mlana
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Post by mlana on Jan 22, 2019 2:10:14 GMT
I am sad you are in this position. sucks.... You might investigate freelance jobs on the 'net. Our DIL did that for about 18 months. She was with a web site that posted the jobs, she bid and got some jobs. She had 2 people who told her they would always select her if she bid on the job 'cause they liked what she did. I will ask her for the name of who she worked for online. Please do. I would appreciate it.
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mlana
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Post by mlana on Jan 22, 2019 2:13:08 GMT
(((Hugs))) Today is overwhelming, but tomorrow is a new chance. I don't know all of the details of your situation, but would it be possible for your dh to go on disability, due to his medical condition? Not yet. His mind is still very sharp and he’s still mobile. When he starts dialysis he will probably have to do so.
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mlana
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Post by mlana on Jan 22, 2019 2:16:37 GMT
That is a huge amount of stress! It is overwhelming to think about it all and try to tackle it all at once. I am hopeful that in the near future you’ll look back at this dire time and realized you cleared the whole hurdle with grace and ease. Lol. I think grace is already gone. I just needed to get it out so I could be gracious and understanding when my DH came home. If he saw me freaking, hid blood pressure would have soared. Thank you. Marcy
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Post by roberta on Jan 22, 2019 2:30:18 GMT
Oh wow! This is a lot of stress and uncertainty. Sorry that is your situation. Vent anytime!
Hugs for you and I wish you both well in your job search. Looking for a job is a full time stressful job in itself.
Would temp work be an option for you? When I was changing careers temp work was really good for me. I got several offers but it wasn’t what I wanted at that point.
Good luck and hang in there.
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mlana
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Post by mlana on Jan 22, 2019 2:31:45 GMT
If it makes you feel better, this interview stuff happens to me. I’ve been a shoe in based on skills and killed interviews but didn’t make the final cut. Do you think a remote job would work best for him? I’m sorry you’re experiencing the same thing. It so sucks. Eventually he will need to work remote or go on disability, but right now he is working as many hours as we can book and he handles it ok. His left side isn’t immobile, just weak. Marcy
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mlana
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Post by mlana on Jan 22, 2019 2:34:23 GMT
Oh wow! This is a lot of stress and uncertainty. Sorry that is your situation. Vent anytime! Hugs for you and I wish you both well in your job search. Looking for a job is a full time stressful job in itself. Would temp work be an option for you? When I was changing careers temp work was really good for me. I got several offers but it wasn’t what I wanted at that point. Good luck and hang in there. I’m looking at anything that’s available, though I’d really like to work in the field I’ve been working in for the past 6 months. Data asset management seems to suit me. Marcy
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Jan 22, 2019 3:18:45 GMT
(((Hugs))) Today is overwhelming, but tomorrow is a new chance. I don't know all of the details of your situation, but would it be possible for your dh to go on disability, due to his medical condition? Not yet. His mind is still very sharp and he’s still mobile. When he starts dialysis he will probably have to do so. (((Hugs)))
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Post by mikklynn on Jan 22, 2019 3:19:18 GMT
All that deserves a freak out. I hope better things come your way soon.
Giant hugs in the meantime, my Pea friend.
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Post by kate on Jan 22, 2019 3:46:04 GMT
Praying for good news for you both, and soon!
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Post by inkedup on Jan 22, 2019 5:18:03 GMT
I'm sorry things are so stressful and scary right now. Sending hugs and hoping your family can catch a break soon. Best of luck to you both with the job search.
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Post by Patter on Jan 22, 2019 11:53:25 GMT
Praying today is a better day with possibilities for both of you. Hugs!
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Post by PLurker on Jan 22, 2019 12:32:38 GMT
(((Hugs))) Today is overwhelming, but tomorrow is a new chance. I don't know all of the details of your situation, but would it be possible for your dh to go on disability, due to his medical condition? Not yet. His mind is still very sharp and he’s still mobile. When he starts dialysis he will probably have to do so.I wrote a reply and accidentally deleted it trying to edit but to recap... what is his creatinine? If it is at or nearing dialysis being necessary, look into seeing if he can apply- now. My levels were beyond the "you should be on dialysis" point before I, myself really felt the need. I was mostly extremely tired with some of the other symptoms mixed in. But I preferred to "take a nap" a long time after the numbers insisted on dialysis. My doc watched and let me be before he would step in and insist himself. A lot of "are you sure you don't want to start" followed by "no, I'll stick with naps for now." Getting on disability- I have been there/done that but via a bit of different path. I worked for the USPS and they suggested I apply while working because they could see I was going downhill fast and applications can take a long time. I was surprised when I was approved relatively quickly and without much backlash of "prove it", if you know what I mean. I was told it was because the lab test numbers pretty much told the story and couldn't be faked or questioned like for instance a back injury. I believe later someone at SS said they literally had a cut off number that was the approval threshold. (your kidneys had to be "so far" gone) Now I applied first through the USPS retirement/disability system where it was first approved and then had to apply for social security disability so your path will be different but please look into it. If he isn't working now- apply! if you can. If he is working some try/investigate/ask anyway. His mobility and mind being sharp doesn't really matter, in my opinion. I've never been immobile in the truest sense of the word and most aren't. Most get exhausted. sick and tired. and sick and tired of being sick and tired. but not truly immobile. and I'd like to think my mind is still (relatively) sharp. relatively being the operative word. everyone's path is different and I could be mistaken on some details but please investigate and apply if possible. The sooner the better. The worst that can happen is try again later. Good luck and hugs.
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Post by elaine on Jan 22, 2019 12:32:47 GMT
Sending you a big (((hug))) and hoping that things are going better today.
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mlana
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Post by mlana on Jan 23, 2019 0:05:45 GMT
Not yet. His mind is still very sharp and he’s still mobile. When he starts dialysis he will probably have to do so. I wrote a reply and accidentally deleted it trying to edit but to recap... what is his creatinine? If it is at or nearing dialysis being necessary, look into seeing if he can apply- now. My levels were beyond the "you should be on dialysis" point before I, myself really felt the need. I was mostly extremely tired with some of the other symptoms mixed in. But I preferred to "take a nap" a long time after the numbers insisted on dialysis. My doc watched and let me be before he would step in and insist himself. A lot of "are you sure you don't want to start" followed by "no, I'll stick with naps for now." Getting on disability- I have been there/done that but via a bit of different path. I worked for the USPS and they suggested I apply while working because they could see I was going downhill fast and applications can take a long time. I was surprised when I was approved relatively quickly and without much backlash of "prove it", if you know what I mean. I was told it was because the lab test numbers pretty much told the story and couldn't be faked or questioned like for instance a back injury. I believe later someone at SS said they literally had a cut off number that was the approval threshold. (your kidneys had to be "so far" gone) Now I applied first through the USPS retirement/disability system where it was first approved and then had to apply for social security disability so your path will be different but please look into it. If he isn't working now- apply! if you can. If he is working some try/investigate/ask anyway. His mobility and mind being sharp doesn't really matter, in my opinion. I've never been immobile in the truest sense of the word and most aren't. Most get exhausted. sick and tired. and sick and tired of being sick and tired. but not truly immobile. and I'd like to think my mind is still (relatively) sharp. relatively being the operative word. everyone's path is different and I could be mistaken on some details but please investigate and apply if possible. The sooner the better. The worst that can happen is try again later. Good luck and hugs. Thank you so much for this information. I will definitely look into this. Marcy
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Post by librarylady on Jan 26, 2019 4:15:22 GMT
My DIL has responded. She did her freelance work with a company called Upwork.
I wish you luck with it. Her job with them led to a full time job where she works at home making good money, good benefits.
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