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Post by Deleted on May 6, 2019 7:16:20 GMT
TW: Suicide mentioned We just returned from a lovely vacation. On the drive home there was a terrible traffic jam. When we got to the source, we were rerouted off the highway because a man was on the overpass threatening to jump. There were officers everywhere, talking to him, obviously trying to coax him. He was near the side where the embankment is so I thought they were being successful. I just learned that right after we saw him, he jumped and died. They talked to him for more than an hour so I have to believe part of him didn’t want to die. I can’t get the image of him standing there out of my head. He just looked so distraught. It’s surreal to think that just moments after I saw him, he was dead. And I can’t stop thinking about all the officers and even the passersby who witnessed it. Matthew was in the car with me and I’m very glad he didn’t see it. I think about the man’s family and his loved ones and the pain he must’ve been in. My sadness is obviously nothing in comparison to those actually affected by his death, but I’m having trouble shaking it as I try to fall to sleep tonight. From what I could see, he was a very young man too. Life had only just begun for him. Updated: I just learned he was 23, and jumped 7 minutes after we passed him  |
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Post by wellway on May 6, 2019 7:28:33 GMT
Oh, how awful. I'm not surprised you are struggling to sleep. You have had a shock.
Perhaps it would help to do something, if you are religious, perhaps a prayer for the young man and his family. If you are not religious perhaps a donation to a suicide awareness charity.
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Post by Deleted on May 6, 2019 8:17:18 GMT
Thank you. I prayed for him when I saw him, and have been praying since for his loved ones.
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Post by gar on May 6, 2019 8:32:02 GMT
It's a shock to be confronted with the finality of a life and it will take time to process it I'm sure. Tragic events like that will hurt a caring person which you obviously are.
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Post by lesley on May 6, 2019 8:42:25 GMT
I always feel that if someone really wants to take their own life, then all the talking in the world won’t make any difference. But I think there are many many people who find themselves in intolerable situations and think that suicide is the only way out. If they can talk to someone who can help them see that they have other options, then they will grab that lifeline. I’m so sorry you witnessed this young man give up, that must have been really hard.
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Post by J u l e e on May 6, 2019 10:19:32 GMT
I feel other people's grief strongly and this would have affected me the same way. Heck, even reading this has me reflecting on the desperation of a complete stranger and the pain in this world. I never know exactly what to do with it, but I'll sit here with you.
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Post by mikklynn on May 6, 2019 12:33:17 GMT
Oh, my gosh. How sad. I would be as distraught as you are. You have a kind heart!
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Post by crazy4scraps on May 6, 2019 13:30:00 GMT
Something like that would upset me for quite a while too. I’m sorry for all involved, including you and others who witnessed it. I can see how it would be traumatic even for someone just driving past.
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Post by trollie on May 6, 2019 13:45:05 GMT
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Post by tyra on May 6, 2019 16:09:59 GMT
I am so sorry you saw him right before and even more sorry he did take his life. That is so traumatic for all involved. My mom was on the highway, and witnessed a woman jump off of the overpass in front of a semi. Thankfully the woman's timing was off and there was just the semi and my mom in the area. The semi was able to swerve in front of mom to avoid hitting the woman. Even though she didn't die (severe injuries from falling), my mom is still effected by it. |
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Post by valincal on May 6, 2019 16:17:28 GMT
How awful! 😔
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Post by scrapmaven on May 6, 2019 16:20:56 GMT
This was traumatic for you as it would be for anyone. Give yourself a huge break and take, good, loving care of yourself. It might help to talk to your pastor, as well.
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Post by MaryMary on May 6, 2019 16:31:33 GMT
What a tragic situation. It would have impacted me as well.
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Post by luvnlifelady on May 6, 2019 17:07:44 GMT
TW: Suicide mentioned We just returned from a lovely vacation. On the drive home there was a terrible traffic jam. When we got to the source, we were rerouted off the highway because a man was on the overpass threatening to jump. There were officers everywhere, talking to him, obviously trying to coax him. He was near the side where the embankment is so I thought they were being successful. I just learned that right after we saw him, he jumped and died. They talked to him for more than an hour so I have to believe part of him didn’t want to die. I can’t get the image of him standing there out of my head. He just looked so distraught. It’s surreal to think that just moments after I saw him, he was dead. And I can’t stop thinking about all the officers and even the passersby who witnessed it. Matthew was in the car with me and I’m very glad he didn’t see it. I think about the man’s family and his loved ones and the pain he must’ve been in. My sadness is obviously nothing in comparison to those actually affected by his death, but I’m having trouble shaking it as I try to fall to sleep tonight. From what I could see, he was a very young man too. Life had only just begun for him. I'm sorry you had to experience that. It's so sad that he was at that point. I've been there though and it's a very dark place. Although my bf wasn't close to his former step-son, we are both sad that he recently died at 25 from a heroine overdose. He had tried to help him when married to his mother, but she was in denial about how bad the problem was. May both these young men lost rest in peace. |
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Post by refugeepea on May 6, 2019 19:46:07 GMT
I always feel that if someone really wants to take their own life, then all the talking in the world won’t make any difference. I agree. |
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Post by teri on May 6, 2019 19:51:20 GMT
years ago I saw a lady walking in the dark on the FREEWAY. I remember thinking... she is going to get hit by a car.
Later that day the news showed a lady killed on freeway.
I called the police and reported that I had seen her, they came out and talked to me. I described what she looked like, what she was wearing and where exactly I saw her. The officer told me that she had known mental issues and was heavily into drugs. It was very sad. I just kept thinking if I should have done something to help her. At least get her off the freeway at 6am (dark outside)
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Post by gottapeanow on May 6, 2019 19:57:32 GMT
I liked the OP in solidarity. Not because I liked the events.
I'm so sorry that this happened. Traumatic for sure. Hugs and prayers.
Lisa
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Post by KikiPea on May 6, 2019 20:03:35 GMT
I'm so sorry you had to witness that. I completely understand not being able to get those thoughts out of your head.
We had 2 different situations like that in our local area last week. As far as I know, they both were talked down, but it's just so sad that their lives have come to this point.
Saying a prayer for you, as well as the young man's family and friends.
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Post by frenchie on May 6, 2019 21:21:53 GMT
How awful. im sorry you had to witness that. That kind of stuff is hard to deal with. (((Hugs)))
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Post by kate on May 6, 2019 21:26:51 GMT
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Post by scrapngranny on May 6, 2019 22:59:03 GMT
That is so sad. It’s hard to imagine at 23 the world looked so bleak that suicide looked like the only option.
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Post by crittsmom on May 6, 2019 23:12:44 GMT
Aww MissJen, I think this accident happened down the street from me. I thought for sure that they had talked him down, but learned this morning that he passed shortly after arrival at the hospital. Hugs to you.
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Post by eastcoastpea on May 7, 2019 0:42:08 GMT
That's so very tragic. It's totally understandable that you feel sad. Hugs to you.
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Post by scrappinmom3 on May 7, 2019 1:15:59 GMT
So very sad and it seems to happen far too often.
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Post by Really Red on May 7, 2019 2:46:02 GMT
My son and I talked about suicide tonight as it was on ABC news. It's awful to feel so helpless, I think, like you did. Poor kid. I am so sad for his family and for him.
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Post by socalscrapper on May 7, 2019 3:57:17 GMT
This happened yesterday here in our town. You weren't by chance in California on vacation were you? In Riverside? So sad... the young man jumped and then died at the hospital. I think/heard but didn't read for sure that he was 15 but may have been older.
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Post by scrappintoee on May 7, 2019 4:07:18 GMT
(( Hugs ))  I totally understand why you couldn't get all of that out of your mind; I wouldn't have been able to, either. Were you able to get some asleep? Prayers for those that loved him, the people who tried to help, and you.  |
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Post by Deleted on May 7, 2019 7:13:02 GMT
This happened yesterday here in our town. You weren't by chance in California on vacation were you? In Riverside? So sad... the young man jumped and then died at the hospital. I think/heard but didn't read for sure that he was 15 but may have been older. Yep, that’s the incident. I got his age from a news article. Maybe it’s been updated. |
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Post by Deleted on May 7, 2019 7:15:02 GMT
Thanks everyone. I thought of him at every overpass I drove under today. I just can’t imagine being in so much pain, and especially so early in life. |
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I totally understand why you couldn't get all of that out of your mind; I wouldn't