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Post by nlwilkins on Sept 26, 2019 23:32:44 GMT
I don't work and my husband still asks me how my day was if he has been out of the house. We even ask "how's it going?" when both of us have been home together for a while. Its just a way of checking up on each other. Since we are both retired and getting on in years, things can change real fast.
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Post by 950nancy on Sept 26, 2019 23:43:37 GMT
He came home today after teaching a full day of people from Thailand. He had an interpreter. He had lots to say and when he finished, I just said, "My day was good too." He laughed and said your day is good every day. So I am thinking that my life is clearly uneventful and good. He isn't wrong. He is generally a pretty quiet guy and we have been married for 32 years, so we do know each other well. (If I'd had a crappy day, he would have known... I generally point out that kind of thing.) My question was really about the difference in what people ask when they work from home vs working from a place of business. I wondered if people just assumed your day was good or non eventful because it isn't filled with face-to-face interactions. "So I am thinking that my life is clearly uneventful and good. He isn't wrong." These are your words not his. To me the issue isn't that he doesn't ask about your day. The issue seems to be that you feel your day is uneventful or unfulfilling. Or maybe I'm all wrong! If it really is just that you want him to ask about your day, TELL him to ask about your day: "I'd really like it if you would ask about my day too." Be that blunt. I don't notice if my dh asks me (SAHM, volunteer, sub). But I will typically tell him about my day without prompting. Doesn't mean he is always interested, but I will read his cues when I can tell he is working through other things or just distracted. I do remember him pointing out a long time ago that I didn't regularly ask him about his day (works in an office). So now I make a point of asking because I know it makes him feel cared for. No biggie on my end, I'm happy to oblige and I have learned a lot about what he does over the years. But I would never have know if he didn't ask. It would have probably become a bigger thing if he had let it fester. Again, my point was not that we don't talk. It is the difference between working from home and not working from home. I retired from 28 years of teaching. My choice. I was 50 when I finished. I love my days. For me, uneventful days mean no stress days. I have a family history of people not making it much past 60, so having uneventful days is very important to me. |
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Post by shannoots on Sept 27, 2019 0:47:29 GMT
My husband works from home and I always ask him how his day was. His work at home days are often longer hours than when he goes into the office and he has no interaction with people other than on the phone.
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