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Post by teach4u on Jan 26, 2019 21:33:06 GMT
A student of a friend spent a month in India.
That is common and not the question I have.
He said he went to pick up his sister, who is 2 years old. He said it's common for young children (few months old ) to spend a few years in India with their grandparents.
The student is 5. He shared his sister's birth. He hasn't seen her since she was 6 months old.
Is this a unique family decision or common occurrence as his father told the school? Just found it unique, never heard of that.
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Post by melissa on Jan 27, 2019 0:45:33 GMT
I have heard of this in several different cultures. It's not unusual.
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Post by teach4u on Jan 27, 2019 0:50:25 GMT
Is it to let gpatents spend uninterrupted time before kids have separation anxiety? Help with day care? Not saying right or wrong. Saying for me personally leaving my newborn on another continent would be challenging.
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Post by prapea on Jan 27, 2019 1:28:53 GMT
I am Indian and know several parents who sent their kids to India to live with grandparents. None of it has to do with soending time with grandparents. They don’t even believe in or think anything about “separation anxiety”.
It is mostly done due to day care costs here and they feel leaving the kids with their own prents is safe and secure than leaving them here at day care. It is mostly done by parents who moved to this country after they got married or came here for a job. I haven’t seen the first generation Indian kids do this (may be because their iwn parents live here and not in India...lol).
Funny story - when we went to visit India with our then 1 year old DS, my MIL and FIL, who live in India assumed that we would just leave him there with them. Lol. I still cannot forget the look of horror they gave us when we were like, “ummm what....no.” MIL would ask me wvery day and after the third day, I was like - feel free to talk to your son about it. She didn’t because she knew DH’s answer by then - loud and clear. She even tried to get all her relatives and friends to ask us, like we are doing something wrong. I just laughed it off and said, we got it, thank you very much.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 27, 2019 1:38:54 GMT
Is it to let gpatents spend uninterrupted time before kids have separation anxiety? Help with day care? Not saying right or wrong. Saying for me personally leaving my newborn on another continent would be challenging. It depends on why the parents are in the US and their visa status, whether or not they are working ect. Leaving the child with grandparents or other extended family means the parents aren't having to pay child care and the child is immersed in their primary culture and learning their native language as their first language. If they were left in an American day care the child may be delayed in learning the family's native tongue and manners. I don't know that is is common in India for grandparents to raise grandchildren. But I've seen it happen with students who have a child here then take it home for grandparents to take care of until the parents have finished their education here. |
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Post by teach4u on Jan 27, 2019 1:52:51 GMT
These parents are in ipper40 s. Have a 6 year old in school and sibling that just came home. Family isn’t moving back
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Post by ashley on Jan 27, 2019 2:01:13 GMT
These parents are in ipper40 s. Have a 6 year old in school and sibling that just came home. Family isn’t moving back I doubt you’re going to get an answer about what this specific family had decided to do, from strangers on the internet. |
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Post by prapea on Jan 27, 2019 2:08:03 GMT
These parents are in ipper40 s. Have a 6 year old in school and sibling that just came home. Family isn’t moving back Still...very common than we know to leave one sibling in india. The older one is in school, so probably less day care money. Whether they are moving back or not, their age and all doesn’t matter. This is very common in the Indian circle of friends I know. It is not my cup of tea. And even I get curious like you. But to each their own I guess. I also knew someone who grew up hating her prents because they left her in india with grandparents when she was 2 to 4 years old and brought the older child to US with them. I don’t know what and how much she remembers but she grew apart from her parents and always said that the fact they left her and not her sister always made her resent them |
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Post by teach4u on Jan 27, 2019 2:27:30 GMT
I am simply curious. Wasn’t sure if there’s tradition, bonding, religion? Dtc
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Post by Deleted on Jan 27, 2019 2:34:38 GMT
There was a story about this npr.
But I know that Some people do this so their children learn the language and are not influenced buy American culture.
Then they bring the children here so they can go to good schools that they can’t afford in their country.
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Post by Rainy_Day_Woman on Jan 27, 2019 4:13:41 GMT
I can't say that its that common in my husband's family but he is first generation. I have known people who do that.
I live in a Asian neighbourhood and it is common here as well.
My neighbour and I were pregnant at the same time, both had babies and then hers disappeared. Honestly, I didn't want to ask in case something bad happened to her son and I didn't want to upset her. A few weeks ago, she's suddenly got a four year old! She had sent him back to her parents in China because of day care cost and she felt better with him being with family.
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