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Post by Deleted on Jan 17, 2019 12:53:51 GMT
Either daily or say they have to get up extra early for some reason.
ETA--Apparently it's too early for me to spell Oprah properly. And no, I didn't get up early with my husband!
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Post by lisae on Jan 17, 2019 12:58:17 GMT
The only time I get up early if DH has to get up is if he is traveling and I want to help him be sure he hasn't forgotten anything.
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Post by momto4kiddos on Jan 17, 2019 13:00:10 GMT
I don't get up with him, nor has he ever gotten up with me. I get up with the dogs at 5:30 every morning and he sleeps until he needs to go to work.
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Post by lisacharlotte on Jan 17, 2019 13:00:49 GMT
DH leaves for work at 6a, sometimes 5a. I don't have to be to work until 9a (and my commute is 15 minutes). I usually wake up and turn on the TV to watch the morning news. Some days, like today, I get up, make breakfast, put in a load of laundry and pea. Somedays I am tired as hell because I didn't go to bed until 1am or later and it's a work night. Those mornings I roll over and go back to sleep.
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Post by gar on Jan 17, 2019 13:07:25 GMT
Nope 🙂
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Post by Deleted on Jan 17, 2019 13:08:41 GMT
I have no choice: he's loud, turns on all the lights and is generally a nuisance.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 17, 2019 13:09:14 GMT
No spouse now, but I rarely got up the same time the ex did. He was military and had early morning pt. OTOH, he didn't do middle of the night duties with me when the kids were babies or sick. I'd get up with him if he was leaving for a time period.
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Post by sueg on Jan 17, 2019 13:12:14 GMT
Nope. Dh is, and always has been, an early riser and he likes to go to work early as he says he gets so much done before everyone else is there. He is usually out of the house before 6:30 and he simply gets up, showers, dresses and leaves. He eats breakfast at work, so I don't even need to do that for him. He will even put a load of laundry on for me if he leaves before 6:15!
I generally don't need to leave the house before 8:30, so I sleep until about 7, get up and get ready.
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Post by Rainy_Day_Woman on Jan 17, 2019 13:13:03 GMT
Ha. I don't think I have ever slept longer than my husband.
Him willingly offering to wake up with me is just so laughable. It would never happen, that man loves sleep. I wake up at 4:30 and he only grudgingly gets out of bed at 7 for work and as late as he he can get away with any day he is off.
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Post by LisaDV on Jan 17, 2019 13:13:11 GMT
For those odd early wake ups, I usually only get up if I need to prepare something for DH and make sure it goes. Or if he's traveling overseas or something, so I can say a real goodbye.
We haven't had a normal M-F work schedule where he leaves and comes home each night in several years. When we did, I would generally be up, but not because of him. Just because it was morning and time to get up. I took it as me time. If he started getting to chatty several days in a row, I'd stay up late and sleep in for a few days. But I was a SAHM that homeschooled. I needed that little bit of me time.
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Post by rickmer on Jan 17, 2019 13:23:42 GMT
i never did. and for years he worked afternoon shift and i certainly never expected him to get up early with me. before we separated, he was always up and out by 7am. now that we are separated, he "is there" for the kids (after 17 years) so i get to see him *each and every* morning.  |
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Post by schizo319 on Jan 17, 2019 13:30:22 GMT
DH very rarely gets up before I do. I have to be at work at 6:30am, and he is to stay in the bed until I leave the house. He's a talker and I am someone who wants zero human contact until I've had at least 1 cup (preferably a whole pot) of coffee, he's finally learned that it's easier to avoid marital strife if he doesn't get up talking at me at 5:30 in the morning. On the rare occasion that he goes to work in the morning when I'm off, I stay in bed until I hear him leave the house to avoid the aforementioned chattiness.
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Jan 17, 2019 13:31:07 GMT
My husband wakes up earlier than me every weekday morning, and most of the time on the weekends as well. Sometimes I wake up when he is getting ready or when the door opens and closes as he walks out. But I always stay in bed and go back to sleep until I need to get up.
I'm confused about what Oprah has to do with this? lol
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Post by mustlovecats on Jan 17, 2019 13:37:53 GMT
We are on different schedules and he gets up and gets ready in another room so I can sleep as long as I can. He needs a lot less sleep than me so I find that very sweet of him to do.
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Jan 17, 2019 13:43:30 GMT
No significant other.
But the answer would be no.
I am a chronic insomniac. If I am solidly sleeping, my sleep is not to be interrupted unless there is an emergency.
If I am ever in another relationship, I want my own room for sleeping purposes.
If someone isn't in agreement with me about separate rooms for sleeping purposes(quiet, dark, cold room, with weighted blanket and wedge pillow), then I would terminate the relationship. Life is too short, to fight with someone about my much needed sleep.
Because of my lifelong chronic insomnia, I take my sleeping time very seriously. I sleep when I am tired. Usually it's outside of the normal society deemed sleeping hours and it's usually in increments.
Honestly, I have had this thought many times >> I want to make up a "my terms of agreement" to be presented at the "things are beginning to get serious" stage of a relationship". That way there is a clear understanding of what someone is getting themselves into with me. LOL!!
I have long-since reached the age, where I no longer will compromise on certain things. Like my sleep and my eating(picky, plain eater), among other things. Either accept me as I am, or excuse yourself from my life.
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Post by johnnysmom on Jan 17, 2019 13:46:47 GMT
Yes, I do. Apparently when we (I) decided to stay home with the kids 7 years ago I was either high or sleep deprived or something because I made some ridiculous promises about how much easier our lives would be if I was home taking care of things, including getting up and making him breakfast in the morning. The breakfast has never happened (I think I offered once or twice in the early days but he wasn't hungry and I stopped offering  ) but I have stuck with the getting up with him and helping him out the door (yes, he's perfectly capable and I should probably just start refusing buy he likes it and it's just not worth the fight). Fortunately he works from home 3-4 days a week so it's just that odd day that I actually get up early, most days I get up first. |
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Post by psiluvu on Jan 17, 2019 13:48:41 GMT
DH works nights so sometimes if it is slow he will be getting home as I am getting up. He usually brings me coffee if that happens. On the weekends if he is getting up early for golf or something I do not get up with him although I am usually awake
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Post by Skellinton on Jan 17, 2019 13:48:50 GMT
Absolutely not, fortunately he is considerate and is quiet as he can be since he leaves insanely early. When I had the earlier shift and he worked later he didn’t get up with me either.
Why would you get up unless your husband was a pill and made so much noise you couldn’t sleep?
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Post by MissBianca on Jan 17, 2019 13:49:48 GMT
I picked yes but it’s only when he has to fly somewhere because I’m his ride to the airport. Other than that his commute is all the way down stairs.
Typically I’m up before him to take kids to school or work. But he never gets up with me.
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Post by paigepea on Jan 17, 2019 13:51:28 GMT
Some days Dh goes to work at all hours and arrives home at all hours. I keep a regular schedule with the kids. I’m always the first one up (if he’s home), which begs the next pole - who makes the bed? The last one up? Sometimes I make Dh do it because he’s the last one up but I’m too picky and end up redoing it so I generally just go back and make the bed after dh is up. He’d do it if I didn’t always redo it after him 😂.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Jan 17, 2019 13:54:14 GMT
I've never been one to really sleep late anyway, but I have adapted my schedule to my husband's. He gets up around 5:30am and is out the door around 6:00am. I wake up and talk with him while he showers and dresses. Then he calls me and we talk on his drive to work. After that call, I get up so usually around 6:45am. I only work part-time, but rarely need to be out the door before 8:00am even for that. I really like getting up early for my coffee, morning news, and internet time though.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 17, 2019 13:55:46 GMT
Yes, every morning. I make his bowl of oatmeal, pour his coffee , feed the cats.
He leaves, I go back to to bed for a nap.
Then it is time to feed the outside pets.
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Post by huskermom98 on Jan 17, 2019 13:56:14 GMT
No (hell no actually) because DH is up & gone before I need to get up most mornings. His mom gets up to see him off to work if they are visiting on a weekday!!!
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Jan 17, 2019 13:56:59 GMT
which begs the next pole - who makes the bed? The last one up? That's how it works here. Weekday mornings it's generally always me. But on weekends, it's last one up -- or both of us if we get up at the same time (more common). |
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Post by twistedscissors on Jan 17, 2019 13:58:18 GMT
No I rarely sleep well and I’m usually begging him to stop hitting snooze so I can sleep. He gets up at 4-4:30. My DD gets up not long after he leaves and I hear her getting ready. Plus there’s two school busses, 3-4 neighbors cars going out during the time she’s getting ready so I rarely get to go back to sleep.
I could sleep until 8:30 if I could just stay asleep cause I don’t go in to work until 10. So I figure I lose four hours of desperately needed sleep almost every day.
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Post by crimsoncat05 on Jan 17, 2019 14:01:49 GMT
that's a big "NO" from me... but *early* for him is like, 2 am in the morning, so he can drive to the truck yard and get on the road before rush hour. I typically don't get up for work until between 5 and 5:30.
I won't say I haven't thought about it-- I have, in the 'I could go to work super-early, then leave early' or 'I could take this extra 'awake" time and work on a craft project' but then I come to my senses, roll over, and go back to sleep.
ETA: in our house, the bed doesn't really get 'made' every day- the covers get kind of pulled back over the bed, but that's not actually making the bed. (plus, there's usually a cat curled up on the blanket, and I hate to disturb them, lol.)
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Post by Deleted on Jan 17, 2019 14:02:42 GMT
Always. He does the same for me.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 17, 2019 14:11:26 GMT
99% of the time I am up before he is BUT on the rare occasion he gets up first, I get up with him. Once he's up, I can't sleep. We never sleep past 5:30 a.m. Sleeping in would be 6 a.m.  |
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Post by Anita on Jan 17, 2019 14:11:59 GMT
My DH gets up at 3:30 a.m. for work. No way in hell am I getting up that early. My rising time of 6 a.m. is hard enough. He has always worked strange hours.
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Jan 17, 2019 14:13:57 GMT
When he used to work abroad for extended periods and had to catch an early flight, I would get up with him to say goodbye. Those days are in the past, thankfully.
On work days? Nope. M-F he gets up earlier than I do. I always wake up and he says goodbye and I go back to sleep. Sunday I get up earlier than he does for church. He doesn't wake and I don't disturb him.
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) but I have stuck with the getting up with him and helping him out the door (yes, he's perfectly capable and I should probably just start refusing buy he likes it and it's just not worth the fight). Fortunately he works from home 3-4 days a week so it's just that odd day that I actually get up early, most days I get up first.
