Post by momto4kiddos on Dec 18, 2018 22:00:40 GMT
Kind of a vent, kind of a do you have some advice. dh is not a great communicator, he's more or less an avoider.
He's currently not brought up a subject that i'm pretty sure there is more info on. We started a conversation on it last week and i'm pretty sure he has more info now, but isn't bringing it up to discuss it more (basically the additional info would be from him speaking to someone and while I could ask if he spoke to them the ball was kind of in his court to address it.)
I know he does this because he wants to avoid what he perceives as conflict. Just the other day he was setting something up, doing it badly and ranting and raving. I took over and he accused me of being mad. His ranting and raving is annoying (it's a given if he's doing something that isn't going well.) So while it's annoying, I was not mad I just asked him to let me do it.
So i'm kind of conflicted. His blaming me for being mad at all turns is getting on my last nerve this week. He's overly sensitive so a lot of times I ignore stuff, but now i'm feeling I take a lot of blame for being mad when he's causing the issues himself. I plan on discussing it, but I don't have high expectations for him changing it. Anyone have any advice on getting some positive changes here?
He's currently not brought up a subject that i'm pretty sure there is more info on. We started a conversation on it last week and i'm pretty sure he has more info now, but isn't bringing it up to discuss it more (basically the additional info would be from him speaking to someone and while I could ask if he spoke to them the ball was kind of in his court to address it.)
I know he does this because he wants to avoid what he perceives as conflict. Just the other day he was setting something up, doing it badly and ranting and raving. I took over and he accused me of being mad. His ranting and raving is annoying (it's a given if he's doing something that isn't going well.) So while it's annoying, I was not mad I just asked him to let me do it.
So i'm kind of conflicted. His blaming me for being mad at all turns is getting on my last nerve this week. He's overly sensitive so a lot of times I ignore stuff, but now i'm feeling I take a lot of blame for being mad when he's causing the issues himself. I plan on discussing it, but I don't have high expectations for him changing it. Anyone have any advice on getting some positive changes here?
