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Post by wezee on Dec 22, 2019 3:20:45 GMT
I sent photo's of everything I got to DD in October! DD told her no Legos or this certain race track. Well she got them anyway, Ugh. She sees them Christmas eve we don't see them until Christmas Day. And She knew I already got them. Soooo now I'm trying to come up other ideas. It just stinks! ARGHHHHHH.
Update: DD did give her a list of different things that the kids would like She just liked what I got better. So I'm going to get the stuff off of her list. Ugh I really don't want to. On the plus side I asked the boys if they thought of anything else they would they gave me secret list!
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Post by ashley on Dec 22, 2019 3:22:52 GMT
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Post by wezee on Dec 22, 2019 3:24:56 GMT
every single gift!
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Post by peasapie on Dec 22, 2019 3:27:12 GMT
I sent photo's of everything I got to DD in October! DD told her no Legos or this certain race track. Well she got them anyway, Ugh. She sees them Christmas eve we don't see them until Christmas Day. And She knew I already got them. Soooo now I'm trying to come up other ideas. It just stinks! ARGHHHHHH. Sounds like your daughter needs to tell her MIL to exchange her gifts by Tuesday |
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Post by sweetpeasmom on Dec 22, 2019 3:30:00 GMT
I sent photo's of everything I got to DD in October! DD told her no Legos or this certain race track. Well she got them anyway, Ugh. She sees them Christmas eve we don't see them until Christmas Day. And She knew I already got them. Soooo now I'm trying to come up other ideas. It just stinks! ARGHHHHHH. Sounds like your daughter needs to tell her MIL to exchange her gifts by Tuesday This. |
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Dec 22, 2019 3:33:50 GMT
Sounds like your daughter needs to tell her MIL to exchange her gifts by Tuesday Even better, her daughter's husband needs to deal with his mom. Next year, don't share what you are getting ahead of time with your DD. If you feel you must, then give her a fake list.  |
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Post by breetheflea on Dec 22, 2019 3:36:27 GMT
Once my mom asked what dd wanted and I told her roller skates. My mom called several times asking me about skate stuff (sizes, colors, brands) then bought something else for dd instead. So, Christmas morning, no skates... I about killed my mother. I can only hope your MIL is as flaky as my mom does the same thing. Sorry |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 22, 2019 3:48:50 GMT
Oh that does stink. That's so odd that she would buy the same identical things you bought. Do you think her MIL misunderstood thinking that those items on the list were things she should buy?
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Post by roundtwo on Dec 22, 2019 4:02:34 GMT
What a crappy thing to do. Have they done this kind of thing before?
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Post by maryland on Dec 22, 2019 4:10:53 GMT
I would want to take those gifts to the grandkids before Christmas Eve so they could get them first from you (because you already arranged it in Oct, and other grandparents knew not to get those gifts). Sorry, I just feel so bad for you!
My husband and I would be upset if our parents did something like that to the other set of grandparents. Is this the only time this has happened? Maybe other grandparents are going through a rough time and weren't thinking it out? I hope there is a good explanation and this isn't the norm with them.
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Dec 22, 2019 4:11:56 GMT
DD's DH needs to speak to his mother, NOW!
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Post by busy on Dec 22, 2019 4:14:31 GMT
It's crappy and weird.
Do you think she could have thought you took all the "good" gifts and was mad so bought them herself? Of course, an adult would talk about it, not be passive aggressive like that, but it's the only possible reason I could come up with.
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Post by mom on Dec 22, 2019 4:30:35 GMT
Im sorry. I do wonder if there was a miscommunication though and maybe the other granny thought that was what she was supposed to get? Surely she didn't do this on purpose? Or maybe she did?
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Post by Nanner on Dec 22, 2019 4:32:49 GMT
That's awful! And yes, your DH needs to be having a little chat with his mother.
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Post by Skellinton on Dec 22, 2019 4:56:19 GMT
Im sorry. I do wonder if there was a miscommunication though and maybe the other granny thought that was what she was supposed to get? Surely she didn't do this on purpose? Or maybe she did? That is what I am thinking too. Did you ask your daughter what she thinks happened? Maybe you can give half of the items and other grandma can the other half? Just to make it easier if it were an error. If it was not an error and the other grandma was being a PITA, then can you arrange to see the kids first on Christmas Eve? |
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Post by crazy4scraps on Dec 22, 2019 5:30:09 GMT
That really sucks especially since you planned so far ahead of the game. I like the idea of giving the kid his gifts early so it’s on her when he opens the duplicate gifts on Christmas Eve and is disappointed.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Dec 22, 2019 12:48:33 GMT
I would sincerely hope this was a miscommunication of sort. What kind of person would do that on purpose?
Nonetheless, it doesn't really solve your problem foe this year. How does your daughter suggest this be handled?
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Post by Suziee2 on Dec 22, 2019 13:18:44 GMT
I sent photo's of everything I got to DD in October! DD told her no Legos or this certain race track. Well she got them anyway, Ugh. She sees them Christmas eve we don't see them until Christmas Day. And She knew I already got them. Soooo now I'm trying to come up other ideas. It just stinks! ARGHHHHHH. Sounds like your daughter needs to tell her MIL to exchange her gifts by Tuesday This..... |
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Post by Restless Spirit on Dec 22, 2019 13:30:31 GMT
I’ve had that happen with my only grandchild. The in-laws also have their Christmas gift exchange on Christmas Eve and spend huge amounts of money. Same thing was happening with his birthday.
I finally told my DD she needed to make 2 gift idea lists and to NOT put the same items on the darned lists! I think a light bulb finally went off in her head and she got it. No duplications since. Yes, once in a while he gets disappointed he didn’t get something he wanted, but his birthdays in March so I’ll get him something he wants then. I’ll usually take him shopping *just before* his birthday (with his parents approval). It’s getting to be a tradition we do every year - lunch and birthday shopping.
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Dec 22, 2019 13:52:06 GMT
Oh that does stink. That's so odd that she would buy the same identical things you bought. Do you think her MIL misunderstood thinking that those items on the list were things she should buy? I was thinking this as well. Your DD should have told them different ideas instead of saying what NOT to get. |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 22, 2019 14:05:10 GMT
Why didn't your DD sent her a suggestion list of what to buy, rather than what NOT to buy? It looks like a miscommunication to me or does the other grandma usually do this kind of thing?
Can you exchange yours for the gifts that the other grandma was suppose to buy - what was on that list?
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Post by MZF on Dec 22, 2019 14:12:58 GMT
Sounds like your daughter needs to tell her MIL to exchange her gifts by Tuesday This. I like this^^ |
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Post by littlemama on Dec 22, 2019 14:19:49 GMT
If it was an innocent mixup, then a compromise will need to happen. If it was intentional, DD needs to tell her MIL to exchange the gifts.
When ds was younger, we had told him we couldnt afford to buy a Wii. We ended up buying it for him and kept it a huge, huge secret. MIL asked what we got him and we mentioned the Wii and that he had NO idea and was going to be extremely surprised and beside himself with excitement. We open gifts with MIL on Christmas eve. She went and bought him 2 Wii games. Livid does not even begin to describe how we felt.
We never again told her anything he was getting. She also had a habit of not getting him what we suggested, so we stopped telling her the things he really, really wanted.
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Post by Baseballmom23 on Dec 23, 2019 1:18:59 GMT
Wench! That is something my MIL would do (if she were still alive).
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Post by wezee on Dec 23, 2019 4:00:53 GMT
Im sorry. I do wonder if there was a miscommunication though and maybe the other granny thought that was what she was supposed to get? Surely she didn't do this on purpose? Or maybe she did? That is what I am thinking too. Did you ask your daughter what she thinks happened? Maybe you can give half of the items and other grandma can the other half? Just to make it easier if it were an error. If it was not an error and the other grandma was being a PITA, then can you arrange to see the kids first on Christmas Eve? My DD told her once again that I already bought those gifts. Her answer was Well just take mine back, they are already wrapped and under the tree. Yes she did the same thing last year but not everything. My DD is furious! her DH is like oh well you know my mom she does what she wants. I'm going to just buy different stuff. Yep it sucks but I don't think it's worth ruining my Christmas or DD's The only thing that matters is the kids will be happy, it shouldn't matter who give it to them. Oh and one more thing she also got stuff that Santa was bringing.
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Post by tincin on Dec 23, 2019 4:12:51 GMT
That is what I am thinking too. Did you ask your daughter what she thinks happened? Maybe you can give half of the items and other grandma can the other half? Just to make it easier if it were an error. If it was not an error and the other grandma was being a PITA, then can you arrange to see the kids first on Christmas Eve? My DD told her once again that I already bought those gifts. Her answer was Well just take mine back, they are already wrapped and under the tree. Yes she did the same thing last year but not everything. My DD is furious! her DH is like oh well you know my mom she does what she wants. I'm going to just buy different stuff. Yep it sucks but I don't think it's worth ruining my Christmas or DD's The only thing that matters is the kids will be happy, it shouldn't matter who give it to them. Oh and one more thing she also got stuff that Santa was bringing.
You are a very nice Grandma. Next year advise your DD to give her MIL a phony list of VERY expensive toys that you’ve bought for your DGS. |
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Post by crazy4scraps on Dec 23, 2019 4:18:05 GMT
My DD told her once again that I already bought those gifts. Her answer was Well just take mine back, they are already wrapped and under the tree. Yes she did the same thing last year but not everything. My DD is furious! her DH is like oh well you know my mom she does what she wants. I'm going to just buy different stuff. Yep it sucks but I don't think it's worth ruining my Christmas or DD's The only thing that matters is the kids will be happy, it shouldn't matter who give it to them. Oh and one more thing she also got stuff that Santa was bringing.
You are a very nice Grandma. Next year advise your DD to give her MIL a phony list of VERY expensive toys that you’ve bought for your DGS. I agree, she’s way nicer than I would be especially if it happened more than once. And I also agree that the MIL should be given a fake list of crazy expensive stuff that you’ve supposedly already bought. |
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Post by bc2ca on Dec 23, 2019 4:28:27 GMT
That is what I am thinking too. Did you ask your daughter what she thinks happened? Maybe you can give half of the items and other grandma can the other half? Just to make it easier if it were an error. If it was not an error and the other grandma was being a PITA, then can you arrange to see the kids first on Christmas Eve? My DD told her once again that I already bought those gifts. Her answer was Well just take mine back, they are already wrapped and under the tree. Yes she did the same thing last year but not everything. My DD is furious! her DH is like oh well you know my mom she does what she wants. I'm going to just buy different stuff. Yep it sucks but I don't think it's worth ruining my Christmas or DD's The only thing that matters is the kids will be happy, it shouldn't matter who give it to them. Oh and one more thing she also got stuff that Santa was bringing.
I'd probably do the same thing, but would be extremely pissed at her behavior. Definitely no sharing what you buy next year with anyone except DD. |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 23, 2019 4:41:11 GMT
That really sucks and it sucks even more that you have to be the one to fix her mess up. Can I say how really impressed I am that you got started on Christmas in October.  |
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Post by seaexplore on Dec 23, 2019 4:41:52 GMT
I’d return my gifts if .i could and give the kiddo a year of experiences with you..... movie, ice cream, lunch date, zoo aquarium, shopping, etc... one envelope for each month that gets opened that month. Polar express for next december!
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