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Post by workingclassdog on May 16, 2019 17:37:31 GMT
oh my goodness she is going to drive me to drink! DD is 11. Has a little tummy on her. She isn't 'fat' but she's got a tummy on her. A lot of clothing is so tight around her belly area (and she doesn't care.. oye) She is wearing around a 14. Seems big but all these shirts are cut so small I feel like I have to keep going up in size. Her BFF is very slender and she can wear the shirts between 12 and 14 and I would say they fit appropriately on her for her size. But she is so slender even the tight shirts don't squish her.
I don't know what size to put her in.. Seems like I would go to Juniors but I think they are pretty form fitting as well. So do I go to the Girl's Plus sizes? I don't want to make a big deal of it as I don't want her to feel bad.. .. I just keep telling her she is a growing girl and needs to adjust her clothing as she goes along..
I just want something that she will be comfortable in and not look like she is squeezed into something that is uncomfortable. And on top of that I pretty much got to start forcing the girl to wear a bra now. She is such a little girl in her head and her body just growing.
Both my other kids were thinner at that age (especially my son ...he had the same problem but opposite, trying to find pants that didn't fall to the ground.. but that is easier than going the other way).
She is just built differently..
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Post by mikklynn on May 16, 2019 17:39:56 GMT
No advice, but I feel your pain! My DD was tall at 11, so we had to go to juniors. The GM at Macy's asked me if we were finding everything we need. I told him to find my DD an age appropriate swimsuit in his store, for any price. He looked frightened and left, LOL.
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Post by workingclassdog on May 16, 2019 17:47:17 GMT
No advice, but I feel your pain! My DD was tall at 11, so we had to go to juniors. The GM at Macy's asked me if we were finding everything we need. I told him to find my DD an age appropriate swimsuit in his store, for any price. He looked frightened and left, LOL. <iframe width="34.180000000000064" height="3.4200000000000017" style="position: absolute; width: 34.180000000000064px; height: 3.4200000000000017px; z-index: -9999; border-style: none;left: 15px; top: -5px;" id="MoatPxIOPT0_76114748" scrolling="no"></iframe> <iframe width="34.180000000000064" height="3.4200000000000017" style="position: absolute; width: 34.18px; height: 3.42px; z-index: -9999; border-style: none; left: 1638px; top: -5px;" id="MoatPxIOPT0_25811352" scrolling="no"></iframe> <iframe width="34.180000000000064" height="3.4200000000000017" style="position: absolute; width: 34.18px; height: 3.42px; z-index: -9999; border-style: none; left: 15px; top: 111px;" id="MoatPxIOPT0_54122758" scrolling="no"></iframe> <iframe width="34.180000000000064" height="3.4200000000000017" style="position: absolute; width: 34.18px; height: 3.42px; z-index: -9999; border-style: none; left: 1638px; top: 111px;" id="MoatPxIOPT0_40580829" scrolling="no"></iframe> Oh lordy.. swimsuits we have not had an issue with.. go figure. But last year we went on a last minute vacation in the fall and needed a suit and we found a clearance bottom that was black and an adult size small workout bra thingy.. put together looked like a swimsuit! |
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Post by ajsweetpea on May 16, 2019 17:51:01 GMT
You could try an XS at stores like Aeropostale, Hollister, etc. My daughter likes them and you can find t-shirts there that are appropriate!
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Post by gina on May 16, 2019 18:07:07 GMT
My older daughter was built the same from ages 10-12 or so (she's now almost 16 and teeny tiny... she just needed to grow!) I hated tight t-shirts on her. They never looked right and she never felt comfortable in them. I always looked for shirts with a looser bottom. I never made a big deal about it. Would just pick up things as I saw them because I knew they would flatter her shape. I never bought anything plus sized. She didn't need it. I do remember moving up to Juniors pretty quickly though. The size 14 girls shirts were just not cut well. Try Juniors Small (XS may even be too small). Look for flowy. Kohls always had some decent tops that worked. I know its especially hard right now, as the Juniors style is teeny tiny crop tops. *eyeroll* ETA: These are my favorite tees ever! I have a dark green one on right now. They are cut loose though so DEF try an XS if you do something like this (I know the v-neck can be tricky on the younger girls too. My 10.5 year old wears Juniors but we have to watch necklines.... she hates anything remotely low). COMFY TEE!Now that I pulled up that handy link, gonna go order myself a few new colors! ha ha |
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Post by mustlovecats on May 16, 2019 18:16:36 GMT
We bypassed juniors altogether and went straight into misses XS/S.
By 12 mine was the size of an adult and wore adult size pants and tops. We bought from Kohl’s, Macy’s, Target mostly.
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Post by beaglemom on May 16, 2019 18:26:10 GMT
I am struggling with the same thing, but my daughter is only 8. She is in the 90%+ for her height and weight. She has a belly and a bit of a sway back which makes the belly even more prominent. We just went to Disney World and the girls xl shirts were too tight (in my opinion) and super long! I have started trying to make more stuff for her because she isn't ready for juniors (not her style). But even with that I am having a hard time finding things that don't have bust room (she doesn't need that yet).
It is a huge struggle.
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Post by keithurbanlovinpea on May 16, 2019 18:40:56 GMT
Is SHE uncomfortable or are you? If it doesn't bother her and it isn't inappropriate, I'd let it be
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on May 16, 2019 18:50:06 GMT
Try stores like LL Bean online, Lands End, Boden.
The clothes are better quality, cut less provocatively, made with thicker fabric.
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Post by pilcas on May 16, 2019 19:08:25 GMT
Dressing girls at that age is a nightmare. My daughter didn’t like the cutesy and colorful stuff at the kids store yet she was too slim and petite to fit into the older girls stuff, so it was a challenge.
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Post by Darcy Collins on May 16, 2019 19:47:55 GMT
Well first off, I have to thank you as I remember this awkward age and went to try a find a picture of my daughter and had a ton of fun looking at old pics of her! I couldn't find the picture of the tshirt I remember hating at that age! My daughter was a late bloomer and if anything underweight, but those tight tshirts are still awkward. She was gifted a harry potter shirt that she loved and I hated! They're really designed to emphasize your bust, so if you don't have one or if you have a bit of a belly they just look awkward. You might look more for cut versus size.
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Post by crazy4scraps on May 16, 2019 19:57:05 GMT
I have the same problem with my almost 9yo DD. She will get a little belly on her so her shirts get tight or too short, and the next thing I know she has grown 4” and now none of her pants are long enough! It doesn’t help that my kid has a long torso either. I’ve just been sizing up and rolling with it. It seems to me the Cat & Jack shirts and some of the C9 Champion athletic shirts from Target are cut a little longer in the body length and that tends to help.
ETA: Also, if she isn’t opposed to wearing something solid colored and kind of plain, the regular youth sized Gildan t-shirts that Michael’s and JoAnn’s sell are cut more generously across the body, as are the t-shirts in the boy’s section of Target and Kohl’s. If she wanted them to be cuter she could have fun decorating some herself, or find or make some cute transfers you could iron on.
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Post by Linda on May 16, 2019 19:59:35 GMT
I'm probably not much help as both of mine HATED the skin tight, super thin tees that were sold for girls and teens and wore boys tees at that age - which presents its own problems especially on my DD12 who has a muscular build (sturdy rather than fat) and wears her hair short...people mistake her for a boy.
We did shop misses vs Junior once they were big enough to fit into the older sizes - less trendy, less skin-showing, and a more modest cut in general.
If she likes the tween styles - Justice makes plus sizes and I know some of my friends have relied heavily on Justice for this stage - DD12 took one look at the store and said NO
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Post by workingclassdog on May 16, 2019 20:02:10 GMT
THANK you guys for helping!!! Lots of good tips! She doesn't care what she puts on but if it is too small, it's too small and I am not letting her out of the house, it's not making her uncomfortable as she is oblivious to it all. I don't say anything to make her uncomfortable other than it is "honey that just doesn't fit you anymore.. you wore that over a year ago, you have grown since then".. she is like 'whoooo caressss" Well I do. Cause it is too small and doesn't fit. I never say anything about her belly or physical state.. Just that she is growing.. like every other girl.
If you saw my pictures of my niece a few days ago.. she is SO beautiful. That girl was my sister's tummy and butt girl. (and she didn't care) All it took was a few years until she started growing UP instead of OUT.. (I should ask my sister what she did about clothes!!)
@gina I love those shirts.. will check them out!!
@pilcas YES she would DIE to put on some Disney Princess shirt or cartoon shirt..
Thanks for the advice. My DH had a good idea as well. He said why don't you just give some money to our older DD (ya know cause she is trendy) and have her go shopping with her.. I can give my older girl these tips and they can have a girls day out..
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Post by Basket1lady on May 16, 2019 20:49:02 GMT
My DD was tall and skinny at that age and still had a hard time finding things to wear. It’s a rough age! She wore a lot of Justice, Lands’ End, and Delia’s at that age. I HATED her moving out of her Gymboree clothes, but rejoiced when she grew out of all that glitter Justice stuff.
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Post by workingclassdog on May 16, 2019 21:07:37 GMT
My DD was tall and skinny at that age and still had a hard time finding things to wear. It’s a rough age! She wore a lot of Justice, Lands’ End, and Delia’s at that age. I HATED her moving out of her Gymboree clothes, but rejoiced when she grew out of all that glitter Justice stuff. Oh how I miss the days of Gymboree clothes or just cute matching outfits..... I could just throw on her whatever my heart desired and adorable. NOW she is still adorable.. but the clothes choices.. ugggg.. I will tease her and see some cute outfit at the store and I just drool over it and she is like "REALLY mom..." Gotta love them.. Here's a funny example.. she had a field day at school a few days ago and needed a red tee shirt. Of course do we have a red tee shirt? Not really.. So I started looking through her drawers and found her brother's old tee shirt from when he first joined the Air Force. He never wore it, but I saved it and she wore it a few times cause it was her brothers and it was a nightshirt. So it's PERFECT for field day, big enough, long enough, not worn out.. she turns her nose up at it but wears it. NOW she has worn it 4 days in a row (at home only)... I said "GIRL get that shirt off and in the wash before it starts walking by itself"... |
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Post by Basket1lady on May 16, 2019 22:30:03 GMT
My DD was tall and skinny at that age and still had a hard time finding things to wear. It’s a rough age! She wore a lot of Justice, Lands’ End, and Delia’s at that age. I HATED her moving out of her Gymboree clothes, but rejoiced when she grew out of all that glitter Justice stuff. Oh how I miss the days of Gymboree clothes or just cute matching outfits..... I could just throw on her whatever my heart desired and adorable. NOW she is still adorable.. but the clothes choices.. ugggg.. I will tease her and see some cute outfit at the store and I just drool over it and she is like "REALLY mom..." Gotta love them.. Here's a funny example.. she had a field day at school a few days ago and needed a red tee shirt. Of course do we have a red tee shirt? Not really.. So I started looking through her drawers and found her brother's old tee shirt from when he first joined the Air Force. He never wore it, but I saved it and she wore it a few times cause it was her brothers and it was a nightshirt. So it's PERFECT for field day, big enough, long enough, not worn out.. she turns her nose up at it but wears it. NOW she has worn it 4 days in a row (at home only)... I said "GIRL get that shirt off and in the wash before it starts walking by itself"... Can we just have a moment of silence for the loss of Gymboree? I had the buying of it down to an art. Circle of Friends on top of Gymbucks on top of sale prices... I dressed DD in cute clothes that washed well and resold them for more than I paid sometimes. And for far less than Walmart clothes. When they went out of business, DD told me that it was my fault. That they just couldn’t sustain their business after she stopped wearing it. |
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Post by workingclassdog on May 17, 2019 14:45:21 GMT
So funny I had to go to Target last night to return some bras that older DD bought 11 year old for her birthday, but they were too small. (She grabbed the wrong ones, not because of her growing) But I browsed through the clothing and on the clearance rack of all places found a maxi dress marked down to $13.. she loves those kind of dresses... it fit her PERFECT... and the color was perfect.. not some kind of weird crap they have to put on kids clothing.. just a pretty shade of pink.... No llamas, unicorns, rainbows plastered all over it.. lol (although she probably would go for some llamas..haha)
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Post by paigepea on May 17, 2019 14:56:53 GMT
My dd is 10.5 but I went through this with my 13 yr old. Dressing a preteen is so difficult. Some stores are too babyish and some are too mature. My 10.5 year old still wears size 8 at some stores while at other stores she wears size 12. There is no consistency.
I would go to stores that have a more generous cut. Some cuts are far too narrow. Go for the boxy cut. I find J crew and Zara are more boxy. GAP can be boxy too with some styles.
Stores that easily helped with the transition from preteen to teen :
Brandy Melville (because it’s one size fits all), GARAGE, TNA. My 13 year old wore some styles at American eagle when she was 12 but some styles there are very fitted. Others can be loose.
Heavier fabric versus the fabric you can just about see through is also worth the extra money. It’s just much more flattering.
Over the summer, my 10.5 year old will be almost 11 and I’ll take her to brandy Melville and garage for fall clothes. She also likes j crew Zara and H&M.
I use the word clothes loosely because do these kids even wear clothes. It seems like they wear leggings and sweats. For nicer stuff for my 13 yr old I go to TNA and Aritzia and buy from Sunday Best or Wilfred. She wore a Sunday Best dress for her gr 7 grad. Cost me about $70 but she’s worn it a few times and I could pass it down.
I wish we had target. 13 yr old loves it.
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Post by luvnlifelady on May 17, 2019 14:57:38 GMT
I had the same problem with my now 22 yo DD. She dressed modestly for her age but finding her anything that was still cute/trendy without showing too much skin was a nightmare.
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Post by rune2484 on May 17, 2019 15:27:41 GMT
My daughter is going through a girly tomboy phase right now - she likes a rainbow of colors and for clothes to not scream that they came from the boys section, but she wants her clothes to be generously cut so it doesn't bind when she is running, jumping, climbing trees. So her play clothes are a mix of minecraft and pokemon t-shirts (mostly from the boys section because why would girls ever want video-game t-shirts?  ) and t-shirts and shorts from an online store called Girls Will Be. GWB is awesome - they are a bit pricier than Target's fare, but everything we've orderd from them has been high quality. Their fit is quite generous, so it might be a great option for your daughter. |
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Post by monklady123 on May 17, 2019 16:58:11 GMT
No advice, but I feel your pain! My DD was tall at 11, so we had to go to juniors. The GM at Macy's asked me if we were finding everything we need. I told him to find my DD an age appropriate swimsuit in his store, for any price. He looked frightened and left, LOL.  Yes, I remember the tween ages well. ugh. I seem to recall that we had our best luck at places like Old Navy, or LLBean if we wanted to pay more. Everything in most other stores seemed to be what we called "hooker style" or were just cut small like the OP said.  |
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Post by Deleted on May 17, 2019 17:03:31 GMT
My 11 year old is built the same way. I have bought girls' plus sizes for her (they are marked with a 1/2 size, like 12 1/2). She hasn't seemed bothered by it at all. I've just said that she is built differently than her older sister, and that's okay.
A lot of places carry girls' 16, Justice goes all the way to a girls' 20, I believe.
I have found that juniors' sizes are actually cut narrower than girls' sizes in a lot of instances. And they tend to be lower cut. Stay in girls' sizes as long as you can...the price doubles once you move into juniors!
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Post by workingclassdog on May 17, 2019 17:42:10 GMT
I have found that juniors' sizes are actually cut narrower than girls' sizes in a lot of instances. And they tend to be lower cut. Stay in girls' sizes as long as you can...the price doubles once you move into juniors! Oh yeah.. I do know that!! Especially shoes!!! |
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Post by paigepea on May 17, 2019 18:47:01 GMT
Yes. The expensive prices are terrible.
I stayed with underwear, sports bras (so expensive!), jeans, Jean shorts, socks, sweatshirts, etc at justice as long as I could. My 13 yr old still wears some unders from there.
Justice is good for bottoms because they have slim, plus and regular fit pants.
I don’t know if anyone has seen their adds this year but they now have models and manikins with all different sizes. It’s so nice.
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Post by shevy on May 17, 2019 18:59:29 GMT
oh my goodness she is going to drive me to drink! DD is 11. Has a little tummy on her. She isn't 'fat' but she's got a tummy on her. A lot of clothing is so tight around her belly area (and she doesn't care.. oye) She is wearing around a 14. Seems big but all these shirts are cut so small I feel like I have to keep going up in size. Her BFF is very slender and she can wear the shirts between 12 and 14 and I would say they fit appropriately on her for her size. But she is so slender even the tight shirts don't squish her. I don't know what size to put her in.. Seems like I would go to Juniors but I think they are pretty form fitting as well. So do I go to the Girl's Plus sizes? I don't want to make a big deal of it as I don't want her to feel bad.. .. I just keep telling her she is a growing girl and needs to adjust her clothing as she goes along.. I just want something that she will be comfortable in and not look like she is squeezed into something that is uncomfortable. And on top of that I pretty much got to start forcing the girl to wear a bra now. She is such a little girl in her head and her body just growing. Both my other kids were thinner at that age (especially my son ...he had the same problem but opposite, trying to find pants that didn't fall to the ground.. but that is easier than going the other way). She is just built differently.. Here's my thing - I was 5'6" in 5th grade. Nothing appropriate fit me. I also went from stick thin to "regular' weight in a year. None of my clothes fit me the way they fit their friends. And I was wearing women's clothing as a 10 year old. My feet were size 8 - my Dad called them gunboats. What I wish, so hard, is that my parents just let me dress as I wanted to. Didn't mention that I was 'stick thin' all the time or that I had come up to 'normal' weight. It created lots of body image issues. I was always the tallest one in my elementary school and therefore felt on display all the time, yet all I wanted to do was blend in. Then when I wanted to dress differently and create my style of dressing, my Mom pushed it down, because it didn't fit in.
Not that I think you're doing that, I just want to point it out.
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Post by workingclassdog on May 17, 2019 21:15:39 GMT
Here's my thing - I was 5'6" in 5th grade. Nothing appropriate fit me. I also went from stick thin to "regular' weight in a year. None of my clothes fit me the way they fit their friends. And I was wearing women's clothing as a 10 year old. My feet were size 8 - my Dad called them gunboats. What I wish, so hard, is that my parents just let me dress as I wanted to. Didn't mention that I was 'stick thin' all the time or that I had come up to 'normal' weight. It created lots of body image issues. I was always the tallest one in my elementary school and therefore felt on display all the time, yet all I wanted to do was blend in. Then when I wanted to dress differently and create my style of dressing, my Mom pushed it down, because it didn't fit in.
Not that I think you're doing that, I just want to point it out.
Growing up I was the tallest girl in the class all the time.. for girls... thankfully usually 1/2 the boys were at least my height or a bit taller.. I always wanted to be the little petite thing.. Nope. Didn't happen. I don't push any style of clothing on her.. I let her choose.. I just need to get her out of clothing that is way too small. You wouldn't want your DD to walk around in stuff that would draw attention and in a bad way. At some point too small is too small. She doesn't have a 'style'.. or I should say she does have opinions on what she likes and doesn't like. I don't ever push stuff on her she doesn't like. But we have to find something for her to wear. She doesn't like jean shorts cause they are too tight, she doesn't like sports type shorts - I have no idea why, but she will wear cotton type ones which are harder to find but sometimes you need something more than cozy cotton shorts. I don't push jean shorts or if I do find a pair that she might like I will buy and let her try on to decide for herself. I mean she has to have something to wear. LOL |
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Post by PEAcan pie on May 19, 2019 1:47:45 GMT
OH my Gosh...Same!!! Have not read any posts yet... But will
So my DD is almost 11 and wears size 9 Women's shoe. we actually share shoes now.
She is in Fourth grade!! She insists on crop tops apparently it is the trend now, she has a small belly. She can wear them to School as long as she has a tank tucked into her pants/shorts under. It is a struggle.
We like Forever21 But also LOVE the Salvation Army lol
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Post by andreasmom on May 19, 2019 2:42:45 GMT
oh my goodness she is going to drive me to drink! DD is 11. Has a little tummy on her. She isn't 'fat' but she's got a tummy on her. A lot of clothing is so tight around her belly area (and she doesn't care.. oye) She is wearing around a 14. Seems big but all these shirts are cut so small I feel like I have to keep going up in size. Her BFF is very slender and she can wear the shirts between 12 and 14 and I would say they fit appropriately on her for her size. But she is so slender even the tight shirts don't squish her. I don't know what size to put her in.. Seems like I would go to Juniors but I think they are pretty form fitting as well. So do I go to the Girl's Plus sizes? I don't want to make a big deal of it as I don't want her to feel bad.. .. I just keep telling her she is a growing girl and needs to adjust her clothing as she goes along.. I just want something that she will be comfortable in and not look like she is squeezed into something that is uncomfortable. And on top of that I pretty much got to start forcing the girl to wear a bra now. She is such a little girl in her head and her body just growing. Both my other kids were thinner at that age (especially my son ...he had the same problem but opposite, trying to find pants that didn't fall to the ground.. but that is easier than going the other way). She is just built differently.. Here's my thing - I was 5'6" in 5th grade. Nothing appropriate fit me. I also went from stick thin to "regular' weight in a year. None of my clothes fit me the way they fit their friends. And I was wearing women's clothing as a 10 year old. My feet were size 8 - my Dad called them gunboats. What I wish, so hard, is that my parents just let me dress as I wanted to. Didn't mention that I was 'stick thin' all the time or that I had come up to 'normal' weight. It created lots of body image issues. I was always the tallest one in my elementary school and therefore felt on display all the time, yet all I wanted to do was blend in. Then when I wanted to dress differently and create my style of dressing, my Mom pushed it down, because it didn't fit in.
Not that I think you're doing that, I just want to point it out.
That’s where I’m at with m11 yo. She is now using women’s M, and she is very tall (taller than me) so it has been a struggle to find her cute clothes. |
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Post by crazy4scraps on May 19, 2019 5:02:07 GMT
Growing up I was the tallest girl in the class all the time.. for girls... thankfully usually 1/2 the boys were at least my height or a bit taller.. I always wanted to be the little petite thing.. Nope. Didn't happen. I don't push any style of clothing on her.. I let her choose.. I just need to get her out of clothing that is way too small. You wouldn't want your DD to walk around in stuff that would draw attention and in a bad way. At some point too small is too small. She doesn't have a 'style'.. or I should say she does have opinions on what she likes and doesn't like. I don't ever push stuff on her she doesn't like. But we have to find something for her to wear. She doesn't like jean shorts cause they are too tight, she doesn't like sports type shorts - I have no idea why, but she will wear cotton type ones which are harder to find but sometimes you need something more than cozy cotton shorts. I don't push jean shorts or if I do find a pair that she might like I will buy and let her try on to decide for herself. I mean she has to have something to wear. LOL It’s not any easier being the petite little thing either. Trust me, I know.  Nothing fits the tiny girls either. Your DD and mine could be twins. No jeans or jean shorts, nothing twill or similar. She will wear sweats, leggings, joggers or boys track pants every day of the week. She likes the French terry or cotton knit shorts too. The kid would wear flannel pj pants to school if I’d let her (which I don’t). I loved it when we had Herberger’s Outlet here, I found a lot of stuff DD liked there and it was reasonable. She wanted to have a Super Mario themed birthday party and I found her a fun shirt in the boy’s department at Target that had Mario on it which she absolutely loved. One of her male friends in her class said, “Hey! I have that same shirt!” Thankfully she doesn’t care. Yet. Thank God there are only nine days of school left. |
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Nothing fits the tiny girls either.