Where do you draw the line with sharing?

Congrats! That is a fabulous score. On FB, though, that would be boasting. I've always felt that kind of thing was my child's private info.

You are showing sensitivity, class & lots of restraint by not posting the score.

I totally get you, and generally share less than I could. I don't care for bragging, and have some people on my newsfeed that do it a lot. However, isn't sharing good news (like your son's score) an awesome thing to do? Don't we want to celebrate with people, too? It's a fine line sometimes, and you can't please everyone. I have an acquaintance who brags about every goal her kid scores in soccer. Is that cool? Who knows.

My daughter graduated as Valedictorian yesterday and you better believe I shared that. Lol. She was #1 in her class for all 8 semesters of high school. If people feel I was bragging, and I'm sure some do, so be it. I am very proud of her accomplishment. But do I share every last thing she has excelled at? No way.

 My teen kids don't want me to post anything like this on FB and I respect their feelings. TBH I don't think I have ever seen an ACT, SAT or AP test score posted by anyone. Graduation, prom & college decisions are posted regularly.

I did do a FB post that mentioned my son was second in his graduating class along with a few other big life events for me. I haven't posted his graduation picture yet. It was three weeks ago. On the other hand, most of my FB friends are extremely supportive and know the kid. They would be happy for him. As far a someone trying to knock him down, that seems super petty. We all have different strengths and appreciating everyone's accomplishments seems like the right thing to do. My oldest son was very good in every sport he tried. That is the reason kid #2 did so well in school. He wanted the recognition too. I would give a shout out and not be specific with the score. Kids need to have kudos for a job well done.

I think for me... if my child was valedictorian or top 10 in their graduating class or had some really significant academic achievement like that... I would want to share. That's a big accomplishment and a culmination of a lot of effort. Congratulations and kudos are totally appropriate for that. I love seeing where my friends' kids who are older and graduating from high school are planning to go to college. It's a big range and I do have friends with kids in the Ivy League and friends with kids who are working their asses off to be successful at community college and I'm happy to congratulate them ALL for their efforts and accomplishments.

I also think that for me, test scores are just a way that kids get compared to each other and I didn't (and won't) post my DD's standardized test scores for the world to see. Folks who need to know already know - but in no way do I want her classmates' moms looking at her test scores and comparing because every one of those kids has some really strong traits and some areas for growth. One child is reading at a very advanced level and another excels in her math aptitude and another has near perfect pitch and another is just an extraordinarily kind and lovable child. Standardized test scores don't tell you any of those things - at my DD's age those tests are aptitude measures and not achievement measures anyway (they measure natural abilities, not learned achievements - that changes when they get older) and I don't want my friends comparing my child with theirs on any of those measures. Those measures have a purpose (in our school, those are tests for placement in academic services) and while I did talk about the results with my DD, it's not something I would consider an accomplishment nor a failure and I don't want her to get pats on the back for them or to be compared to other students beyond what is appropriate for determining their placement.

Just my thoughts on it.

That really sucks.  I get it, but that sucks.

By the way, that is a really good question.

Quite simply, I don't. I post informational information for a couple groups I am in and that is about it. I simply do not believe that the internet world needs to know about my family. Those that need to know things like standardized test scores, college decisions, athletic achievements, etc., can learn about them in other ways - phone calls, letters, emails. Plus, I assume that most don't really care. Family, a couple close friends, and that is about it.

I don't post anything about money on FB. We have some struggling family members and it's just wouldn't be fair.

You should be proud!  I think that kids that got everything quickly usually do have a harder time teaching.  My teammate was quite young and very smart in math and took math in college just because she liked it and it didn't apply to her degree (elementary education).  She had the hardest time teaching math.  I hated math in elementary school and that was the subject I was probably the most patient in teaching.  Kids with learning disabilities sometimes need things to be repeated up to 300 times to master.  Good for your daughter!

I made the mistake of bragging about a score my DD got last year. She was in Year 11 and was doing a Year 12 subject that counts towards her ATAR (university entrance score). She scored the highest in her class, 48 out of 50, and was in the top 5% in the state. I was so excited that I posted it on FB. She got lots of congratulations, everyone was genuinely happy for her. Then later I thought about it, and a lot of her friends and kids of my friends also did a Year 12 subject and didn’t do nearly as well. I felt a bit silly about posting it after that. I have decided that I won’t post her results at the end of this year. If she gets a high enough score to get into her preferred Uni course I *might* just say that without mentioning the actual score.



About a month after that particular incident DD was voted in as House Captain. I was going to post a photo of her with her House Captain badge. But then I saw a friend posted a photo of her son (from the same school) who was voted Vice Captain. I decided not to post anything about my DD because it would totally look like one-upmanship.

Me too! 

I go back and forth on this a lot because I don't want to be THAT mom on FB always talking about how great my kids are. I also don't want to publicly embarrass them by posting the not so great things they do that would keep it real. My daughter esp. hates being talked about by anyone, anywhere so that complicates it more. When/if I share more about one kid than the other in order to respect her privacy, it leads to a skewed perception. That being said, when I'm really proud, I'm going to share it and if a few people think I'm bragging or insufferable, so be it. Last week my ds was awarded a couple of things that are prestigious as far as those types of awards go and I shared it on FB. If I could have countered it with a diatribe about how disgusting his room is right now or sharing about a really boneheaded thing he did the day before the awards ceremony, I would have liked to do that but you know, I'm trying to avoid that public embarrassment thing.