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Post by mikklynn on Apr 18, 2019 13:11:27 GMT
I do understand! I graduated from college when my kids were in their 20's. They didn't attend and I was really, really hurt.
Congratulations. This is a BIG achievement. Be proud. Go to commencement and celebrate!
ETA - There in NOTHING petty about your feelings.
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Post by momto4kiddos on Apr 18, 2019 13:17:47 GMT
Congratulations on your accomplishment! I'm glad you're planning a little celebration for yourself, you definitely deserve it.
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Post by candygurl on Apr 18, 2019 13:19:52 GMT
Congratulations! Sorry they don’t want to come out. It’s a big deal whether your a college student or parent with kids.
I think your kids need to sit and watch it. To see all the hard work you and others went through. Do u have a family friend that can sit with them? They are old enough to have you sit and talk with them and tell them what all three of you went through to get here.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 18, 2019 13:44:44 GMT
Congratulations!
Although I haven't been in your position but I can somehow understand your sadness. Walking across that stage is a visual confirmation of all your hard work and understandably. you would have liked your parents to share that vision of achievement with you. I think that is a natural wish and I'm sorry that they didn't do so. I'm sure they are very proud of you in their own way. Could you possible hire a cap and gown and have some official photos done maybe, for you and for your children later, as a visual memory of your well earned achievement. Maybe follow the photo shoot with a nice meal.
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Post by utmr on Apr 18, 2019 15:28:50 GMT
I am so proud of you and happy for this great accomplishment! Going back later in life is so much harder than going right out of high school. You've worked so hard, and done so well while juggling family life. Hugs and high fives to you!!!
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Post by maryland on Apr 18, 2019 15:45:58 GMT
Congratulations on your achievement! You should be very proud of yourself! We are all really proud of you.
Sorry you missed the deadline and your children and parents didn't want to go. But maybe they just didn't realize it was important to you? At least your parents were supportive enough to pay for your first year, and encourage you after that. Many times I don't feel like my parents "get it" either. They blow off something I am excited about because it doesn't interest them.
But you did it! Great job! Two of my kids are in college and they say how tough it is. But all they have to worry about is themselves. You have all that, plus a family to raise. I am very impressed with what you accomplished!
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Post by peasquared on Apr 18, 2019 15:49:08 GMT
First, I am so sorry you are hurting. I truly understand your disappointment. Second, Congratulations! We are so proud of you!
May this be a turning point in your life, where only positive and uplifting things are in your future. You deserve wonderful things in your life!
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Post by freebird on Apr 18, 2019 15:56:39 GMT
What you did was harder than what a 22 year old can do. Much harder. Congratulations on the hard work and determination. I wish you were closer, I'd go to your graduation. Very proud of you. great job!!
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Post by Deleted on Apr 18, 2019 16:11:53 GMT
Congratulations to you! The significance of your graduation is not enhanced by nor diminished by whether you walk in the ceremony or anyone is there to see it. Your accomplishment stands on its own!
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Post by cadoodlebug on Apr 18, 2019 16:19:55 GMT
I am so sorry to hear your family won't join you for this wonderful accomplishment. Hearing your story I am super proud of you!!! ![](http://i.imgur.com/Ofv0Sh4.gif)
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Post by inkedup on Apr 18, 2019 16:20:40 GMT
Congratulations on this huge success!!!
I'm sorry you are feeling sad. I would feel sad, too. I'd come cheer for you if you were close enough.
You should be so proud of yourself. Your peas are very proud of you!!!
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Post by deekaye on Apr 18, 2019 16:24:16 GMT
Awww, you aren't being petty. Graduating college is a HUGE thing!! I'm sorry you missed the deadline... we could have had a virtual party here on Twopeas and cheered for you!! When do you graduate? We can still all get on and raise a virtual glass to you! Congrats. That's quite an accomplishment!
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Post by likescarrots on Apr 18, 2019 16:37:55 GMT
Congratulations! I would have a little (or big if you know a lot of people) party to celebrate.
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Post by craftymom101 on Apr 18, 2019 16:53:18 GMT
Thank you so much for all of the congratulations! I am feeling a lot better about the situation. ![:)](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/MNrJDkDuSwqIMVw33MdD.jpg) My boyfriend and I are not in a great place right now. He received an award at work (no +1s were allowed to attend due to space so I wasn't there, but I absolutely would have gone if invited) and I wished him congratulations for his achievements. When I mentioned today that I would like to go out next week to celebrate my graduation with a drink he responded that I should take him out instead since he won an award. I guess I will be buying my own drink, and his, next week!
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Post by christine58 on Apr 18, 2019 18:35:14 GMT
Thank you so much for all of the congratulations! I am feeling a lot better about the situation. ![:)](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/MNrJDkDuSwqIMVw33MdD.jpg) My boyfriend and I are not in a great place right now. He received an award at work (no +1s were allowed to attend due to space so I wasn't there, but I absolutely would have gone if invited) and I wished him congratulations for his achievements. When I mentioned today that I would like to go out next week to celebrate my graduation with a drink he responded that I should take him out instead since he won an award. I guess I will be buying my own drink, and his, next week! Time for a new boyfriend.
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Post by gailoh on Apr 18, 2019 21:33:21 GMT
I still say I will be more then happy to buy you that first drink...more like Granny buying grand daughter one...you deserve better...hugs
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Post by 950nancy on Apr 18, 2019 21:39:24 GMT
craftymom101, We here on 2-P's, you have the Pea family, are very proud of you...so where do I send the money for that drink? Seriously... I totally agree! Please PM me your address. I'd love to send you card. I'm serious.
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Post by ladytrisha on Apr 18, 2019 22:20:25 GMT
Add me to the card list!! PM me!
You've done what I made excuses not to do, although I'm very good about pushing my kid, his friends and even co-workers thru to get their degrees.
Huge congratulations from me - you did something that is so much harder as we get older. Good for you!
(and don't you dare by BF a drink for an award - pffft)
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Post by FurryP on Apr 19, 2019 0:31:31 GMT
craftymom101.......well this is 2 Peas! When is the graduation? Next Friday, or is it Saturday? We can have a party for you right here! I'm inviting sleepingbooty because she is a professional GIF'er. We're going to need some of those.
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Post by kelbel827 on Apr 19, 2019 1:56:57 GMT
Congrats! I did not walk at either ceremony. I don't regret it for a second. If it means that much, ask if it's too late. They may just say OK. If they say no, at least you tried. I say gather friends and just celebrate alone. Have your own ceremony with your kids
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Post by frenchie on Apr 19, 2019 2:24:20 GMT
I'm finishing up my bachelor's degree, four years after my ex-husband and I separated. I started with only a few credits so I needed to finish my AA, then transfer to another college for my Bachelor's degree. In a week I will be done with all of my classes and have my degree. My parents have been so supportive of my studies, paying for my first year of school (I received financial aid for the rest), and generally encouraging my efforts. However, after four years of hard work, they aren't making the effort to fly out for my graduation. I don't have any family in the state and my kids (13 and almost 10) won't want to sit through a 2 hour ceremony. I didn't end up signing up for commencement. I didn't think it was a big deal but the closer I get to finishing, the more I'm disappointed that no one seems to care. Hell, I flew from Ohio to Washington State with a 4 year old and a one year old, by myself!, to attend my sister's college graduation. I'm proud of myself for finishing my degree with an outstanding GPA, but it would be nice if my family was a little excited for me. I guess I just needed a place to vent my sadness. Congratulations on a well deserved accomplishment! You are a wonderful example for your children!
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Post by femalebusiness on Apr 19, 2019 2:39:23 GMT
You deserve to have family and boyfriend tell you how proud and thrilled they are and to celebrate with you. I totally get your disappointment. It makes you feel very alone when they don't. However.....
All us Peas couldn't be prouder of you and more than a few of us understand just how HUGE your accomplishment is.
Congratulations!!
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Post by mikklynn on Apr 19, 2019 12:15:01 GMT
Thank you so much for all of the congratulations! I am feeling a lot better about the situation. ![:)](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/MNrJDkDuSwqIMVw33MdD.jpg) My boyfriend and I are not in a great place right now. He received an award at work (no +1s were allowed to attend due to space so I wasn't there, but I absolutely would have gone if invited) and I wished him congratulations for his achievements. When I mentioned today that I would like to go out next week to celebrate my graduation with a drink he responded that I should take him out instead since he won an award. I guess I will be buying my own drink, and his, next week! What??? It's great he got an award, but WTF? It should not supersede all your years of hard work. Is this a one-off cluelessness or is he like this in general? If he's like this in general, girl, you deserve better.
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Post by mikklynn on Apr 19, 2019 12:17:25 GMT
PM me your address, please. I'll join the Pea party for you!
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Post by twinks on Apr 19, 2019 15:56:25 GMT
Congratulations on your achievement!
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Post by luvnlifelady on Apr 19, 2019 16:40:12 GMT
I get it. I would be disappointed too. Congrats on your amazing accomplishment. I keep saying "one day I will finish my degree" (have a 2 year) but it has yet to happen even 2-1/2 years after marital separation. I admire your tenacity.
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Post by missmcd on Apr 19, 2019 17:00:25 GMT
Another who would love your address to send a card. PM me please!
What you've accomplished is amazing and worth celebrating!
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Post by quietgirl on Apr 19, 2019 17:40:39 GMT
Congratulations! It's an amazing, inspiring and awesome achievement and I am cheering for you. I know it's not the same. But in my eyes, you're terrific!
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Post by LisaDV on Apr 19, 2019 21:52:43 GMT
You are awesome! You deserve to be celebrating and celebrated! It’s a fantastic accomplishment!!! You rock.
Hugs. I’m going to pm you for your address.
Also not to step on your toes, but this boyfriend also did nothing to celebrate your birthday. Maybe you need to re-evaluate if he’s worth it. Because you are worth every thing. You deserve so much more.
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Post by hop2 on Apr 19, 2019 21:54:21 GMT
You are awesome! You deserve to be celebrating and celebrated! It’s a fantastic accomplishment!!! You rock. Hugs. I’m going to pm you for your address. Also not to step on your toes, but this boyfriend also did nothing to celebrate your birthday. Maybe you need to re-evaluate if he’s worth it. Because you are worth every thing. You deserve so much more. i agree
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