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Post by kelly316 on Jan 13, 2019 0:47:15 GMT
I realize this seems like a teenage question, but it only occurs with one group/family in adult life. I prefer the ignore technique. I am not good at being fake. I don’t think this question is coming across well, but it’s snowing and I have cabin fever!
ETA: This involves public places such as stores. There are no social circles or events involved.
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Post by smalltowngirlie on Jan 13, 2019 0:50:48 GMT
Ignore, but not to the point of rudeness.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 13, 2019 0:51:33 GMT
I realize this seems like a teenage question, but it only occurs with one group/family in adult life. I prefer the ignore technique. I am not good at being fake. I don’t think this question is coming across well, but it’s snowing and I have cabin fever! Depends on the context of the group. If the group is large enough or active/busy enough that being ignored isn't obvious then ignoring. But some groups are too small and there is no way to ignore without it being super obvious then fake nice is the only option. eta: Even if you go with ignore there always comes a point you have to fake nice or get end up with a reputation for being the inexcusably rude one. |
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Post by lisacharlotte on Jan 13, 2019 1:00:13 GMT
Fake nice, also known as civilized social behavior. You smile say hello and move on. The world would be a better place if everyone would put on their adult underwear and do this.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 13, 2019 1:10:38 GMT
Be civil and just ignore me. I can at least respect you for that. Being fake nice just makes me dislike you more.
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Post by ~summer~ on Jan 13, 2019 1:22:23 GMT
Neither one. I would prefer cordial and polite.
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Post by pierkiss on Jan 13, 2019 1:28:45 GMT
Fake nice, also known as civilized social behavior. You smile say hello and move on. The world would be a better place if everyone would put on their adult underwear and do this. Yep. I can fake nice when I need to. It works. I’m not going to actively ignore someone in a social situation if they come up to me. But I also won’t go out of my way to go up to them, start a conversation, and then be fake nice during that conversation. That’s silly. |
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Post by sean&marysmommy on Jan 13, 2019 1:31:08 GMT
Fake nice. I would've said the opposite a few years ago, but I have a social group where one chick just ignores people she doesn't like. And I mean, it's like she doesn't hear them, doesn't see them, nothing. We all wish she'd play fake nice, just for civility's sake. There is so much secondhand embarrassment going on.
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Post by kelly316 on Jan 13, 2019 1:33:23 GMT
Neither one. I would prefer cordial and polite. I almost listed this as an alternate option. This is only in public places such as stores. There are no social circles or events involved. |
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Post by myshelly on Jan 13, 2019 1:41:35 GMT
Ignore
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Post by refugeepea on Jan 13, 2019 1:50:27 GMT
It would depend on what the person has done and how I would respond. If it was something unforgivable; ignore. They are dead to me. Fortunately there are very few people in my life who would be treated this way.
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Post by dewryce on Jan 13, 2019 1:52:37 GMT
Fake nice, also known as civilized social behavior. You smile say hello and move on. The world would be a better place if everyone would put on their adult underwear and do this. This. Also called being polite. To me this is different than being fake nice. Nothing fake about being polite. |
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Post by lurkyloo on Jan 13, 2019 2:06:47 GMT
Do you mean, you’re roaming around the aisles in Target and you spot this person... do you go up and say hi, or do you take a hard turn down the closest aisle and run as fast as you can to the very back of the store, pretending you never saw them? Then wait it out until you think you’re safe?
Absolutely the second one.
ETA: if we make eye contact and I’m busted, I definitely say hi and be polite.
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Post by kelly316 on Jan 13, 2019 2:18:28 GMT
Do you mean, you’re roaming around the aisles in Target and you spot this person... do you go up and say hi, or do you take a hard turn down the closest aisle and run as fast as you can to the very back of the store, pretending you never saw them? Then wait it out until you think you’re safe? Absolutely the second one. Hahahahaha. You get it! |
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Post by Really Red on Jan 13, 2019 2:31:17 GMT
In a work setting, do not ignore somebody. Otherwise, absolutely ignore.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Jan 13, 2019 2:37:49 GMT
Fake nice, also known as civilized social behavior. Neither one. I would prefer cordial and polite. It warms the cockles of my heart to see so many who understand the concept of social politeness. I engage in polite behavior because it's who I am. It has nothing to do with the other person's behavior or whether in some weird rating scale, they have 'earned' it. |
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Post by busy on Jan 13, 2019 2:51:16 GMT
Fake nice, also known as civilized social behavior. You smile say hello and move on. The world would be a better place if everyone would put on their adult underwear and do this. I totally agree. You don't have to go overboard or have lengthy conversations. Saying hi and being polite is the adult thing to do. ETA: In stores, etc. I'd smile or otherwise non-verbally acknowledge the person. Because that's what I'd do with anyone else I know if I saw them in the store. I generally wouldn't start a conversation in the aisle no matter who it is (I am sure there would be exceptions, but I can't think of one lol). If they start a conversation, I'd politely engage. Again, I just think it's reasonable adult behavior. |
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Jan 13, 2019 3:14:25 GMT
I can’t stand fake people so ignore me if you don’t like me and I’ll ignore you if I don’t like you and everything will be fine.
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Post by scrapmaven on Jan 13, 2019 3:17:01 GMT
Ignore me. I would do the same. Be honest.
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Post by busy on Jan 13, 2019 3:20:00 GMT
Since when does polite = fake?
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Post by dewryce on Jan 13, 2019 3:22:04 GMT
Since when does polite = fake? Exactly! |
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Post by kelly316 on Jan 13, 2019 3:27:29 GMT
Since when does polite = fake? If someone talks terribly and negatively behind someone’s back (not really knowing them) and then approached them at Target as if they are best friends. By the way, this isn’t me. My preference would be to be ignored. |
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Post by Miss Ang on Jan 13, 2019 3:51:16 GMT
I don't think that seeing someone you don't particularly enjoy being around and saying hello, or a wave or a smile is "fake nice". That's acting like a decent human being.
Fake nice is more, "Hi! How ARE YOU?! I haven't seen you in FOREVER?! How's Joe? How's the kids? What have you been up to lately?" when you really could care less. That isn't just fake nice and extremely childish and I think it says a lot about a person. I'm NOT about being fake but being kind is just the right thing to do.
Be an adult, acknowledge that you know the person with a gesture of kindness and move on.
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Post by kelly316 on Jan 13, 2019 3:56:55 GMT
I don't think that seeing someone you don't particularly enjoy being around and saying hello, or a wave or a smile is "fake nice". That's acting like a decent human being. Fake nice is more, "Hi! How ARE YOU?! I haven't seen you in FOREVER?! How's Joe? How's the kids? What have you been up to lately?" when you really could care less. That isn't just fake nice and extremely childish and I think it says a lot about a person. I'm NOT about being fake but being kind is just the right thing to do. Be an adult, acknowledge that you know the person with a gesture of kindness and move on. I agree. The incident that made me ask this question involved someone coming up, touching and going on and on like best friends. |
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