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Post by mrssmith on Sept 30, 2019 19:33:38 GMT
Also, maybe people don’t want the item you are offering and are worried they will hurt your feelings. My friend offered me a huge car related toy for my son. Now don’t get me wrong, it was age appropriate and my son would love it BUT I am overwhelmed with toys in my house! I feel like I am constantly dropping bags of donations off yet my house still feels full of stuff! My friend is awesome and I didn’t want to hurt her feelings by saying no (I think I overthink stuff!!!) but at the same time, I really don’t NEED more toys because I already feel stressed looking at the stuff we already have! So it took me a few days to respond no and I felt so bad about doing it. Maybe they are trying to avoid hurting your feelings? Although I know it’s also not polite to not respond and that also hurts feelings! But maybe they feel it’s easier to avoid than to say no? I think saying "thanks for thinking of me, but DS has a ton of toys and I'm running out of room. Please feel free to pass along to someone else. I'm grateful for the offer." is totally fine. Then she can move on.
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Post by mrssmith on Sept 30, 2019 19:34:25 GMT
There are some people who don't respond and so I don't offer them things any more.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 30, 2019 23:37:47 GMT
My son has a friend who he would like to have play dates with... I called but the mom speaks mainly Spanish so the phone call was difficult. We got through it. We had a parent attended play date at her house and one at our house...I felt like it went ok but my spanish is not great...it got a little quiet... seemed cordial. She did invite my son to her son's birthday party by text....That seemed good. But twice I have sent a text and no reply whatsoever for days...it just feels awkward to keep trying. She is about 10 years younger so I figure texting is best.. ?
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Post by iamcaro on Oct 1, 2019 1:55:50 GMT
I'm with you, OP. I think it's rude and I think that people should be responding. I understand that Messenger can be wonky sometimes, but if the message was marked Read then there's a good chance it was actually read. I also think that if that's the way you contact those individuals and that they have responded to you that way before, it's okay to keep doing it. It's not your fault they are being rude.
Your last example really perplexes me because it seems like you had a bit of an exchange already happening. That young woman could have just told you that she didn't want to pursue it, and that could have been that. Now you are left with a bad feeling about her, and if another job comes up and she would be perfect for that one, too, I imagine you would be less likely to reach out to her. I think this is what some people forget...business interactions can have long-lasting consequences. It was rude of her not to follow up with you in some way.
All of this being said, I often fall short of saying Thank You in written form. It's mostly because I want to make and send a card. I know that I can make a stockpile of cards, but I just haven't done it. I have almost always thanked them in person or by text, but in some instances I really like to follow up with a card. I have two friends who are incredibly gifted at sending timely Thank Yous and they amaze me.
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Post by chaosisapony on Oct 1, 2019 5:23:51 GMT
It's frustrating when this happens to me. Makes me feel about 2 inches tall that people can't even be bothered to give me a reply consisting of a few words. We don't have to have a huge conversation, but just a basic response.
There are a couple of people in my life that when they text or fb message me I know the conversation will go on and on. I may not have time for that when the message comes through so I don't click it that way the notification stays there and I'll get back to them at a better time. I don't stress about replying right away or keeping a huge conversation going, I respond as it's convenient for me but I do respond.
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Post by peasapie on Oct 1, 2019 6:37:15 GMT
Yeah I def think people are much less considerate and more self centered than in the past when it comes to responding or saying thank you. It’s becoming a lost art. Kind of reveals their character when you see things like this happen.
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Post by denda on Oct 2, 2019 16:19:31 GMT
I feel like a phone call works better it you are needing a quick response.
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