christinec68
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Post by christinec68 on Jan 17, 2019 14:14:43 GMT
Nope. He gets up around 4:30 for work. He leaves everything he needs in the other room to get ready. I sometimes hear him and some of those times I'll get up to say good bye but mostly I don't. I wake up earlier than him on the weekends and let him sleep unless he asks me to wake him at a certain time or he needs to be someplace early.
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Post by workingclassdog on Jan 17, 2019 14:14:50 GMT
I'm a Hell No.. and to be fair I wouldn't expect him to get up with me if I was the earlier riser. And I don't make lunch for him either (back in the day when he didn't drive a truck).
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Post by Deleted on Jan 17, 2019 14:15:52 GMT
No significant other. But the answer would be no. I am a chronic insomniac. If I am solidly sleeping, my sleep is not to be interrupted unless there is an emergency. If I am ever in another relationship, I want my own room for sleeping purposes. If someone isn't in agreement with me about separate rooms for sleeping purposes(quiet, dark, cold room, with weighted blanket and wedge pillow), then I would terminate the relationship. Life is too short, to fight with someone about my much needed sleep. Because of my lifelong chronic insomnia, I take my sleeping time very seriously. I sleep when I am tired. Usually it's outside of the normal society deemed sleeping hours and it's usually in increments. Honestly, I have had this thought many times >> I want to make up a "my terms of agreement" to be presented at the "things are beginning to get serious" stage of a relationship". That way there is a clear understanding of what someone is getting themselves into with me. LOL!! I have long-since reached the age, where I no longer will compromise on certain things. Like my sleep and my eating(picky, plain eater), among other things. Either accept me as I am, or excuse yourself from my life. Maybe you can have Sheldon Cooper draft you a "Relationship Agreement." His is pretty specific   |
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Post by jenb72 on Jan 17, 2019 14:15:55 GMT
I answered no, because generally I don't, but two days a week I do for my own reasons. DH has to get up at 4:00 AM to be at a job downtown by 6:00 AM. Most mornings I don't get up until 5:30 for my own job, but twice a week I wake up with him so I can jump in the shower after him, tell him goodbye, and then do some yoga before I get ready for work.
Having said that, DH is like a bull in a china shop and really has no idea how to be quiet - so most mornings I may not be fully awake, but I'm also not fully asleep as he's getting ready, either, lol.
Jen
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Post by mikklynn on Jan 17, 2019 14:16:45 GMT
I have no choice: he's loud, turns on all the lights and is generally a nuisance. He's still alive? |
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Post by workingclassdog on Jan 17, 2019 14:23:53 GMT
I have no choice: he's loud, turns on all the lights and is generally a nuisance. He's still alive? Yeah if that was my husband, he wouldn't be around.. when DH was home and getting up before me he was pretty quite.. for light he would use the closet light was just enough to light the room a bit so he would be running into furniture. He would shut the door to the bathroom to shower and all that. Then out the door. He's wasn't super quite but at least it was at a respectful loudness.. I could kinda hear him some mornings but most of the time I was out of it and didn't hear a thing. |
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Post by mikklynn on Jan 17, 2019 14:26:45 GMT
No I rarely sleep well and I’m usually begging him to stop hitting snooze so I can sleep. He gets up at 4-4:30. My DD gets up not long after he leaves and I hear her getting ready. Plus there’s two school busses, 3-4 neighbors cars going out during the time she’s getting ready so I rarely get to go back to sleep. I could sleep until 8:30 if I could just stay asleep cause I don’t go in to work until 10. So I figure I lose four hours of desperately needed sleep almost every day. Similar to my previous post, he'd be a dead man. I get up at 5:15. DH is retired. I'm as quiet as possible and dress by flashlight . I don't understand being inconsiderate of your partner. |
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Post by crimsoncat05 on Jan 17, 2019 14:29:22 GMT
When my DH is getting ready for those middle-of-the-night trips, he puts all his stuff in the hall bathroom the night before, so he can use that bathroom instead of the master bath. I typically only wake up as he's putting on his shoes and watch, right before he tells me good-bye. I used to get up and walk out to the garage to 'see him off' so to speak, but he says that's not necessary.
I really don't have any problem getting back to sleep if I'm awakened in the middle of the night, thankfully. I think maybe it's come about through years of having cats- there are plenty of middle-of-the-night sounds and thumps when the cats are up to no good!
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Post by littlemama on Jan 17, 2019 14:29:56 GMT
It depends. If I am working, then I would probably get up as well and just go on into the office. If I am on vacation, if I wake up when he does, I usually will get up. If I don't happen to wake up, I don't.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 17, 2019 14:31:21 GMT
Hell no here. Dh and I have had varying schedules through the year. Sometimes I have gotten up earlier and sometimes he has. Right now we generally get up around the same time or within a half hour of each other (it depends if I'm working at home or in the office). But we never get up with the other when we can sleep later.
I asked because a friend was complaining about being tired because her husband had to get up early and she got up with him. She has mentioned this before and feeling very guilty once as she went back to sleep once after he left for work. I don't get it myself.
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Post by crimsoncat05 on Jan 17, 2019 14:34:08 GMT
I asked because a friend was complaining about being tired because her husband had to get up early and she got up with him. She has mentioned this before and feeling very guilty once as she went back to sleep once after he left for work. I don't get it myself. why guilt? that's crazy; she needs to get over that. If their schedules differ, then they differ. They don't need to do everything the same just because they're married-- how long have they been married, out of curiousity? |
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Post by milocat on Jan 17, 2019 14:37:06 GMT
Get up for what?! To watch him brush his teeth? Hell no. He gets up between 4am and 8am, he doesn't shower in the morning or eat breakfast. He's out the door in 5 minutes. DDs and I get up at 7:30. I am not a morning person.
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Post by padresfan619 on Jan 17, 2019 14:37:47 GMT
We alternate who has to get up first based on our schedules and most of time the other person doesn’t get up. I will wake up a little bit to say goodbye but I don’t get out of bed.
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Post by kckckc on Jan 17, 2019 14:43:34 GMT
I do now. I am retired, but DH is still working and likes to go in early. Since menopause, I am a very light sleeper. As soon as DH rolls out of bed, I am awake and can't go back to sleep so I get up.
When I was home with our sons and DH was working, I would not get up with him.
When we were both working we were on the same schedule and got up at the same time.
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Post by breetheflea on Jan 17, 2019 14:43:48 GMT
Only in the past few months. I started getting up at 6 so I could write before the kids woke up last summer and now I can't go back to sleep after DH's alarm goes off at 5:15 so I usually just get up.
Technically, I do not need to get out of bed until 7 to start getting kids ready for school.
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Jan 17, 2019 14:44:24 GMT
The only time I get up early with DH is when I am going with him. I have never been an early riser, while he is an "up before the chickens" kind of guy. Recently I was having some sleep issues and would get up before 7 am. Without fail he will ask me if anything is wrong and why am I up so early. After 41 years, he knows me!
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Post by Deleted on Jan 17, 2019 14:48:35 GMT
I have no choice: he's loud, turns on all the lights and is generally a nuisance. He's still alive? Some days his fate is iffy at best. |
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Post by Jili on Jan 17, 2019 14:55:30 GMT
No way. We run our own schedules independent of each other. We do coordinate a bit in terms of who needs to be in the bathroom at what time, but I would never get up with him just for the sake of it. I wouldn't expect him to do it, either. We're both considerate of the person still sleeping if one of us needs to get up extra early. Both sets of our parents are shocked that I do not make his lunch.  |
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Post by smartypants71 on Jan 17, 2019 15:09:05 GMT
I am the early one, but on occasions where he leaves first, I'll open one eye and kiss him goodbye. I don't ever wake up before I'm ready.
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Post by bdawnb on Jan 17, 2019 15:13:58 GMT
No! Normally I am the one leaving earlier and my husband is sound asleep when I leave the house. I work in a different town and his office opens later. So on the rare occasion he does get up earlier I definitely am sleeping in.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jan 17, 2019 15:21:49 GMT
I’d be in the Hell No category IF my DH got up before I did. As it is, because I agreed to take on this rescue dog, I have to get up with her and take her out in the morning (which means actually go outside WITH her). So pretty much every day of my life, I’m up before everyone else is. Once she has been out, then I go get DD up and ready for school. Usually he is getting ready himself while she is and will go down and get her breakfast ready because she is poky and not a morning person. On days when he’s off somewhere with his buddies and there is no school, I can sleep in a little more because the dog won’t want to go out quite as early if no one is getting up. Some days I get up, let the dog out, and go right back to bed once we’re back in. On the rare day when he has a networking meeting or something where he does get up before me, I don’t get up until the dog needs to go out. He would let her out but he doesn’t go out with her or watch her to make sure she does everything she’s out there to do, so I end up getting up anyway to take her out again so she doesn’t come back in and poop on the floor when no one is paying attention. (Cause why poop outside in the cold when you can poop inside on the carpet? Uggghhh! I don’t let her back in until I *know* she went poop too.) So usually it’s just easier if I make her stay in bed with me until he’s out of the house. She doesn’t need to go out that early, LOL.  I have to add that I am so.freaking.sick of getting up when it’s still dark-dark-dark outside, and miserably freaking COLD, ugh. Honestly I hate it that my first experience of the day is standing outside in the dark, freezing my butt off for a good 15 minutes (and that’s on a good day). I hate winter and I hate the cold. You’d think the 5 lb dog would have figured it out by now that it’s in her best interest not to dilly dally and just pick a dang spot already right away, but NOOOO. Got to sniff *every* available inch, twice, to find the very best spot! Drives me nuts.  |
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Post by birukitty on Jan 17, 2019 15:36:54 GMT
I'm in the hell no category. DH and I have never gotten up at the same time except maybe on vacation when we all want to coordinate our schedules to see the sights, participate in activities. At home DH has always gotten up before I have. He's a morning person, I'm a night person. In the 25 years that we've been together we've been this way. We are very considerate of each other.
Getting up early with him just to be with him seems ludicrous to me. I would just be in his way and more than that I'd be grumpy because I hate mornings. He wouldn't want me around him during that time anyway. I'm much better off left to my own devices until I've had at least 2 cups of coffee and then resemble a more normal human being. By then he's either left for work, or if he's working from home he's busy in his home office, which he doesn't come out of until lunchtime.
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Post by Gravity on Jan 17, 2019 15:37:53 GMT
DH works a set schedule Monday-Friday. My schedule varies. Neither one of us expects the other to get up with us. We are both adults and perfectly capable of getting up and out the door on our own.
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Jan 17, 2019 15:42:03 GMT
I have no choice: he's loud, turns on all the lights and is generally a nuisance. An eye mask and a pair of the Bose sleepbuds would change that! |
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Post by Deleted on Jan 17, 2019 15:55:23 GMT
Hell no. I don't get up with DD or DH. When I hear the door slam I get up. I can arrive at the office whenever I want.
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Post by basketdiva on Jan 17, 2019 15:58:21 GMT
Yes. I have found that if I don't get up and dressed I will stay in my pjs way too long and never going with my projects for the day. Plus my husband and I enjoy having a cup of coffee together in the morning. He leaves and I get all my boring household computer work done ( pay bills, check on insurance claims,etc)and then I feel no guilt working in the garden or craft room.
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Post by monklady123 on Jan 17, 2019 16:12:10 GMT
I voted "hell no". Normally I'm up by 5:00 or 5:30 anyway, because I go to bed earlier than dh. He gets up at 6:00 for work, later on weekends. So the only time he gets up before I do is if he has a webinar or conference call with some country on the other side of the world. Even when he travels his flights are never before afternoon/evening. That would be the only reason I would actually get up....to say goodbye if he was going away for several weeks.
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Post by peano on Jan 17, 2019 16:34:55 GMT
My DH has the diurnal rhythm of a farmer--gets up without an alarm at 4:30 a.m. and I sometimes stay up until 2 or 2:30, so that wouldn't work at all. So my answer was obviously "hell no".
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Post by scrapmaven on Jan 17, 2019 16:35:06 GMT
No. I've never been a "leap out of bed and face the day" person. Dh respects that.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 17, 2019 16:45:29 GMT
I asked because a friend was complaining about being tired because her husband had to get up early and she got up with him. She has mentioned this before and feeling very guilty once as she went back to sleep once after he left for work. I don't get it myself. why guilt? that's crazy; she needs to get over that. If their schedules differ, then they differ. They don't need to do everything the same just because they're married-- how long have they been married, out of curiousity? I don't get it either. She feels guilty over things she shouldn't IMO. And I don't think he feels she should do these things or feel guilty about not doing them either. They'e been married about 19 years I think. They do things separately at times. But she really hates it when he goes out of town or works late, says she misses him terribly etc to the point of misery. I think there is some anxiety. |
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