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Post by ScrappyJac on Oct 7, 2014 16:54:38 GMT
Reading through the responses on the other thread, got me thinking....has anyone had the opposite situation? Instead of people not appreciating the handmade gift, them appreciating it so much that it becomes too "precious" to be used. For me, a homemade quilt is meant to be used, worn in, and loved. I typically make handmade gifts for the kiddos at holidays (fabric magnetic letters, felt food, etc). I have one friend who won't allow the kiddos to play with these items because she is afraid they will "mess them up" and "they took so much time to make".
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Post by Elsabelle on Oct 7, 2014 18:48:45 GMT
I made a baby quilt for a friend and she put it on the back of a rocking chair because she loved the fabric patterns I used so much and because no one ever sat in the chair so it wouldn't get ruined. I looked forward to seeing it be used and get soft and worn and I knew that meant it would get spit up on and peed on. But, you know, that's what babies do. Well, I guess when you give a gift you have to let it be used by the recipient however they choose. Let it go...let it go...
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Post by berta147 on Oct 7, 2014 20:08:11 GMT
I made a doll and clothes for a friends little girl. I made it safe and sturdy so it could be used and loved.
She kept it in the closet so her daughter would not ruin it :-(
I was so sad that it did not get loved! I am glad she liked it and did not want it to get "ruined". But I made it to be played with!
But once a gift is given, I have to accept it is no longer yours. I am thankful my sister who is crafty like me has saved almost all the gifts I have made her. But I would not be heart broken if she did not save them all forever. She would not have room for anything new :-)
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Post by ScrappyJac on Oct 7, 2014 20:28:02 GMT
Exactly, it honestly makes me lean toward not making homemade gifts in the future. I am "contributing" to the child getting a toy they aren't allowed to play with. I remember receiving porcelain dolls when I was little and not being allowed to take them out of the box. That is torture for a child!  |
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Post by gloryjoy on Oct 7, 2014 23:52:14 GMT
To my knowledge, I don't know if anything I have handmade and given as a gift has ended up not being used.
But I am with those who say that you have to accept that once you give a gift, it is no longer your's. The recipient can do as they please with it. I feel the same way about my handmade cards. I don't get upset if they throw it away, it is what it is. Once I have given the card away, it is no longer mine.
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Post by anonrefugee on Oct 8, 2014 15:01:01 GMT
I remember receiving hand embroidered baby items and promised to use them . It's hard to resist temptation to save.
On the other hand, my grandmother made tons of pot holders, oven mitts, etc. I saved quite a few because there are only so many one needs at a time. She's been gone for a while now but I get to bring out a "new" mitt and remember her as the old ones wear out.
In this case I'm glad I saved them for later.
I only make paper items, my in laws hate handmade anything (heathens) I don't bother giving to them. The first time we met was a holiday and they were ridiculing a present sent by their DIL. She hadn't made it, it was a special order from local craftsman. But I knew from then on they wouldn't appreciate the concept, let alone the item.
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Post by doglover on Oct 8, 2014 15:06:43 GMT
I know I would be embarrassed if someone came over and saw that their handmade gift had stains on it from. I would be afraid that they would be insulted and think I didn't treasure it.
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