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Post by M~ on Oct 6, 2019 0:26:30 GMT
I’m feeling sorry for myself so I’m gong to vent. Please feel free to add yours.
- I’m exhausted. I got a promotion at work in January and it’s been nonstop with special projects since then. This is the focus of my new position but I miss decision writing. I miss the camaraderie I had before with a lot of people but it’s suffered since I got this job. One of my friends ( who got a similar job) warned me it would happen to me too but I didn’t believe her. People just look at us differently and it sucks. There are only five of us and when we are among the larger group people make snide remarks and stupid comments. We’re involved in confidential projects and we can’t discuss them so when people ask about what I’m doing I can’t share. This has led to someone saying I’m now a “self-important bitch”. Which shocked me. It took a lot of years to get this job and my boss told me she was “Impressed” by my work but it’s such a huge let down in so many other ways.
Your turn.
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Post by librarylady on Oct 6, 2019 0:28:43 GMT
Wow, sorry that your coworkers feel threatened.
I might invent a project that you can mention to them....totally imaginary but it would remove the idea that everything you touch is top secret.
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Post by freecharlie on Oct 6, 2019 0:31:49 GMT
Apparently my house is the rendezvous point for homecoming tonight.
Ds told me 10 minutes before kids started to show up.
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Post by Linda on Oct 6, 2019 0:45:18 GMT
I got new glasses and I've had a headache almost every day since...I need to go back and have them re-checked but ...
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Post by scrappinspidey2 on Oct 6, 2019 0:45:36 GMT
Two vents. Im tired of doing everything alone. It's exhausting. I have having to hire people to do things I could do if I had a second person.
Work is my other vent. Im so exhuasted. 12 hour days with no real over time available. I worked 14 days straight this last week and Im still behind. It makes no sense. Nobody should be behind with the hours I put in yet company wide it seems to be an issue. I think there is a revolt underway in general. I love the core part of my job, but I cannot keep up this pace.
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Post by scrappintoee on Oct 6, 2019 0:46:00 GMT
Aggghhh,,,,,,sorry you're going through this! Isn't it so hurful that they's say such mean things about something you EARNED !!!!!!!! I cannot STAND people who take their JEALOUSY out on other people by saying unfair, rude LIES! I've been in a similar situation as you.....I wanted sooo badly to say "if you want my job, honey-----go back to college!".......
My vent
I tripped and fell in my house last week, resultnig in a fractured humerus plus other HORRIBLE pain. 6 days later, by 88-year-okd Dad moved in with us. Talk about BAD TIMING!!!!!!!!!! I am trying SO HARD to deal with all of this, but it is HARD! I need to find a parent caregiver's support group STAT !!!!!~
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Post by MichyM on Oct 6, 2019 0:58:02 GMT
Two vents. Im tired of doing everything alone. It's exhausting. I have having to hire people to do things I could do if I had a second person. 100,000 times THIS. The only downside (IMO) of my ex and I splitting up  |
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Post by M~ on Oct 6, 2019 1:00:48 GMT
Wow, sorry that your coworkers feel threatened. I might invent a project that you can mention to them....totally imaginary but it would remove the idea that everything you touch is top secret. I discuss the very few things that I do that aren’t confidential but my boss would lose her shit if I made up some project. She’s essentially the go to person for national and local projects so her staff works on things that won’t be rolled out for six months or more-and things that other people in our same pay grade don’t necessarily have access to. I’ve stopped going to lunch with people because it became “I say something and I’ll just look at your expression to confirm or deny”. And, I have a really shitty poker face. She ( my boss) values confidentiality and regularly says “ my staff is the most tight lipped of the bunch ( which is true ). It’s just fucking frustrating. It started with my getting hired ( I knew two months before the announcement was made) and keeping it secret was a THING. |
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Post by M~ on Oct 6, 2019 1:02:53 GMT
Aggghhh,,,,,,sorry you're going through this! Isn't it so hurful that they's say such mean things about something you EARNED !!!!!!!! I cannot STAND people who take their JEALOUSY out on other people by saying unfair, rude LIES! I've been in a similar situation as you.....I wanted sooo badly to say "if you want my job, honey-----go back to college!"....... My vent I tripped and fell in my house last week, resultnig in a fractured humerus plus other HORRIBLE pain. 6 days later, by 88-year-okd Dad moved in with us. Talk about BAD TIMING!!!!!!!!!! I am trying SO HARD to deal with all of this, but it is HARD! I need to find a parent caregiver's support group STAT !!!!!~ Thanks! It sucks. This was my third shot at this promotion and I finally got it. And I’m putting in crazy hours - so it’s not a sweetheart deal at all. |
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Post by Delta Dawn on Oct 6, 2019 1:06:37 GMT
Omg M~ is that you? I have so many orchid questions for you! I missed you! I have to give you all a hug because I have nothing to vent about. |
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Post by stampnscrap1128 on Oct 6, 2019 1:34:23 GMT
It's been one helluva week for me. Starting on Sunday - my 18 year old Russian Blue kitty, Velvet, crossed the Rainbow Bridge. One of her paws is my profile pic here. I miss her more than words can express.
We've been helping my FIL since he moved here from Wisconsin two weeks ago. He's in his own apartment and doing fine but I've been busy helping him with lots of various errands. Thankfully he is a wonderful man and at 90, he is still able to walk and is mentally alert.
Found out on Tuesday I have to have a skin biopsy on some eczema that won't go away. Did the allergy patch tests but the only allergy it showed was to gold. Which was weird is I've worn my gold wedding rings for 41 years and nothing on my fingers. These patches are in the knee joints and hips. Hence the biopsy at the end of this month.
My car had a flat tire and ended up needing 2 front tires on Thursday. Got a tiny crack in the windshield from a rock kicked up by a passing vehicle on the highways earlier in the week. Quickly went into a crack and now I have to get my windshield replaced on Monday. Being a Toyota Sienna van, it is a big windshield.
Then my dh lost his set of keys at either his dad's apartment complex or at a car dealership (he was helping his dad to get a newer used car). Keys have not shown up at either location. So today we had to get those keys replaced. Those electronic computerized auto keys are so expensive! Still need to get the house key duplicated for him but I could not deal with that today.
I wondered if it was a full moon but it's not. I hope things calm down before the full moon. LOL I'd just be glad to get a decent night sleep. I'm having a lot of trouble sleeping with all the sadness I'm feeling (I miss Velvet...sigh...) and stress I am under. Long, expensive week.
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Post by scrappintoee on Oct 6, 2019 2:10:15 GMT
stampnscrap1128......Ugh, I'm sorry for ALL your stress, and losing your sweet Velvet just makes everything worse, doesn't it ? (( hugs )) ....it's just not fair that our beloved pets have such short lives !!!  
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Post by padresfan619 on Oct 6, 2019 2:19:16 GMT
I want people who ask for advice to stop making excuses for why they can’t put said advice into action. Or just stop asking for advice altogether. Askholes.
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Post by PolarGreen12 on Oct 6, 2019 2:31:14 GMT
I have so much I would like to vent about right now, but honestly my brain just does not have the energy to do it. I’m just kinda of done right now.
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Oct 6, 2019 3:09:00 GMT
If you have plans with someone (free concert in park, festival, street fair, etc), and that someone was the one that extended you the invite to join them for the evening or day......it is rude of you to invite another person to join us.
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Post by nlwilkins on Oct 6, 2019 3:37:41 GMT
After four weeks of giving hubby IV Antibiotics every eight hours, the end is in sight - three more days. Only, he just had to mow the lawn this afternoon and now is in major pain again which means a set back on his withdrawal from pain meds. He might even be having pain from the new tumor, and we will have to bring it up with the docs. Its not his fault he got cancer and it is not his fault that he turned septic with a ten day stay in hospital after last chemo treatment. But, I would just wish we could deal with one issue at a time. The poor man just can't get a break.
So far he has had a shot that takes away all his testosterone for six months, chemo (2 treatments so far), ten days in the hospital with sepsis (we could have lost him over that) radiation for a new tumor discovered in the hospital, and still is on the IV Antibiotics for the sepsis which I give him every eight hours. (His prostate cancer spread to his bones which was not discovered until it was in multiple spots.)
I HATE CANCER AND WHAT IT IS DOING TO MY HUSBAND!
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Post by Deleted on Oct 6, 2019 4:48:28 GMT
God in heaven save my soul, I love that man from afar. He can’t be mine and I can’t be his. The cost is too great.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Oct 6, 2019 10:07:03 GMT
I’m feeling sorry for myself so I’m gong to vent. Please feel free to add yours. - I’m exhausted. I got a promotion at work in January and it’s been nonstop with special projects since then. This is the focus of my new position but I miss decision writing. I miss the camaraderie I had before with a lot of people but it’s suffered since I got this job. One of my friends ( who got a similar job) warned me it would happen to me too but I didn’t believe her. People just look at us differently and it sucks. There are only five of us and when we are among the larger group people make snide remarks and stupid comments. We’re involved in confidential projects and we can’t discuss them so when people ask about what I’m doing I can’t share. This has led to someone saying I’m now a “self-important bitch”. Which shocked me. It took a lot of years to get this job and my boss told me she was “Impressed” by my work but it’s such a huge let down in so many other ways. Your turn. Oh gosh, that sucks. They sound jealous. Just remember you were promoted because you are exceptional, and capable, and you deserve the recognition. |
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Post by christine58 on Oct 6, 2019 11:29:28 GMT
I need to find a parent caregiver's support group STAT !!!!!~ Check your county's Office of the aging. I bet you can find one there along with some support for your dad. |
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Post by sueg on Oct 6, 2019 11:42:26 GMT
I started a new job early in September. It is after school care at a German elementary school. It is interesting, but not quite what I expected. The original idea was that I would speak only in English. This has not worked out, as the children are all first grade, and just freeze up, say ‘I don’t understand English’ and then don’t listen to me. Now, my German co-worker has suggested that I should be doing a 10-15 minute ‘mini lesson’ in each session, which is not what I signed up for. The children are also resisting this, and my co-worker is just shrugging her shoulders, when I think she should be encouraging the children to take part. UGGH. We have a team meeting soon, and I am going to bring this up and hope for more clarity about what I am supposed to be doing.
Add to this that my right knee has been bothering me for a couple of months, and I finally went to my GP 2 weeks ago. I'd put it off, as the symptoms were similar to when I need my left knee replaced, and I wasn't ready to face that again, but it got to the point where any movement was painful. Guess what? Yes - my meniscus is seriously damaged, and I will need surgery, most likely the knee replacement I was fearing.
So that means 6 weeks minimum off work, so I feel like I am letting the team down, as I know they had trouble finding 2 native English speakers to cover the full week. Everyone is being very understanding, and - this being Germany - they can't fire me for taking medical time off, but I still feel bad.
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Post by rickmer on Oct 6, 2019 12:12:21 GMT
house being listed tues... ex left it all til the last minute (asked me to allow him to renovate in may, signed court docs in july to that effect and after spending a leisurely summer at the cottage, he started sept 4. there has been one extension as allowed by court doc and an additional one i agreed to). i have cleared almost everything out of the house, ran to get supplies and cash he has needed to pay contractors and did some painting.
the cheese is sliding off the cracker over there and it is his OWN DAMN FAULT.
muttering around the house "i can't do it all... i can't do it all...".
there's more - but i am leaving it there.
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Post by MZF on Oct 6, 2019 15:04:19 GMT
Work related--I was told I have to take two wks (I have more time avail, but can carry over some) off before end of year--yet when I sign up for time off, I've been denied 2xs. I signed up for the 1st 2 weeks in Dec, was denied because a gal has the 1st week off. Though we don't do the same job, so should not be an issue. So I asked for the 2 & 3rd wk of Dec off. Again, no go--can't have 2 wks off in a row. No-one has these weeks off, so it would just be me off in our dept for 2 weeks. I also only work Tue-Thurs, so only 6 days off for me. When I asked why, was told just can't have 2 wks off together. This has NEVER been a rule/policy, and it should be a non-issue. And the Christmas 'blackout' week that no-one is supposed to be off? She gave two people the week off! After we were told no-one can be off that week. If I had known I could, I would have taken it, and I have seniority over everyone else in our dept!! Apparently 'rules' are arbitrary and only applicable to me! I would raise a holy hell stink, but since I plan on 'retiring' a few days into 2020, just taking deep breaths and trying to not dwell on it.
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Post by stormsts on Oct 6, 2019 16:17:10 GMT
I don’t like to complain but I’m starting to stress. I was out of state Tuesday thru yesterday for a business trip. In that timeframe my fil had a stroke, my dad called to tell me my grandmother was dying, my house which is for sale had two showings Friday and one yesterday. So of course my dh has been at the hospital since Thursday and trying to make the house look presentable. I have a feeling things are going to be crazy for a while.
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Post by maryland on Oct 6, 2019 18:51:54 GMT
I got new glasses and I've had a headache almost every day since...I need to go back and have them re-checked but ... I always get vision headaches with new glasses. I can't even wear reading glasses without headaches. I understand how you feel! I hope you can get it fixed. |
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Post by craftykitten on Oct 6, 2019 19:01:41 GMT
DH has had a cold for a week. I thought I'd got away with it, but today I have a really sore throat and my sinuses ache (although I am not snuffly).
On the other hand, how awesome is it to be moaning about a cold and not my usual cancer crap? 😊
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Post by tracyarts on Oct 6, 2019 19:50:01 GMT
I'm having to come to terms with my health reality and I'm not dealing with it very well.
My autoimmune disease has been in a more active phase. I'm stuck waiting for a diagnostic test in a couple more weeks before my doctor can start me on a stronger medication. And that's if the diagnostic test comes back clear. If not, it delays my treatment another month or two while I address that issue first.
Everything hurts, I'm exhausted, and I can't get my shit together. I struggle with basic daily tasks. Bathing, grooming, and dressing takes a minimum of 2 hours right now. Just getting in and out of the car is rough. Rolling over in bed takes effort. I'm barely accomplishing anything productive right now.
I went to my doctor wailing and complaining about how bad off I am and she had to (gently) explain to me that I'm actually not really doing that bad. I woke up, got out of bed, got ready, rode across town in a car, walked into the clinic, walked back to the exam room, and got myself onto the table without assistance. My lab tests were good aside from the inflammation. All my organs are functioning properly (aside from my brain injury) and my vitals are stable. In the grand scheme, struggling to get out of bed is "doing bad", and organ function loss is "doing bad". I'm going through a rough patch, but otherwise I'm doing well medically.
Okay I accept that. But in my personal experience this is about as worse as I've felt aside from having shingles, pneumonia, etc... And it's frustrating.
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Post by myboysnme on Oct 6, 2019 21:44:09 GMT
I just started getting my medical care at the VA, after working there for almost 20 years. I have a medical appointment they rescheduled without notifying me coming up. I happened to open an innocuous email today and see they cancelled it again, and rescheduled it at a time I don't want, 2 weeks later. I want the first appointment of the day because my doctor talks ALOT and gets backed up.
This is unacceptable to me. I will call Monday and get a day and time I can live with, but come on. They should be calling me to reschedule, not just doing it without my input. I have a mammogram tomorrow they are supposed to be paying for, but I'm using my insurance because my breast MRI has still not been paid for since last April and the hospital was talking collections. I don't need that stress.
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Oct 6, 2019 22:03:17 GMT
One word (or is it 2?) - PERI-MENOPAUSE. I'm feeling worse than when I was a teenager: paranoid, irritated, anxious, forgetful and headachey. I just want to feel normal again. Please, someone who has been through it and has come out of the other side, tell me that this goes away? ETA: hugs to everybody who has far worse stuff to cope with than I have. I meant to say that first, but the forgetful part kicked in.  |
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Post by mlana on Oct 6, 2019 22:04:36 GMT
I needed this today!
My DH is driving me crazy again! I know he has a chronic illness, but it doesn’t seem to be as much of a problem when he’s doing something he wants to do.
I came home from our trip on Tues and immediately asked him to take the trash out. He didn’t because he hadn’t brought the trash can up from the curb yet. It wasn’t full, just a bit stinky. I try to let him know it needs to go out before it gets heavy sine he isn’t very strong.
I cooked Weds and, again, reminded him the trash needed to go out. Friday and Sat I didn’t cook, so no reminders. Today i cleaned out the fridge and asked him to take it out. He bitched because it was too full, because it leaked and I didn’t volunteer to clean it up, because he didn’t want to work on his day off....
Yeah, I could do it for him, but this and the bathrooms are the only things he does around the house and he only does them when reminded and bitched at. He says I find more things for him to do, but I’m only pointing out the parts of the chore he was SUPPOSED to have done already, not additional chores.
Marcy
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Post by keithurbanlovinpea on Oct 6, 2019 22:12:26 GMT
I love the core part of my job, but I cannot keep up this pace. I relate to this statement |
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