brandy327
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Post by brandy327 on Sept 4, 2019 13:14:03 GMT
I have 2 14yos(almost 15) and they head to their bedrooms around 9pm and either read or watch tv for 20-30 mins. One gets up at 5 and the other at 5:20.
I don't set a bedtime. They can stay up however late they want IF...
- Their grades are good - They can get up on time - Their attitudes are good
The only exception is I have one dd that gets migraines. When she has one, I enforce an 8-8:30 bedtime because she needs the extra sleep to help recover. Even then it still takes 4-7 days for it to go away.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 4, 2019 13:14:56 GMT
My 15yo doesnt need much sleep; never has, not even as a baby. She goes to her room around 930, usually, but I know the watches videos until 1130 or so. She gets up at 7. She is happy and energetic in the morning, so it's fine.
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Julie W
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Post by Julie W on Sept 4, 2019 13:28:47 GMT
DD13's middle school start time was moved back an hour this year to 8:30 start time (from 7:30). Bus stop right at our house, used to have to be there at 7:04, now 8:04. She has been going to bed really early 8 or so these first couple of days, since she's used to so much sleep in the summer. Ideally we'd like her to get 10 hours and maybe that can happen with this new start time. However her circus arts training starts up again in 2 weeks and there are two nights she will be there until 9/9:30. She's always so wired coming home, so it takes her some time to fall asleep.
Thankful for the move to later start times.
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Julie W
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Post by Julie W on Sept 4, 2019 13:29:29 GMT
I have 2 14yos(almost 15) and they head to their bedrooms around 9pm and either read or watch tv for 20-30 mins. One gets up at 5 and the other at 5:20. I don't set a bedtime. They can stay up however late they want IF... - Their grades are good - They can get up on time - Their attitudes are good I like this philosophy!
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Post by paigepea on Sept 4, 2019 13:33:24 GMT
Thank you. All of these perspectives really help.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 4, 2019 14:09:01 GMT
My 16 yr old dd goes to bed by 9pm (and is asleep) and is up at 5 to 5:30am. She is a morning person. We leave home for her campus at 6:45-6:50am. Her site starts at 7:30am.
Friday and Saturday she stays up till 10pm watching Live PD.
My 13 yr old ds goes to bed at 8pm and is asleep within 5 min and is up around 5:30 to 6:00am.
Friday and Sat he is up till 9pm.
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brandy327
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Post by brandy327 on Sept 4, 2019 14:23:17 GMT
I have 2 14yos(almost 15) and they head to their bedrooms around 9pm and either read or watch tv for 20-30 mins. One gets up at 5 and the other at 5:20. I don't set a bedtime. They can stay up however late they want IF... - Their grades are good - They can get up on time - Their attitudes are good I like this philosophy! It's actually worked really well for us. My ds follows a very set schedule. He goes to bed at 9/9:30 on school nights and up at 5:20. Weekends he stays up until 10 and sleeps until 6am. My girls can usually gauge how much sleep they need. One dd needs a bit more than the other. When school is in session, by Thursday or Friday, she's sometimes heading to bed at 8-8:30pm. Weekends she will sleep until 9-10am if she doesn't have soccer or futsal. Only occasionally will I have to tell someone that they need to go to bed earlier.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Sept 4, 2019 14:42:55 GMT
There was talk about shifting the start times for this year but it didn’t go anywhere. Our elementary school day is 8:40-3:10, middle school is 7:20-2:20 and high school is 7:40-2:10. Honestly I’m glad the younger kids don’t start any earlier than that because my 4th grader is (and has been since she was a baby) a night owl and is growly as all get out in the morning no matter how much sleep she’s had. I fight with her every night to get her to go to bed earlier and fight with her again every day to get up. It’s been an ongoing challenge since she was in preschool.
Sometimes we have things going on that don’t have us getting home until 8:00 pm or so, and she’s not wound down enough to get ready for bed yet. Most days I aim to get her in her upstairs and in her pajamas by 8:15, out of the bathroom by 8:30, read for 20-30 minutes and lights out at nine but that doesn’t mean she is actually going to sleep then. The frustrating thing is that I know she needs more sleep because she’s so crabby in the morning but no amount of reasoning works when the kid is just not tired at night.
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Post by kelly8875 on Sept 4, 2019 14:57:47 GMT
At 14 both my kids were freshmen and that school started at 8:00. They were usually up around 6:30-7.
They didn’t have too much for bedtime. Several nights a week DD wasn’t home from dance until nearly 10.
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Post by mandolyn9909 on Sept 4, 2019 15:11:44 GMT
My kids (Age 15, 15 and 11) all head upstairs to bed at 9. My DD (15) stays up reading for a while. The other two pretty much go right to sleep. I would start telling them lights out around 10 if they were still up. They are all up at 6:30 am. My DD that is the one that usually stays up a bit later is always the first one up, she naturally gets up around 6 every day and has since she was a baby. 11 yr old catches bus at 7:30, the twins catch their bus as 7:55. I will be honest to say their bedtime is mostly because I like having a couple hours by myself in the evenings before I go to bed. DH heads to bed at 9 too. It is my scrapbook, TV time and usually laundry time.
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Post by iowgirl on Sept 4, 2019 15:43:40 GMT
On a school night. She gets up at 7:15 for school and her school encourages her to get 9 hrs per night. She can get up at 7:30 latest. We leave by 7:55. At school by 8. By the time my kids got to High School, which would be age 14, bed time was a very flexible situation. Most of it was dictated by their schedule. Depending on what time of the year, and what sport they were in, they were often at school by 6 am - this was usually just in the fall for XC, but practice started at 6, so they had to be out of the house about 20 minutes before that to make the drive to town. One DD had horses, so she had to have them fed before she left, but she could do that like a rocket. LOL The rest of the year, they didn't have to get up that early, since they didn't have to be to school until 8 - but the morning usually starts here around 5:30, so they would generally wander down around 6 - 6:30 and eat and do some homework before school. Other sports ran later into the night, especially basketball. It wasn't unusual to have them get home after 10 pm, if the game was very far away. Usually one game during the week and one on Friday, with some tournaments on Saturday. Track could get late sometimes too, with 2 meets a week. They had to learn time management. They also had responsibilities at home on the weekends, and any time they could put in after school/sports, if we needed them. But we tried to let them have a Sunday afternoon crash to recover.
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Post by birdy on Sept 4, 2019 15:49:08 GMT
9 on school nights otherwise she is very difficult the next day. She gets up at 6:45. She’s 13 1/2.
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Post by PolarGreen12 on Sept 4, 2019 15:53:15 GMT
I'm impressed at a lot of your kids early bed times. I never went to bed before 10pm as a kid and even later as I became a teen. I'm naturally nocturnal and this is still a struggle to go to bed at a decent hour.
No kids of my own, but I imagine I'd adopt Brandy's philosophy of set your own bedtime as long as you meet X requirements.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 4, 2019 18:26:26 GMT
On a school night. She gets up at 7:15 for school and her school encourages her to get 9 hrs per night. She can get up at 7:30 latest. We leave by 7:55. At school by 8. I have no idea what time my 14 years olds went to bed. I sent them upstairs/to their rooms around 8:30 because **I** needed a break from parenting. What they did was up to them as long as they weren't loud enough to annoy me. As long as everyone was cheerful the next morning and grades were good I didn't monitor a "light out" time.
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Post by Mel on Sept 4, 2019 18:38:53 GMT
I have 2 13 y/o. My DS is special needs (he has Down syndrome and is around 7/8 developmentally). He is in bed by 8:00. He needs the extra sleep and frankly, we need the "down" time after he goes to bed. DD is "typical" and she pretty much makes her own bedtime. She is in her room by 9, but usually watches tv or something for a little bit. Usually asleep by 9:30ish.
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Post by 950nancy on Sept 4, 2019 20:23:04 GMT
My kids were always in the car to go to school by 6:45 or 7 Kindergarten through 12th grade. They kind of self regulated when they needed to go to bed. I did tell them that if they were sassy or acted tired I would decide for them. It varied between 7:30 and 9 for those 13 years.
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Post by AussieMeg on Sept 4, 2019 23:33:03 GMT
My 14yo son goes to bed at 10pm, and gets up at 7:30am. He leaves for school at 8:20am. School hours for my son are 8:40am-3:30pm.
If DS drags his arse in the morning and doesn't get out of bed quick enough, then he has to go to bed earlier that night.
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Post by luckyjune on Sept 4, 2019 23:53:24 GMT
Our kids were in their rooms by 9:30, lights out by 10, up at 6:30 for school, which started at 7:30. Most nights, they were exhausted from sports, homework, music lessons, etc that they were in bed at 9. Then came zero-hour jazz band, so school really started at 6:30 am...
And as a side note, as much as I miss having my kids younger and at home, I do not miss running three kids around creation, trying to get them all to their activities!
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Post by Jennifer C on Sept 5, 2019 0:35:48 GMT
My kids are way early risers.
DD 17 swims and practice starts at 4a to eat and be in the water by 5a.
DS 14 has football so he's up at 5:30 so he can eat and be ready by 6:45.
They are usually both in bed and asleep by 9a, if not earlier.
Jennifer
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Post by Peace Sign on Sept 5, 2019 2:00:09 GMT
Around 9:45. He gets up at 7 and can do it by himself, with just the alarm.
my 15 year old, on the other hand, sucks the life out of me every morning. His school starts at 7:30. Why??
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Post by Sorrel on Sept 5, 2019 2:19:23 GMT
My 14 year old is a total night owl. I have no idea exactly when she goes to bed... probably 1130-1 AM. I gave up trying to force her. She gets up at 6 AM and has more energy than anyone I know, so I stopped worrying about it.
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Post by Miss Ang on Sept 5, 2019 12:23:19 GMT
When my kids were that age we didn't necessarily have a "bedtime" but they went to bed around 10p and were up by 6:30a-7a for school.
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Post by snugglebutter on Sept 5, 2019 13:40:32 GMT
8:30-9:00 on most weeknights. She's naturally an early riser (6ish) so this works well. Once or twice a week she will stay up later to watch a movie.
There is no sleeping in with her lol. If she is up super late for an event we usually have her go to bed early the next night.
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