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Post by Deleted on Jun 28, 2019 16:00:56 GMT
My dad and I are total opposite sides of the political spectrum. His FB feed is mostly hateful/insulting etc political memes. Not actual valid arguments, opinions etc.
I don't even follow him on FB but I do occasionally look at his page because once in a great while he does post non political stuff. I try very hard to not post anything political on FB except once in a while I will post something about how important good healthcare/insurance etc is important to our family and why we support laws that don't include pre existing conditions etc.
Yesterday he posted a meme about spaying/neutring your democrat. Inwardly I rolled my eyes. Then before my brain kicked in, I responded with "gee thanks" and an eye roll emoji. Which was of course not very mature of me.
I just don't see how on either side of the political spectrum posts like these are at all helpful.
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Post by freecharlie on Jun 28, 2019 16:04:06 GMT
What I have found helpful it to hide all from whatever source they are sharing from. Cuts down a lot of the crap.
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Jun 28, 2019 16:18:01 GMT
I will post something about how important good healthcare/insurance etc is important to our family and why we support laws that don't include pre existing conditions etc. Typo? |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 28, 2019 16:19:46 GMT
I will post something about how important good healthcare/insurance etc is important to our family and why we support laws that don't include pre existing conditions etc. Typo? Yes. Not sure how to work it but maybe laws that don't include pre-existing condition clauses? |
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Post by inkedup on Jun 28, 2019 16:20:12 GMT
What I have found helpful it to hide all from whatever source they are sharing from. Cuts down a lot of the crap. I had no idea this was an option! I'm going to make good use of it. |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 28, 2019 16:20:26 GMT
What I have found helpful it to hide all from whatever source they are sharing from. Cuts down a lot of the crap. Well if I followed him that would maybe help. But since I don't follow him, just check out his page once in a while, that doesn't hide them. I can see everything he posts when I visit his page. |
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Post by SockMonkey on Jun 28, 2019 16:23:40 GMT
That sounds hard.
Do you have a relationship with your dad? Do you want to have one? Do you have the opportunity to have face to face conversations with him? I'm wondering if there is an opportunity for you to tell him to his face that you care about him, but that you find what he posts online hurtful to you. That you feel demeaned and that it's damaging to your relationship with him. He may say, "Oh, it's a joke" but you will at least have the chance to say, "I'm your daughter and I feel like this. Imagine what people you don't know feel when you post these things. Do you believe these things about me?"
I feel like face-to-face, you can have that conversation. Otherwise, you may just have to unfollow/hide. I did that with an acquaintance who is just not ready to have real conversations about the impact of her posts, and TBH, I don't care if I have a real relationship with her but can't go balls out because she is a friend of my in-laws.
I'm sorry you're dealing with this.
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Post by supersoda on Jun 28, 2019 16:36:31 GMT
Do we have the same dad?
My dad posted something like “you’ve failed as a parent if you let your child attend a March For Our Lives rally.” My daughters responded “Your daughter took us to the march.” 😂
Astonishing how they fail to connect their comments to their own lives and ignore the fact that people they claim to love hold the beliefs they’re demonizing.
I’ve been off FB for years because I didn’t want crap like that ruining my personal relationships. I’ve also told the kids to just block or unfriend grandpa rather than respond to him.
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Post by SockMonkey on Jun 28, 2019 16:41:14 GMT
Do we have the same dad? My dad posted something like “you’ve failed as a parent if you let your child attend a March For Our Lives rally.” My daughters responded “Your daughter took us to the march.” 😂 Astonishing how they fail to connect their comments to their own lives and ignore the fact that people they claim to love hold the beliefs they’re demonizing. I’ve been off FB for years because I didn’t want crap like that ruining my personal relationships. I’ve also told the kids to just block or unfriend grandpa rather than respond to him. Hats off to your kids! Did your dad respond to them?? |
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Post by kelly8875 on Jun 28, 2019 16:49:25 GMT
Just ignore it. And don’t go look at his page. Why go look when you know it’s something you don’t want to see?
I think we all have people like this on Facebook, no matter what the subject matter is.
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Post by amom23 on Jun 28, 2019 16:49:42 GMT
I have a great uncle I had to unfollow because of the crazy crap he posts. I'm actually embarrassed for him and a few others at the ignorant comments and postings they share. It's ok to disagree, but then there is the ignorant line and unfortunately too many people frequently cross it.
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Post by Darcy Collins on Jun 28, 2019 17:21:25 GMT
Don't look at his page - easy peasy. I have no intention of wading through a boatload of crap to find the occasional non-offensive post.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 28, 2019 17:23:56 GMT
That sounds hard. Do you have a relationship with your dad? Do you want to have one? Do you have the opportunity to have face to face conversations with him? I'm wondering if there is an opportunity for you to tell him to his face that you care about him, but that you find what he posts online hurtful to you. That you feel demeaned and that it's damaging to your relationship with him. He may say, "Oh, it's a joke" but you will at least have the chance to say, "I'm your daughter and I feel like this. Imagine what people you don't know feel when you post these things. Do you believe these things about me?" I feel like face-to-face, you can have that conversation. Otherwise, you may just have to unfollow/hide. I did that with an acquaintance who is just not ready to have real conversations about the impact of her posts, and TBH, I don't care if I have a real relationship with her but can't go balls out because she is a friend of my in-laws. I'm sorry you're dealing with this. Yes, we get along just fine if you keep politics etc out of it. We have a rule that we just don't talk about it. Now my mom will sometimes start up on stuff but I refuse to talk about it and generally she stops. I know I should just not look at his page ever. And I will go weeks without doing so, but then occasionally I do because of the family things he posts sometimes. I made that mistake today and didn't stop my fingers from typing. Nothing so far, I bet he will ignore it and my mom will get on me about it. |
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Post by workingclassdog on Jun 28, 2019 17:41:27 GMT
Just ignore it. And don’t go look at his page. Why go look when you know it’s something you don’t want to see? I think we all have people like this on Facebook, no matter what the subject matter is.  I have so many friends and there are so many different views that I just ignore ALL of it. I don't discuss politics with anyone including my husband. It's a free country so I just shut my mouth and go on with life. I am much happier that way. When I see certain posts that jabs one or the other I scroll on by. It's not worth it at all. |
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Post by sudie on Jun 28, 2019 18:26:47 GMT
I understand completely what you are going through. I have had to unfollow my sister for the exact same reason. She and I are total opposites when it comes to Politics and Religion. I told her I love her, but those 2 subjects are off limits for me. I will not engage in the hatred.
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Post by supersoda on Jun 28, 2019 23:43:10 GMT
Do we have the same dad? My dad posted something like “you’ve failed as a parent if you let your child attend a March For Our Lives rally.” My daughters responded “Your daughter took us to the march.” 😂 Astonishing how they fail to connect their comments to their own lives and ignore the fact that people they claim to love hold the beliefs they’re demonizing. I’ve been off FB for years because I didn’t want crap like that ruining my personal relationships. I’ve also told the kids to just block or unfriend grandpa rather than respond to him. Hats off to your kids! Did your dad respond to them?? No--he was remarkably silent. |
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Post by tincin on Jun 29, 2019 1:32:43 GMT
I do post politics on my FB page but I don’t post memes that insult the other party. I don’t think there’s much to be gained from saying things like if you voted for X, you’re a racist or an idiot. I don’t believe anyone has ever changed their opinion because someone insulted their intelligence or views.
I periodically post reminding people who are annoyed by them to exercise their right to avoid most of my political posts by clicking the three dots in the upper right corner.
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Post by katlaw on Jun 29, 2019 2:02:57 GMT
I think that posts like that are disrespectful. They fuel the already tense political atmosphere and spread hatred.
The depths that adults are willing to stoop to on social media are appalling.
If you posted a picture of your boss and made a comment like that you would lose your job and could be charged with threatening violence against them. How is this acceptable?
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