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Post by Dixie Lou on Jan 7, 2019 3:49:23 GMT
I went to church for the first time in over a year. It’s only the third time I’ve gone here at all so nobody knows me. Before the service started I was sitting and noticed an elderly lady struggling to walk coming down the walk way. She made a quick turn, lost her balance and fell into my lap and then to the floor. I said are you ok ? Another woman behind me said No! She’s NOT ok! People were rushing up to help her. Nobody knows me and I don’t know them so I just got out of the way. It was quite an ordeal getting her off the floor. She seemed embarrassed but not hurt. I saw her later on. I was bothered when the other lady yelled at me and no one ever came to check on me.
Then tonight my dad let a stranger in my house and sent her straight to my bedroom. She is a lady from church but I do not know her. There was a knock on my bedroom door and I had heard a female voice so I thought dd1 had dropped by. Who else could it be??? So it’s a stranger at my door when I was dressed in my nightgown and eating dinner in my bed.
My dad doesn’t understand boundaries, which is why I have to keep my bedroom locked when I am inside.. he will walk right in. Now I know he will let any random person into our house. Here’s so hoping a serial killer doesn’t come to our front door.
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Post by scrapmaven on Jan 7, 2019 3:53:59 GMT
Sounds like it's time to find a new church where people are welcoming and happy to see you there. Church is supposed to give you a good feeling and this was not a good feeling.
What your dad did was creepy, weird. When you talk to him about this stuff does he listen or does it fall on deaf ears? If he allows this stuff do you have to live w/him? It's dangerous.
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Post by trollie on Jan 7, 2019 3:55:17 GMT
Sorry you had such a strange day. Hopefully tomorrow will be uneventful.
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Post by Dixie Lou on Jan 7, 2019 3:59:50 GMT
As soon as the left I told him never to do that again. He, for a short moment thought it was funny. I did not react well at all. I am very much an introvert and this was a huge violation of my privacy. I may not even sleep tonight. I took an extra sleep and anxiety meds.
He lives with me. No he doesn’t have to live here but it helps him out a lot to be here. He has a caregiver five days a week.
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Post by librarylady on Jan 7, 2019 4:10:32 GMT
What a day. I join you in thinking it was weird and stressful. The incident at church: I am surprised no one checked on you or responded to you in any way....especially since you were a visitor. I'd be very hesitant to return. Your father and his guest--What the what?  How could this person think her actions were OK? Who comes into a home and then begins to open bedroom doors? She apparently knew/knows your father had diminished mental ability. If I were you, I'd have ripped daddy a new one--maybe even ripped the visitor a bit.......sheesh....... Tomorrow has to be a better day! |
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Post by Basket1lady on Jan 7, 2019 5:26:28 GMT
It’s weird that your father told someone to just go straight to your bedroom. I’m sure the church lady felt awkward, too! But is it possible that the stranger from church stopped by to see how you were doing? Or if she was doing a “welcome to our church” visit, and in in the kerfluffle of the fall didn’t recognize you later as the one who had been fallen on?
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Post by Crack-a-lackin on Jan 7, 2019 6:43:23 GMT
That is strange. I hope you get a good nights sleep and tomorrow is better.
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Post by malibou on Jan 7, 2019 8:02:10 GMT
What a day  Wishing you a much more sane day tomorrow. |
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Post by malibou on Jan 7, 2019 8:03:15 GMT
What a day Wishing you a much more sane day tomorrow. |
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Post by disneypal on Jan 7, 2019 9:41:23 GMT
My goodness-a bit of a stressful day for sure!
Sorry that yelling lady was so rude to you.
Also, how odd that your dad would send someone to your bedroom door instead of saying “Let me go get her”
Very odd day indeed.
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Post by Freefallfast on Jan 7, 2019 11:35:52 GMT
So what did the church lady want?
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Post by bbkeef on Jan 7, 2019 14:18:38 GMT
Yeah, what did she want? ^
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Post by christine58 on Jan 7, 2019 14:34:27 GMT
Your father is really nuts...seriously who does that??? Find him his own place
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Post by flute4peace on Jan 7, 2019 15:48:13 GMT
Perhaps the lady from church was there to check on you due to the situation that had happened that morning?
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Post by jenjie on Jan 7, 2019 15:48:49 GMT
Perhaps the lady from church was there to check on you due to the situation that had happened that morning? That’s what I’m hoping! |
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jan 7, 2019 15:54:20 GMT
Definitely weird. I would really hesitate to go back to that church, and I would have ripped Dad a new one for letting some stranger into my house! How old is dad? Sounds like boundary issues aren’t his biggest problem. I hope today is a better day!
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Post by librarylady on Jan 7, 2019 16:11:55 GMT
I think Dixie Lou has written before that she has taken her father in because he has early dementia or some other serious situation and needs to live with someone. In one way, he is not responsible for his actions, but OTOH, his visitor should have some boundaries.
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Post by mikklynn on Jan 8, 2019 2:55:55 GMT
I think Dixie Lou has written before that she has taken her father in because he has early dementia or some other serious situation and needs to live with someone. In one way, he is not responsible for his actions, but OTOH, his visitor should have some boundaries. Exactly! |
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Post by Dixie Lou on Jan 8, 2019 3:20:30 GMT
Sorry! I had to go back to work today, hence some of yesterday’s stress.
Church lady dropped by to bring the new year’s study manual to me.
Yes my dad doesn’t understand boundaries and is very outgoing. He will talk your ear off. He talks to people wherever we go. Usually it’s just regular stuff but at times he gets too friendly. I’ve told him not to talk to young girls. It’s creepy but he doesn’t get that. Most of the time people are friendly back.
He’s been told before not to let people in the house. At first he thought what he did yesterday was funny which didn’t make it any easier. I am very much an Introvert so this was extra hard for me. I am still very angry at him. If he is going to live here he can’t be doing things to make me uncomfortable.
He can’t live alone. We do have a caregiver for him during the weekdays. She is a god-send.
The church lady should have known better. At the very least she should have identified herself when she knocked on my bedroom door. I thought it was my daughter and even said her name and the lady didn’t respond otherwise. I texted her later and told her not to just drop by anymore.
She didn’t notice me at church so wasn’t checking up on that situation.
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Post by bc2ca on Jan 8, 2019 3:34:09 GMT
I might go to someone's house uninvited, but I would never, ever walk down the hall and knock on a bedroom door.  I don't care if whoever answered the door told me it's okay, I'll wait in the foyer or living room. |
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How could this person think her actions were OK? Who comes into a home and then begins to open bedroom doors? She apparently knew/knows your father had diminished mental ability. If I were you, I'd have ripped daddy a new one--maybe even ripped the visitor a bit.......sheesh.......
Wishing you a much more sane day tomorrow. 
