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Post by luvnlifelady on Mar 21, 2019 14:42:36 GMT
My new guy has 6 cats. Yes, I realize that's a lot of cats. I left my two back with my mom in CA because she is bonded to them. Anyway, only one of the 6 is a boy (neutered) and he's about 15 pounds at least. From what I understand, he's a Bengal, about a year old, with papers but we don't have those at the moment. My guy got him from someone because his previous owner died. If I think it's a good idea, I am pretty sure my bf would be on board.
He recently sold his 3 bedroom house with basement and the cats had the run of the whole place. We are now in a 2 bedroom apartment and I just feel like this cat in particular needs more space. We may get another house eventually but no telling when that might be.
I would hate to re-home him but if we did, I would want to find someone with adequate room so this kitty could have room to play and roam a bit. Maybe not outdoors but at least inside. I would have to be careful though that someone didn't want him just to turn around and sell him.
Would you re-home him?
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Mar 21, 2019 14:46:55 GMT
what makes you think that one cat out of the six doesn't have enough room?
ETA: No, I wouldn't rehome him unless I knew from a vet or certified animal type person, that I was doing the cat a disservice by keeping him.
They are your guy's cats though, right? so no need for you to worry about it.
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Post by mom26 on Mar 21, 2019 14:47:29 GMT
No. I have a cat who weighs 22 lbs and another that is 16 lbs and my house is pretty small. They're happy as pigs in mud and it would NEVER occur to me to 'rehome' because my house isn't big enough.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 21, 2019 14:48:38 GMT
Nope. Because that is not my cat and not my decision. If your bf ever came to you with his concern about re homing the cat, then I would share my concerns. But until then, I would keep my mouth shut and get stimulating toys for the cat(s) as well as play with them more
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Post by Deleted on Mar 21, 2019 14:50:01 GMT
Also, build stairs with wall mounted shelves. That will give him more room
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Post by luvnlifelady on Mar 21, 2019 14:50:27 GMT
what makes you think that one cat out of the six doesn't have enough room? Sometimes watching him, he reminds me of a panther or "big cat" at the zoo, just wandering his enclosure but really wanting more room to roam. Also, he sometimes claws at the furniture/cabinets sometimes and is exhibiting some other behavior that leads me to think he might be frustrated or agitated. I bought them a large cat tree, cat tunnel and other toys to keep them occupied but he still seems antsy. |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 21, 2019 14:51:28 GMT
what makes you think that one cat out of the six doesn't have enough room? Sometimes watching him, he reminds me of a panther or "big cat" at the zoo, just wandering his enclosure but really wanting more room to roam. Also, he sometimes claws at the furniture/cabinets sometimes and is exhibiting some other behavior that leads me to think he might be frustrated or agitated. I bought them a large cat tree, cat tunnel and other toys to keep them occupied but he still seems antsy. He is bored. Bengals need a ton of mental stimulation. |
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Post by luvnlifelady on Mar 21, 2019 14:51:50 GMT
Nope. Because that is not my cat and not my decision. If your bf ever came to you with his concern about re homing the cat, then I would share my concerns. But until then, I would keep my mouth shut and get stimulating toys for the cat(s) as well as play with them more I did randomly ask him to rank the cats last night according to his personal favorite and this cat was at the bottom for him and probably about third or fourth for me but we love all of them. |
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Post by luvnlifelady on Mar 21, 2019 14:52:33 GMT
Sometimes watching him, he reminds me of a panther or "big cat" at the zoo, just wandering his enclosure but really wanting more room to roam. Also, he sometimes claws at the furniture/cabinets sometimes and is exhibiting some other behavior that leads me to think he might be frustrated or agitated. I bought them a large cat tree, cat tunnel and other toys to keep them occupied but he still seems antsy. He is bored. Bengals need a ton of mental stimulation. That's sort of what I was thinking. He's unique amongst the group we have. |
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Post by luvnlifelady on Mar 21, 2019 14:53:43 GMT
Also, build stairs with wall mounted shelves. That will give him more room That's a good idea. Not sure what we are allowed to mount in the apartment but as long as we could fix any screw holes in the walls, it shouldn't be too much of a problem. |
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Mar 21, 2019 14:54:41 GMT
what makes you think that one cat out of the six doesn't have enough room? Sometimes watching him, he reminds me of a panther or "big cat" at the zoo, just wandering his enclosure but really wanting more room to roam. Also, he sometimes claws at the furniture/cabinets sometimes and is exhibiting some other behavior that leads me to think he might be frustrated or agitated. I bought them a large cat tree, cat tunnel and other toys to keep them occupied but he still seems antsy. It's your guy's cat though. I wouldn't meddle. I also wouldn't bring it up. For all you know, you moving in might be what has agitated his cat. Maybe your guy realizes it, and is just hoping kitty calms down. |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 21, 2019 14:55:34 GMT
They also need physical exercise and getting them used to a leash is a good idea.
Jackson Galaxy has lots of info on Bengals and other "wild" pet cats. Look him up
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Post by luvnlifelady on Mar 21, 2019 14:56:12 GMT
what makes you think that one cat out of the six doesn't have enough room? ETA: No, I wouldn't rehome him unless I knew from a vet or certified animal type person, that I was doing the cat a disservice by keeping him. They are your guy's cats though, right? so no need for you to worry about it. Yes, they are his cats but I am home more with them and notice more of the "bored" behaviors. Also, the scratching of cabinets/doors could damage the apartment so that is a concern. |
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Post by luvnlifelady on Mar 21, 2019 14:58:01 GMT
Sometimes watching him, he reminds me of a panther or "big cat" at the zoo, just wandering his enclosure but really wanting more room to roam. Also, he sometimes claws at the furniture/cabinets sometimes and is exhibiting some other behavior that leads me to think he might be frustrated or agitated. I bought them a large cat tree, cat tunnel and other toys to keep them occupied but he still seems antsy. It's your guy's cat though. I wouldn't meddle. I also wouldn't bring it up. For all you know, you moving in might be what has agitated his cat. Maybe your guy realizes it, and is just hoping kitty calms down. I suppose that's possible but he seemed fine when we were all at the house. He is friendlier to me though than he is to my bf. He commented last night that he doesn't come up to him like he maybe used to. |
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Post by luvnlifelady on Mar 21, 2019 14:59:14 GMT
They also need physical exercise and getting them used to a leash is a good idea. Jackson Galaxy has lots of info on Bengals and other "wild" pet cats. Look him up Is that the guy that also has the TV show? We were watching him a bit recently. I have thought about trying to get him outside on a leash. Now that it's warmer, I will give that a try. |
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Post by mom on Mar 21, 2019 15:36:37 GMT
Sometimes watching him, he reminds me of a panther or "big cat" at the zoo, just wandering his enclosure but really wanting more room to roam. Also, he sometimes claws at the furniture/cabinets sometimes and is exhibiting some other behavior that leads me to think he might be frustrated or agitated. I bought them a large cat tree, cat tunnel and other toys to keep them occupied but he still seems antsy.
I also wouldn't bring it up. For all you know, you moving in might be what has agitated his cat. Maybe your guy realizes it, and is just hoping kitty calms down.
All of this. If I had suggested to give away one of my DH's pets when we were dating, he would have shown me the door. Not the pet. The reality is, girl/boyfriends come and go. But our pets should be forever. Also? You've been there 3 months or so, plus a move? Thats a bunch of 'new' in a short period of time. Maybe the cat needs some time to adjust. |
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Post by scrapmaven on Mar 21, 2019 15:42:08 GMT
Get a copy of Catify to Satisfy by Jackson Galaxy. Your kitty needs more stimulation. Certain types of toys work well for certain types of cats. Not every cat wants to chase a pink mouse. KWIM? 6 cats in a 2 bedroom apartment seems like a lot of cats, but they belong to your bf. So, I wouldn't mention re-homing, but I would catify the place as much as your lease permits.
Also, are everyone's claws trimmed? That's a 2 person job here. One person holds kitty, scruffs him, kisses him, gives him love while the other person does the mani/padi. It goes quickly that way and we do it about once per month. Afterwards everyone gets cat treats. Have you tried different types of scratching posts? It's not one size fits all. I have one cat who likes to stretch upward and scratch and one who likes to reach fwd to scratch. |
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Post by allison1954 on Mar 21, 2019 15:47:42 GMT
I’m stunned anyone would rent to someone with 6 cats
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Post by freebird on Mar 21, 2019 15:55:52 GMT
No, I wouldn't. I'd be trying to find new ways to keep the cat entertained. Plus, it's not even my cat. Plus, I'm an interloper into his space. Plus, cat just had a big move. Plus, plus, plus...
I can assure you, that you are at the bottom of the cat's favorites list. LOL
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Post by Heathen on Mar 21, 2019 15:59:45 GMT
Sometimes watching him, he reminds me of a panther or "big cat" at the zoo, just wandering his enclosure but really wanting more room to roam. Also, he sometimes claws at the furniture/cabinets sometimes and is exhibiting some other behavior that leads me to think he might be frustrated or agitated. I bought them a large cat tree, cat tunnel and other toys to keep them occupied but he still seems antsy. He is bored. Bengals need a ton of mental stimulation. If he is a Bengal. Ordinary tabbies are frequently passed off as Bengals or Savannahs. Not your cat, not your choice. If you're worried about cabinets and such, trim his claws and get a squirt bottle. |
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Post by drummergirl65 on Mar 21, 2019 16:05:30 GMT
All the cats are neutered? If not, that's something that should be done. I'd play a lot more with this one that's for sure. Have you looked at getting Feliway? I've used it and it worked wonders. It may help with all those cats too
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Post by AnimalRescuePea on Mar 21, 2019 16:05:41 GMT
I’m stunned anyone would rent to someone with 6 cats You're assuming they were honest about how many they have. |
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Mar 21, 2019 16:12:50 GMT
No, never.
What I would do is start taking the non fixed cats one by one to get fixed though.
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Post by gryroagain on Mar 21, 2019 16:24:30 GMT
I’m a bit shocked by the jump to “the other cats aren’t fixed” and “being dishonest about the cats”, frankly. We moved to South Korea (not exactly a cat loving place) with 4 and rent a place just fine. Geez. She mentioned he specifically was fixed because obviously the behavior would be that otherwise, but surely the rest are? I mean who lives with 5 u fixed cats?! Or even 1?!
The move and changes are probably bothering him. It takes some cats a while to settle. He also may need more stimulation in the reduced space, look at Catastrophic Creations on Instagram for ideas but easily reproduced using IKEA shelves and such. I drool over their stuff but have rigged up similar for a fraction of the cost along a bookshelf, since we can’t put holes in the wall. I’ll take a photo when my phone is charged, it’s brilliant and the cats (down to 2 ours and one hanger on former street cat my daughter brought in) love it.
And ultimately, it has to be him deciding and thinking. You can offer advice as you are there most on what you see, but recommending rehoming is just not right. They are his cats, no matter who is the favorite. Suggesting that is just awful, but noting how the cat is is fine, IMO.
But mostly, time. Cats don’t do well with change.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 21, 2019 16:33:15 GMT
Do you think he might be ok with a harness so you could take him out for walks? Bengals love a lot of physical activity. Try teaching him to play fetch.
Honestly, my mother made me give my cat away, I still hate her for it so I wouldn't mention rehoming him.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 21, 2019 16:56:44 GMT
I’m stunned anyone would rent to someone with 6 cats You're assuming they were honest about how many they have. She is in Pittsburgh,I think a lot of landlords are pretty liberal about pets in rentals. At least that is what I have seen. Although, 6 is pushing it. |
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Post by MichyM on Mar 21, 2019 18:09:05 GMT
Bengals need exercise and the opportunity to "hunt" (AKA played with) MUCH more than other cats need. If you don't have the time/interest to keep him busy then yes, he'd likely be happier in another home. If you decide to rehome him and he's papered (even if he's not papered I'd contact them), I would HIGHLY recommend contacting a Bengal rescue to find the suitable home for him. You should be able to keep him with you to minimize the trauma to the cat while they look for the right home for him.
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Post by MichyM on Mar 21, 2019 18:13:32 GMT
They also need physical exercise and getting them used to a leash is a good idea. Jackson Galaxy has lots of info on Bengals and other "wild" pet cats. Look him up Is that the guy that also has the TV show? We were watching him a bit recently. I have thought about trying to get him outside on a leash. Now that it's warmer, I will give that a try. Do some googling and youtubing beforehand. With a grown cat its typically a lengthy process to get them there. |
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Post by QueenoftheSloths on Mar 21, 2019 18:15:29 GMT
They also need physical exercise and getting them used to a leash is a good idea. Jackson Galaxy has lots of info on Bengals and other "wild" pet cats. Look him up Is that the guy that also has the TV show? We were watching him a bit recently. I have thought about trying to get him outside on a leash. Now that it's warmer, I will give that a try. This was going to be my suggestion! |
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Post by MichyM on Mar 21, 2019 18:15:53 GMT
They also need physical exercise and getting them used to a leash is a good idea. Jackson Galaxy has lots of info on Bengals and other "wild" pet cats. Look him up I should have read the thread before replying. Pretty much ditto to everything @calimom2 has posted. |
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