Post by freecharlie on Jan 11, 2019 1:24:36 GMT
So this was shared with me. I don't know how my friend came across it, but wow! it sucked me in
Link to first post
Link to last update with links to all the other updates (there are 7 total posts)
.Update 7 + other links
I received an invitation to a wedding about mid August of this year that has me completely puzzled, confused, and a bit pissed off.
Starting with the invite, every line had a different font style and color as if they used every font in MS Word to design it. I'm not talking about those cool do-it-yourself invites that you see on Pinterest, I'm talking about searching through every font style that MS Word has to offer and use it. It's very, very odd and basic computer looking. The background is a very juvenile pink and purple with confetti. Very close to a party invite and not a wedding invite. I typically do not give any type of invite this much attention to it's quality or look but this one stands out. It says this:
"Ted & Mary
are getting married
on January 11, 2019
Please RSVP by 11/15/18
Our registries are online at _________ (this font size was the largest of all the lines)
Join our Facebook Group Page __________ for the latest updates!"
Then, there were 11 pieces of papers that came out of the envelope like confetti. Each one had a registry:
Target
Walmart
Bed, Bath & Beyond
William Sonoma
Burlington Coat Factory
Macys
Zola
Pottery Barn
Amazon
Wayfair
Crate & Barrel
I am in disbelief about it all and frankly really confused! Is this a wedding invite or engagement party? I thought it was a mistake and maybe a "hold the date" as they just got engaged on July 4th? The invite is 5 months in advance. Then, there is no location or time so where and what time are we suppose to show up? What if the location is too far for us to drive on Friday? Also, who puts their registry website on a wedding invite? Additionally, there is no RSVP card to return. So many questions about this invite. I'm super confused and have my husband call Ted as they are the ones who are old high school friends. He confirmed that these are the wedding invitations and that we need to scoot over to the Facebook group page and stay updated. As soon as they get a location and time, they will update the group. Lovely!
I go and scope out the Facebook wedding group page. It's sooooo bad. Listen, what I am not telling you is that we are all 49 years and above. So a more formal wedding invitation even on computer printed paper would have been fine and I wouldn't be here. But the whole wedding is becoming a "situation"; rather than a celebration, and I think that is where my real feelings are coming from about this invite.
The group page has all the things you would expect at this point, such as their dates and their 11 registry links but now almost daily are "demands" for for items that include links to a specific registry items with LOLs from the groom. Such as "I really hope you guys gets us these set of dishes or I won't have any thing to eat off of. LOL!" or "Mary needs a vacuum really bad. I'm a big slob and our current one broke because of my lazy ass. LOL!" Now maybe at this point, you are saying to yourself "Gee Fruit, you are being really hard on his guy. Maybe he doesn't know any better. Maybe Mary doesn't know any better and you are being a complete douche to this couple." My response is this: "This is his third wedding, her first." They both know better at this age that we are not filling up a young newlywed couple but a bunch of old farts who just want new stuff. But I was a little wrong on my assumption and you would be right. Sort of...
I end up checking out each on of their registries. WOW! Every registry has the same items but different brands. Each has two models of vacuum cleaners, two models of dishes, two models of pots and pans, blenders, towels, comforters, etc...I am in disbelief about it all. It's so excessive.
In the meantime, a whole bunch of Facebook drama is happening. The "Best Man" is doing a bunch of "check ins" with photos with the groom that are dominating the page and some seem inappropriate along with the comments. How are they inappropriate you ask? Well the "Best Man" is really the "Best Woman Jill" who has been Ted's best friend since high school too and knows my husband very well. A ton of people are responding to the photos that it doesn't seem right that Jill is taking away the attention from the Bride. Two of the photos Jill is sitting on Ted's lap, another she pretending to "do him" from behind while standing in tuxedos. There is a few others but they are along the same line of poor taste and inappropriateness. The board blows up with Jill screaming and having heated arguments with people on their comments. Among Jill's outbursts, one of the things we find out is that Jill made the invites and registered with only the Groom, to all of the places. Mary only registered at one place with Ted. Jill went around doing all of the registries with him. What?!? Lots of people are dropping out of attending the wedding because of Jill and mind you it's Mary who is the bride, not Jill. At this point, I told my husband that he had my permission to go but i was not interested in the drama. I sincerely do not know Jill nor have I had any interactions with her but I just was not interested in the drama. Jill seems psycho.
I first encountered Jill's insanity about two years ago. Ted's mother passed and my husband and I were preparing to attend the services. My husband had not spoken to Jill for almost 30 years and completely forgot that Jill and Ted were friends. When out of the blue, my husband gets an DM from Jill that says: "Hi. I found out from Ted that you and your wife will be attending the funeral services. You are more than welcome to come but your wife is not. She is friends with "Debbie" someone who wronged me pretty hard and I have no intentions of upsetting Ted by having your wife's presence remind me of her. Thank you and I look forward to seeing you." Of course, I called Debbie and asked her what happened. Basically, Jill doesn't like to be caught in her lies and Debbie was able to provide proof that Jill was lying and lying for years. We figured out that Jill assumed that Debbie must have told me this but she didn't, until now. To sum it up, Jill brought attention to some drama before I knew it existed and banned me from the funeral. My husband responded to Ted directly and said that if I wasn't invited than he wasn't going. He was too old to play Jill's games and I was family and much more important. So we didn't go.
At this point, with my history of the funeral and all the weird Facebook Wedding Group posts where Jill is being argumentative with everyone, I said to my husband that I'm convinced that Jill and Ted are having an affair. Jill has been married for about 18 years, with three children. When Ted first came back after the divorce, she was all over him. Her Facebook page is littered with pictures of them together and always doing stuff. Her husband is not even listed in her "relationship status." They just celebrated his 50th birthday and there is only 1 picture of him that is a side angle. The rest is of her and Ted doing stupid stuff at the party. Also, she doesn't have any posted pictures of the children either. It's weird. She's weird! I tell my husband that I'm convinced that Jill and Ted are having an affair because no woman can control a man this much if they are not sleeping together. He agreed and declines our invitation via Facebook.
So where is Mary the Bride in all of this? We don't know either. She doesn't post anything on the Facebook page. I ghost her page to see not many posts, and none about the wedding. Who knows but she's very quiet for someone getting married soon.
Facebook explodes daily and we have to take ourselves off of the notifications as they are out of control and interfering with our lives. We decide to send a gift instead and just move on without attending. I grabbed one of the dish sets the groom linked on the Facebook page as it went on sale Labor Day weekend. The dish set goes directly to the Groom's house....so I thought. It turns out that it went to Jill's house because when I saw the signed receipt that someone accepted the package, it was her name. I was confused. I sent Ted a quick note on Facebook asking if received something from us and just today, about 10 days later, he finally replied with a "Got the dishes. Thanks. Cool!"
So with after all that pleading on the invites and the Facebook Wedding group posts, all I get is that as a thank you? Urrgggghhh really dude? Not sure why he just doesn't come out that this wedding is fake and wants to be with psycho Jill.
Starting with the invite, every line had a different font style and color as if they used every font in MS Word to design it. I'm not talking about those cool do-it-yourself invites that you see on Pinterest, I'm talking about searching through every font style that MS Word has to offer and use it. It's very, very odd and basic computer looking. The background is a very juvenile pink and purple with confetti. Very close to a party invite and not a wedding invite. I typically do not give any type of invite this much attention to it's quality or look but this one stands out. It says this:
"Ted & Mary
are getting married
on January 11, 2019
Please RSVP by 11/15/18
Our registries are online at _________ (this font size was the largest of all the lines)
Join our Facebook Group Page __________ for the latest updates!"
Then, there were 11 pieces of papers that came out of the envelope like confetti. Each one had a registry:
Target
Walmart
Bed, Bath & Beyond
William Sonoma
Burlington Coat Factory
Macys
Zola
Pottery Barn
Amazon
Wayfair
Crate & Barrel
I am in disbelief about it all and frankly really confused! Is this a wedding invite or engagement party? I thought it was a mistake and maybe a "hold the date" as they just got engaged on July 4th? The invite is 5 months in advance. Then, there is no location or time so where and what time are we suppose to show up? What if the location is too far for us to drive on Friday? Also, who puts their registry website on a wedding invite? Additionally, there is no RSVP card to return. So many questions about this invite. I'm super confused and have my husband call Ted as they are the ones who are old high school friends. He confirmed that these are the wedding invitations and that we need to scoot over to the Facebook group page and stay updated. As soon as they get a location and time, they will update the group. Lovely!
I go and scope out the Facebook wedding group page. It's sooooo bad. Listen, what I am not telling you is that we are all 49 years and above. So a more formal wedding invitation even on computer printed paper would have been fine and I wouldn't be here. But the whole wedding is becoming a "situation"; rather than a celebration, and I think that is where my real feelings are coming from about this invite.
The group page has all the things you would expect at this point, such as their dates and their 11 registry links but now almost daily are "demands" for for items that include links to a specific registry items with LOLs from the groom. Such as "I really hope you guys gets us these set of dishes or I won't have any thing to eat off of. LOL!" or "Mary needs a vacuum really bad. I'm a big slob and our current one broke because of my lazy ass. LOL!" Now maybe at this point, you are saying to yourself "Gee Fruit, you are being really hard on his guy. Maybe he doesn't know any better. Maybe Mary doesn't know any better and you are being a complete douche to this couple." My response is this: "This is his third wedding, her first." They both know better at this age that we are not filling up a young newlywed couple but a bunch of old farts who just want new stuff. But I was a little wrong on my assumption and you would be right. Sort of...
I end up checking out each on of their registries. WOW! Every registry has the same items but different brands. Each has two models of vacuum cleaners, two models of dishes, two models of pots and pans, blenders, towels, comforters, etc...I am in disbelief about it all. It's so excessive.
In the meantime, a whole bunch of Facebook drama is happening. The "Best Man" is doing a bunch of "check ins" with photos with the groom that are dominating the page and some seem inappropriate along with the comments. How are they inappropriate you ask? Well the "Best Man" is really the "Best Woman Jill" who has been Ted's best friend since high school too and knows my husband very well. A ton of people are responding to the photos that it doesn't seem right that Jill is taking away the attention from the Bride. Two of the photos Jill is sitting on Ted's lap, another she pretending to "do him" from behind while standing in tuxedos. There is a few others but they are along the same line of poor taste and inappropriateness. The board blows up with Jill screaming and having heated arguments with people on their comments. Among Jill's outbursts, one of the things we find out is that Jill made the invites and registered with only the Groom, to all of the places. Mary only registered at one place with Ted. Jill went around doing all of the registries with him. What?!? Lots of people are dropping out of attending the wedding because of Jill and mind you it's Mary who is the bride, not Jill. At this point, I told my husband that he had my permission to go but i was not interested in the drama. I sincerely do not know Jill nor have I had any interactions with her but I just was not interested in the drama. Jill seems psycho.
I first encountered Jill's insanity about two years ago. Ted's mother passed and my husband and I were preparing to attend the services. My husband had not spoken to Jill for almost 30 years and completely forgot that Jill and Ted were friends. When out of the blue, my husband gets an DM from Jill that says: "Hi. I found out from Ted that you and your wife will be attending the funeral services. You are more than welcome to come but your wife is not. She is friends with "Debbie" someone who wronged me pretty hard and I have no intentions of upsetting Ted by having your wife's presence remind me of her. Thank you and I look forward to seeing you." Of course, I called Debbie and asked her what happened. Basically, Jill doesn't like to be caught in her lies and Debbie was able to provide proof that Jill was lying and lying for years. We figured out that Jill assumed that Debbie must have told me this but she didn't, until now. To sum it up, Jill brought attention to some drama before I knew it existed and banned me from the funeral. My husband responded to Ted directly and said that if I wasn't invited than he wasn't going. He was too old to play Jill's games and I was family and much more important. So we didn't go.
At this point, with my history of the funeral and all the weird Facebook Wedding Group posts where Jill is being argumentative with everyone, I said to my husband that I'm convinced that Jill and Ted are having an affair. Jill has been married for about 18 years, with three children. When Ted first came back after the divorce, she was all over him. Her Facebook page is littered with pictures of them together and always doing stuff. Her husband is not even listed in her "relationship status." They just celebrated his 50th birthday and there is only 1 picture of him that is a side angle. The rest is of her and Ted doing stupid stuff at the party. Also, she doesn't have any posted pictures of the children either. It's weird. She's weird! I tell my husband that I'm convinced that Jill and Ted are having an affair because no woman can control a man this much if they are not sleeping together. He agreed and declines our invitation via Facebook.
So where is Mary the Bride in all of this? We don't know either. She doesn't post anything on the Facebook page. I ghost her page to see not many posts, and none about the wedding. Who knows but she's very quiet for someone getting married soon.
Facebook explodes daily and we have to take ourselves off of the notifications as they are out of control and interfering with our lives. We decide to send a gift instead and just move on without attending. I grabbed one of the dish sets the groom linked on the Facebook page as it went on sale Labor Day weekend. The dish set goes directly to the Groom's house....so I thought. It turns out that it went to Jill's house because when I saw the signed receipt that someone accepted the package, it was her name. I was confused. I sent Ted a quick note on Facebook asking if received something from us and just today, about 10 days later, he finally replied with a "Got the dishes. Thanks. Cool!"
So with after all that pleading on the invites and the Facebook Wedding group posts, all I get is that as a thank you? Urrgggghhh really dude? Not sure why he just doesn't come out that this wedding is fake and wants to be with psycho Jill.
Link to first post
Link to last update with links to all the other updates (there are 7 total posts)
.Update 7 + other links
