lesley
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Post by lesley on Feb 23, 2019 20:04:16 GMT
So what is this illness then? (Just kidding. )
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FurryP
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Post by FurryP on Feb 23, 2019 20:55:03 GMT
Be assertive and mean it. Tell her any of the responses posted by the peas above. Who cares if she thinks you are not being nice? It is none of her business. Not really sure why this is a problem.
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Feb 23, 2019 21:05:24 GMT
I like to end those kind of conversations with *..... and once I feel ready to discuss it, I will let you know.* That’s a great ending!
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Post by lisacharlotte on Feb 23, 2019 21:09:28 GMT
Some of the answers are funny about invented illnesses, but this comes back again to boundaries. You are not required to give anyone at work a rundown on your medical issues. I'd head her off by having HR remind employees that it's inappropriate to ask employees about their medical issues or why anyone was out of the office. Seriously, I don't get why this is so hard. I wouldn't worry about being rude to someone who is being beyond rude and nosy. I don't understand why you think you need to sugar coat anything for this person, IT'S NONE OF HER BUSINESS, USE THOSE WORDS!
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Post by anniefb on Feb 23, 2019 21:13:39 GMT
Bubonic plague. They say they don't think I am still contagious. Or better yet.... Bubonic plague. I signed out against medical advice. Just got tired of being in isolation. That should keep her far away! LOL
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Post by Zee on Feb 23, 2019 21:14:55 GMT
Wolfbite Tiger attack
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Post by NanaKate on Feb 23, 2019 21:21:15 GMT
“Thank you for your concern but I’m not comfortable discussing this at this time...”
Repeat as often as necessary. You don’t, in fact, have to give details to anyone including your supervisor. Been there, done that.
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Post by bc2ca on Feb 23, 2019 21:23:29 GMT
Tell her you had a baby and didn't even know you were pregnant. I love the ebola story, Lexica.
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Post by 950nancy on Feb 23, 2019 21:26:59 GMT
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uksue
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Post by uksue on Feb 23, 2019 21:46:40 GMT
I would probably laugh and say 'not contagious , it didn't kill me and I'm better now thanks .' If she asked again I would just say I never discuss my health at work .
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NoWomanNoCry
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Feb 23, 2019 21:56:25 GMT
“I belong to the witness protection program and they needed to place a tracking device inside me” Give her something to really talk about.
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freebird
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Post by freebird on Feb 23, 2019 22:00:24 GMT
Give her a list of embarassing shit. Vagina tightening surgery Removed a third nipple Had boobs enlarged (if you're really flat - opposite if you're big... because it'll be funny you look the same.) Anal bleaching Amputated your extra toes. That should get her tongue wagging. haha. (and for those busy bodies HERE, calm your tits, it's a joke).
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Post by pastlifepea on Feb 23, 2019 22:01:30 GMT
Bubonic plague. They say they don't think I am still contagious. Or better yet.... Bubonic plague. I signed out against medical advice. Just got tired of being in isolation. That should keep her far away! LOL I was going to go with scurvy, my fave, but bubonic plague is even better.
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Post by salem on Feb 23, 2019 22:04:59 GMT
Look her in the eye and say it’s personal, and frankly none of her business. Turn and walk away.
I can’t stand the office busy body.
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Post by mikklynn on Feb 23, 2019 22:08:04 GMT
"It was a personal matter I don't care to discuss. Thank you for your concern." Eta: if she persists, you can say, " I'd rather focus on work right now." This, over and over. I hope you make a quick recovery.
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anniebygaslight
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Post by anniebygaslight on Feb 23, 2019 22:16:44 GMT
"It was a personal matter I don't care to discuss. Thank you for your concern." Eta: if she persists, you can say, " I'd rather focus on work right now." This. And if she persists, 'I'm sorry, but you are upsetting me with your persistent questions after I have repeatedly told you that I don't want to discuss the matter. If it happens again, I will have no option but to refer the matter to HR/ supervisor/ line manager.'
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Post by bunnyhug on Feb 24, 2019 3:22:39 GMT
I’m just going to chime in to say that you probably shouldn’t use “I’m sorry ...” as part of your reply. It’s none of her beeswax and you shouldn’t be/aren’t sorry about telling her that. Adding an “I’m sorry” just leaves a little gap for her to ask more questions because you don’t sound like you decisively want her to back off or get lost!
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MaryMary
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Post by MaryMary on Feb 24, 2019 4:12:31 GMT
“Thank you for your concern. I’ve learned to be very private about my health. I’m sure you understand.”
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Post by Deleted on Feb 24, 2019 4:16:06 GMT
Many years ago, I had a good-sized tumor (benign) removed from right below my breast and I didn’t want to discuss it at the office. We too had one of those nosey women who has to know everything about everyone. I was only out for a day and a half and when I returned, I was very uncomfortable because the underwire on my bra pressed on incision area. It was really painful. Going braless wasn’t an option and I had a deadline so I couldn’t take more time off. I didn’t anticipate this so I hadn’t purchased a bra that didn’t have an underwire. I loosened it as much as possible, but it was obvious that I was moving a little bit cautiously and she noticed. She asked where I had been and why was I so stiff. This woman was as thick as she was nosey. I told her I had a reoccurring bout of Ebola. By her lack of reaction, it was obvious she didn’t know what Ebola was. I had a coworker in the office who was also a very dear friend. His office was right across from this woman’s desk so he could hear her talk. Sure enough, she began telling people about my reoccurring Ebola. As I expected, people laughed when she said it and just walked away. We all knew this woman wasn’t bright. Eventually, someone must have clued her in on that one and she kept pestering me for answers. I kept giving her insane medical issues. I even told her I had an orchiectomy. (removal of a testicle) Again, she just nodded knowingly. My friend heard her tell someone that I had something to do with orchids or something. She never did confront me about the stories and stopped asking me after the orchid answer. I admit, I rather enjoyed giving her these medical conditions because everyone she told realized immediately what I was doing and the joke was then on her. Since we all hated her nosey gossip, it became an office thing and everyone started having interesting medical reasons for taking a day off. They may still be doing it to her. Depending on how bright your busybody is, you might want to have some fun with it like we did. That is HYSTERICAL!
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Post by pierkiss on Feb 24, 2019 4:32:29 GMT
I would just tell her that I was sick. The end. No more details needed. Your future dr appts are none of her business. Saying “I have an appt, I will be out xyz” is more than enough information.
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Post by Marina on Feb 24, 2019 4:36:01 GMT
When someone asked me “Did you not want to have kids or couldn’t you have any?” I replied “I don’t care to answer that. How was your vacation?
So reply briefly that you don’t care to discuss it and immediately redirect the conservation.
Hope you recover quickly!
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kibblesandbits
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Post by kibblesandbits on Feb 24, 2019 13:14:05 GMT
I can't really say MYOB b/c she's the type of person who's very persistent, nosy, and loves to give unsolicited advice. I really don't want to be rude about it b/c we'll also still have to work together. So my question is, what do I tell her when she asks why I was out for a couple weeks? I also have a couple of follow up doctor appointments that I have to go to as well. Don't know why you're worried about being rude, it doesn't seem to bother her any. Say any of the wonderful responses provided by the peas. Then shut up and stare at her.
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flute4peace
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Post by flute4peace on Feb 24, 2019 15:42:46 GMT
I would just tell her that I was sick. The end. No more details needed. Your future dr appts are none of her business. Saying “I have an appt, I will be out xyz” is more than enough information. I like this.
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Post by milocat on Feb 24, 2019 17:39:23 GMT
I would look her straight in the eyes and say, "Why do you want to know?" And then just look at her with a confused look on your face. It's worked for me before with one of those nosey busybodies. That was my MIL with the small town gossips. Or once she just gave a blank stare and walked away.
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