mlana
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Post by mlana on Jan 21, 2019 22:06:36 GMT
I've shared recently that my job is ending at the end of Jan. Until then, I'm on reduced hours as we basically run out the clock.
DH has been working steadily for our company, but there's just not enough work to cover all of our bills without my help. We have savings, so we're not in dire straits, but we will be if I don't find something soon.
DH has been looking hard for a permanent gig for the past year. Last spring we got taken in by a scam that still makes no sense. Luckily, we got out of it early, so we basically only lost 2 weeks work.
Today's freak out is courtesy of DH's latest job possibility. He had interviewed over the phone and then in person for a job that would have been so ideal for him. Even with his worsening kidney situation, he could have done this job well. He had made it to the final interviews and they had called him Friday to let him know it was between him and 2 others. Today they let him know it's going to someone else.
This happens, I know. Something better is probably waiting down the yellow brick road, I'm sure. yada yada. I can't breathe today, though. If he couldn't get this job, which he was so obviously suited to, how will he get another? Was it his age? His residual stroke effects - stiff left side, slight speech slur? What???
Meanwhile, I'm not seeing much work that I might be a fit for and I honestly can't figure out how I can work out of home and commute and still handle the details of our business and DH's health. I just can't breathe. I can't even cry because DH will be home soon and he'll need/expect me to be his cheerleader.
I just can't breathe.
Marcy
update 9:30. I want to thank y’all for the support and sympathy. I needed it so desperately. I’ve had a Xanax and a shower and I’m sitting here working on my resume with my DD remotely. Tomorrow will be better, I’m sureish. Lol. Love Y’all!
1/22. Today the shit kept rolling, but I really felt better able to handle it. My almost 4 yo oven freaked out this morning. Started shrieking and flashing an error code. I had no idea it could do that. I had to turn the power off at the fuse box to make it stop. When I turned the power back on, it started shrieking again, so I had to leave the power off u til it had cooled off. My mom almost shed a tear when she realized it had been her loaf of bread in the oven when it died. I went online to our neighborhood Nextdoor group and found a thread with applian repair recommendations and scheduled the repair for tomorrow
next iopened up up the water bill and found out how much the broken pipe in the front yard was going to cost. Compared to what the last cost, this was peanuts. Big honking peanuts, but still much less. I emailed the repair bill to the water folks and they’ll work with me on it. Not sure how much they can knock off, but any amount helps, right?
so, much calmer today, even as I’m wading Thru it. I don’t usually freak out, but my shoulders can only carry so much. I am so grateful that I have y’all to listen to me whine. I can’t tell you how much it means to me.
thank you, marcy
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scrappert
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Jul 11, 2014 21:20:09 GMT
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Post by scrappert on Jan 21, 2019 22:09:46 GMT
I am so sorry. I can't even imagine.
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Post by lucyg on Jan 21, 2019 22:15:31 GMT
I’m sorry. That’s way too much all at once. Hoping something wonderful comes along for both of you.
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Post by catck on Jan 21, 2019 22:18:12 GMT
So sorry, here's hoping both of you will find something in the near future. Hugs.
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Post by jenjie on Jan 21, 2019 22:18:16 GMT
Oh wow I’m so sorry.
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Post by librarylady on Jan 21, 2019 22:21:32 GMT
I am sad you are in this position. sucks....
You might investigate freelance jobs on the 'net. Our DIL did that for about 18 months. She was with a web site that posted the jobs, she bid and got some jobs. She had 2 people who told her they would always select her if she bid on the job 'cause they liked what she did.
I will ask her for the name of who she worked for online.
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Post by KikiPea on Jan 21, 2019 22:26:42 GMT
UGH I'm so sorry! Praying that something will pop up that is perfect for both of you. Big hugs!
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Post by Deleted on Jan 21, 2019 22:26:57 GMT
Hugs to you. This is an overwhelming day. Try to go to sleep knowing tomorrow is another day and will lead you somewhere with possibilities. I pray the best for you.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Jan 21, 2019 22:32:01 GMT
It sounds like the weight of it all is really hitting you hard today. And there's a lot to be stressed about. I wish I could wave a magic wand and fix some of it. What I can do is say I'm sorry you are going through it and send you good luck vibes for a good job for each of you to open up very soon.
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Sue
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Jun 26, 2014 18:42:33 GMT
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Post by Sue on Jan 21, 2019 22:33:31 GMT
Hoping something good breaks for your family very soon. Hugs.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 21, 2019 22:38:35 GMT
Go ahead get it out.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Jan 21, 2019 22:45:07 GMT
(((Hugs)))
Today is overwhelming, but tomorrow is a new chance.
I don't know all of the details of your situation, but would it be possible for your dh to go on disability, due to his medical condition?
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luckyjune
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Post by luckyjune on Jan 21, 2019 23:08:12 GMT
(((Hugs))) Today is overwhelming, but tomorrow is a new chance. I don't know all of the details of your situation, but would it be possible for your dh to go on disability, due to his medical condition? I wondered the same thing about going on disability. We pay into it our entire working lives and that's what it's there for! I'm sorry things feel so heavy right now. Here's hoping tomorrow brings peace and a clear path for you!
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Post by malibou on Jan 21, 2019 23:20:10 GMT
I'm so sorry. I will keep you both in my thoughts as I wish for just the right thing to come along and put you right back on track.
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Post by malibou on Jan 21, 2019 23:20:46 GMT
I'm so sorry. I will keep you both in my thoughts as I wish for just the right thing to come along and put you right back on track.
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Mystie
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Post by Mystie on Jan 21, 2019 23:37:48 GMT
I'm really, really sorry. It's such a scary feeling. I pray that you and your husband will both find something just right--and quickly. Hang in there.
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Post by cmputerdazed on Jan 21, 2019 23:41:40 GMT
that sounds like it is ok to freak out a bit you will be in our thoughts
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ashley
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Post by ashley on Jan 21, 2019 23:41:56 GMT
That is a huge amount of stress! It is overwhelming to think about it all and try to tackle it all at once. I am hopeful that in the near future you’ll look back at this dire time and realized you cleared the whole hurdle with grace and ease.
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Post by grate on Jan 21, 2019 23:48:20 GMT
I hope something good comes along for both of you and that YOUR pressures will soon be relieved.
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Post by Zee on Jan 21, 2019 23:59:03 GMT
(((Hugs))) Today is overwhelming, but tomorrow is a new chance. I don't know all of the details of your situation, but would it be possible for your dh to go on disability, due to his medical condition? I wondered the same thing about going on disability. We pay into it our entire working lives and that's what it's there for! I'm sorry things feel so heavy right now. Here's hoping tomorrow brings peace and a clear path for you! I was also wondering about that. Maybe that is something to start pursuing? I hope good things happen for you soon.
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Post by withapea on Jan 22, 2019 0:02:44 GMT
I'm so sorry that's so much to deal with. Sure hope you two catch a break soon.
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Post by Really Red on Jan 22, 2019 0:32:09 GMT
I'm so sorry. You're going through so much! I wish I had great advice for you, but I will keep my fingers crossed and send you cyber hugs.
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Post by flanz on Jan 22, 2019 0:35:55 GMT
It sounds like the weight of it all is really hitting you hard today. And there's a lot to be stressed about. I wish I could wave a magic wand and fix some of it. What I can do is say I'm sorry you are going through it and send you good luck vibes for a good job for each of you to open up very soon. This. Sending you best wishes for some good news!
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scrappinmama
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Jun 26, 2014 12:54:09 GMT
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Post by scrappinmama on Jan 22, 2019 0:54:26 GMT
Job loss stress really is almost too much to take at times. Take deep breaths. Don't panic and keep looking. Praying that the right job opens up!
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pancakes
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Post by pancakes on Jan 22, 2019 0:57:19 GMT
If it makes you feel better, this interview stuff happens to me. I’ve been a shoe in based on skills and killed interviews but didn’t make the final cut.
Do you think a remote job would work best for him?
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Post by MichyM on Jan 22, 2019 1:00:18 GMT
Oh, I'm so sorry. I just want to wrap you up in a warm hug. I don't blame you at all for freaking out a bit, I would too.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jan 22, 2019 1:16:44 GMT
You deserve a bit of a freak out with all that going on! Holy moley. Hang in there and hopefully something really great will come your way very soon.
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Post by LisaDV on Jan 22, 2019 1:24:30 GMT
I'm so sorry. That is so much and you deserve to have your cry and freak out. Hopefully you will both find the perfect for you jobs very quickly. Hugs to you.
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Post by CarolinaGirl71 on Jan 22, 2019 1:45:09 GMT
(((Hugs))) I'm so sorry, and hoping the right job for both of you will come soon!
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eastcoastpea
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Post by eastcoastpea on Jan 22, 2019 2:06:07 GMT
Sending hugs, and hopes that jobs that are perfect fits for both of you are just around the corner.
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