Anita
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Post by Anita on Sept 23, 2019 14:04:45 GMT
No, not at all. No one in my house likes sports in the least, but it doesn't affect friendships.
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Post by dewryce on Sept 23, 2019 14:14:58 GMT
I loved watching my own kids play sports. I will purposefully watch a major sports event just to be 'in the know.' And an occasional trip to a professional sports event can be entertaining. But sports is *far* from being my life. The men in my life though seem to feel differently. Therefore I do spend more time in and around sports than I would choose to otherwise because I love my people. That's me, too. Because I worked with all men, I made sure to know the latest score of whatever sport was in season. It's easy, because DH, DS, and grandson are obsessed with sports. All sports. We share season tickets to the Minnesota Twins baseball team. OMG - that too many games. I encourage DH to take his friends! Seriously. Again, huge fan of sporting events. We had season tickets for the NBA for a short while, and loved it. Missed maybe 2 or 3 games, including playoffs, in 3 years and were super disappointed when we decided not to renew. But that was a max of 61 home games a year which still had us feeling like the arena was our second home. MLB must be over 80, not including playoffs. Sharing season tickets would definitely be the way to go!
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Post by AussieMeg on Sept 23, 2019 14:15:48 GMT
My whole life from March through to September revolves around football. I have a couple of friends (they're sisters) who are not into sport at all, and certainly not football, but it doesn't affect our relationship - we have plenty of other things in common. They just know that if they want to plan anything with me during those 6 months of the year, they have to check the football fixture first to make sure my team is not playing.
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Post by smartypants71 on Sept 23, 2019 14:21:23 GMT
I HATE football season. It's like you can't go anywhere without a tv blaring a game. SO and I went to get mani/pedis on Saturday and there was a football game on there. Fortunately, they muted it.
I don't feel like I have less friends because of it though. We have plenty of friends that are not into ball sports.
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Post by caangel on Sept 23, 2019 14:25:50 GMT
The closest thing to sport that we watch on TV is Battle Bots or ANW.
My In-laws and BIL are big sports people. They took us to a NBA game once and Dh and I agreed we never wanted to go again. BIL invited us to a college football tailgate and game. We loved the tailgate (on a golf course, played volleyball and other games) but after attending one game we decided to just go for tailgating.
DH has a friend with season Tix to the local NHL team. About once a year he offers us game tickets. We actually enjoy it. But would never buy tickets ourselves. Once a year works for us.
My kids play soccer and are on swim team and in general are required to be involved in something active. In the past they have done tumbling, dance, tennis, baseball, basketball and running.
DH and I are also very active. I take 7hrs of dance classes (ballet, jazz, contemporary) a week and he does CrossFit 6 days a week.
I have a much bigger social circle than dh. I am very involved at the kids school and volunteer when I can for their activities. Dh is very introverted but after many years of doing CrossFit at the same gym he is slowly putting some effort and gained friends.
If you want friends and a bigger social circle you will need to put some effort into it. For me that looks like volunteering and hanging out with other parents at school pick up or sports sidelines.
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Post by Mel on Sept 23, 2019 14:28:33 GMT
Heck, I like sports and have no friends, so it's not just that! LOL
I know there are a lot of things that contribute to my lack of friends though... I'm in such a strange "stage" in life that I just feel like I don't fit in anywhere, to be honest. I have two kids that just turned 13, most of their friends are the oldest in the family, mine are the youngest, their parents are 30-somethings, I'm 50. My older kids friend's parents are done "raising" kids, so they aren't really interested in being friends because I do have kids at home so they have school functions, sports, etc. but they have been there/done that and moved on. Most are "empty nesters" now. I have a special needs child(developmental delays, non-verbal, down syndrome, and ADHD), and a medically complex child(Juvenile Dermatomyositis & newly diagnosed Celiac). I'm not married but have a long term relationship (and we live together).
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Post by The Great Carpezio on Sept 23, 2019 17:17:16 GMT
When I met (30 years ago) and married (24 years ago) my DH neither of us were sports people but neither of us were anti-sports people. I was pretty apathetic but would hang with people watching a pro game. Dh generally watched the Vikings, but he was OK missing a game if something more interesting came along to do.
All of a sudden, probably about 20 years ago, DH started in fantasy leagues (I think he is in five now) and became a HUGE football fan, started watching more sports regularly at that point, he also started playing on a golf league and going to at least one Viking and a few Wild games a season.... and about ten years ago started with NASCAR fantasy with his brothers. He is mostly into football, hockey, NASCAR (to some extent) and golf. We don't get to many pro games (going to a Wild game next month), but he has season tickets to D1 college hockey in our town. He loves to talk FF and sports as a whole and likes the social aspect of attending the local games and the games of my son.
I pretty much stayed out of all of this. I would say my friends and family are a mixed bag. I am not a "small talk pro sports" person but I am around it a lot. Most of my female friends are like me....we don't hate sports and will go to an occasional pro game or watch one on TV and chat through it.
However, I have two boy children. One is into sport but has just started watching more often (prefers youtube highlights to watching the game). The other doesn't play sports, but he will watch a little bit. My son who is into sports is pretty athletic. He is a hockey goalie, plays summer lacrosse and will be running track this Spring. He wants to play football but can't with hockey. So, I have become a hockey mom. It hasn't been easy for me since I am not big into sports, but I am growing into the roll and I try to go to all of his games and most or all scrimmages, and try to be a good "sportsball" mom.
If I can do it, pretty much anyone can 'cause it is so not my thing! But now I can talk youth hockey and almost keep up with the best of them.
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Post by bethany102399 on Sept 23, 2019 17:35:51 GMT
Nope, though my DH is a football fan (both the EU "soccer" and american football) being in KC, I hear the Chief's are doing well this year. We were actually sitting at a restaurant with the game on yesterday and I was commentating to dh. "the guy in the black and white suit is running" oh, a Chief's player tackled him. Now I Chief's player is running, but the black suit guy is trying to catch him. The screen says touchdown so apparently they scored (as the bar erupts unto cheers). He found it funny.
I will say, he's also a big baseball fan, and we mutually agreed a LONG time ago to go enjoy a game without me. I'm not offended, and if he enjoys it then go. I also try to be respectful of scheduling things when dealign with people I know are huge sports fans. My Mom religiously followed KU basketball. If I needed to call her on a weekend during basketball season, then I'd check and make sure the game wasn't on. DS is an early February baby. This means the weekend closest to his birthday is inevitably Superbowl Sunday. I've learned to work around these dates as they're important to other people.
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Post by papersilly on Sept 23, 2019 17:39:59 GMT
I love NFL football. i haaaate any kind of college sport and baseball. i'm barely OK with basketball and hockey. i can easily hang out with my FB friends during the season. going to or going over just to watch the other sports is a no for me.
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Post by mallie on Sept 23, 2019 17:48:26 GMT
Where we live now: No.
Where we lived before: Definitely. And it was all about football. Football -- professional and college was the #1 topic of conversation amongst adults. I cannot tell you the number of church sermons we sat through during football season that were ridiculously trying to tie Jesus to football. And you couldn't just have a passing knowledge -- your knowledge had to be in depth. People would test you on it if you didn't show enough enthusiasm or ability to talk in depth about the latest game. It was true for both men and women, but much tougher on my husband. There was a bone deep assumption that if you had a dick, you HAD to be a huge football fan. My husband, who has zero interest in football, tried to gain enough knowledge to "pass", but he always failed when he was invited to a game day tv watching party (by fellow geeks) and couldn't hold his own when the talk went into the past... decades in the past. He would never be invited back, nor were we ever invited back as a couple. He actually asked one guy that he thought was his friend, (they had met at a comic-con and had spent many hours together geeking out) and the guy told him that he and his wife had a policy that they were not friends with couples who were not huge football fans because "it made friendship too difficult".
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Post by maryland on Sept 23, 2019 22:18:15 GMT
I used to love football! But I kind of got tired of the taxpayers paying for new stadiums, and repairs, the fans being so negative if their team doesn't go to the Super Bowl every year, the hatred of the other team and their fans. I'm just no fun! We have season tickets to the college football team near us (ACC school) because our daughter is on the dance team. So we go to all the home games and get there 3 hrs. early for all the parades and festivities before the game. I love to watch my daughter perform (dance) on the sidelines throughout the game, so that's a lot more fun for me than watching the game! ![:)](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/MNrJDkDuSwqIMVw33MdD.jpg)
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Post by dewryce on Sept 24, 2019 4:54:59 GMT
Where we live now: No. Where we lived before: Definitely. And it was all about football. Football -- professional and college was the #1 topic of conversation amongst adults. I cannot tell you the number of church sermons we sat through during football season that were ridiculously trying to tie Jesus to football. And you couldn't just have a passing knowledge -- your knowledge had to be in depth. People would test you on it if you didn't show enough enthusiasm or ability to talk in depth about the latest game. It was true for both men and women, but much tougher on my husband. There was a bone deep assumption that if you had a dick, you HAD to be a huge football fan. My husband, who has zero interest in football, tried to gain enough knowledge to "pass", but he always failed when he was invited to a game day tv watching party (by fellow geeks) and couldn't hold his own when the talk went into the past... decades in the past. He would never be invited back, nor were we ever invited back as a couple. He actually asked one guy that he thought was his friend, (they had met at a comic-con and had spent many hours together geeking out) and the guy told him that he and his wife had a policy that they were not friends with couples who were not huge football fans because "it made friendship too difficult". Wow. Can I ask where this was? That’s...extreme. And I’m in Texas where even HS football is revered.
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Post by snyder on Sept 24, 2019 5:00:57 GMT
We are not a sports family. Dad watched some, brother played HS Hockey, my son did 1 year of football, so we dabbled in it, but as far as sitting in front of a TV watch is not anything of interest to us. I would say 95% of my friends are the same way, so maybe you need to expand your circle of friends that have similar likes that you have.
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