maurchclt
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Jul 4, 2014 16:53:27 GMT
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Post by maurchclt on Feb 21, 2019 15:42:51 GMT
That's a lot to deal with, sending you HUGS, healing thoughts and peace.
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Post by lbp on Feb 21, 2019 16:14:48 GMT
I am so sorry you are going through so much at one time. Sending prayers for healing and positive thoughts your way.
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MorningPerson
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Location: Central Pennsylvania
Jul 4, 2014 21:35:44 GMT
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Post by MorningPerson on Feb 21, 2019 16:40:30 GMT
You have all of us in your corner as you go through this. And I'm really glad you have a supportive family.
Don't ever feel guilty about leaning on people here and in real life - it's your time to be helped, and when you've beaten cancer and made it through your divorce you'll be back helping others, with a lot more wisdom and experience to share.
We're rooting for you!
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MDscrapaholic
Drama Llama
Posts: 6,583
Location: Down by the bay....
Jun 25, 2014 20:49:07 GMT
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Post by MDscrapaholic on Feb 21, 2019 17:15:09 GMT
((Hugs)) to you as you deal with all that. That is a lot!
Remember that we're here to listen and to vent right along with you.
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Post by phoenixcov on Feb 21, 2019 17:23:52 GMT
Please add me to the long list of pea people wishing you strength to cope with all the things being thrown at you now. I hope that the light at the end of the tunnel isn`t far away.
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MaryMary
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Jun 25, 2014 21:56:13 GMT
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Post by MaryMary on Feb 21, 2019 17:25:08 GMT
I’m so sorry that life is dumping on you right now. You are strong and capable. You can do this. We are here for you.
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rickmer
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Jul 1, 2014 20:20:18 GMT
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Post by rickmer on Feb 21, 2019 17:43:21 GMT
wishing you good thoughts (((hugs))).
had a really rough night myself last evening... these quotes help me a bit:
"Tomorrow belongs to those who hear it coming" - David Bowie
"Kick at the darkness til it bleeds daylight" - Bruce Cockburn
"Giving up is not an option" - merrick (okay, probably not, but i say it to myself and others A LOT)
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lurkyloo
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Dec 5, 2018 6:53:08 GMT
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Post by lurkyloo on Feb 21, 2019 17:44:16 GMT
Sending you all good thoughts. ♥️
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Post by mellyw on Feb 21, 2019 17:46:24 GMT
Sending many good thoughts your way.
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Montannie
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Location: Big Sky Country
Jun 25, 2014 20:32:35 GMT
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Post by Montannie on Feb 21, 2019 17:49:44 GMT
Hugs and positive thoughts!
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Post by papersilly on Feb 21, 2019 17:56:20 GMT
sorry you are going through all this! take time for yourself...stay strong.....hold on to the belief that your will have a great recovery.
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valincal
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Southern Alberta
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Jun 27, 2014 2:21:22 GMT
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Post by valincal on Feb 21, 2019 18:03:07 GMT
I’m so sorry you’re having a hard time. Sending hugs and positive thoughts. Take care.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 21, 2019 18:03:10 GMT
I'm sorry you are going through this and having to deal with a nasty divorce at the same time.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 21, 2019 18:07:11 GMT
I'm sorry, that is a lot to be dealing with all at the same time. Sending you (((hugs)))
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dald222
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Jun 27, 2014 0:50:15 GMT
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Post by dald222 on Feb 21, 2019 18:08:48 GMT
I am deeply sorry that you are going through this You are in my prayers.
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The Birdhouse Lady
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Moose. It's what's for dinner.
Posts: 7,340
Location: Alaska -The Last Frontier
Jun 30, 2014 17:15:19 GMT
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Post by The Birdhouse Lady on Feb 21, 2019 18:12:56 GMT
Sending you love and prayers. That is a lot to go through at once. I pray that today you can find a little humor and laughter at some point in your day.
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Post by bc2ca on Feb 21, 2019 18:17:23 GMT
It is not fair that you are fighting for your health while going through a divorce. You can do this one day at a time and I hope it does help knowing there is a worldwide peanation cheering you on.
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TheOtherMeg
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Jun 25, 2014 20:58:14 GMT
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Post by TheOtherMeg on Feb 21, 2019 18:17:39 GMT
Holy cow, that's a lot to deal with! Lucky for you, the Peas have this vehicle, like the Pea version of Harry Potter's Knight Bus, that will get you through anything. Climb on board, choose a cozy seat (beds up top, even!), and order some cocoa & nibbles. We got this!
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Post by scrapmaven on Feb 21, 2019 18:18:55 GMT
You are a very strong woman, but even the strongest of women needs and deserves support when she's going through something huge like this. Do you have a therapist? You would really benefit from having that support person who can guide you and work w/you as you endure treatment and a nasty divorce. Your ex is a supreme douchecanoe, but that doesn't mean that you didn't love him and aren't feeling alone right now.
The good news is that there are many many peas who will be here for you and will listen to you and hold your hand as long as you are willing to talk to us. We have your back. You're going to get through this, beat cancer, find a new normal and life will be good, again. This is a temporary ordeal and not permanent by any means.
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ddly
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Jul 10, 2014 19:36:28 GMT
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Post by ddly on Feb 21, 2019 18:19:57 GMT
Sending good thoughts your way!
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Post by dmopal on Feb 21, 2019 18:20:27 GMT
Sending hugs! We're here for you!
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Post by ceepea on Feb 21, 2019 18:23:45 GMT
huge hugs and lots of prayers for you!
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paigepea
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Jun 26, 2014 4:28:55 GMT
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Post by paigepea on Feb 21, 2019 18:34:56 GMT
Sending love đź’—
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Debbie
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Post by Debbie on Feb 21, 2019 18:38:23 GMT
I had fifteen radiation treatments over three weeks. Everyone’s treatment is different. I didn’t have any I’ll effects except being tired the second week in. Fortunately I don’t work and had no stress.
I will keep you in my thoughts. You CAN do this. If someone offers you a meal say YES!
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Feb 21, 2019 18:47:04 GMT
My thoughts are with you.
Big (((Hugs)))
I'm sorry life has dumped so much on you. It isn't fair. It isn't right.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 21, 2019 18:48:13 GMT
I haven't had to deal with cancer but I do know the heartbreak of a nasty divorce. Just remember, even when you do end up in a ball on the floor spilling tears to rival a flood that does NOT mean you are weak. It means your heart is utterly broken and you are a woman. When that flood has run its course you will have the strength to stand again. The standing again makes you a strong woman. You are a strong woman. Don't fear the tears. In time they wash away a lot of pain. You will find joy and laugh again.
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Post by Lexica on Feb 21, 2019 19:00:17 GMT
I once had a period of time where I had multiple traumatic events happen all at the same time like you are experiencing. The cancer wasn’t mine, but my only child’s. My son’s surgeon said the cancer had spread “everywhere” and was impossible for him to remove. He gave me no hope that my son could survive. We transferred his treatment to the Mayo Clinic where they had much better equipment and top doctors with more experience in my son’s kind of cancer. After multiple years of treatment, he beat it. He is in his mid 30s now and cancer free. I was in the final stages of becoming a court reporter and slipped at home and instinctively reached out to break the fall. I ended up dislocating my ring finger at the middle knuckle, leaving it flopping over onto my baby finger and unable to move it. Without functioning hands, I was unable to do anything toward taking the state certification test that I had been working diligently for 4 years to allow me to start making an income. I had just gone through a nasty divorce at the start of my schooling in court reporting and was desperate to be able to earn good money since my son’s cancer bills were piling up. It took me over a year of rehab work to be able to return to school and it took me another year to regain my speed ability of 225 words per minute. There were three more very stressful things happen, culminating in a tornado hitting our house one night while my son and I were in the family room. I live in California and had never even heard of a tornado happening anywhere nearby. When the tornado hit, we were scared beyond reason, and as soon as the roaring noise stopped, I started laughing uncontrollably. A stress reaction, I’m sure, but I couldn’t seem to stop laughing and I somehow turned a corner in attitude that night. I realized that the majority of people on the planet suffer extreme stress at some point(s) during their life. We were just getting hit with it from all sides and all at once. I decided to look at the positive probability that I might spend the rest of my life without a stressful event because I had gotten through them all at the same time. The reality is I have had a few stressful things happen since then, but nothing anywhere near the magnitude that I experienced during that couple year period of time. Knowing I survived all that extreme stress at one time made all future issues a lot more manageable. So you may very well be dealing with your “life allotment” of bad things happening all at the same time and can look forward to an easy-peasy existence for the remainder of your days, once you get through this time period. Wouldn’t that be awesome? Just focus on a day at a time, handling the things you can and doing your best to let go of the things you have no control over. Surround yourself with good supportive friends and family and ask for assistance if you need it. I know it isn’t easy to ask for help sometimes, but those that love you truly want to lessen your burden in some way. I had a neighbor I barely knew come to my door one afternoon. She told me the she had gone through a number of stressful things at once like I was facing and knew what it was like. She offered to be there for me in any way that I needed. She said she would take my son for a few hours if I needed a good cry without him seeing. Or she would sit with me and listen to my fears if I needed that. Or if I wanted to escape the stress, she would go out to dinner with me and we could spend the evening laughing and acting normal, not mentioning cancer once, allowing me to feel normal without guilt. She was amazing and a true gift. I hope you have someone who can do that for you because it truly helped. Especially getting dressed up and going out to dinner on the weekends my boy was at his dad’s house. I was able to pretend that everything was fine and she had the best jokes to get me laughing. I couldn’t have guessed how freeing that would be. Everyone else talked about the cancer or my financial worries - did I think I was going to lose the house, etc. They meant well, but there was no escape with that. Many of us here have had multiple traumas at some stage and we are here for you. Please feel free to PM me if you need a shoulder. Hugs.
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Post by miominmio on Feb 21, 2019 19:02:03 GMT
(((Hugs)))
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Post by lurker on Feb 21, 2019 19:07:16 GMT
I've been wondering how you were doing. The old 70s song "I Am Woman" is currently running thru my head. You got this, girl! lyrics link
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Post by librarylady on Feb 21, 2019 19:24:05 GMT
Hug to you.
My mother would say, "When you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on!"
So, hang on--it WILL get better--though it does not seem like it now.
We are here for you.
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