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Post by gar on Mar 10, 2019 8:10:31 GMT
I have no suggestions. I just wanted to chime in to say that I'm sorry that you're in this situation. Me too, I am sorry.
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cycworker
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Post by cycworker on Mar 10, 2019 9:12:48 GMT
No idea re the jewelry. I am very sorry about your divorce, though. Never easy.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Mar 10, 2019 9:59:26 GMT
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Post by doxiesx3 on Mar 10, 2019 12:12:25 GMT
Maybe tuck them away for later...your kids may want them. I am recently divorced and my 16 year old dd wears my wedding ring on her middle finger on her right hand and my ex-dh's wedding band on her thumb of her left hand. We had very unique, non-traditional rings so they do not resemble wedding rings. We had spinner rings made after the kids were born and had all of our names engraved on them. The inside of mine says "Always together, no further apart" and his said "Just a wish away". The quotes reflected all of his deployments. My dd loved those rings and wanted them.
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iluvpink
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Post by iluvpink on Mar 10, 2019 12:33:10 GMT
I am so sorry to hear about your divorce. (((HUGS)))
As for the jewelry, years ago when gold was high and we were broke, I just took a bunch of stuff to a local jeweler with a good reputation. Everyone I knew was selling then, so that was apparently the best place in town. It sounds like gold is low right now so you might want to wait if you can. If not, maybe try a local jeweler with a good rep.
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scrappinmama
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Post by scrappinmama on Mar 10, 2019 13:12:41 GMT
I'm so sorry, MaryMary. I willl keep you in my prayers.
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Post by peace on Mar 10, 2019 13:26:42 GMT
I'm so sorry you are going through this- and welcome to the club?? If it is any consolation at ALL- there is a light at the end of your darkness. Really and truly. The road is bumpy and sometimes seems endless but then it appears. And you can breathe again. And you will find yourself. Things get better. That I promise. Stay strong. Hugs all around.
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julie5
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Post by julie5 on Mar 10, 2019 13:33:20 GMT
I sold my second wedding set at a pawn shop. I got $75. It was worth $800. I kept my first set for my kids. I’ve chosen wrong a few times. Don’t beat yourself up. They don’t always reveal their true selves. Hugs.
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Post by NanaKate on Mar 10, 2019 14:57:58 GMT
I am so sorry to hear about the divorce. I too followed your blog back in the day and always enjoyed the pics of your home and family. I said all that to say I feel like I “know” you. (((HUGS))) to you and all the best to you and your family during this difficult time. ❤️
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YooHoot
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Post by YooHoot on Mar 10, 2019 14:59:07 GMT
I’m so sorry. Life changes can be good or bad...I hope the good comes soon!
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purplebee
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Post by purplebee on Mar 10, 2019 15:45:50 GMT
Sorry to hear about your troubles. It's no fun to go through a split. Wishing you happiness once the divorce is final.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Mar 10, 2019 16:05:08 GMT
In a ginormous fit of anger, I threw my rings in a lake! No one was having my bad juju...lol...
But, my DD asked about my rings a few years ago and I felt very sad because she would have liked to have them. And I didn't have them to give. I just share this story because I know you have kids. They might like to have these items. Just something to think about. Hugs, sister.
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Post by auntkelly on Mar 10, 2019 16:14:23 GMT
I'm sorry about the divorce.
I definitely wouldn't sell the pearls. You'll only get a fraction of the retail price. Pearls never go out of style and although you may have to get them restrung every once in a while, they are not like rings, whose settings can look very dated. You'll have a daughter or granddaughter who will treasure the pearls someday because they came from you.
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Post by bunnyhug on Mar 10, 2019 16:48:32 GMT
When my aunt got divorced, she had her ring melted down and made into a custom ring by a local artisan. It fits her middle finger and is a wonderful, modern, swooping design that symbolizes her new life/rebirth after divorce. If she hadn’t told you, you wouldn’t have any idea of the previous form of the ring—she still wears it often, now alongside her new wedding ring from her second marriage! I wouldn’t have thought to do a re-working of a ring, but it was a great option!
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Post by lurkyloo on Mar 10, 2019 17:38:39 GMT
I got rid of a lot of things, once my divorce was inevitable. But I read something that said the kids see the marriage as the thing that created them, it’s their origin story, so I am holding onto the few pieces of jewelry gifts, and two or three other gifts they might be sentimental about in the future. I used up my resentful house clearing on all the other things he had given me as gifts, all the furniture that was his that he left, etc. Once the house was clear, it became less of an emotional burden to have those rings tucked away. For now.
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Post by ~summer~ on Mar 10, 2019 17:45:22 GMT
Sorry to hear you’ve had such a rough time
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Post by Deleted on Mar 10, 2019 18:08:58 GMT
I'm SO very sorry, MaryMary!! I understand the devastation of the demise of a marriage. I was with my ex from 1980 until 2008. LONG time.......... I thought that he was "the one", and he probably was, for a long time. Things change. No one can judge! I wish you the best going forward, with the least aggravation and swindling. It happens even when you're SURE that it won't!
As for your jewelry, anything that could be remounted, I had that done. Sadly, most of the good pieces of jewelry, I paid for myself (should have been a clue!)......... so it meant something to me! I sold the settings though, and used that $$ to remount the jewels into necklaces, etc........... Jewels don't make back too much $$, but gold or white gold (or platinum)does. Go to a reliable jeweler (not the kind in the middle of the mall--they notoriously have fake scales that weigh your jewelry too lightly!). Ask around for someone trusted. Don't rush, if you can help it!
Lastly, if you're looking to sell the entire thing, then try putting it up on eBay, Facebook, etc., and see what you could get. You could also see what gold is going for online to go that way.
I wish you the best!
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Post by used2scrap on Mar 10, 2019 18:35:55 GMT
I’m sorry you keep having to the announce you’re getting a divorce!
I’ve put my engagement/wedding/anniversary bands away for now and hope to have them remade into something I want someday.
Be gentle with yourself.
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kibblesandbits
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Post by kibblesandbits on Mar 10, 2019 18:39:57 GMT
Unless you need the money (and frankly, they'd have to be some HONKING pearls and diamonds to be of any real $$$$$) then why not put them away for your daughters?
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kate
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Post by kate on Mar 10, 2019 18:45:45 GMT
I'm so sorry you're going through this hard time.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 10, 2019 19:35:03 GMT
I have mine locked away in my safe. I haven't yet decided what I'm doing with them. (my divorce was final almost 3 yrs ago) I'm pretty sure I do not want to give them to my kids. I've thought about selling them, but have also thought about remounting the stones into something and melting the gold for money for new setting.
I'm sorry to hear about your divorce. Two words of advice 1) get the best attorney 2) don't do anything in haste. (and that includes disposing of marital jewelry)
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Post by theroadlesstraveledp on Mar 10, 2019 19:43:32 GMT
I am so sorry to hear about your divorce. (((HUGS))) As for the jewelry, years ago when gold was high and we were broke, I just took a bunch of stuff to a local jeweler with a good reputation. Everyone I knew was selling then, so that was apparently the best place in town. It sounds like gold is low right now so you might want to wait if you can. If not, maybe try a local jeweler with a good rep. I also think this is a good idea. They might also give you more than what a company that buys gold will as well. Sending you hugs.
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Post by scrapmaven on Mar 10, 2019 20:08:58 GMT
I'm sorry that you're going through this nightmare. For now, can you put the jewelry away? You are going to have an ex husband, but your dd's will still have their father. They might want the jewelry for that reason or even to remind them of happier times. I wish you peace and healing.
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scrapngranny
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Post by scrapngranny on Mar 10, 2019 20:49:46 GMT
I’m sorry you are going through such a rough time. I hope your future is lot brighter.
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mimima
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Post by mimima on Mar 10, 2019 22:41:48 GMT
Oh, hon. I'm so sorry. Much love and lots of prayers.
I have no idea on the jewelry, sorry.
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Post by grate on Mar 11, 2019 1:31:52 GMT
so sorry you are going through a tough time. Hang in there.
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Post by mikklynn on Mar 11, 2019 2:11:16 GMT
I'm wishing better days ahead for you.
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azredhead
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Post by azredhead on Mar 11, 2019 2:13:04 GMT
NO advice here either just want to give you a hug!
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Post by cakediva on Mar 11, 2019 2:18:58 GMT
Add me to the list of people who have no selling advice, but just want to offer you hugs. So sorry you're having a rough go. I know I'm just a Pea in a sea of Peas, but I was a regular blog follower so it makes me feel like I actually "know" you - so hugs....
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Post by scrappinmom3 on Mar 11, 2019 2:23:58 GMT
You are a great mom and you will carry on. All the best. ❤️
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