casii
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Post by casii on Oct 14, 2014 16:04:31 GMT
My son is getting married on October 24th and I understand he's stressed. I understand he doesn't care nearly as much about all the pomp and circumstance and the bazillion details, but dude, stop using me as your verbal punching bag.
I lost my cool finally this morning and as I was leaving to go down the stairs, he's mocking me, so I told him if he was going to be that disrespectful, he could find another place to stay until after he was married.
He's been staying with us since he got back from his job in Wyoming and had planned to stay until after the wedding. I was so excited to have him back for a couple of weeks. Now I just want to skip the event entirely. This isn't exactly a stress free event for me either. Everyone says it's easy being the mother of the groom. Maybe easier monetarily, but I'm still doing a LOT and I'm sure he will never understand that.
Wine. I need wine. Maybe some of the hard stuff.
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Post by ilikepink on Oct 14, 2014 16:42:52 GMT
Breathe. This Too Shall Pass.
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luvnlifelady
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Post by luvnlifelady on Oct 14, 2014 18:14:21 GMT
I'm about ready to sell my daughter to the gypsies over the college process so I feel your pain. You will make it to the end and I hope it's a great day for your whole family!
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Post by mztfied on Oct 14, 2014 20:48:57 GMT
Hope all eventually goes well. Weddings are sometimes so crazy. All the planning and then it is over so quickly.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Oct 14, 2014 20:52:44 GMT
Just keep repeating...only 10 days left...lol...count down. It will all be over soon.
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scrappymum
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Post by scrappymum on Oct 14, 2014 21:05:32 GMT
Oh Yes! And thank you for sharing, so I know I am not the only one!!!! What a roller coaster ride of Bride-zilla moments, precious shared moments together, then, to times when I felt excluded. I just tried to stay calm and go with the flow, although I did snap (lightly) early in the process. Her wedding day was right up there as one of the best days of my life  |
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Post by christine58 on Oct 14, 2014 21:07:11 GMT
casii There are some great wineries near you right??
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Post by peasful1 on Oct 14, 2014 21:17:51 GMT
He was mocking you? I'd tell him to pack his shit up and GTFO. An adult man getting married and mocking his mother? Uh, no.
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scrappinmama
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Post by scrappinmama on Oct 14, 2014 21:34:23 GMT
I'm sorry he is being so disrespectful. Remind him it's your house. If he doesn't like it, he can find a sofa to sleep on until the wedding.
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tincin
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Post by tincin on Oct 15, 2014 2:07:52 GMT
I imagine an apology came quickly on the heels of the suggestion he find other arrangements for sleeping.  Kids, even the adult ones, can be such idiots really. |
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casii
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Post by casii on Oct 15, 2014 13:58:23 GMT
Thanks everyone!
To all in similar circumstances, I raise my glass to you. To all who have been there, you give me hope that I'll live. ;-)
All of our schedules are literally planned out almost to the minute until the big day, so I didn't hear an apology. I did hear him come in last night and take the dog for a walk, so one better be coming soon since obviously he hasn't found other accommodations. I set out some Bachs Rescue Remedy for all of us. May need another bottle.
And yes Christine, there are loads of wineries in the area. I had already stocked up on local offerings to bring for the rehearsal dinner, so I'm set should I really need to tie one on sooner!
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Post by whopea on Oct 15, 2014 14:04:34 GMT
He was mocking you? I'd tell him to pack his shit up and GTFO. An adult man getting married and mocking his mother? Uh, no. Yeah, that. I'd be gently having a talk with him about that old adage that a man treats his wife as he does his mother. You have to love him, you're his mom. The future wife? She may love him now but if he treats her that way? She might tire of it more quickly than you. |
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Post by jamh on Oct 15, 2014 14:11:36 GMT
He was mocking you? I'd tell him to pack his shit up and GTFO. An adult man getting married and mocking his mother? Uh, no. Yeah, that. I'd be gently having a talk with him about that old adage that a man treats his wife as he does his mother. You have to love him, you're his mom. The future wife? She may love him now but if he treats her that way? She might tire of it more quickly than you.
Definitely this!
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Kids, even the adult ones, can be such idiots really.