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Post by Deleted on Oct 6, 2014 18:33:23 GMT
I'm finding it difficult to journal about my older kids... when they were younger it was so much easier to write about them. I guess now that they are older and seem more self-aware/their own people, it's harder for me to write about what they are like....
Bare facts like "we did this" or favourite books are easy, it's the deeper, more meaningful stuff I struggle with. I'm not sure why, I guess I feel like I'm prescribing too much for them or something?? Is that weird? Does that even make sense?
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Post by kristi on Oct 6, 2014 21:06:58 GMT
I have started asking my daughter to write her own journaling for pages or things that are about her.
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Post by PaperAngel on Oct 6, 2014 21:12:46 GMT
Unfortunately, I can relate. Not only did our now 12 y.o. tell me everything when he was younger, but parents were also heavily involved during preschool through elementary grades. As a middle schooler, he views the world through a different lens & has more outlets (e.g. friends, social media) than just me & Dad in which to share. Plus, his interests, musical tastes, priorities, & aspirations change rapidly as he continues to discover more about & engage in the world around him without us. Since I feel my perspective is incomplete (for lack of a better term), I'm also finding these transition years difficult to document.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 6, 2014 23:35:39 GMT
I think it also depends on the child. My 13 year old daughter talks about EVERYTHING! She could have 10x the number of albums compared to her older brother who is laid back and has a sarcastic sense of humor that is hard to put on paper.
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Post by 950nancy on Oct 6, 2014 23:39:47 GMT
I often quote the things they say. It is hard trying to journal sometimes.
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Post by redshoes on Oct 6, 2014 23:48:50 GMT
How about if you wrote from a perspective of describing them to someone else....their character (disciplined, attentive, encouraging, tons more to choose from here), their strengths/weaknesses (ie stubborn like dad or homebody like mom), goals, interests, etc, and then how that trait/aspect relates to a current situation in their life or at the time of the photos you're scrapping.
Example title: He's So Hard-Working
Journaling: He spent several weeks saving every spare penny doing extra odd jobs around the house to earn money to go on the school field trip. I love how he doesn't mind doing whatever it takes to meet his goal.
That might be a cheesy example but, just an idea.
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Post by Native New Yorker on Oct 6, 2014 23:51:18 GMT
I used to write mushy heartfelt journaling when my son was little. I love him just the same but it's hard to write journaling for my now 20 year old. I have been writing the bare facts since he was a HS senior.
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Post by oaksong on Oct 7, 2014 5:08:01 GMT
I tend to just stick to the facts or simple remarks without much in-depth journalling. In retrospect, I wish I had done more. Your journalling is so creative, Ashley.
Something that works for older kids that is to create lists of who/what they're into at given moments in time. They enjoy looking back on those things.
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Post by tiffanytwisted on Oct 7, 2014 11:57:00 GMT
Unfortunately, I can relate. Not only did our now 12 y.o. tell me everything when he was younger, but parents were also heavily involved during preschool through elementary grades. As a middle schooler, he views the world through a different lens & has more outlets (e.g. friends, social media) than just me & Dad in which to share. Plus, his interests, musical tastes, priorities, & aspirations change rapidly as he continues to discover more about & engage in the world around him without us. Since I feel my perspective is incomplete (for lack of a better term), I'm also finding these transition years difficult to document. I find this to be very true. Add that to the fact that I'm about 10 years behind in my scrapping and about 9 in my photo developing. To get accurate jounaling, I'd have to do it now, while I'm taking the pics and then store it somewhere, hoping to find it when I get around to scrapping those pics. Almost impossible for me. And getting them to journal about themselves is like pulling teeth. I also find that they do so much more when they're younger, so there's more to journal about. Agreed - this is a tough transition. |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 8, 2014 3:58:23 GMT
Thanks, everyone! I'm glad to know I'm not the only one who finds this difficult -- I think your really nailed it, tiffanytwisted, when you said it was a transition. |
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Post by lostwithout2peas on Oct 13, 2014 18:04:47 GMT
I'm finding it difficult to journal on the pages of my Teen son where he was giving us a hard time and was just a PITA, and not very likeable! Sometimes I feel like writing in the journaling, "At this time in your life you just plain sucked to be around." LOL!
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Post by scrapnnana on Oct 13, 2014 22:57:18 GMT
I seem to struggle with journaling, no matter what their age!
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Post by Peamac on Oct 16, 2014 11:43:35 GMT
I enjoy writing, but have a hard time with journalling anything more than the basic what-was-going-on-in-the-photo stuff. I didn't start scrapping until DDs were 13 and 15, so I never got into the mushy/perfect child journalling, and the cute pics I have from when they were little are more action shots since they were taken with a regular camera and printed from film.That said, DDs are now 20 and 22 now, and it's been interesting to see them develop their own personalities through the years and become more self-aware. D [HASH]1 especially, since she's more introverted. I suppose I could journal their younger pics from the perspective of "look how much you've changed/grown/matured" or "now I see the beginnings of who you turned out to be", if that makes sense. I need to bookmark this thread for future reference.
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