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Post by fredfreddy44 on Sept 23, 2019 2:11:59 GMT
Do you even feel like you have less friends because you have no interest in professional sports? Basketball, hockey, football, baseball, soccer, tennis or anything?
Friends have sports watching events and don't invite you, they have extra tickets and certainly don't ask you, or they just think you are flat out weird for not "rooting for the home team."
DH and I have never had an interest. I have basic sports knowledge because my parents watched it all the time when I was a kid and sometimes I was bored out of my skull, so I watched it (especially tennis).
We don't have lots of friends and I feel the non sports interest just puts another nail in the coffin. Only 1 out of 3 kids have any interest either.
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Post by jenjie on Sept 23, 2019 2:13:58 GMT
I would be bored out of my mind. I would go with dh to hockey games but was more interested in getting a snack during the game and making out afterwards 😂
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Post by allison1954 on Sept 23, 2019 2:15:45 GMT
no, there are plenty of other things besides sports
we do plays and theater and games and and and
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Post by roberta on Sept 23, 2019 2:19:09 GMT
I think we miss out on some social events because we don’t watch/know sports. We do have friends we do other things with.
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Post by myshelly on Sept 23, 2019 2:19:37 GMT
No. We have a good circle of friends and none of us care about sports.
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Post by freecharlie on Sept 23, 2019 2:20:17 GMT
Full disclosure, I love sports. It is what I do/watch.
I would not not be your friend if you didn't like sports. As a girl, I know many other females who are not into it. I would not invite you over to watch a normal game, but might the Superbowl and I might ask you once or twice to go to a game (I've gone to a ballet before even though I find it incredibly boring just because I liked the person asking).
I don't get invited to watch any of the reality premieres or finales as that isn't my jam, but one if my best friends loves them and hates sports.
Is it possible you two relied on each other so much for companionship and entertainment that others just naturally fell away?
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Post by rickmer on Sept 23, 2019 2:21:16 GMT
no. but i think it's because maybe most people in my life have little interest in professional sports too??
i mean some do, but its a *part* of their lives so there is lots of other parts that i can share in, if that makes sense?
i live in toronto - huge hockey town and basketball town... i have never been to EITHER. tickets are ridiculously expensive and, well, i live in toronto, there are LOTS of other things to do with friends and to spend my money on.
now my kids PLAY sports so i have spent more time in a rink than your average bear, gyms for school sports, soccer fields, pools, ball hockey rinks, etc, etc.... but no, i don't see it as a qualifier for the friends in my life as something we must do to spend time together.
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Post by Merge on Sept 23, 2019 2:35:36 GMT
No - I mean, DH likes sports and I will very occasionally go to an Astros game with him just because the atmosphere is fun. But we rarely watch sports together or attend sporting events with friends. We mostly do music (both practicing our own and attending concerts) with our closest couples friends, and each of us has individual friends that have non-sports interests. I do book club and other girl type stuff with my girl friends. DH meets his guy friends for a beer or sometimes a sporting event, but often not - and he has a close circle of guys friends with whom he plays historical war games.
I guess my point is, what are your hobbies and interests? Try to find people who share them.
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Post by dewryce on Sept 23, 2019 2:44:08 GMT
Full disclosure, I love attending most sporting events, especially with DH. But, I have friends/aquantainces who don’t and that doesn’t affect our relationship at all. I probably wouldn’t invite them when we are going to a game, but if I was having a big party for a game I would. As it stands, we’re pretty anti-social so we don’t throw parties When we had season tickets for basketball I did invite my two closest friends to a game or two, they were famously not into sports. We went and had a good time. Just as I’ve gone with other people to events that aren’t up my ally and had a good time. And have gone to concerts for music I wasn’t into because a friend wanted me to go.
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Post by cindyupnorth on Sept 23, 2019 2:51:37 GMT
While we do like sports, we don’t really like or go to many sports watching parties. I’ve found at things like that, you don’t really watch the sport. It’s visiting and eating, etc.
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Post by fredfreddy44 on Sept 23, 2019 2:53:46 GMT
now my kids PLAY sports so i have spent more time in a rink than your average bear, gyms for school sports, soccer fields, pools, ball hockey rinks, etc, etc.... but no, i don't see it as a qualifier for the friends in my life as something we must do to spend time together.
See I think this part of it too: none of our 3 kids did team sports. Oldest: no interest plus couldn't due to brittle none disease, 2nd absolutely NO interest, 3rd only interested in individual sports (karate and parkour). He did cabana swim for a number of years that was fun and did HS diving which had no team building at all. I don't "hang out" and talk to the other moms.
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Post by myshelly on Sept 23, 2019 3:04:36 GMT
now my kids PLAY sports so i have spent more time in a rink than your average bear, gyms for school sports, soccer fields, pools, ball hockey rinks, etc, etc.... but no, i don't see it as a qualifier for the friends in my life as something we must do to spend time together. See I think this part of it too: none of our 3 kids did team sports. Oldest: no interest plus couldn't due to brittle none disease, 2nd absolutely NO interest, 3rd only interested in individual sports (karate and parkour). He did cabana swim for a number of years that was fun and did HS diving which had no team building at all. I don't "hang out" and talk to the other moms. I think the “I don’t hang out and talk to other moms” is a bigger problem than the I don’t like sports thing. Most of my friends are mom friends. It’s super convenient to make plans with other families when the moms like each other and the kids like each other. And that can’t happen if you don’t hang out.
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Post by nlwilkins on Sept 23, 2019 3:09:02 GMT
Neither of us are into sports in any way even though hubby was a star player in high school. Our friends are our friends even though some like sports. Our friends are like us with other interests but it is not the end all and be all of their lives. Nobody I know would travel out of town to see a professional game. Some will go to see grand kids play but only because it is grand kids not because they are a big fan. I like to think we are well rounded in our interests and that we don't center our lives around just one of them. We don't feel the lack of friends because of our lack of interest in sports. Sports is not an issue when making friends.
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Post by freecharlie on Sept 23, 2019 3:09:15 GMT
now my kids PLAY sports so i have spent more time in a rink than your average bear, gyms for school sports, soccer fields, pools, ball hockey rinks, etc, etc.... but no, i don't see it as a qualifier for the friends in my life as something we must do to spend time together. See I think this part of it too: none of our 3 kids did team sports. Oldest: no interest plus couldn't due to brittle none disease, 2nd absolutely NO interest, 3rd only interested in individual sports (karate and parkour). He did cabana swim for a number of years that was fun and did HS diving which had no team building at all. I don't "hang out" and talk to the other moms. I think the “I don’t hang out and talk to other moms” is a bigger problem than the I don’t like sports thing. Most of my friends are mom friends. It’s super convenient to make plans with other families when the moms like each other and the kids like each other. And that can’t happen if you don’t hang out. I agree. Friends don't just materialize out of thin air, you have to seek or at least be able to be seen.
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Post by trollie on Sept 23, 2019 3:09:51 GMT
Nah... Too many other interests. You only need one or two good friends anyhow.
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Post by 950nancy on Sept 23, 2019 3:19:43 GMT
Sports is life in our house. Just not my life. We had sports practice 6-7 days a week and games in there too while they were growing up. My husband thought sports would do all of the things that sports are supposed to do. They did.
My kids are still over on the weekends with their girlfriends to watch games every football weekend. They still play golf and/or frisbee golf every weekend.
Most of my friends love sports. They love a particular sport or team and I always ask them about their teams even though I personally don't watch. It is kind of like asking about their family or pet.
Do I miss out on events? Yes, but I am good with that.
I still have a few mom friends that had kids in sports over 15 years ago, so I am glad that I didn't miss that opportunity.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Sept 23, 2019 3:30:02 GMT
I have ZERO interest in professional sports. DH will watch football sometimes but finds most sports pretty boring. We don’t have a lot of couples friends that we do things with all that much to begin with. People host the occasional party or whatever and if we get invited we usually go, but typically it’s not a sports related thing. DH has his friends that he does stuff with and I have my friends that I do stuff with. We’ve gone to the occasional baseball game, went to an NFL football game once, DH went to a hockey game once, we went to a basketball game once. The reality is that these things are almost all prohibitively expensive once you take into account the cost of tickets, cost of parking, food and beverages while there, etc. and we would rather spend our money differently.
Our kid also has no interest in sports whatsoever, meaning I can’t think of a single organized sport she would have any interest in following. She doesn’t even like gym class, in fact last year it was the only class she got an average grade in. She likes to swim but only if that means goofing around in the pool, not swimming laps. She’s more into academics, art and music and we’re cool with that. We will never be those parents sitting on the sidelines of some kid team sport, and honestly we’re kind of relieved and feel like we sort of dodged a bullet not having to sit through all that.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 23, 2019 3:45:28 GMT
I don't particularly enjoy sports on my own. But, I do attempt to keep new brief tabs on local teams just so I can talk sports at key times. Over the season I will watch zero football teams but come the Superbowl, I'll end up with an invite to a party (I'm in it for the commercials!)
It is ok to not be into sports, just find the people who are into whatever you & your dh are into.
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Sept 23, 2019 4:08:04 GMT
I have zero interest in any sports, other than I attend ball games of Nieces and Nephew(once or twice per season). Not because I like watching the games, but because I love the kids and try to show support for whatever they are doing. I usually have no idea what's going on, but cheer and holler when the others do......that and I always have cash for the snack bar or ice cream truck. LOL!! With friends, there's plenty to do.. Eat out. Board and card games. Life discussions. Book discussions. Hang out in backyard, on couch, in the kitchen....talking, laughing, socializing. Go to street fairs, festivals, first fridays, etc... Go hiking, walking, on picnic, etc... Listen to music/bands at a local pub, bar, etc... Go to concerts.
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Post by Jili on Sept 23, 2019 4:26:50 GMT
I have zero interest in sports, and my dh doesn't really either, though he will watch football and basketball when he is in a pool. He enjoys pools, but not necessarily the sports. When we had children in high school, we went to all of the home football games and most of the basketball games because our kids were in band. I wish we had a wider circle of friends, but I don't think that has a whole lot to do with sports. It's true we're not getting invites to Super Bowl parties, but that doesn't particularly bother me.
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Post by chaosisapony on Sept 23, 2019 5:26:01 GMT
I have no interest in sports. It hasn't affected my friendships and I don't feel like I have fewer friends because of my lack of interest. Sometimes I get a bit bummed that a bunch of my friends will take off and go for a weekend to see a game somewhere but then I remember how bored I would be there and how expensive it would be and I get over it quick LOL.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Sept 23, 2019 10:15:42 GMT
Yes.
I'm not into any professional sports. I just don't care who wins, or what's going on with the teams.
It can make it slightly awkward at work during break. And can make me feel like an outcast because I contacted the same personal pride in a team I have no affiliation with.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 23, 2019 10:50:44 GMT
I don't know anyone who has any serious interest in sports, we avoid places that are playing 'big games' of any sort. Watching other people play sport ranks on the watching paint dry side of life to me.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Sept 23, 2019 11:11:05 GMT
I loved watching my own kids play sports. I will purposefully watch a major sports event just to be 'in the know.' And an occasional trip to a professional sports event can be entertaining. But sports is *far* from being my life.
The men in my life though seem to feel differently. Therefore I do spend more time in and around sports than I would choose to otherwise because I love my people.
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Post by wellway on Sept 23, 2019 11:20:49 GMT
Clearly, I'm in the wrong thread Currently watching Wales play Georgia in the Rugby World Cup being held in Japan. Love all the big events, Olypmics, Euros, Fifa World cup etc but am not interested in watching a game with friends. Someone would always be walking in the way of the tv or talking over the important moments.
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Post by muggins on Sept 23, 2019 11:38:04 GMT
I have zero interest in sports and DH only watches rugby on tv. In fact I actively avoid friendships with people whose lives and conversation revolve around sports, including kids’ sports. Tailgating at our local HS football games is a thing here. I dread getting invited to spend Friday evening standing around a tabletop grill in a parking lot. But each to their own. If they find enjoyment in it, that’s great. I’m sure many people wouldn’t choose my interests either.
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Post by summer on Sept 23, 2019 12:09:37 GMT
I have zero interest in any sport. I have never felt I am missing out on anything. I have plenty of friends. My family and friends don't watch sports either. I sometimes forget professional sports even exist until my boyfriend turns on a game on TV. He is the only person close to me who watches sports.
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Post by mikklynn on Sept 23, 2019 12:15:58 GMT
I loved watching my own kids play sports. I will purposefully watch a major sports event just to be 'in the know.' And an occasional trip to a professional sports event can be entertaining. But sports is *far* from being my life. The men in my life though seem to feel differently. Therefore I do spend more time in and around sports than I would choose to otherwise because I love my people. That's me, too. Because I worked with all men, I made sure to know the latest score of whatever sport was in season. It's easy, because DH, DS, and grandson are obsessed with sports. All sports. We share season tickets to the Minnesota Twins baseball team. OMG - that too many games. I encourage DH to take his friends!
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Post by kelly8875 on Sept 23, 2019 12:59:15 GMT
I don't particularly enjoy sports on my own. But, I do attempt to keep new brief tabs on local teams just so I can talk sports at key times. Over the season I will watch zero football teams but come the Superbowl, I'll end up with an invite to a party (I'm in it for the commercials!) It is ok to not be into sports, just find the people who are into whatever you & your dh are into. This is me. I have friends that LOVE football this time of year, and I don’t give a hoot. But I have a general idea of how certain teams are doing, because I watch the news and listen to conversations. Our smallish work office has a weekly football pool, and does a fantasy league. My son loves it, so I hear stuff. But ugh, don’t make me go to a game, l’ll be bored out of my mind.
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Post by auntkelly on Sept 23, 2019 13:44:30 GMT
I absolutely love sports, but I have plenty of friends who don't care about sports. We talk about other things.
The only time I have ever been irritated w/ someone who didn't like sports was when I said something at a family dinner about the big game and my obnoxious relative replied "sports are stupid."
You mentioned feeling bad because friends don't invite you to watch sporting events. Do you ever invite people to come over to your house for dinner? You can't expect people to invite you to their house if you never invite them to yours.
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