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Post by roundtwo on Jun 20, 2019 19:48:51 GMT
I have no idea how or when this happened but here I am.  Today was the second lunch with a friend this week and I have another tomorrow. I was writing a lunch date into the calendar for next week and that thought popped into my head. I never did this even a year ago and of course not while I was working or even during the years I was a SAHM.
I'm thinking it's an age thing - more of my social circle are retired now so we have time during the day to meet up and a lot of them don't like driving at night if we don't have to.
Has anyone else noticed a difference in your social gatherings as you have reached 50plus ?
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Post by lucyg on Jun 20, 2019 19:54:37 GMT
Yep! You get old, lunch out with your friends starts looking better and better. It’s definitely a lady-of-leisure thing. LOL
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Post by gina on Jun 20, 2019 20:01:06 GMT
I lunch with my husband in town 1-2 times a week, and I am only 38.  It's my very favorite thing to do!!! I am a SAHM, so definitely leisure time here. My guys are mostly HS age so I have lots of free time during the day if I am not working in my photog business. |
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Post by PrettyInPeank on Jun 20, 2019 20:02:53 GMT
Sounds wonderful. Enjoy!
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Post by busy on Jun 20, 2019 20:03:17 GMT
In in my 40s, but I work from home and go out to lunch with friends at least once or twice a week. As a remote worker, it's waaaaay too easy to let socialization and just plain getting out of the house (for things other than errands and kid activities) slide. I make it a priority.
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Post by 950nancy on Jun 20, 2019 20:08:04 GMT
Only one of my friends is retired. The rest have years to go. I lunch on a rare occasion.
I do have a kid who has every other Friday off and I do try to lunch with him now and then.
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Post by roundtwo on Jun 20, 2019 20:10:18 GMT
it's waaaaay too easy to let socialization and just plain getting out of the house (for things other than errands and kid activities) slide. As an introvert, this was pretty much how I lived while the kids were still in school and I was quite happy in my aloneness. I think at the time, the socialization due to kid's events was enough for me but in the last year or so I suddenly realized that I wasn't leaving home, other than for my 5km walk in the neighbourhood, for days on end. It has been good for me and I am surprised at how much I am enjoying it. Of course, I'm always with friends and no one is making me go so that definitely helps.  |
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Post by busy on Jun 20, 2019 20:12:22 GMT
it's waaaaay too easy to let socialization and just plain getting out of the house (for things other than errands and kid activities) slide. As an introvert, this was pretty much how I lived while the kids were still in school and I was quite happy in my aloneness. I think at the time, the socialization due to kid's events was enough for me but in the last year or so I suddenly realized that I wasn't leaving home, other than for my 5km walk in the neighbourhood, for days on end. It has been good for me and I am surprised at how much I am enjoying it. Of course, I'm always with friends and no one is making me go so that definitely helps. I'm an extrovert, and though I love working from home, I *NEED* to get out and be with people I'm not related to lol |
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Post by bc2ca on Jun 20, 2019 20:12:34 GMT
Yes, lunching with friends is one of my favorite things to do.  |
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Post by kelly8875 on Jun 20, 2019 20:15:45 GMT
Sounds like a great way to spend time to me!! Enjoy!
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Post by Deleted on Jun 20, 2019 20:22:39 GMT
Well then I am really looking forward to when the kids are older.
Right now I get together with some friends 1-2x a month. We would love to meet more often but we are all moms to special needs kids so there are therapies, appointments, IEPs, ect.
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Jun 20, 2019 20:38:34 GMT
Has anyone else noticed a difference in your social gatherings as you have reached 50plus ? I did until we hit our 60's. Now it seems that everyone has a retired husband and grandchildren that occupies all their time so we hardly ever get together any more. DH says I need to find new friends but it's sure not easy in your 60's. And after a lifetime of moving and starting over all the time, I'm just tired of all the effort it takes. |
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Post by papersilly on Jun 20, 2019 20:44:58 GMT
i am 52 and i love doing lunches with friends. i have a friend that i lunch with every Friday and another friend during the week. we often spend a couple of hours hanging out over lunch. i am lunch with two friends on saturday and that will be a 3 hour lunch for sure.
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Post by katlady on Jun 20, 2019 20:56:42 GMT
If possible, I prefer meeting up with friends in the daytime. But because I still work, most of my meetups are in the evening. UGH! I am an introvert, plus I work all day, so after 8-10 hours of being with people I just want to go home and be alone with my SO. Looking forward to when I can do lunch dates instead of after-work drinks.
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Post by lisae on Jun 20, 2019 21:17:55 GMT
Sounds great! I still have to do dinner with my closest friends because of work schedules. I can't wait until they retire and we can move these to lunch which is my preferred dining out time.
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Post by CeeScraps on Jun 20, 2019 21:32:24 GMT
That’s what my daughter thinks retirement is for me. Going for breakfast and lunch with friends has been wonderful! I love that we aren’t rushed.
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Jun 20, 2019 21:33:51 GMT
I cannot attest to the 50’s age thing, but my friends and I lunch all the time! Both guys and girls and not work related,
I have standing weekly brunch with 4-5 of us!
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Post by workingclassdog on Jun 20, 2019 21:45:55 GMT
I think lunch dates are great.. but I don't get many of them even at 50+.. still working full time and probably will for another 20 years.. so I don't see many lunches unless it is the weekend.
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Jun 20, 2019 22:10:43 GMT
Five do lunch. Lunch sometimes includes dinner too!
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Post by pancakes on Jun 20, 2019 22:20:38 GMT
I do it during work, if that counts haha. I just had lunch with one of my best friends today. We met halfway between our offices.
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Post by MissBianca on Jun 20, 2019 22:37:15 GMT
We did breakfast when the kids were in the same school, that gave us time to run errands before they got out.
Sadly after the kids went to HS we sort of went our separate ways and one friends job changed so she went from working 3 days a week to 5. Now we try to get together over vacations.
It’s hard though.
And making new friends is tough. My youngest kid’s classmates are the oldest kids in their family. So they usually have littles at home still.
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Post by AussieMeg on Jun 20, 2019 22:38:27 GMT
Hahaha I love it! I'm in my early 50's and my friends and I are still in the "let's catch up for dinner" category because we're all still working, but I can't wait to be a "lady who lunches".  Only another 17 years to go until I can retire......  |
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Post by roundtwo on Jun 21, 2019 0:21:42 GMT
I did until we hit our 60's. Now it seems that everyone has a retired husband and grandchildren that occupies all their time so we hardly ever get together any more. DH says I need to find new friends but it's sure not easy in your 60's. And after a lifetime of moving and starting over all the time, I'm just tired of all the effort it takes. Funny that you mention new friends - we moved all the time as well and are now in our forever home. I didn't know anyone in the area - we have been here almost 5 years and it has taken that long to find new friends. It was definitely easier when the kids were little and you just became friends with their friends parents, for better or worse  |
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Post by brynn on Jun 21, 2019 0:31:58 GMT
Sounds wonderful. Enjoy!!
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Post by mikklynn on Jun 21, 2019 0:36:55 GMT
I just told DH that is my new hobby. It's great.
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Post by danor98 on Jun 21, 2019 1:40:32 GMT
About 10 years ago, a couple of ladies in my neighborhood started up a Lunch Group. In the beginning it was a great mix of women. We had some in the 60s, some in their late 70s, and also a great group of younger women. In my late 40s at the time, I was the only woman my age.
Over the years, all of the younger woman have (understandably) stopped coming. I am 58 and the youngest one out of the group😂
I work full time nowSAHM before)., I request the 3rd Thursday of every month off.
At home I jokingly refer to my monthly appointment as Old Lady Lunch. I love these women that come every month. They have taught me so much. I in turn teach them about social media, weird things in current pop culture and even made the Adam Levine loving 70 year old blush when I showed her the picture of him (almost) naked laying on a motorcycle with a helmet in that very special place!
All that to say: I am a lady that lunches. !
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Post by roundtwo on Jun 21, 2019 1:44:10 GMT
danor98, your lunches sound like a lot of fun. How many are in the group?
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Post by danor98 on Jun 21, 2019 1:55:01 GMT
danor98, your lunches sound like a lot of fun. How many are in the group? Sometimes we have as many as 8. Today it was just 3 of us. We enjoy the small group as well as the larger groups. 😊 |
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Post by edie3 on Jun 21, 2019 2:13:37 GMT
why that will be me tomorrow! Had a knee replacement almost 3 weeks ago and going stir crazy.
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Post by mom on Jun 21, 2019 2:44:25 GMT
Ha! This is my life. I go to lunch usually 1-2x a week with friends and every Friday I have a standing lunch date with my husband. Fridays are my favorite!
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Today was the second lunch with a friend this week and I have another tomorrow. I was writing a lunch date into the calendar for next week and that thought popped into my head. I never did this even a year ago and of course not while I was working or even during the years I was a SAHM. 
It's my very favorite thing to do!!! I am a SAHM, so definitely leisure time here. My guys are mostly HS age so I have lots of free time during the day if I am not working in my photog business.
Only another 17 years to go until I can retire...... 
