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Post by Deleted on Jun 20, 2019 13:08:49 GMT
I don't care about anyone's opinion enough to know if I'm someone's BEC (which probably makes me someone's BEC all on its own). Ditto. I have a couple of women I am looking forward to never seeing again but have to get through the last years of high school events first. After my kids are done, I will never have a reason why to see them again.
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muggins
Pearl Clutcher
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Post by muggins on Jun 20, 2019 13:46:17 GMT
Oh yes, plenty over the years! If they make it obvious I’m their BEC, I’ll either deliberately ‘eat more crackers’ or kill them with kindness. Whichever amuses me more.
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Post by salem on Jun 20, 2019 13:50:17 GMT
I’ve never heard this term before, but I love it! Lol
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Anita
Drama Llama

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Location: Kansas City -ish
Jun 27, 2014 2:38:58 GMT
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Post by Anita on Jun 20, 2019 13:57:08 GMT
Yes, yes I am.
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Post by LisaDV on Jun 20, 2019 14:07:50 GMT
I'm sure. I tell it like it is (I used to try to work on the nice aspect but probably a little rusty). I also believe in working smarter not harder, and I believe in doing the job right the first time. Thus when I was in corporate America, I am positive I was several peoples BEC.
I love the term.
Right now, I don't think I really have anyone that would be my BEC. There is usually something good I can find in someone, and if not, then I don't worry myself enough to let the person bother me.
Also right now, I'm probably MIL's. But again, I'm not invested enough to care.
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Post by Zee on Jun 20, 2019 14:30:19 GMT
Here, probably, but I honestly don't think so in real life. If I don't like someone I avoid them or keep it strictly business but I do go out of my way to get along with everyone at work at least on the surface. We all have a job to do, no sense making it unpleasant if it doesn't have to be.
I don't spend a lot of time around others when I'm not at work so it would be hard to believe anyone else outside of work might consider me that.
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Post by Legacy Girl on Jun 21, 2019 0:49:48 GMT
Yes. I'm the BEC to someone who openly resents my family's happiness and achievements. And trust me when I say that I never hesitate to share the fact that life is made up of experiences both bitter and sweet. She has moved away and severed ties, so for the most part, it doesn't bother me. I just hope she and her family find their own happiness on life's journey.
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PLurker
Prolific Pea
 
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Location: Behind the Cheddar Curtain
Jun 28, 2014 3:48:49 GMT
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Post by PLurker on Jun 21, 2019 7:48:48 GMT
I was at my old job to someone that was nearly everyone else's BEC ( love that!). She had to know where I was, what I was doing and if it was quick enough all the time. I think one of the reasons was we shared a specialty job that no one else was qualified to do, so competitive.
It was almost comical if she wasn't such a BEC herself. I often killed with kindness and acted oblivious to her wrath which probably made her even crazier. I'm ok with that. Lol
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Post by mikklynn on Jun 21, 2019 12:55:43 GMT
My youngest brother's wife doesn't like me. I have no idea why and don't care. We are civil to each other.
DH's oldest sister is my BEC and I am hers. If not for her daughters, I'd cut her out completely. DD and I refer to her as the FBH - fucking bitch from hell.
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purplebee
Drama Llama

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Jun 27, 2014 20:37:34 GMT
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Post by purplebee on Jun 21, 2019 13:35:40 GMT
Yep, a former co-worker disliked me from day one - not sure why. I bit my tongue and got along, worked with her for over 6 years. It was a happy day when she was disciplined and transferred to another campus for spreading lies about another co-worker, and it happened at break in front of me and four co-workers, including the one she lied about. Sometimes Karma is awesome!
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Post by pierkiss on Jun 21, 2019 13:40:39 GMT
I don’t know. Probably. I can think of one person from high school who I know still feels this way about me. That’s ok, I feel the same way about her.
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Post by Miss Ang on Jun 21, 2019 13:48:09 GMT
I've never heard of this and I have no idea. I'm 100% real me and I think that people can see that my heart is in the right place. I don't know of anyone that really doesn't like me. But if they are out there, I guess there's nothing I can do about that.  I kind of like who I am, and have no plan of changing who I am to make someone else like me more. I guess I would say, "Carry on."
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Post by phoenixcov on Jun 21, 2019 14:47:14 GMT
Oooh. I wonder if I am someone’s BEC!?!? I have one family member BEC. Amazingly not a work one. I had one at my previous job. She was a Bitch breathing air too! Now the above Bitch breathing air BBA seems a better description of the same thing to me. I am officially adopting BBA as my go to from now on. I did have a boss (paid) over me when I did a voluntary placement (unpaid) everything I even mentioned at a meeting she rolled her bloody eyes at me, and when someone agreed with something I said I swear I saw steam come from her ears. Feeling was entirely mutual by the way, except I never showed it.
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