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Post by summer on Jul 16, 2019 15:05:51 GMT
It's a new performance, they gave up their original seats and should have no expectation of getting them back for the next show. I would have stayed in my seat.
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Post by delila on Jul 16, 2019 15:24:15 GMT
Move your feet lose your seat. Too bad for them.
delila
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anniebygaslight
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Post by anniebygaslight on Jul 16, 2019 16:07:49 GMT
I'd stay put.
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Post by cmpeter on Jul 16, 2019 16:10:07 GMT
That was really rude and ballsy of them. I don’t think I would have moved, but can’t say for sure because of how your daughter was feeling.
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Post by joelise on Jul 16, 2019 17:01:19 GMT
I would have stayed in the seats but understand why you chose to move.
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Post by elaine on Jul 16, 2019 18:07:28 GMT
I would have stayed in the seats but understand why you chose to move. This. If there was quite a bit of turnover, how would they even know exactly which 2 seats were theirs? Unless they were in the front row, they could have mistakenly chosen the wrong row and/or the wrong pair of seats to “reclaim” without anything marking them. I understand your moving for your daughter’s sake and I’m ticked off on your behalf.
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Post by just PEAchy on Jul 16, 2019 18:39:50 GMT
I’d like to think I would have stayed, but I hate confrontation and probably would have moved. Especially if I was with my dd, who seems to be a lot like the OP’s dd.
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marimoose
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Post by marimoose on Jul 16, 2019 18:39:59 GMT
I see this as no different than a large concert with a pit. If you leave and there is no one left behind to hold your space then it is like parking on the street and moving your car. Just because you were parked there does not assure you of that space again. I would not have moved but in your situation, if it were causing your daughter additional anxiety, then I would have moved. It was extremely rude of them. I would also have had anxiety upon moving and not been able to enjoy the show.
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Post by maryland on Jul 16, 2019 18:56:53 GMT
I would leave the seats. If it's reasonable to expect a significant number of folks would stay for both parts of the concert, I wouldn't move seats mid-way unless the 2nd part began and nobody was sitting there for a few minutes into the performance. Maybe they had to go to the bathroom? But why not at least leave their programs? That’s what most people did who wanted to save seats. It’s a head scratcher for sure. My husband and I would take turns, one would go to the bathroom and one would save the seat. Of course if a small child too young to be left alone was the "second person", then I could understand them both leaving. But like most others, I would stay in the seat in most cases.
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Post by auntkelly on Jul 16, 2019 19:24:18 GMT
I'm honestly not sure what I would do if I were put on the spot like that. If I had a minute to think about it, I'd probably say "I'm sorry, but we didn't know you were planning on returning to these seats. You should have left something on your seat or told someone around you that you were returning."
However, in real life, I might be so caught off guard by their rudeness, that I would probably just get up and leave.
Honestly, it just sounds like those people were being bullies.
One time I went to a Chicago Cubs' baseball game and a man was sitting in my seat when I arrived a few minutes after the game started. I politely said "Excuse me, I think you are in my seat." He looked at me and said "Let me see your ticket." Thinking that I was in the wrong section and he was trying to be helpful, I handed over my ticket. He looked at it and handed it back and then moved into the seat next to mine without saying a word..
The jerk was with his son and was sitting in my seat because he wanted to spread out. He had left an empty seat between him and his son. He knew he was sitting in a seat which didn't belong to him, yet he demanded to check my ticket to make sure I wasn't going to sit in a seat that didn't belong to me. I've often wished that when he asked to check my ticket I would have said "no, I'm not comfortable giving you my ticket, I'll go get an usher and have him/her tell me where my seat is located."
I know I shouldn't dwell on those things but it can really spoil an event when someone is unnecessarily rude.
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SabrinaP
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Post by SabrinaP on Jul 16, 2019 22:53:07 GMT
I would get up and probably be a bit pissy about it. Somethings just aren’t worth fighting for and I don’t think a seat is. It would annoy me, but not enough to argue with someone about it.
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Post by peabay on Jul 16, 2019 22:56:03 GMT
I would've moved.
It's seats. At a kids' concert. Just not that big a deal in the grand scheme of things.
But yes, I would've also done the passive aggressive (with the friendliest, butter wouldn't melt in my mouth tone): "Oh, we didn't see programs on them or coats - you know, how most people save seats. There was just nothing here to indicate that someone had been sitting here."
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Post by bc2ca on Jul 17, 2019 2:16:59 GMT
I think they were out of line and whether I'd give up my seats depends entirely on who/what I'm there to see. A few weeks ago I was called for jury duty and there were a couple hundred of us hanging around waiting to see if we were assigned a trial. They gave us a few breaks when we could leave the lounge and people were pretty fluid, moving around the room, changing seats, etc. After one break, this dude was really upset that someone had moved into "his" seat even though he hadn't left anything on it. To his dismay, everyone ignored him and one of the court clerks pointed out there were plenty of seats available.
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Post by annabella on Jul 17, 2019 2:17:27 GMT
I’d shrug and say I didn’t know you were sitting here and remain sitting acting completely bored in the convo and look away.
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Post by freecharlie on Jul 17, 2019 2:30:29 GMT
On the one hand - move your feet, lose your seat. How were you to know? On the other - it’s summer, no one is wearing coats so there’s not necessarily anything to leave behind while you use the restroom or whatever between performances because you wouldn’t leave your handbag. Maybe there’s a little benefit of the doubt can be given here. Buy they could have asked the people around them to save the seats. I've been known to do that for people. You move, you lose in GA
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jul 17, 2019 2:30:36 GMT
Move your feet lose your seat. Too bad for them. delila And this below. My husband and I would take turns, one would go to the bathroom and one would save the seat. Of course if a small child too young to be left alone was the "second person", then I could understand them both leaving. But like most others, I would stay in the seat in most cases. I’m at the stage of life where I’m just done putting up with rude, entitled people. They had plenty of options to make it apparent that they would be coming back and they chose to do none of them. They left, tough bounce. I’d probably also be ballsy enough to say something snarky like, “I’m SO sorry, but my mind reading skills are getting rusty in my old age. Maybe if you would have left something on the seats indicating that you would be back, we wouldn’t have sat here.” ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
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Post by freecharlie on Jul 17, 2019 2:43:52 GMT
If there was quite a bit of turnover, how would they even know exactly which 2 seats were theirs? If they are at a venue a lot, it is easy to remember. I know I could to it in our arenas and baseball field
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Post by Merge on Jul 17, 2019 3:01:05 GMT
If there was quite a bit of turnover, how would they even know exactly which 2 seats were theirs? If they are at a venue a lot, it is easy to remember. I know I could to it in our arenas and baseball field Nah, it was a temporary chair setup at a college in the Tennessee mountains where our kids were attending orchestra camp. I’d never been there before and she probably hadn’t either.
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Post by elaine on Jul 17, 2019 3:03:02 GMT
If there was quite a bit of turnover, how would they even know exactly which 2 seats were theirs? If they are at a venue a lot, it is easy to remember. I know I could to it in our arenas and baseball field Those types of seats usually have rows and numbers, don’t they? I would be able to remember too. Since it was a kids’ concert, I was imaging rows of chairs set up in the gym/multipurpose room/cafeteria/etc. the way they are here. If I got up and left, I couldn’t tell you where my exact seat was upon returning unless everyone around my seat stayed the same (and she said in the OP there was a lot of turnover between performances).
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Post by Merge on Jul 17, 2019 3:22:21 GMT
If they are at a venue a lot, it is easy to remember. I know I could to it in our arenas and baseball field Those types of seats usually have rows and numbers, don’t they? I would be able to remember too. Since it was a kids’ concert, I was imaging rows of chairs set up in the gym/multipurpose room/cafeteria/etc. the way they are here. If I got up and left, I couldn’t tell you where my exact seat was upon returning unless everyone around my seat stayed the same (and she said in the OP there was a lot of turnover between performances). Old church, actually, built in a neo-Gothic style without pews. Rows of wooden chairs. Theoretically most people had a kid performing only in one orchestra or the other. My kid performed in the first one, but her best friend was in the second one and we were driving her home, so we sat through both performances.
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Jul 17, 2019 5:19:29 GMT
I’d stay seated.
If I was feeling a bit “Randy” I might toss out a “you snooze, you lose” Barb, depending their tone and attitude. 🤣
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Post by StephDRebel on Jul 17, 2019 6:14:52 GMT
"Clearly you are confused. These are theists WE saved...with our bodies."
Keep jogging dude, that is ridiculous.
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Post by kelly8875 on Jul 17, 2019 13:26:04 GMT
In that case, I wouldn’t have moved. If the seats weren’t saved with jackets or something, they were free game.
Our dance recitals used to be back to back like this. But we had to leave the auditorium, and find new seats each time. Anyone who tried to save seats, their stuff was removed and put in a lost and found. We all knew it was that way, but some people always thought they were special enough to save.
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Post by maryland on Jul 17, 2019 15:31:12 GMT
Move your feet lose your seat. Too bad for them. delila And this below. My husband and I would take turns, one would go to the bathroom and one would save the seat. Of course if a small child too young to be left alone was the "second person", then I could understand them both leaving. But like most others, I would stay in the seat in most cases. I’m at the stage of life where I’m just done putting up with rude, entitled people. They had plenty of options to make it apparent that they would be coming back and they chose to do none of them. They left, tough bounce. I’d probably also be ballsy enough to say something snarky like, “I’m SO sorry, but my mind reading skills are getting rusty in my old age. Maybe if you would have left something on the seats indicating that you would be back, we wouldn’t have sat here.” ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ Yes! My kids are teens, and a 21 yr. old, and they would rather the rude, entitled people get their way. I worry that they will get walked all over.
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Post by baylorgrad on Jul 17, 2019 15:33:33 GMT
Several years ago, I had gone to my regular Friday Weight Watchers meeting early and sat in my usual seat. I had a crochet project bag and magazine, as well as a notebook and a jacket. About 10 minutes before the meeting started, I placed my things in my seat and went to the restroom. When I came back a few minutes later, an older man -- who had never been to the Friday meeting as long as I had been going there -- was sitting where I had placed my things. He had gathered all of my stuff, picked it up and placed everything a few seats down the row. I was so shocked that a stranger had touched my stuff that I didn't say anything! I just stared at him, then at my things, then at him again. I went to my stuff, picked it all up and sat at the opposite end of the row. The meeting leader noticed someone else was in my "usual" seat and asked me about it after the meeting. I told her what had happened and said if he had gotten there before me, that was fine -- but the fact that he felt it was OK to touch someone else's things just pissed me off.
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Post by maryland on Jul 17, 2019 15:34:54 GMT
In that case, I wouldn’t have moved. If the seats weren’t saved with jackets or something, they were free game. Our dance recitals used to be back to back like this. But we had to leave the auditorium, and find new seats each time. Anyone who tried to save seats, their stuff was removed and put in a lost and found. We all knew it was that way, but some people always thought they were special enough to save. That's how our dance recitals were. Then they switched it so we bought assigned seats online. That was nice, but it was so expensive because of all the processing fees. But nice to not have to worry about fights over seats.
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Post by huskergal on Jul 17, 2019 18:49:50 GMT
They are your seats now.
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Post by gritzi on Jul 17, 2019 21:16:47 GMT
Their loss, I would keep the seats & enjoy the concert
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Post by RosieKat on Jul 17, 2019 23:59:28 GMT
They were wrong, but I probably would have moved because I'm a weenie in those kinds of situations.
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