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Post by idahomom on Mar 11, 2019 20:54:35 GMT
My husband wants to give him a pistol engraved with a message. That's fine and manly and all, but I'm trying to think of something special from me to my son. Any wonderful ideas? Did you give something special to your daughter-in-law?
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Post by workingclassdog on Mar 11, 2019 21:01:11 GMT
Back when I got married we didn't receive any gifts like that from my (or his parents). They paid for the reception and wedding (between both sets of parents). That was enough for us and lots of money. My mom (divorced from my dad) did buy me a wedding Precious Moments that I wanted and probably a few other things.
Is this a thing now? (Thinking of my kids when or if they get married.. lol)
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Post by idahomom on Mar 11, 2019 21:07:01 GMT
See?!?! This is why I ask. Traditions seemed to have changed. I reminded my son that traditionally each set of parents pay for parts of the wedding. I thought groom's parents paid for rehearsal dinner and alcohol at the reception. Apparently rehearsal dinners aren't always done now. He also said that all the couples they know paid for their wedding themselves and that's what he plans to do. I don't plan to buy a random gift off their registry, but have gotten a metal wall fancy monogram that they can hang inside or outside their home, and will likely give a gift of cash. I guess I need to know what's expected these days.  |
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Post by iowgirl on Mar 11, 2019 21:09:44 GMT
We paid for the wedding, so no gifts. I am not anti-gun in any way shape or form... but a pistol for a wedding gift seems... odd. Great for a birthday or even Christmas! But if my father-in-law had given my husband a pistol at the wedding.. I'd be giving him the side-eye for sure...  |
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Post by hop2 on Mar 11, 2019 21:15:47 GMT
My parents gave me $1000
His parents also a check but I don’t remember how much
My parents did not pay for any part of my wedding
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Post by idahomom on Mar 11, 2019 21:16:27 GMT
I told him it's kinda weird. His thought is that our son borrows his gun when he goes camping so he would give him one and engrave it. My husband isn't a very deep sensitive emotional man and thinks his idea is fabulous so I won't rain on his party. I'll just let it be a guy thing. I won't allow him to give it at the wedding though - maybe privately the day before or something.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 11, 2019 21:17:35 GMT
My parents paid for most of our wedding. DH's parents are divorced. MIL gave us cash. FIL, when he found out MIL gave us more than he did, sent more money. No special gifts were given to us by the parents but DH's grandparents went overboard on giving us gifts that had our wedding date on them. I have three frames, two albums and some paper weight thing with our names and wedding date on them.
We will likely offer to pay for something and give a small cash gift. I like to cross stitch so if I am still doing it when my sons get married, I might make a sampler or something.
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Mar 11, 2019 21:19:36 GMT
I’ve never heard of that but I can tell you that if my husband knew he would be getting a gun each time he got married I would have a few sister wives by now lol
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Post by librarylady on Mar 11, 2019 21:46:15 GMT
what she said..........
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Post by bigbundt on Mar 11, 2019 21:47:17 GMT
I've been married twice and neither time did the groom or me receive any sort of special gift from the parents. First time the parents paid for the wedding so no other gifts. Second time we paid for wedding and my parents gave us their wedding china and his parents gave us a set of sheets. Some of my friends got things like help with down payments on houses or an heirloom piece of jewelry but they were in the minority. Most received monetary gifts or one of the more expensive gifts on the registries.
I consider it a nice to do but not anything "required". If you husband wants to give something meaningful between them, that is nice. Seems like a very man to man sort of gift, "Something for you now that you are the man of your own house".
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Post by Zee on Mar 11, 2019 21:47:55 GMT
I’ve never heard of that but I can tell you that if my husband knew he would be getting a gun each time he got married I would have a few sister wives by now lol 🤣🤣🤣 |
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Post by Zee on Mar 11, 2019 21:49:08 GMT
I haven't encountered this with my own kids yet but I think I would give them cash. I have no idea what else my son would really like, he's very hard to buy for!
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Post by Deleted on Mar 11, 2019 21:55:23 GMT
I got my SIL a fancy monogrammed hankie from Etsy to wipe my DDs tears if needed during the ceremony (no tears though!!).
Sort of "manly" but not a gun... his father made them a knife to cut their cake. Your DH happen to make knives???
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Post by AngieJoy on Mar 11, 2019 22:18:55 GMT
What about having a pocket watch engraved? That’s likely what I will do for my son, as he’s a pocket watch kinda guy.
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Post by idahomom on Mar 11, 2019 22:21:57 GMT
That came up in my search of ideas, but I don't think that's him. I'm probably overthinking things. |
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Post by rasberrycpa on Mar 11, 2019 22:28:00 GMT
My daughter got married last summer and my husband and I paid for the wedding while my son in law’s parents paid for the rehearsal dinner.
The new in laws bought my daughter a sapphire necklace which matched her engagement ring and we bought our new son in law monogrammed cuff links. We had coordinated this in advance and gave them to the kids at the rehearsal dinner.
We did not buy them a joint wedding gift per se (we paid for the wedding, so we did not feel obligated to buy a gift on top of that), however, we did pay for a room at a very nice hotel for the night of their wedding.
Weddings are very expensive and I’m glad we only have one other daughter 😊
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Post by camcas on Mar 11, 2019 22:35:25 GMT
My husband wants to give him a pistol engraved with a message. That's fine and manly and all, but I'm trying to think of something special from me to my son. Any wonderful ideas? Did you give something special to your daughter-in-law? Do you mean ...as in a gun...for a wedding....  ?😵😵😵😵😵😵😵😵😵😵 |
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Post by idahomom on Mar 11, 2019 22:56:07 GMT
Not like wrapped and put on the gift table. More like a private father/son moment maybe the day before the wedding. I know, I know - I think it's odd too. But I get that my husband wants to give him a gun so he doesn't borrow his anymore for camping trips, target shooting, etc. It's Idaho - lots of people own guns. I've never shot one in my life and likely never will.
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Post by jenjie on Mar 11, 2019 23:07:39 GMT
I think a sentimental gift is a lovely idea.
Our wedding was very traditional. My parents paid for the wedding, my dress, flowers, etc and the dishes we registered for. His parents paid for the rehearsal dinner and the silverware set we registered for.
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Mar 12, 2019 0:11:22 GMT
If they don't want help paying for the Wedding, then as a gift give him/them a check for whatever amount you would have contributed to Wedding expenses.
For a more personalized gift, you could give them one of the signs that say "Son name" and Daughter-in-law name" Established "date here."
If your Husband wants to give him a personal gift, then don't stand in the way after. I would give it in private a few days before the Wedding.
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Post by snyder on Mar 12, 2019 0:20:21 GMT
Never really heard of special gifts, but a wedding gift together such as the cash, etc. If you and your husband give your son something and his wife-to-be's parents do not give her special gifts, will that be awkward for her?
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Post by wendifful on Mar 12, 2019 0:46:46 GMT
Not sure what your son does for a living, but this Etsy shop makes engraved wooden ornaments with different professions on them. They're quite reasonable and could be neat! Another fun idea could be to put together a box of cards for him to give to his new wife. If you're crafty, you could make these yourself or you could buy some and put them in a box so that he has some nice cards for different occasions. (I did this once for my brother to give to his girlfriend and he loved it, said I was "making him look good.") Also, what about ordering some custom address label stickers (like off Shutterfly) that have the couple's name and address? |
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Post by PEAcan pie on Mar 12, 2019 0:53:48 GMT
I told him it's kinda weird. His thought is that our son borrows his gun when he goes camping so he would give him one and engrave it. My husband isn't a very deep sensitive emotional man and thinks his idea is fabulous so I won't rain on his party. I'll just let it be a guy thing. I won't allow him to give it at the wedding though - maybe privately the day before or something. I am in the same camp as odd, but I am not a gun person either. |
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Post by ~summer~ on Mar 12, 2019 0:59:40 GMT
My patents paid for most of our wedding but they did also buy a small tree for our new house - we had a new house and I was landscaping so it was really nice. And the tree was as you went up some stairs to our front door so it was really nice.
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Post by tincin on Mar 12, 2019 1:06:37 GMT
My husband wants to give him a pistol engraved with a message. That's fine and manly and all, but I'm trying to think of something special from me to my son. Any wonderful ideas? Did you give something special to your daughter-in-law? I gave my oldest son the first pair of diamond earrings his father gave me. My DS’s ears are pierced. To my knowledge he has never worn them but they are his now. When my youngest DS gets married I will likely give him the first ring his father gave me. I don’t see that happening any time soon though. I also gave ave them a nice check to help cover the wedding expenses. They have 4 parents since both sets of parents are divorced. I don’t know what the others paid or did but I told them it was their money to do with what they want. They told me they paid for the honeymoon with it. I also gave them a smaller check for the wedding. I’d planned to buy them the Kitchenaid mixer they wanted but her Dad beat me to it. So I gave them a check instead. |
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Post by Linda on Mar 12, 2019 1:52:39 GMT
my son isn't married yet and DH and I didn't have a traditional wedding (we eloped)...I think if jewellery is appropriate/traditional for a daughter (which I seem to think it might be) then cufflinks might be the equivalent for a son.
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Post by julieb on Mar 12, 2019 2:08:52 GMT
There are some nice watches with sayings engraved on the back of them that are really nice. A few say "remember you can always find your way back home"....you don't want those. lol But google and maybe you will see something that he might like.
We got our son one for Christmas, as he moved to another state last year, and it was really special.
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Post by lancermom on Mar 12, 2019 2:33:58 GMT
When my husband was a groomsman in a wedding g he got cuff links. He wore those to every wedding there after. Even to our wedding. When our house was broken into, they were stolen. So when DD gets married, I am going to buy him a new pair.
Just a thought?!?
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Post by utmr on Mar 12, 2019 2:41:12 GMT
. I like to cross stitch so if I am still doing it when my sons get married, I might make a sampler or something. My uncle’s wife made a beautiful cross stitch for my brothers first wedding. After they divorced, my mom took the cross stitch, picked out the stitching of the now-ex-wife’s name and reconfigured it to have with mom and dads names. She hung it up with her (moms) wedding pictures and now I have it in my house. Lol |
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Post by bc2ca on Mar 12, 2019 4:24:49 GMT
If DH was giving a gun, I'd be giving a gun safe.  My in-laws gave me a silver tea set. The tray was used in our wedding ceremony. My parents gave us cash and let us decide whether to use it for the wedding or whatever else we wanted. |
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