peabay
Prolific Pea
Posts: 9,632
Jun 25, 2014 19:50:41 GMT
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Post by peabay on Dec 24, 2019 19:56:52 GMT
Thanks, everyone. Had a talk with dh and had a talk with dd. Both were apologetic - dh more so because she asked him what she should do with my laundry and he said "just leave it on the dryer." How the man functions on a daily basis is beyond me.
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Post by zztop11 on Dec 24, 2019 23:19:32 GMT
My husband does so many things that he shouldn't do. I get angry all the time at him. Having new windows put in Thursday. Told him it was Thursday. Reminded him it was Thursday. So when I got mad at him for having stuff in the middle of the living room making it difficult/impossible to walk thru, I reminded him again that we still have two more nights before they are put in. His response, "oh I thought they were coming tomorrow". I'm like "on Christmas?" (we are jewish but still). Yes I allow myself to get angry at his stupidity!
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Post by kraft4fun on Dec 25, 2019 6:44:40 GMT
Just to add to the list, once when I was totally fed up with my family not taking their used dishes to the sink, I gathered up all of the dishes and threw them away. Took each dinner plate and crashed it into the garbage can. Every salad plate, bread and butter plate, tea cup and saucer was smashed to bits. I felt much better and my kids (then about 9 and 16) steered clear of me for a long while. We ate off paper plates for a long time. Before my husband found another job, I was the only one working. And working 6 shifts a week at night at that. He would cook for himself daily, but not clean up, so the dishes kept piling up. Sorry not spending my 1 day off a week cleaning up the mess you have made all week (no kids at home). Finally he was out fishing one day when I woke up and every single thing, plates, bowls, silverware, even some pots went in the trash and out in the dumpster bin. He came home and while yes the sink was clean (no dishwasher), everything that was in there was gone. It has been a few months, he is working again, and still has not asked me about it. Smart man.
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johnnysmom
Drama Llama
Posts: 5,682
Jun 25, 2014 21:16:33 GMT
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Post by johnnysmom on Dec 25, 2019 15:12:30 GMT
I was thinking about this thread last night (can't remember if I already posted in support of you or not, but if I didn't say it I thought it....totally team peabay on this one!!) when I lost my cool and dh told me I was overreacting Yds received a gaming rocker/chair from BIL/SIL last night on Christmas Eve. I happened to also know (as did dh ) that Santa was also bringing him one this morning (different brand but same thing), I thought Santa's was a better brand but wasn't positive. When we got home both boys started opening the chair and I specifically said "I don't want that opened tonight". Not 10 minutes later I walk past the room and yds says "oh, hi mom" with a shit-eating grin on his face, I glance up and see him opening the chair again....the exact box that I told him not to open. I lost it! I mean I did't beat him or cuss at him but I did raise my voice quite a bit and lay into him a bit....IMO he deserved it. Dh said I was being crabby and overreacting. Even when I reminded dh that I'd specifically said not to open it and he directly disobeyed me.....dh and I just agreed to to disagree to keep the peace. Ods (who thinks the younger one gets away with murder ) backed me up
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Post by maryland on Dec 25, 2019 15:59:55 GMT
I have learned not to tell my husband or anyone to "calm down" from the peas years ago! I didn't realize how disrespectful I was being by telling someone to calm down, but I have come to understand how bad it can sound.
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