|
|
Post by **Angie** on Feb 21, 2019 6:26:42 GMT
I'm going to plan a nice vacation.
I need something new in my life, something to do.
I was looking at houses , but dh shot down every one I liked. Said if I needed a change, I should just paint a room or two.
Last year, we had talked about buying a small building to open a resource/activity center for homeschoolers and he supported the idea. When I mentioned it a few days ago, he said "that's not gonna happen".
Looked at rv's, found one we liked, but on the drive home, he poo-poo'd the idea because of the cost.
He is literally driving me crazy because he is always talking about doing or buying something but always changes his mind when it is close to becoming a reality.
So, I'm going to plan a vacation and just give him the info when I'm ready to deposit money. The question is - where to go and how?
I'd love to take an rv out west. I've always wanted to visit Ireland and Scotland, although I might just decide to stay. DH has talked about Yellowstone for years. The place in Arkansas where people hunt for diamonds sounds like fun.
Any ideas or suggestions???
|
|
Deleted
Posts: 0
May 18, 2024 14:39:49 GMT
|
Post by Deleted on Feb 21, 2019 6:34:30 GMT
Rv trip through New Zealand.
|
|
paigepea
Drama Llama
Enter your message here...
Posts: 5,609
Location: BC, Canada
Jun 26, 2014 4:28:55 GMT
|
Post by paigepea on Feb 21, 2019 6:38:01 GMT
Ireland and Scotland sound nice.
We went to Eastern Europe last year and it was fantastic. Good scenery, interesting cultures, good food and a lot of history.
|
|
|
|
Post by mimi3566 on Feb 21, 2019 10:06:04 GMT
Rv trip through New Zealand. Have you seen KYD's YouTube series on RVing New Zealand? |
|
|
|
Post by mimi3566 on Feb 21, 2019 10:09:55 GMT
I vote for an EPIC RV road trip to Yellowstone or Yosemite or one of the big national parks. Perhaps he'll catch the RV bug and decide to purchase one...it's a great way to vacay in addition to being able to take some quick weekend getaways a couple of hours from home.
|
|
pilcas
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 2,920 
|
Post by pilcas on Feb 21, 2019 10:28:35 GMT
Would love to go to Ireland and Scotland. It’s definately on my to do list. Go for it!
|
|
purplebee
Drama Llama
Posts: 6,734
Member is Online
|
Post by purplebee on Feb 21, 2019 12:17:54 GMT
Two weeks in Ireland on the west coast, staying in B & Bs, doing some hiking with my sister was the best vacation I've ever had. Ireland is spectacular and I'd go back in a heartbeat.
RVing in the west and doing the National Parks sounds super and might be less expensive than a trip overseas. I lived in Utah for 10 years and Bryce Canyon and the Moab area are my faves.
I now live in Arkansas and have no desire to dig at the Crater of Diamonds park, too hot and sounds like work for diamonds that don't look like diamonds. But - loads of folks love it, just not my thing!
Good luck in making a decision, sounds like you need to hit the road!
|
|
|
|
Post by tommygirl on Feb 21, 2019 12:54:00 GMT
It sounds more like a financial disconnect. You have big dreams and want to make a major purchase and he is not ready for the financial commitment. Maybe have an honest talk about finances with him. If things are well financially it might help him realize that these big plans (new house, buying a building, a new RV)are doable.
|
|
|
|
Post by kluski on Feb 21, 2019 13:08:52 GMT
Are you married to my dh? And tommygirl , we are financially able. I’m actually the one who worries about money. But sometimes your life becomes so routine you just need something to look forward to instead of another day of work or laundry |
|
carhoch
Pearl Clutcher
Be yourself everybody else is already taken
Posts: 2,991
Location: We’re RV’s so It change all the time .
|
Post by carhoch on Feb 21, 2019 13:14:36 GMT
Rv trip through New Zealand. Have you seen KYD's YouTube series on RVing New Zealand? I love KYD they keep it real and honest and I love their family dynamic . |
|
|
|
Post by **Angie** on Feb 21, 2019 13:34:15 GMT
Are you married to my dh? And tommygirl , we are financially able. I’m actually the one who worries about money. But sometimes your life becomes so routine you just need something to look forward to instead of another day of work or laundry This completely. We just sold our final rental property (never again!!) and have enough for a nice downpayment on a house. |
|
|
|
Post by **Angie** on Feb 21, 2019 13:36:10 GMT
It sounds more like a financial disconnect. You have big dreams and want to make a major purchase and he is not ready for the financial commitment. Maybe have an honest talk about finances with him. If things are well financially it might help him realize that these big plans (new house, buying a building, a new RV)are doable. He's the money guy, and is the one to come up with these ideas. He just changes his mind soooooooo much. |
|
StephDRebel
Drama Llama
Posts: 6,666
Location: Ohio
|
Post by StephDRebel on Feb 21, 2019 14:09:13 GMT
It sounds more like a financial disconnect. You have big dreams and want to make a major purchase and he is not ready for the financial commitment. Maybe have an honest talk about finances with him. If things are well financially it might help him realize that these big plans (new house, buying a building, a new RV)are doable. This. I sound like your husband. Its fun to dream and I like to see things and smell them. I rest drove a Maserati last week. Will I buy it? Probably not, but I was semi-tempted. I'll research a potential vacation for months and maybe never go. My bucket list is to open a home for young mothers so I've been looking at homes with lots of bedrooms for that. Not happening any time soon. I'm also currently researching moving to Australia, Canada, and new Orleans. In my mind, why not look? When it comes time I'll know and I'll find what is perfect for the dream. My dh doesnt work the same way and didnt understand why I wasn't opening a home, driving a Maserati, and doing it all in Australia. Now, after communication he just looks at floor plans when one excites me, Pat's me on the head and says "let me know when you find your dream babe. " |
|
LeaP
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 3,939
Location: Los Angeles, CA where 405 meets 101
|
Post by LeaP on Feb 21, 2019 14:37:13 GMT
All of your travel ideas sound excellent. I would go for Ireland and Scotland. When we lived in New Zealand we rented an RV to tour the south island. Beautiful, beautiful country.
|
|
Deleted
Posts: 0
May 18, 2024 14:39:49 GMT
|
Post by Deleted on Feb 21, 2019 15:02:05 GMT
I would start with something easy like Scotland and Ireland. For RVing in the mountains I would get some practice under my belt on driving an RV on flat, more open lands before taking an RV up and around hairpin type turns in the mountains.
As for DH's agreement, I think sometimes we women have to make the plans, pay the money, tell them the dates and give DH's the choice on if they pack and go or not.
|
|
likescarrots
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 2,879
|
Post by likescarrots on Feb 21, 2019 15:45:15 GMT
It sounds more like a financial disconnect. You have big dreams and want to make a major purchase and he is not ready for the financial commitment. Maybe have an honest talk about finances with him. If things are well financially it might help him realize that these big plans (new house, buying a building, a new RV)are doable. He's the money guy, and is the one to come up with these ideas. He just changes his mind soooooooo much. sounds like he gets an idea and then realizes it's a bad financial decision. Using the sale money from rental property (assuming it was bringing income) to buy a new house when it sounds like you already own a perfectly reasonable house IS a bad financial decision. That money should be invested to continue bringing income. If I were you, I would ask my husband to please stop bringing up day dream ideas until here's ready to follow through. Eta: and planning a vacation without telling him until you hand him the bill is a bad relationship decision and will probably end up in more resentment from you if he doesn't think it's a good idea. |
|
|
|
Post by crimsoncat05 on Feb 21, 2019 15:54:40 GMT
This. I sound like your husband. Its fun to dream and I like to see things and smell them. your explanation makes me realize that I also like to do this! The planning and researching of things is half the fun, if not more, for me. A lot of the things I research I'm not actually serious about. Right now I'm getting the itch to move; oh, I like our house just fine-- just feel like looking for something new... so I look at house listings in different cities that we MAY consider, at some time, for our retirement- or probably not. But it has to be annoying for the OP to have these discussions and constantly have her DH bail on her at the last moment, when it sounds like he was on board with the ideas previously. For me, I would plan a trip through the western parks, rent an RV, and go on it with your DH. That way you can find out if RV'ing is something you might want to do often enough to justify the cost of buying one. |
|
|
|
Post by mom on Feb 21, 2019 16:07:27 GMT
He's the money guy, and is the one to come up with these ideas. He just changes his mind soooooooo much. sounds like he gets an idea and then realizes it's a bad financial decision. Using the sale money from rental property (assuming it was bringing income) to buy a new house when it sounds like you already own a perfectly reasonable house IS a bad financial decision. That money should be invested to continue bringing income. If I were you, I would ask my husband to please stop bringing up day dream ideas until here's ready to follow through. Eta: and planning a vacation without telling him until you hand him the bill is a bad relationship decision and will probably end up in more resentment from you if he doesn't think it's a good idea.So very much this! I would tread very carefully. I get that life gets routine and some times you need to do something different. But how much fun would it be to go on a vacation with someone that is resentful that you planned a whole trip without his input. I know *I* would be pissed if DH did this to me. |
|
goodwitch
Shy Member
Posts: 39
|
Post by goodwitch on Feb 21, 2019 16:33:13 GMT
My son rents out their RV on a regular basis. This is a inexpensive way to try one.
As for Murphreesbor Ark, (the diamond mine,)I've been a couple of times and it is so inexpensive. I think it was about $5 to get in, and a few dollars to rent tools to dig with. The first time I was there a child found a diamond, and the second time while we were waiting in line for the park to open someone found a gem stone in a bucket of rocks and dirt. Even though we didn't find a diamond ourselves we had a great time. One disclaimer: It's very hot in the Summer. Other than a pavilion and the Welcome Center it's just a wide open field.
|
|
|
|
Post by annabella on Feb 21, 2019 16:45:18 GMT
Go to Ireland!
|
|
Deleted
Posts: 0
May 18, 2024 14:39:49 GMT
|
Post by Deleted on Feb 21, 2019 23:35:29 GMT
Rv trip through New Zealand. Have you seen KYD's YouTube series on RVing New Zealand? No, my daughter’s friends did it. I think that they went for a month. They loved every minute of it. |
|
|
|
Post by piebaker on Feb 22, 2019 1:26:38 GMT
I vote for Ireland or Scotland! Plan a wonderful vacation.
My DH loves to RV and we rented one and drove it for 8 days over 7 states. I did learn to drive a 30 ft RV, though! We also blew a tire at 11pm and had to call for RV-roadside assistance. Be sure to add that coverage.
|
|
lesley
Drama Llama
My best friend Turriff, desperately missed.
Posts: 7,179
Location: Scotland, Scotland, Scotland
|
Post by lesley on Feb 22, 2019 2:53:18 GMT
Come to Scotland! We are a beautiful small country, full of mountains, castles and lochs. I can confidently say that Edinburgh is one of the most beautiful cities in the world, and very walkable. My DS's Floridian GF visited for the first time last summer, and was blown away by everywhere we took her.  |
|
