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Post by elaine on Aug 22, 2019 23:26:47 GMT
Add another to the bah humbug bench. IMO, shower guests need only bring themselves and a gift for the guest(s) of honor.
When everyone is expected to bring a dish it is a Potluck, not a Shower.
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Post by fuji on Aug 22, 2019 23:35:48 GMT
So I guess no one likes showers? My sister and sisters-in-law are hosting one for my DD, and this is making me feel like maybe we should skip it. We’re providing brunch, no book as a card, no games, no raffles. However, the stores she is registered at were included on the invitations, but apparently this is annoying?
I get that everyone is busy and some of them are over the top, but all of the showers I have been to have had very appreciative honorees. I feel like we’re just annoying everyone.
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Post by Kath on Aug 22, 2019 23:43:28 GMT
I like showers if the only thing I have to bring is a gift. Registry is great for me.
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Post by moodyblue on Aug 23, 2019 0:06:00 GMT
So I guess no one likes showers? My sister and sisters-in-law are hosting one for my DD, and this is making me feel like maybe we should skip it. We’re providing brunch, no book as a card, no games, no raffles. However, the stores she is registered at were included on the invitations, but apparently this is annoying? I get that everyone is busy and some of them are over the top, but all of the showers I have been to have had very appreciative honorees. I feel like we’re just annoying everyone. The shower isn’t the problem here - it’s being asked to bring food too.
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Post by fuji on Aug 23, 2019 0:16:03 GMT
So I guess no one likes showers? My sister and sisters-in-law are hosting one for my DD, and this is making me feel like maybe we should skip it. We’re providing brunch, no book as a card, no games, no raffles. However, the stores she is registered at were included on the invitations, but apparently this is annoying? I get that everyone is busy and some of them are over the top, but all of the showers I have been to have had very appreciative honorees. I feel like we’re just annoying everyone. The shower isn’t the problem here - it’s being asked to bring food too. Being asked to bring food is over the top, but there were also comments about games, buying a gift from a registry, providing addresses, etc. It makes me feel like we shouldn’t have a shower for DD. This is more about my guilt.
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Post by MichyM on Aug 23, 2019 0:16:16 GMT
This time of year I might do individual toothpicks with a grape tomato, fresh basil leaf, small fresh mozzerella ball on it. Drizzle with balsamic vinegar right before serving. Light, refreshing, easy to transport, and simple. I did that for our dog show appetizer gathering. So did someone else Funny! Next time try the chunk of cantaloupe on a toothpick with a thin slice of prosciutto folded gently on top.
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Post by MichyM on Aug 23, 2019 0:17:39 GMT
So I guess no one likes showers? My sister and sisters-in-law are hosting one for my DD, and this is making me feel like maybe we should skip it. We’re providing brunch, no book as a card, no games, no raffles. However, the stores she is registered at were included on the invitations, but apparently this is annoying? I get that everyone is busy and some of them are over the top, but all of the showers I have been to have had very appreciative honorees. I feel like we’re just annoying everyone. Sounds like good old fashioned shower to me.
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Post by elaine on Aug 23, 2019 0:49:31 GMT
So I guess no one likes showers? My sister and sisters-in-law are hosting one for my DD, and this is making me feel like maybe we should skip it. We’re providing brunch, no book as a card, no games, no raffles. However, the stores she is registered at were included on the invitations, but apparently this is annoying? I get that everyone is busy and some of them are over the top, but all of the showers I have been to have had very appreciative honorees. I feel like we’re just annoying everyone. I love showers. I think that most of the comments were about doing all the shower activities AND being asked to bring the food too. It is asking the guests to bring food in addition to a gift that is tacky, imo. Making a dish that tastes and looks good enough to bring to a shower is an imposition and would make the event less enjoyable for me. If the hosts can’t afford a big spread, as a guest I would prefer to only have a slice of cake and some iced tea as refreshment, rather than being asked to make and bring a dish. Eta: I love buying off of registries! I’d much rather buy the couple/mother what they/she wants.
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Post by johnnysmom on Aug 23, 2019 0:54:58 GMT
An etiquette book?
I honestly don't know bringing food to a shower is just weird and tacky (and I don't mind showers and kinda like the cheesy games and love buying baby gifts). I hate to cook so....chips and salsa? veggies & dip?
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Post by Eddie-n-Harley on Aug 23, 2019 1:18:57 GMT
The shower isn’t the problem here - it’s being asked to bring food too. Being asked to bring food is over the top, but there were also comments about games, buying a gift from a registry, providing addresses, etc. It makes me feel like we shouldn’t have a shower for DD. This is more about my guilt. I mean, strictly speaking, if you go by "etiquette," family isn't supposed to host showers. But with the exception of one shower for a work colleague, which I attended in my thirties, every other shower I've ever been to has been hosted by family members of the honoree. But I like showers. I like choosing from the registry. I like some of the stupid games. I even like watching all the presents being opened. Now, as for what The Birdhouse Lady should bring to THIS shower, I vote for cheese in a can and a box of Town House crackers (Ritz being too fancy). Or, you can go with two traditions in my family; either a couple of cans of black olives, or a gum and mint tray (just get some sticks of wrapped gum and peppermints to arrange neatly on a little plate). (In all seriousness, anything I would bring has already been covered.)
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Post by anaterra on Aug 23, 2019 2:19:38 GMT
So I guess no one likes showers? My sister and sisters-in-law are hosting one for my DD, and this is making me feel like maybe we should skip it. We’re providing brunch, no book as a card, no games, no raffles. However, the stores she is registered at were included on the invitations, but apparently this is annoying? I get that everyone is busy and some of them are over the top, but all of the showers I have been to have had very appreciative honorees. I feel like we’re just annoying everyone. This is the peas and its always a shower shit show around here.... most peas seem to be party poopers when it comes to showers... its just the way us peas roll... dont let it get you down about ur dds party... its fine... we all get invites to showers... some of us go.. some of us bitch... lol.. its who we are... I am a pea who has other plans... dont like showers... wont go... i will give a gift card... lol dont even wanna shop... i suck!!
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Post by 950nancy on Aug 23, 2019 2:21:30 GMT
So I guess no one likes showers? My sister and sisters-in-law are hosting one for my DD, and this is making me feel like maybe we should skip it. We’re providing brunch, no book as a card, no games, no raffles. However, the stores she is registered at were included on the invitations, but apparently this is annoying? I get that everyone is busy and some of them are over the top, but all of the showers I have been to have had very appreciative honorees. I feel like we’re just annoying everyone. I like knowing where people are registered. I like getting things the new mom wants. I just am not a fan of spending 4 hours on a weekend day oohing and aahhing over baby things. I do know many people that love them. It just isn't me. My dream shower would be one that would be more of an open house where I could wander in and out. I also feel like all of the new moms I know are very appreciative too.
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Post by hop2 on Aug 23, 2019 2:35:21 GMT
Deviled eggs
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Post by kate on Aug 23, 2019 2:49:03 GMT
Being asked to bring food is over the top, but there were also comments about games, buying a gift from a registry, providing addresses, etc. It makes me feel like we shouldn’t have a shower for DD. This is more about my guilt. Asking all the guests to bring food is ridiculous. Games? Eh. One or two can be cute, but my tolerance wears thin after that. Registries are fine IMO, though I know etiquette gurus disagree. I just don't like being ORDERED to give something specific (e.g. "Gift cards only, please!" or the like). Providing addresses - ummm, if you sent me an invitation, then you have my address. I wouldn't mind signing a guestbook that included addresses, though. But writing out the envelope for my own thank-you card? No. Please enjoy your DD's shower! It sounds like it will be lovely. The Peas just love a good pile-on of all the tacky shower/wedding things - I don't think yours will qualify.
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Aug 23, 2019 2:56:35 GMT
My sisters sister in law had everyone bring a dish to her wedding. She is the cheapest person in the world but can afford whatever she wants (guess because she’s cheap lol)
Personally I dislike all showers..I don’t want to do games but more than anything I hate sitting around watching someone open gifts. So I just don’t go to showers. Oddly enough I love to decorate for them...I would be a wonderful party planner but I just don’t want to attend the party I’m throwing lol
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Post by curiouscrafter on Aug 23, 2019 3:45:56 GMT
Wait...you're invited to a shower and have to bring food? What in the world is going on with people? If YOU want to host a party - then HOST it... I'm sick of it. I'm having a birthday party - everyone bring the food! Come on - suck it up or don't host.
Sorry - rant over.
I would decline and not take anything. Send a gift to the shower recipient directly, or get together with just them and enjoy some 1-1 time.
How rude. Shaking my head over here.
Over, sorry, rant really over now.
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Post by Mary Kay Lady on Aug 23, 2019 4:07:44 GMT
Am I just out of touch with what is common these days? I've never heard of being invited to a shower and asked to bring refreshments. That's the responsibility of the hostesses.
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Post by PrettyInPeank on Aug 23, 2019 4:25:13 GMT
Am I just out of touch with what is common these days? I've never heard of being invited to a shower and asked to bring refreshments. That's the responsibility of the hostesses. It has everything to do with the host's common sense and ettiquette than the generation.
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Post by PaperAngel on Aug 23, 2019 4:57:05 GMT
While I would take nothing (since I wouldn't be attending a shower to which I'm expected to also bring food, especially at 10:30a on a Saturday morning!), my suggestions are petit fours, mini muffins, or an assorted fruit tray.
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Post by Legacy Girl on Aug 23, 2019 5:16:02 GMT
Google "brunch appetizers." Lots of good ideas, if you decide to take something.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Aug 23, 2019 8:00:03 GMT
Just another perspective.
In the circles I run in, it is common for people to bring food to a shower. When someone is invited, the first words out of their mouths are “ what can I bring?” It is rare for the host to want nothing brought by others. Some hosts have a theme, and list off items and the guest chooses one.
If someone doesn’t want/can’t bring something. No one minds. Most are happy to, though.
Celebrating and enjoying each other’s company are the highlight of these gatherings. Sharing food with each other is a joy. You hear comments like, “who made these deviled eggs? I want the recipe”.
While the gifts are generous, some can spend much less than others. Some make homemade. Some guests do not bring a gift at all, but are very welcomed to enjoy the company.
Reading threads like these reminds me to be thankful for the community I’ve taken for granted.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 23, 2019 8:15:22 GMT
This time of year I might do individual toothpicks with a grape tomato, fresh basil leaf, small fresh mozzerella ball on it. Drizzle with balsamic vinegar right before serving. Light, refreshing, easy to transport, and simple. OMG! Can I go wherever you are taking that!!!
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Post by mikklynn on Aug 23, 2019 12:41:03 GMT
So I guess no one likes showers? My sister and sisters-in-law are hosting one for my DD, and this is making me feel like maybe we should skip it. We’re providing brunch, no book as a card, no games, no raffles. However, the stores she is registered at were included on the invitations, but apparently this is annoying? I get that everyone is busy and some of them are over the top, but all of the showers I have been to have had very appreciative honorees. I feel like we’re just annoying everyone. Your shower sounds lovely. I personally appreciate a gift registry. I want to spend my money on something the mother-to-be wants and needs. I guess we have all had some bad experiences! My personal favorite was having to step over a huge pile of dog poop in front of the door, seeing the toddler child of the hostess sitting on the table in a diaper eating a stick of butter, and having to wait 30 minutes for the hostess to come out of the bathroom, because she was still getting her hair and makeup together.
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Post by janeinbama on Aug 23, 2019 12:49:02 GMT
So I guess no one likes showers? My sister and sisters-in-law are hosting one for my DD, and this is making me feel like maybe we should skip it. We’re providing brunch, no book as a card, no games, no raffles. However, the stores she is registered at were included on the invitations, but apparently this is annoying? I get that everyone is busy and some of them are over the top, but all of the showers I have been to have had very appreciative honorees. I feel like we’re just annoying everyone. This sounds like a dream shower. You know where to buy a gift, brunch is my favorite and no games with strangers as I would only know 1 or 2 people.
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Post by pancakes on Aug 23, 2019 13:01:36 GMT
Just another perspective. In the circles I run in, it is common for people to bring food to a shower. When someone is invited, the first words out of their mouths are “ what can I bring?” It is rare for the host to want nothing brought by others. Some hosts have a theme, and list off items and the guest chooses one. If someone doesn’t want/can’t bring something. No one minds. Most are happy to, though. Celebrating and enjoying each other’s company are the highlight of these gatherings. Sharing food with each other is a joy. You hear comments like, “who made these deviled eggs? I want the recipe”. While the gifts are generous, some can spend much less than others. Some make homemade. Some guests do not bring a gift at all, but are very welcomed to enjoy the company. Reading threads like these reminds me to be thankful for the community I’ve taken for granted. This is a know your audience thing. It sounds like you have a close knit community of family and friends, and that’s great. However, for a lot of people, they’re invited to a lot of showers, especially for people they are not very close with. Whether the invitation is out of greed or politeness, when you are happy to celebrate someone you only somewhat know, you’re already being polite by attending and bringing a gift. Adding required potluck items to that is over the top.
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Post by 950nancy on Aug 23, 2019 21:28:02 GMT
Being asked to bring food is over the top, but there were also comments about games, buying a gift from a registry, providing addresses, etc. It makes me feel like we shouldn’t have a shower for DD. This is more about my guilt. Asking all the guests to bring food is ridiculous. Games? Eh. One or two can be cute, but my tolerance wears thin after that. Registries are fine IMO, though I know etiquette gurus disagree. I just don't like being ORDERED to give something specific (e.g. "Gift cards only, please!" or the like). Providing addresses - ummm, if you sent me an invitation, then you have my address. I wouldn't mind signing a guestbook that included addresses, though. But writing out the envelope for my own thank-you card? No. Please enjoy your DD's shower! It sounds like it will be lovely. The Peas just love a good pile-on of all the tacky shower/wedding things - I don't think yours will qualify. When my best friend got married years ago (like 30), I had made her a set of thank you cards for one of her showers. As people dropped off gifts, I put a sticky note on the inside of the envelope with name of gift and I wrote the address of the person on the outside of the envelope. They were all pre stamped and she loved not having to do anything more than write a thank you card and lick the envelope. It was a wedding shower and she had more than 30 thank yous to write for just one shower.
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Post by mayceesgranny on Aug 23, 2019 21:56:59 GMT
I'm going to a shower this weekend. In general I don't mind a shower if its for someone I am close with.
BUT - please keep it under 2 hours, give me a list of items ( or a registry) the showeree would like or need, have just one short game or a fun activity and delicious cake and maybe an alcoholic beverage...
I would be happy to go to a shower that had a light lunch, followed by watching the showeree open gifts while I eat cake and drink a mimosa. That's plenty of entertainment and it won't consume my whole day.
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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Aug 23, 2019 22:01:52 GMT
So I guess no one likes showers? My sister and sisters-in-law are hosting one for my DD, and this is making me feel like maybe we should skip it. We’re providing brunch, no book as a card, no games, no raffles. However, the stores she is registered at were included on the invitations, but apparently this is annoying? I get that everyone is busy and some of them are over the top, but all of the showers I have been to have had very appreciative honorees. I feel like we’re just annoying everyone. I love getting invited to showers, and am happy bring a dish, and would love to do a book as a card, but I avoid the games and raffles! The peas can be a grumpy bunch!
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Post by dewryce on Aug 23, 2019 22:16:44 GMT
So I guess no one likes showers? My sister and sisters-in-law are hosting one for my DD, and this is making me feel like maybe we should skip it. We’re providing brunch, no book as a card, no games, no raffles. However, the stores she is registered at were included on the invitations, but apparently this is annoying? I get that everyone is busy and some of them are over the top, but all of the showers I have been to have had very appreciative honorees. I feel like we’re just annoying everyone. Some people don’t like showers in general, but that is not what this is about. People are happy to bring a gift and most appreciate registry information. What we don’t want is to have to bring food, if I am close enough to the honoree or even the hostess I would probably offer, but if not don’t expect me to provide refreshments for a gathering you are hosting if it’s not a potluck. We don’t want to be told to buy a GC rather than a gift, we don’t want to be told to fill out an envelope with our address for the thank you card so the honoree doesn’t have to, we don’t want to be told that instead of a card we need to bring a book instead, adding to the expense, or be told to make sure and bring diapers (or whatever) to be involved in the raffle...in addition to the gift. Games are a mixed bag, as are opening gifts in front of everyone. I think it depends on your social circle, how big the shower is, etc. Your shower sounds lovely, have a good time and congratulations!
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Post by Deleted on Aug 23, 2019 22:20:11 GMT
Cheesecake bites
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