:00 GMT
My daughter is getting married on the December 15th. We asked for RSVP's to be returned by December 1st so we could get a final count to the bakery. We are STILL getting RSVP's back!! I was thinking that we would have about 150 guests and right now we are sitting at 10 over that number. I'm trying to figure out how much food to make for the reception and how many cupcakes to tell the bakery I need. We are doing cupcakes and a cake to feed about thirty so that they will have a cake to cut and so they can keep the top layer of cake for their one year anniversary. I have no idea how many people will show that haven't sent their RSVP back either. Help!
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Post by finaledition on Dec 7, 2018 21:01:50 GMT
At this point, if you want a firm number you have to call. People are so rude!
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Post by kate on Dec 7, 2018 21:04:30 GMT
If it's a buffet, I wouldn't worry about it. The few people who have the nerve to say yes this late or show up unannounced will be offset by the few who said yes but won't show (cold and flu season, etc.)
CONGRATS to you and your daughter!
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Post by annabella on Dec 7, 2018 21:04:32 GMT
I've only been to a few weddings but each had assigned seating and no extra table at the reception.
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Post by christine58 on Dec 7, 2018 21:17:23 GMT
Start calling those who have not RSVPed...it's so rude to not reply. Are you making all the food???
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Post by bdawnb on Dec 7, 2018 21:32:10 GMT
We planned on 100% for my daughter’s wedding and even with people invited who lived out of country we ended up with more than we invited. How does that happen? Ugh.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 7, 2018 21:40:52 GMT
Plan for 10 over the invited.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 7, 2018 21:43:54 GMT
I've only been to a few weddings but each had assigned seating and no extra table at the reception. I used to cater. It is always planned to have enough food for 10 extra guests. Always. |
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Post by hdoublej on Dec 7, 2018 22:14:25 GMT
Start calling those who have not RSVPed...it's so rude to not reply. Are you making all the food??? Yes, we are making all the food except the cake and cupcakes. kate Thank you and it is buffet style.
We planned on 100% for my daughter’s wedding and even with people invited who lived out of country we ended up with more than we invited. How does that happen? Ugh.
This is my biggest fear! @megmc 10 over the invited, that gives me at least at gauge, thank you. |
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Post by christine58 on Dec 7, 2018 22:24:24 GMT
Yes, we are making all the food except the cake and cupcakes. kate Thank you and it is buffet style. Oh dear...I'd be making some calls for sure. |
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Post by paigepea on Dec 7, 2018 22:26:26 GMT
We had an event for 300 last year. I think guessing on numbers comes with experience. Our caterer had an idea of how many would attend based on experience and expected to be told the final number a week before the event.
Whatever number you do end up with remember that a certain percentage don’t show. Sickness and emergencies happen.
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Post by Miss Ang on Dec 7, 2018 22:32:51 GMT
At this point, if you want a firm number you have to call. People are so rude! This is exactly right! My daughter got married on Nov. 3rd and I had to reach out to so many people! I couldn't believe it. I ended up sending a text or FB message. I thought it was very rude of me to do it that way but I figured they were rude by not RSVP'ing. I wouldn't have had to be rude if they hadn't been. I just didn't have time to call 20 people! We had one family have an accident a few days before and let me know they weren't coming and another couple (family on DH's side), she has medical issues and we knew it was in the air if they would make it or not depending on how she was doing that day. Total that didn't show, 5 people; and they are the ones I just mentioned so I knew they weren't coming on the wedding day, but it was too late because I'd already paid for their meal a week before. We had almost 200 people at the wedding/reception. Other than those few people, everyone else that RSVP'd via mail or from messages showed up! |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 7, 2018 22:33:42 GMT
Start calling those who have not RSVPed...it's so rude to not reply. Are you making all the food??? Yes, we are making all the food except the cake and cupcakes. kate Thank you and it is buffet style.
We planned on 100% for my daughter’s wedding and even with people invited who lived out of country we ended up with more than we invited. How does that happen? Ugh.
This is my biggest fear! @megmc 10 over the invited, that gives me at least at gauge, thank you. I need to amend that to say 10 over the responsed amount. |
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Dec 7, 2018 22:41:15 GMT
We had more than expected show for my son's recent wedding even after tracking down responses from those who didn't RSVP. We ended up having to add another table at the last minute (like right as the reception was starting last minute) to accommodate everyone. Luckily, we had linens for it, but no centerpiece. That was a minor enough issue though and it all worked out fine.
Definitely add a 'plus ten' (or more) to your final number of expected guests.
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Post by flanz on Dec 7, 2018 23:23:28 GMT
How many people do the non-replies account for?
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Post by scrapngranny on Dec 7, 2018 23:48:34 GMT
I found from doing my two daughter’s weddings, that about 10% of those who RSVP that ARE coming don’t show, especially from the bride and groom’s friends.
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Post by hdoublej on Dec 8, 2018 0:04:58 GMT
flanz 69 that I haven't heard from
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Post by jemali on Dec 8, 2018 0:11:27 GMT
I saw a meme on FB that had a RSVP card that said “If you don’t respond by October 1st, please bring a sandwich and a chair.”
My DD is getting married next October.
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Post by yodutchess on Dec 8, 2018 0:51:15 GMT
I have empathy for you, since I had to call about 12 people before my daughter ‘s reception. Ours was a sit down dinner. I like the bring a sandwich and a chair meme. If other daughter gets married I want to print it on the response cards. So tired of people not rsvp’ing!
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Post by scrappington on Dec 8, 2018 1:03:32 GMT
My best friend got married two years ago and I was the maid of honor my opinion of people after her wedding went down fifty percent.
The way people act is disgusting
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