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Post by magentapea on Aug 11, 2017 22:20:26 GMT
Prayers
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Post by magentapea on Aug 2, 2017 11:45:34 GMT
I feel like I am the only one who doesn't find this mean spirited. Was she making fun of you or stating a statement of fact? Are you in fact that much bigger then she is? What I am picturing is people asking the usual twin questions about people telling you apart and her replying with "she has 80 lbs on me" along the same lines as "well she colored her hair blonde". See before I lost a significant amount of weight my most defining physical feature was my obesity. I hated when folks would skirt around that trying to spare my feelings. I was fat. Plain and simple. If someone said "point out your pastor's wife" I had no problems with "she's the overweight, fat, plump one". I am just that sort of person. Kind of like when there is one black person in the room and no one wants to say "John is the black kid over there". Defining physical attributes are just that. Descriptions. Don't give those descriptive words more power then they need to have. I agree with everyone who said don't let one sentence said without thinking ruin a lifetime relationship. Thus is exactly what I was thinking! My sister and I look a great deal alike, but she is 6" taller and 60 pounds lighter. If she said I was the short, round one I wouldn't be upset. It's true and anyone in the room could see that. I think OP's reaction is way over the top and probably says more about how she feels about her own weight issues than how her sister feels about her.
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Post by magentapea on Apr 14, 2017 16:24:29 GMT
I'm of the opposite camp. I brought my kids (ages 2/3) to their great aunt's funeral. They had only met her a few times, but I wanted them to have the experience of a funeral when it wasn't someone that we were very close to. I figured that if their first experience was when DH and I were distraught, it would be harder for them to cope. Thankfully, (strange to say it that way, but I hope you understand what I mean), when my brother passed suddenly two years later, they understood what was happening and weren't frightened or traumatized by everyone's grief.
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Post by magentapea on Mar 14, 2017 0:36:50 GMT
I am so sorry. Hugs and prayers.
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Post by magentapea on Oct 26, 2016 1:06:32 GMT
I have the debit red card. I opened a free checking account with no minimum balance and attached the red card to that one. I keep only a couple hundred dollars in there since it is strictly for the red card and that way it isn't tied to my main checking account.
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Post by magentapea on Oct 18, 2016 14:49:05 GMT
My understanding is that debts of the deceased are paid from the estate, with the remaining assets going to the estate's beneficiaries. Debts do not transfer to the relatives of the deceased unless the relative is a cosigner on that specific debt.
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Post by magentapea on Sept 22, 2016 17:07:56 GMT
Happy anniversary! Our 20th was last week, and DH got me new bling, too.
Congratulations. Your ring is beautiful.
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Post by magentapea on Sept 19, 2016 18:09:44 GMT
When I was 18-ish, I had been talking to a guy for a while on the phone. We agreed to meet up in a very public setting - my cousin's wedding. I looked AMAZING in my cute strapless dress. When it came time for the bouquet toss and the guy still hadn't arrived, I decided to participate. I jumped up to catch the bouquet, but my dress didn't! I tried pulling it up in mid air, but instead fell and landed on a table where an old guy was sitting (he was quite amused). I ran into the bathroom to hide. About 20 minutes later, I came out of the bathroom and the guy I was waiting for was right there and said, "I caught the show." I was never so mortified.
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Post by magentapea on Aug 25, 2016 0:33:17 GMT
The appraiser is looking for problems, not signs of perfect housekeeping. Wiring, plumbing, roofing. You are hiring the appraiser. He will be working to get you the new loan. Actually, the appraiser will be working for the bank. You are NOT their client at all (even though you are paying for . In fact, the appraiser is not even supposed to discuss the value or condition of your property with you. You may inform the appraiser of any updates, but they can't say, "Well, that update would add $X to your value." Appraisal reports are written and can only be used by the "intended user" which is, in the case of a refi, usually only the lender. You may not even get to see a copy of it. And the appraiser certainly cannot talk to you about the value before, during, or after the appraisal process.
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Post by magentapea on Aug 22, 2016 23:30:07 GMT
I'm pretty sure it wasn't a pea that it happened to, but rather a pea posted a link to the reddit legal advice site where the owner posted. The reason I remember that is because before that I never knew reddit existed and I discovered the site through that link. There are some interesting stories there.
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Post by magentapea on Aug 13, 2016 22:22:57 GMT
I don't have one but my cousin bought one for her daughter. The daughter was driving and hit another car head on and walked away with bruises and a sprained wrist. She highly recommends that car when anyone is talking about getting one.
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Post by magentapea on Jul 7, 2016 15:08:31 GMT
I am so sorry that you are having a hard time. Hugs and positive thoughts being sent your way.
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Post by magentapea on Jun 19, 2016 13:57:19 GMT
This is why when after I put in my pin in any machine, I Rub my whole hand over the key pad several times. I look OCD doing it, but it disrupts the thermal pattern and they can't see the numbers I pressed.. I do that, too.
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Post by magentapea on Jun 12, 2016 13:42:55 GMT
Thanks for sharing.
I am in the midst of it (one in 7th grade and one in 8th) and I agree this is much more mentally and emotionally difficult, while the younger years were more physically draining. But, for me, I love so much of this age - we have in depth conversations, a lot of laughs, political discussions, and they get my sarcasm (but, unfortunately, also learned it from me).
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Post by magentapea on May 30, 2016 21:52:59 GMT
We have been to Orlando more than once and prefer to skip Disney and spend multiple days at Universal. Last time we went, the boys were 12, 12, and 11, and they loved Universal. I think we spent a day at Sea World, too. If you sign up for their (Sea World's) emails, sometimes they are running specials for their ticket sales.
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Post by magentapea on Apr 17, 2016 14:43:31 GMT
Mine is a puller. I saw someone recently that had one of those mini travel squeeze bottles (like this one link) full of peanut butter. She held it at her side while gently squeezing out a bit of peanut butter. The dog would walk at her side trying to get the pb. If the dog lagged back or pulled on the leash, the pb went away. When the dog was at her side properly, it came back. I just tried it yesterday for the first time, so I am not sure how effective it will be overall, but my dog got the hint pretty quickly as we walked repeatedly up and down the driveway.
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Post by magentapea on Apr 11, 2016 18:51:57 GMT
I was witness to them tearing down their new SIL (who happens to be my DH's sister) with completely false garbage. I know that if they do that to her, they do it to me.
Sorry that got really long. Do any of you struggle with not knowing if your friendships are real? ========================= So, you let them berate their SIL, who happens to be your SIL? Did I read that correctly? What, if anything, did you do when this was happening? If you sat by and ignored it, or worse yet, took part in it, then you are no better than they are. But, to answer the original question, no, I don't question whether or not my friendships are real. You want to know why I know my friendships are real? Because we have been there for each other through good times and bad. We have a mutual respect for one another and don't think any of us are better than the other. We consider ourselves equals in life/work/friendship. Some of my friends are very successful business owners, some are stay at home moms, some are married for decades and some are divorced for just as long - but we all respect each other and don't think of ourselves as being "above" each other. Oh, and BTW, holding the position of church secretary and director of volunteer committees doesn't make you someone's "boss."
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Post by magentapea on Apr 8, 2016 1:55:21 GMT
Greek Quinoa and Avocado Salad. Tastes even better when it sits for an hour (but don't put the avocado or Feta until you are ready to eat). recipe
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Post by magentapea on Apr 6, 2016 20:21:37 GMT
I had it done several times. It is really not a big deal - very similar to a cleaning, just with a little more effort. The only thing I did once was take Tylenol before - didn't make much of a difference.
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Post by magentapea on Apr 3, 2016 14:29:42 GMT
This is so me today - in fact right now. I emptied out a cabinet and found a Target gift card. I immediately went online to check the balance (yay - there is still some $ left on it) and then instead of going back to finish my task, I opened up 2peas. Lol. Birds of a feather, I guess.
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Post by magentapea on Mar 26, 2016 20:35:47 GMT
Who was in control of the HOA when she received written permission allowing the trailer? If the builder wasn't in control of it, then I don't think he had the right to allow for a variance of the bylaws for her.
Tell her to check her HOA documents thoroughly to make sure they have the right to fine her. I know in our HOA, we can't impose fines because it isn't written into our CCR/HOA bylaws.
Lisa
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Post by magentapea on Mar 22, 2016 14:26:30 GMT
I have the One and I wear it clipped to a lanyard that I wear all day. I used to wear it clipped to my bra, but I didn't like that I couldn't check it discreetly so I hooked the case over the ring on the lanyard. I have been wearing it this way for about a year now and I haven't lost it yet (and it still measures the same as it did when I wore it on my bra).
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Post by magentapea on Mar 22, 2016 0:52:54 GMT
I am sorry for your loss. That is heartbreaking. I wonder, though, if there was some kind of toxin in their home that caused it since her husband had a lingering cough and she died from the flu/infection.
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Post by magentapea on Mar 21, 2016 19:51:47 GMT
Absolutely. Why wouldn't you?
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Post by magentapea on Mar 15, 2016 18:35:40 GMT
Yubon's autocorrect on the Plexus thread reminded me about a text I sent yesterday. My DS turned 14 and I texted him to not get on the bus because I would be there at the end of the day to take him to get Menchies (frozen yogurt) except autocorrect told him I was taking him to get Man hoes. We cracked up over that when he got in the car and asked why I thought he would want a man ho for his birthday.
Got any fun/strange autocorrects to share?
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Post by magentapea on Mar 15, 2016 11:49:19 GMT
Go to the ER. I agree with pierkiss , "elephant on my chest" is a classic heart attack symptom. The minute you tell the triage nurse that they will get you a room immediately. Even if it is your gall bladder, they will most likely first hook you up to an EKG and rule out heart issues. Plan on spending a number of hours at the hospital - get someone to watch the kids. Here's hoping it is something that is easily treated and that you feel better soon! I agree. I had terrible gallstones and suffered many years before having it removed. "Elephant on my chest" was NEVER a symptom for me. My attacks lasted a few hours at most. The repeated bouts of pain and the chest discomfort should be a red flag to get yourself to an ER immediately.
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Post by magentapea on Mar 15, 2016 2:20:23 GMT
For those of you who feel that running with a dog or running in a "safe" neighborhood or a small town protects you, please read up on the April Millsap case. Horrible, horrible story. That was such a scary, tragic case. It happened not too far from where I live and I was on that trail just the day prior. For those who don't want to search the story, she was a teenage girl from a small town on a well traveled, paved path near her house. She was walking her dog in the late afternoon/early evening. She called her boyfriend during her walk and told him she thought she almost was kidnapped. Then she never arrived home. Some bicyclists (?) found her body just off the path. They found her because her dog was sitting at the edge of the path and led them to her. A man was recently convicted of her murder.
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Post by magentapea on Mar 14, 2016 0:40:26 GMT
I am so sorry for your loss.
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Post by magentapea on Mar 14, 2016 0:34:36 GMT
The same thing happens in my family. We have all just (well, except for me) learned to accept that's who they are and how they treat the kids. For example, DH's mom just last week sent my 14 y.o. a birthday gift - a Star Wars t-shirt and The Minions movie. His response to me was, "What am I? 7?" but his response to her was "Thank you for the wonderful gifts." When I asked him about it he said that he realized that's just the way she is and at least she was thinking of him. (Then he gave the gifts to his little cousin on the other side of the family so she will never know). I wanted to call her and remind her that he is 14 and a heck of a lot more mature, responsible, intelligent, etc. than to enjoy those things but both DH and my son said to let it go. You raised a good boy! Thank you. We think so, too (although some days . . .ugh!)
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Post by magentapea on Mar 13, 2016 12:30:18 GMT
The same thing happens in my family. We have all just (well, except for me) learned to accept that's who they are and how they treat the kids. For example, DH's mom just last week sent my 14 y.o. a birthday gift - a Star Wars t-shirt and The Minions movie. His response to me was, "What am I? 7?" but his response to her was "Thank you for the wonderful gifts." When I asked him about it he said that he realized that's just the way she is and at least she was thinking of him. (Then he gave the gifts to his little cousin on the other side of the family so she will never know). I wanted to call her and remind her that he is 14 and a heck of a lot more mature, responsible, intelligent, etc. than to enjoy those things but both DH and my son said to let it go.
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